Charming: pleasant, attractive, polite, friendly, and likable
Ah, my friends… I am the epitome of charming. If you saw me, or knew me, you’d immediately think… he’s my prince riding in on a white horse with an amazing smile, a wonderful sense of humor, beautiful eyes, an exquisitely-tailored suit, bags of money in his saddle, perfectly-coiffed hair, and… oh, wait, wrong blog! Sorry… got confused there for a moment. Thought I was writing a chapter in my fairy tale novel…
What the #$#@@? No… I was not stretching out my ego in that first paragraph, nor was I beginning a post on the non-existence of the quintessential Prince Charming. And I wasn’t about to dive into the tragic sexist interpretations that every girl (or boy) is searching for this perfect man, as some are searching for the perfect woman or whatever tickles their fancy. But in all sincerity… I don’t think I’ve ever heard a woman referred to as “charming” when it comes to romanticism; it seems, at least in my experience, to be a word used to describe a man. Anyone have a good use of when it described a woman in a courtship / romantic sort of notion? I’m curious…
The real intention behind today’s 365 Daily Challenge word is how although I mostly fit the definition, I would not consider myself a charming person. To me… although there always has been a small part of me who (1) kinda am that little boy looking to be rescued, (2) loves all those fairy tale movies and their re-interpretations where Cinderella (or Cinder… fella?) find their perfect partner after dropping a shoe that fits no other, and (3) believes in the magic of changing one’s life at the snap of a wand. To me…
Charming is very difficult to maintain as a characteristic one demonstrates for most of his/her life. Charming is more “point in time” or “momentary” … as in … he was so charming that first night, she was a charming hostess during those first few months (ooh, I came up with an example)! No one can be charming 24/7. We all get irritable. We all are tired. We all are jealous. To truly be charming all your life, you’d have to never exhibit those qualities, which seems quite impossible, or rare, at the very least. Let’s tackle those 5 words:
pleasant – seems a bit weak of a word as part of the way to describe charming. If you are charming, you better be a whole lot more than just pleasant. You better show me something unique, above standards… it should be natural and unknown to you… something almost ethereal where you exude a seductive yet innocent aura
attractive – yes, probably quite necessary, but again… a bit weak. You better be God or Goddess-like if you are the stereotypical Prince or Princess Charming
polite – true, you would have to be kind and nice… but I’d expect full-on royal-treatment and going an extra step to convince me you’re charming
friendly – yes, absolutely, but again, go overboard — make it seem so you are friendly to everyone but with me, you are the very best of intimate attraction
likable – doesn’t this mean the same thing as the above words… yes, I suppose that’s the point in a definition… maybe the Interwebs steered me in the wrong direction with this definition…
OK, so what have I learned here… the definition of the word charming doesn’t quite meet my expectation of the connotation and denotation of the word I imagine it to be. Let’s see how I do/don’t fit into it:
- I work hard (although it is innate) to disappear into my surroundings and the crowd. I do not want to stand out among others.
- My humor is an acquired taste, one in which it is a bit offbeat and rare to see.
- I consider myself the epitome of average; and this pleases me.
- I get too caught up in what others are thinking, rather than casual enough to just go about myself without a care.
So right out of the gate, I really wouldn’t consider myself charming. I’ve met a few people I considered charming… more of a passing fancy… momentary, as I noted. What about you? An example of a charming man or woman? But let’s be clear — is this is a fictional character or real-life person you’ve met? Inquiring minds would like to know who believes in the word charming… and what your definition would be…
About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”
I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.
The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.
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