365 Challenge: Day 57 – Calm

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Calm: not showing or feeling nervousness, anger, or other emotions

Imagine sitting on a comfortable chaise lounge, a warm 70 degrees Fahrenheit temperature with a mild but cooling breeze passing over you… your drink of choice sitting beside you… gentle lapping of the ocean’s waves… someone you love nearby… no one or anything waiting for you or asking you to do something… and the absence of any needling worry in your mind.

Calm. Serene. Relaxed. That’s what we all desire. Some of us need it 24/7. Some of us simply ask for it every so often, to absorb the strength to continue down our path. Some of us never see it, given everything going on in our lives at the current time. But we still clearly know what it is and want to experience it.

Perhaps the opening paragraph isn’t your ideal calm moment. Maybe you prefer absolute silence in a comfortable chair reading a book without interruption. Or by chance you envision everything running in proper order with a gentle hum or whir coasting in the background. Whatever your calm is… whatever you need… you should find a way to have it — even if only for a moment. It does wonders for your ability to be more productive and sane.

When I chose the word calm, I was thinking about starting a new week tomorrow. And by saying that, I’m actually revealing I’ve started the 365 Daily Challenge for Day 57 a little early… but I’m awake… feeling calm… and wanted to blog about it. And by the end of this post, I’ll either set it to release in the morning, will save it and manually post it at some point tomorrow, or it may just be after midnight and it will already be tomorrow. And why is that even important? Because for the last few hours, in and among the various other things I was working on this evening, I tried to think about Day 57’s word… and each time I came up blank, I started to worry.

I worried that I’m only 20% into the challenge and having a bit of a brain freeze or lack of imagination. It in turn made me a little nervous. And I wondered why… this is supposed to be fun and enjoyable, yet I was worried I wouldn’t come up with something good enough to resemble who I am, nor strong enough to offer enough readability among anyone perusing the 365 blog. I certainly hope anyone reading the daily posts aren’t bored. But if you are, please feel free to opt out — I’m totally cool with that!

As I thought through it, I realized despite the worry, I was calm about it. And I realized… I’m really quite a calm person. I’ve always been. I tend to be the “rock” someone goes to when they need a bit of stabilization. I’ve had moments where I am nervous or fastidious to the point I seem neurotic (there is a word I should be choosing one day!), but ultimately, I’m quite a force of calm in almost any situation. I definitely get excited over a few things, but when there is something bad or difficult going on, I tend to be the rational one who keeps things in order, looking for the path forward and to keep everyone calm among the burning fires.

It’s instinct. When someone falls, I don’t freak out. I take the right course of action to help. I’d like to hope I’d be or do the same in other serious situations. But in normal every day ones where people freak out about things… I immediately look for the alternative solution, the back-up plan, the way around the roadblock. I try to block out the “oh no, what are we gonna do” and replace it with “Ah… well that’s an issue. But here’s what we could do about it.”

And yes… I did talk about being a nervous person last week, but that was over specific examples of things where I feel on edge when that particular item occurs. But being a calm person — in general — is different. In today’s post, I’m referring to being calm when there is a crisis… or being calm as the normal and general go-to behavior under most conditions. For me, being calm is a natural thing. I’m glad I have this ability across most aspects of my days. It hasn’t been tested under extreme duress, but if it were, I feel confident I’d be consistent when all hell breaks loose.

How many of us are out there who can handle a crisis? Or do you let your worry take over your ability to act? Inquiring and calm minds want to know!

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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6 thoughts on “365 Challenge: Day 57 – Calm

    Phantom Paper said:
    May 8, 2017 at 10:35 AM

    I like to think that I’m the same, hehe. I find myself not dwelling too long on bemoaning about the issue and direct my brain energy to finding the solutions more. Another thing we can agree on! 57 days is admirable already, I’ve got to borrow some of your resolve to deal with a few habits I’d like to change! 😄

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      May 8, 2017 at 10:39 AM

      Glad to be of help! Borrow all you need. Sometimes I make sense. Other times, not sure what I was thinking. 🙂

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    Books, Vertigo and Tea said:
    May 8, 2017 at 1:22 PM

    I freak out over everything haha. I am a walking, talking bundle of nerves. Unless it is a medical crisis. That I am trained to handle 😉 So I guess I can suck it up when it counts.

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    Rae Longest said:
    May 8, 2017 at 2:44 PM

    I am calm during and through a crisis but fall apart after it is all over.

    Liked by 1 person

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