TAG: I Messed Up Books

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Many thanks to two great bloggers who nominated me on the same morning to participate in this fun book tag. Both ladies have fantastic blogs, so please go read them ASAP!

Stephanie @ StephsFictionandFamilyLove

Ann @ Ann’s Reading Corner

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QUESTIONS IN THE TAG

A character appearance that you misread or imagined differently:

  • I think I have a different take on Robert Langdon in Dan Brown’s books. I would not have pictured Tom Hanks.

 

A character name that you’ve been pronouncing wrong:

  • When I read Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, I mispronounced a name:
    • It’s ‘Vie-Ah-Let’ Bore-R-Garrr’ and not ‘Bore-Ruh-Gard’ 

An overused trope that is your guilty pleasure:

  • Bringing characters back from the dead. It is an awesome way to surprise people, but if you do it too much, then it feels like something you always expect. It’s happened on a lot of horror things lately, and I want to slap the authors, then hug them for seeing both sides of the trope.

 

A cliché character type that you like better on screen than reading about:

  • The moody male protagonist. In books, he often comes across as a jerk and someone you want to beat the crap out of. Then they hire some hot actor to play him, and you’re like… “Well, yeah maybe I’d do him.” 

 

A word/phrase you learned because of its use in a book:

  • Yes, lots… especially southern expressions, such as “Bless Your Heart” is not actually a very nice thing to say to someone.

 

Have you ever not read or completed a required-reading book for school?

  • Yes! I skimmed a few in a Shakespeare class that I had at 8am on Saturday mornings. I sometimes couldn’t catch up during the week and needed my weekends to finish reading. I had no opportunity with this course, so I had to read cliff notes to be able to say something valuable. But I always finished it afterwards.

 

Have you ever skipped (or wanted to) a chapter from the point of view of a character you weren’t interested in? 

  • Done it – No
  • Wanted To – Yes
    • If the book alternates between characters and there’s a major suspenseful moment, I really can’t wait to get back to that character. And go figure, that’s exactly what I built into my first novel… alternates between 5 brothers and even writing it, I’d tick myself off having to wait to go back to write the next chapter for the brother I was totally focused on.

 

Have you ever canceled social plans to read a book?

  • Friends reading this – No, never. Now all friends, please close this post as I need to reveal a surprise gift I have for you… All shut down?  Good, thanks.
  • My real answer: YES! I have… a few times… made up excuses to finish a book. Sorry!!!

 

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TAG: Fight Like a YA Girl

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Thank you so much Patty @ Moohnshine’s Corner for tagging me on this cool tag. It’s the most difficult one I’ve ever done… and she’s gonna pay for it one day. Possibly with a cake… Hahaha! So fair…

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The Rules:

  • Thank the person who tagged you.
  • Mention the creator Krysti at YA and Wine
  • Match at least one YA girl with each of the themes below.
  • Tag as many people as you like!

 

1.WARRIOR GIRLS:

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2. GIRLS WHO FIGHT WITH THEIR MIND:

  • Hermione from Harry Potter. She always knows the right spell to deal with the enemy.

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3. GIRLS WHO FIGHT WITH THEIR HEART:

  • Lou from Me Before You. At first glance, it may not appear that she does, but in the end, her heart brought her back to him and tried to convince Will to change his mind. She may or may not be a young adult, but in my mind, she was young enough.

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4. GIRLS WHO ARE TRAINED FIGHTERS:

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5. STRONG GIRLS OF COLOR:

  • Rue from The Hunger Games. She stayed in the game for a long time.

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6. GIRLS WHO FIGHT TO SURVIVE:

  • Lisbeth Salander from The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo. She will never die.

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7. GIRLS WHO ARE WEAPONS MASTERS:

 

*** See anyone from The Hunger Games ***

8. GIRLS WHO DON’T CONFORM TO GENDER ROLES:

 

*** See several from The Hunger Games ***

9. GIRLS WITH KICK-BUTT MAGICAL POWERS:

  • Lyra from The Golden Compass. Imagine what Lyra can do with the alethiometer.

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10. STRONG GIRLS IN CONTEMPORARY NOVELS:

  •  Pretty Little Liars

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11. SERIOUSLY FIERCE GIRLS:

*** See anyone from The Hunger Games ***

12. MOST ANTICIPATED BOOK WITH A STRONG LEADING LADY:

 

  • WOW!!! Too many to come up with,  but none are Young Adult. I’m gonna have to think about this one… suggestions?

Nominations To Do This Tag

 

About Me

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

AWARD: Mystery Blogger #2

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Thank you to Kate @ Melting Pots And Other Calamities for nominating me for this award. Kate has a great site and you should check it out; that’s all I am going to say for now, as tomorrow’s 365 Daily Challenge actually highlights her as my Recommended Blogger to know. How amusing this all lined up…

The Rules:

  • Put the award logo/image in your post.
  • List all the rules.
  • Thank whoever nominated you and leave a link to their blog.
  • Tell your readers 3 things about yourself.
  • Nominate 10-20 people and notify them.
  •  Link back to the creator of the award.
  • Ask nominees any 5 questions of your choice, with a weird or funny question.
  • Share the link to your best/favourite post of yours.

 

Three Things About Myself:

  1. I spent a few weeks in Cambodia, Singapore and Thailand. Loved it!
  2. I’m an only-child but definitely not spoiled.
  3. I once attempted to dye my brown hair a blonde color, as I love when dark roots hide under light colored hair. The end result… I had rust-colored hair for a few days. And to make it seem real, I spoke with a weird Irish and Scottish accent so that people thought I was foreign. I have to have my fun sometimes.

 

The Questions:

1. What is the coolest handmade thing you’ve ever received?

  • My first girlfriend’s (yeah, I know, right???) grandmother crocheted a blanket for me when I turned 13. I still sleep with it…

2. Is there a villain or antagonist that you can’t help but call a favorite character? If so, who?

  • Hopefully this doesn’t offend anyone, but I enjoy reading books where the antagonist is some for of a devil or Satan-like character, as it’s always amusing to see what (s)he comes up with as the punishment for victims.

3. Which character would you most like to be from whatever you’re currently reading or watching?

  • Sherlock Holmes: I would love to be a witty, intelligent and sexy detective!!!

4. What is a show, anime, or webcomic that desperately needs another season? Or a book that needs a sequel?

  • I’d like to see another season of LOST to try and fix that awful series finale.

5. What are some animations and/or webcomics that you think have some of the best art?

  • But I don’t watch them, so how do I know??? I’m sorry! Everyone else can suggest one for me.

 

My Favorite Post:

I Tag:

  1. https://storyspillerblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/14/acceptance/
  2. https://featherinthestraw.wordpress.com/2017/07/20/inspiration-fueled-by-h2o/
  3. https://purukvaikkath.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/ramayana/
  4. http://bipolar-maria-fasching.at/en/blog/2017/07/18/anxious-hours/
  5. https://ignitedmoth.wordpress.com/2017/07/20/hello-nyquil-my-old-friend/
  6. https://unavagabonda.com/2017/07/20/nine-ten-a-september-11-story/
  7. https://ireadnovels.wordpress.com/2017/07/19/three-days-and-a-life-pirre-lemaitre/
  8. https://dreambigdreamoften.co/2017/07/18/one-of-the-most-important-questions-i-ask/
  9. https://bookasaurusblog.wordpress.com/2017/06/19/the-run-out-groove-by-andrew-cartmel/
  10. https://amandashivrattan481.wordpress.com/2017/07/20/carson-by-melissa-foster-with-tastybooktours/

 

My Questions:

  1. What’s been the greatest mystery you’ve attempted to solve in your own life?
  2. What country is most likely your next vacation or trip?
  3. Do you have a doppelganger? Describe.
  4. When did you and I first start connecting and over what topics?
  5. What do you love most about your own blog or site?

 

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 130 – Prompted

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Prompted: assisted or encouraged to do or say something

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When I was 16 years old, our English teacher had us write letters to ourselves, listing a few goals, some fears, and things currently on our mind. He took them, nothing that he’d mail them to us in 5 years. A few people laughed, as they didn’t intend on living in the same place when the time came due. Others were afraid to reveal any secrets in case someone else opened it. But the vast majority took the risk and played along. I was one of those people. I listed the 5 goals I hoped to achieve, the 5 things I was most scared of and the 5 things I was trying to sort out in my head. It felt easy and harmless. I had low expectations of ever actually receiving it… the man might not live that long. But he did. And somewhere in the neighborhood of five years, I received the letter in the mail the year I graduated from college at my parents’ home, which is where I still lived during the summer.

It was a surprise. I’d forgotten most of what I had written. When it arrived, I tore it open with nimble fingers. My eyes feverishly scanned the cryptic handwriting; I’ve never been one to write with a deft hand. Did I honestly write some of those things? In the wrong hands, it’d be an easy blackmail scheme.  Thankfully, my secrets remained hidden as I decided what receiving the letter meant to me. Should I interpret it as a nudge to get back on track? Perhaps a reminder to realize what I’d accomplished? No… I saw it as a sign… a sign that this was a fantastic idea! We should all think about writing ourselves letters with some encouraging advice to help us cross the finish line on whatever our goals or tasks might be.

I love Wallace and Gromit. Any other fans?

As a kid, I LOVED getting mail. I made my parents leave it in the mailbox all day, so that when I arrived home from school, I could retrieve it myself and experience the joy of someone sending me a surprise or even an expected message. As I grew older, and started receiving those nasty monthly bills masquerading as wonderful news from different companies and services, I began to dislike the mail. Actually, as I began using electronic email, I found myself not interested in paper communications… online was something new to capture my attention. A few decades years later, I don’t check the mail because there’s never anything good in it. If I have a package or a delivery, the building’s system sends me an email to pick it up or request a drop off at a certain time that evening. In a way, it’s turned itself around, meaning… now I am tired of all these electronic notices, messages and communications. If you really want my attention, send me something in the mail that I have to open to understand what it is you need from me.

No, I don’t want a summons or official notice. Just something with a pretty color, different shape and interesting cover. Make me want to open it. Tempt me with your creativity. That’s the kind of prompt I need to be excited about checking the mail again… that is, unless, we adopted my high school teacher’s method. Hmmm… let’s think this one through together… are there a few goals you have in mind, but tired of tracking them on your phone, computer or journal? Do those sticky notes sometimes seem overwhelming? Maybe you don’t trust yourself to check the status or due date… so why not find a friend who will help you through this solution? Write yourself a letter with all the big things you need to focus on, then give it to them to mail at some point in the future. Perhaps it’s at a date of their choosing… but let them create the envelope so it’s a surprise when it arrives. And you can experience the same cool feeling of opening up your own little present!

I’m not actually joking on this one. Sometimes we all need reminders to do something, to feel something or to consider something. And we also find ourselves easily able to ignore electronic notifications or even our own sticky notes and journal entries. But you can’t really ignore something fun and colorful that arrives in the mail. For instance, if you have a friend who is very shy, send him/her a bold envelope with stamps of half-naked men or women posted all about it. I’d suggest naked, as we all know I’m fine with it, but I don’t know all the laws and wouldn’t want to get anyone arrested, now would I?

{Insert a very sinister and dark laugh!} Wouldn’t that be an amazing shared experience?

I suppose what I am actually suggesting is that we should all write letters to ourselves, praising something we’ve done, reminding ourselves of some big accomplishment we’ve recently attained… suggestions for how to keep motivating our future plans and ideas… and get our friends and/or family involved to mail it out when it’s most needed. So as you’re opening up that jury summons, late notice, exorbitant cable bill, or change in some service you don’t want altered, you also have that really awesome letter to brighten your day and keep you focused on the future prize. And if your friends are in charge of it, think of all the fun you could have? Sending something from “Playboy Magazine” to a friend who wouldn’t ever look at that magazine. Or sending what looks like a list of nunneries or monasteries to a friend who’s about to get married and wants reminders about the wedding! Prompts with Passion. Prompts with Power. Prompts with a Poof!

We all need a prompt every now and then. And that’s part of the friendship circle’s set of responsibilities. So… if someone needs a prompt, I’m offering my availability to help you if it’s needed. I’m also going to write my own letter about what I hope to accomplish in 6 months, then decide who’s the lucky victim. Don’t worry, I will likely pick someone I’ve know for a few years, which rules out all my online friends for right now… but rest assured, your time will come! Any thoughts? Any ideas? Silly idea or something to give a chance to? Share away…

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Kiersten @ Once Upon A Spine. Kiersten and I met about two months ago through a few books we were both reading, as well as connecting over previous life experiences and just generally being fun and weird people. I love the name of her site, and she has fantastic book reviews and content all about the literary things in life. She’s also very open and friendly, sharing many experiences that she’s dealt with over the years, learning how to grow from them and also how to keep herself focused on future goals. She’s refreshing and shares frequently, which makes her someone I am often chatting with. Between cat/dog humor, her own writing and young adult fiction (TV or Books), we always find things to talk about. I enjoy hearing from her and think she’d be a great addition to anyone’s list of followed blogs. So please go check out her site. And if you don’t believe me, here’s a small tidbit from her “About Me” section, where she tells us:
    • “I’m a Jersey girl currently living in Charlotte, NC with my two fur babies. I am an unapologetic nerd and chronic worrywart at heart. The focus of this blog is to share my love of literature, to write reviews of the books I’ve been reading, and to (hopefully) spark inspiration for my own stories. In addition to reading, some of my other hobbies include dance, cooking and baking, crafting, and cleaning up cat barf. I’m also a diehard fan of Harry Potter and Gilmore Girls.”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

TAG: Getting to Know You Blogger Q&A

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I want to thank Pooja @ LifesFineWhine for nominating be on this wonderful tag. Thank you very much, as I appreciate all these new opportunities. Please check out Pooja’s site via the above link, as you’ll find so many things to get caught up in! Especially the About Me section, where you will learn a whole lot.

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Rules:

•Answer the questions down below
•Credit the creator of  the tag
•Nominate as many blogger as you want, it has to be 5+ though

 

How long have you been blogging?

I’m coming up on my 1 year anniversary in September, which is very exciting for me. I will have to think of some grand surprise to celebrate it…

 

Do you enjoy doing tags?

I do. Sometimes I don’t get to post them right away, but if I am nominated and I get that ping-back notification, I create the draft that day. If it’s easy, I’ll do them within 24 hours, but if it’s hard, I might wait until a weekend.

 

Do you follow the blogs that follow you?

Usually, I do. If they have a topic I don’t find engaging or that I connect with, I won’t follow them. Or if they post 10 times a day with random marketing junk and religious quotes, I won’t follow them. Just not my cup of tea. I’ve posted 8 to 10 times on a few days, but it was always book reviews that had value for others or a clear perspective in my message.

 

Describe your blog in 5 words?

Introspective. Prolific. Eclectic. Personal. Challenging.

 

How many posts have you made on your blog? (Not counting this tag)

745

 

On a scale of 1-10 how much do you enjoy blogging?

10 (assuming that’s the highest)

 

Post some links to blogs you enjoy reading:

Nope! I won’t do that. I currently follow 1500 blogs. I read at least 50% of them most days. There’s probably about 100 I really enjoy on a daily basis. It would be unfair to list them all… that is… unfair to me to have to cut/paste the links that many times! Instead, if you follow my 365 Daily Challenge posts, you’ll see a new blogger each day that I recommend you follow… as those are the people whose blogs I read daily. Once I start commenting with bloggers and we interact, I take the time to get to know them and their sites!

 

Writing or reading blog posts?

Both. But I’m a writer, so that probably comes first. I cannot tell a lie!

 

My Nominees Are:

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 129 – Adjustable (With New Poll For Input)

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Adjustable: able to be moved to achieve the desired fit, appearance, or result

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Today’s been an interesting day in respect to choosing a topic for the 365 Daily Challenge. I checked my project plan and looked at my overnight messages, comments, notifications, emails, communications, alerts and every other little icon that tells me what I’m supposed to do each day. Free will is gone in my life, at least as the primary driver, and I can accept that if I want to maximize my availability and efficiency. Although a very good friend thinks I have some clones working here with me, it is sadly and unfortunately not true. I have eleven tags/awards requesting that I draft blog posts for them. And they aren’t nice about it. Little reminders show up saying “You’ve left me alone for 4 days. Where’s the love, Jay?”

While I am thankfully caught on my on my book reviews, I am currently reading two novels and have the next 8 books lined up for either buddy reads or due dates on ARCs. And I’ve also committed to reading two other novels for some friends who asked for a beta read; while there is no real rush, they are sending tiny electronic zap signals to my brain that occasionally hurt or make me giggle. I never know which it might be, just pray I don’t pee myself as a result of it. At least not in public. I know I need to get to them soon before the consequences are far worse.

The characters in Father Figure are screaming at me to start writing their dialogue, which isn’t scheduled to happen for another two weeks. I need voices to be clear and distinct before I can write lines, I plead with them. They laugh at me, teasing about my foolish notions of organization. And quite frankly, I’d tell them to shut their pie holes if I weren’t afraid it would send them into hibernation when I truly do begin giving them what they’ve been asking for. And that’s not a good outcome either, as then I’m the one who has to make up the book’s words as opposed to the characters whispering them in my ears while I either sleep, do laundry, cook or exercise. That’s usually when my mind is at ease enough to let all the ideas blossom into creativity.

I can listen. I can change. And so, I directed my focus towards the 365 Daily Challenge post to at least say I’ve accomplished something today. Nothing clear has come to me that is useful in this area. I could tell you all about the edits on Watching a Glass Shatter, but that doesn’t belong here either. I’ve got a whole separate website for the book’s marketing campaign. I could tantalize you with the growth on the NYC Terrace Garden, but that post is not due for another 3 weeks. It’s not that I can’t think of anything to write about; it’s just that nothing seems to stand out as the right 365 worthy subject for today, mostly because I don’t repeat myself, want to ensure it’s vibrant and motivational, connect everything with a single word, and need to feel a passion for the subject on which I’m blogging.

Have you ever felt that way when trying to decide on the topic you wish to cover in a post? I have tons of things to post about — really I do. I want to tell you all about my efforts in defrosting the freezer this week which resulted in a big mess; however, it’s a funny story, not a 365 Daily Challenge lesson. I am jumping up and down about the potential literary agent who wants to talk next week about my book, but that’s way too soon as it could still go nowhere. I’m scattered with ideas. I’m over-producing content. It’s a wonderful feeling to be able to just write and write and think and think and well, it’s an amazing feeling. But the lack of a 365-specific focus is not a normal experience for me. Maybe I’ll just keep writing for the next 5-minutes and the clones will appear.

They didn’t. Ten percent reduction in their salary. Oh wait, they don’t really exist.

I took a few minutes to question why, and I realized it might be that the 365 Daily Challenge is changing just as I am changing over the course of this last year. It started out as reflections on who I am as a person, with the hopes of finding the right career path. After four months, I’m so enthralled with having my hands in a little bit of everything, I’m not sure I need to search for the answer as much as I need to accept that it’s OK to choose this answer. How often do we fail to see what’s staring us directly in the eyes, willing us to notice that the solution is hiding behind a glass wall you can absolutely see through, over, around or behind. Sometimes you just need to adjust your vision a bit to notice what’s already there. BAM, there’s my word of the day. ADJUSTABLE. Hot Damn, I’m almost done. And it may turn out to be a good one after all that earlier complaining…

Being adjustable is paramount to success. It’s a bit like one of my favorite pieces of life advice I often share with others. “Rules are meant to be broken. But you cannot break the rules until you understand the reason for the rules.” And what I mean is that you can do whatever you want, but if you want an ideal outcome, do the research, understand the circumstances, weigh the pros/cons, and then if the proper response is to break one of the original rules… guess what? IT’S OKAY! Sometimes you have to adjust a rule in order to make it work properly for all situations. Not everything is picture perfect out of the box. Life is one of those exceptions. Perhaps you follow the 80/20 rule, or Murphy’s Law, or even Occam’s Razor… whatever it is… but until you have a clear enough understanding of why the rules in are place, you shouldn’t mess with them to the point of potential disaster. However, if you have a fairly strong grasp on the underlying structure, then a small twist, a gentle bend or a push to the side shouldn’t topple over your entire life. It’s all about accepting the need for adjustments from time to time. So I’m gonna break the rules…

By wondering if an adjustment is needed in my posts… and I would love input from all the people that count when it comes to the 365 Daily Challenge – YOU. I’ve set up a poll with 6 basic answers, but I’ve allowed an “other” option in case you want to suggest new ideas. I’ll leave the poll open until July 25th (1 week) with plans to make any requested changes to the content and style of how I post with the 365 Daily Challenge beginning August 1st. A few things that will remain the same…

  • It’s a 365 Daily Challenge which means I will still post something unique every single day
  • It’s meant to be introspective, inspirational and thought-provoking to the point where we are constantly re-imagining our reality and our future
  • It’s for anyone to comment at any point with a clear focus on collaboration across our community of bloggers

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Please participate in the poll. It’s anonymous, so I won’t know who voted which item unless you also send in a separate comment telling me what you chose. Rest assured, for those who want me to keep posting, I won’t be going away. I’m the gnat irritating the last nerve on your existence. I’ve got a lot to say and I love this interaction. For those who want me to shut up, private message me please. I will show you where the button is to stop following me. It may not be the button you’re thinking of, I promise you that. But I’ve got on big boy pants and I can take it. I am adjustable to the situation, the people and the solution. So should you be.

 

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  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Sassy_Brit @ Alternative-Read. I’ve been in a very sarcastic all week, which goes hand-in-hand with being sassy, and so it made perfect sense that she would be today’s highlighted friend! She’s British, which everyone should know I am quite fond of. She’s a caretaker to lovable fancy rats. Yes, you heard me correctly. Go check out her site if you need more information. I’m not going to ruin the surprise. But she’s also got a huge website and following for all the work she does within the book reviewing industry. We’ve had several comment conversations on different books and my 365 Challenge. She’s got her own challenges, memes and contests. You’re guaranteed to find something to love. Plus she’s on every social media site possible, so you can follow her everywhere or just on the place(s) you love the most. Great pictures. Strong voice. Enjoyable reviews. Lots of humor and wit. A reader’s blog worth taking a chance on… so go jump the pond or the ocean or cross the land barriers to get there and let me know what you think!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 128 – HYPO/HYPER-critical

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HYPO/HYPER-critical: excessively and unreasonably critical, especially of small faults; behaving in a way that suggests one has higher standards or more noble beliefs than is the case

Note: No, I haven’t done it again; I’m not making up a word to try to describe my behavior this weekend over an incident that played out for three days… I’m trying to decide which word is more accurate and I apparently need your help!

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Background

  • Ryder, my nearly 10-year-old shiba inu dog, has had seizures since he was a small puppy. It’s a scary event to watch, as you can do nothing but let them roll through it on their own. If you try to help, they might associate you with the seizure and be afraid afterwards. He has one or two episodes per year; each lasts about 45 to 90 seconds. On occasion, he’ll have a bad one for 3 minutes. When it happens, he drops to the floor, crawls, curls up into a ball, limps, hides in a corner and during extremely bad ones, he can lose control of some bodily functions. As his pet-dad, I feel awful, though I know I can’t do anything but watch him go through it, then pet him afterwards; however, he usually wants to hide on his own for at least an hour.
  • To manage them, or at least minimize them, as it could be far worse, he takes a controlled substance, phenobarbital, in pill form twice a day. As it’s a controlled substance, it’s a difficult process to ensure he has his medicine. I am allowed no more than a 30 day prescription, with 5 renewals, so essentially 6 months at a time. Before the next subscription, he needs blood work to verify all the levels and adjust the dosage when necessary. The prescription can be filled at a regular pharmacy, and he’s listed as Ryder Cudney. It’s truly like I have a son. I have to provide his birth date every time.
  • Since I moved from the West Side to the East Side of NYC, I haven’t changed veterinarians as I like his vet and don’t want to change the medicine or deal with someone new. But it means a minimum of a 1-hour walk or cab ride (assuming the cab agrees to allow a dog inside) across town each way to bring him to the vet. It’s not an easy process and takes a long time, hence I try not to do it unless I absolutely need to do it.
  • Due to it being a controlled substance, I’ve had no less than 12 issues in the past 9 years with pharmacies either running out of the medicine, or trying to change the dosage, or having concerns with the prescription, or only giving it to me and no one else if I can’t get to the pharmacy myself. It’s left a very sour taste in my mouth and I get easily annoyed by the whole process, mostly because it’s for a dog and should be so much easier. I might take one or two just to kill the anxiety. Just kidding.

 

Last Month

  • I went to the vet and re-filled the prescription. As it’s all paper-based, since electronic is not allowed, I brought him home, then went back out to the pharmacy (where he’s not allowed to go inside) and renewed the prescription. I briefly looked at the paper and noticed the “5” months in the renewal section looked a little funny, but I didn’t do anything about it. I came back thirty minutes later to pick up the bottle, had no incidents and left a happy customer.

 

This Month

  • On Friday last week, I realized Ryder had 2 day’s worth of medicine left. I can only fill it 4 days before it’s due, as they won’t allow it any sooner (makes vacations impossible to schedule or to get advanced pills). I got busy and never went until Saturday early afternoon, assuming if they were out of it, they could order and have it ready on Sunday. When I arrived, the pharmacist told me I had no re-fills available. I told him I knew I had 5. He said I didn’t. I told him to look at the prescription. He said he didn’t have it. I told him he did, as I recalled them scanning it into the computer. We went back and forth just enough for my irritation to build up. I made them retrieve it. Then he said, “Oh, we do have it.”
  • But he proceeded to tell me that the person who last entered it marked it as no refills and so I can’t get anymore. Rules are rules. Can’t change it. Then he said, “You can wait until Monday and we’ll call to resolve it with the vet.” I tell him that won’t work, as I need the medicine for 8 am Monday morning. He gets another pharmacist involved, they call the vet who of course is gone for the weekend. The emergency contacts won’t do anything as Ryder is not having a seizure, and they don’t have access to the original records. I’m forced to wait until Monday. I adjust his pills just a little to stretch it out until the vet opens at 10 am on Monday morning.

  • I call the vet to work the problem out at 9:30 on Monday morning. The receptionist is very helpful, but the vet won’t be in until 12 for some reason, then he can sort it out. I put some pressure on, which helped. It took 2 hours for the vet office and the pharmacy to sort it out. The end result, due to state laws, they can’t change the refill amount and I need a new prescription which means 3 hours back and forth to go get a new one on the West Side, as it has to be paper and they can’t issue the pills without a copy of the prescription. They can authorize 10 emergency pills until I can get the prescription to them for the full month’s amount. I ask them to do that. Another 2 hours go by until finally at 12:30 I get a call to come pick it up from the pharmacy to cover a few days.
  • I arrive at the pharmacy. They give me the pills and charge me nearly triple the price. I ask why. They tell me it’s just the price when you buy less pills. I say “Um… your office messed this up last time. Why do I pay the price?” Rather than go out in detail, you can imagine what that conversation must have been like. I negotiated a discount for next time but had to pay the higher price today. It’ll offset next week.
  • A few things that occurred over the weekend:
    • I bitched and complained about the stupid pharmacy who can’t read and the frustrating vet who can’t write.
    • I didn’t sleep last night deciding how to handle the conversations this morning.
    • I spent my morning anxious and irritated over the waste of my time for something that should have taken seconds to correct. I got nothing else done.
    • I talked to myself, calling the other parties involved “inept,” “awful people,” thinking about how I’d try to humiliate them for risking a dog’s life over a clerical error.

HYPO/HYPER-critical

  • The situation has been resolved. Ryder has pills thru Friday. I need to go to the West Side for my eye doctor on Wednesday, so I’ll make a quick stop at the vet and get the new prescription, then drop it off at the vet and we’ll be fine for 6 months.
  • At first, I was so annoyed that I blamed everyone else. Then I realized, I could blame myself equally as much at several points along the path.
    • I have had issues with the prescriptions before; why didn’t I do anything earlier in the month to try to prevent this issue.
    • I noticed the “5” looked like a funny shape for the # of refills, but I didn’t say or do anything about it when I gave the prescription to the pharmacy last month.
    • I also didn’t check the new bottle they gave me last month where I could have seen it had 0 refills listed.
    • I waited until Saturday when I could have gone on Friday last week, called the vet right then and there and settled it all without having to worry over the weekend.
  • So… to the whole point of this 365 Daily Challenge Post… I was busy being so HYPER-critical of everyone else that did something wrong, it took me too long to realize I was also being HYPO-critical because I had blame in the events, too.
  • What does that mean for my future?
    • I will check the paper prescription and the bottle they give me with the pills to match it.
    • I will not go to the pharmacy on a weekend.
    • I might turn this all over to my partner to deal with, as it’s his turn to deal with this drama. (And if you’re reading this W, consider yourself served for August.)
    • And I’ll think about my role in a situation a little more closely before attempting to throw any shade or blame only at the other people involved.

  • How about you?
    • Have you ever noticed yourself being hypo-critical or hyper-critical at the same time in a situation?
    • What do you do to step back and look at it with open eyes?
    • Do you get so rattled you spout venom at the stagnant air while alone because you think it makes you feel better?
    • See anything else I did wrong here?
    • Do you agree that W should take this over? (I’m in so much trouble now)

 

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  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Misty @ Misty’s Book Space. Misty has absolutely nothing to do with the topic in today’s 365 Daily Challenge, but I’ve to the conclusion that I can’t always connect the two parts of my post, so from now on, my recommended blogger is just that — the blogger I want you to know on this particular day independent of the word of the day! With that said… on to a very cool person you need to know. Misty and I connected a little less than 3 months ago when we happened to be reading a similar book, though our genres are usually quite different. We laughed and joked over a few of the covers, but then we found ourselves constantly tagging one another for awards and games. She’s a really welcoming and kind blogger. Her site has a very clean and organized layout with pretty colors and lots of extras for the insatiable bookworm. I’d highly suggest taking a look at her blog if you have any interest in books, as she’s been blogging for over a year now. While her reviews are good, it’s her book hauls and updates that I find most engaging and entertaining. So take a chance on this southern gal’s love of books and make a new online blogging friend! And then follow to her social media accounts where she also has some ideas and tips about makeup and other beauty items.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.