Month: June 2017

365 Challenge: Day 110 – Solution-Oriented

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Solution-Oriented: used to describe a person who finds solutions to problems. Rather than dwelling on dilemmas, a person who is solution-oriented takes an active approach in solving them

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As our picture for the word of the day suggests, we can either be solution or problem-oriented, when it comes to facing dilemmas. For most of my life, I’ve always been solution-oriented; however, I do feel it is important to spend an appropriate amount of time, dependent on the size of the issue, first focusing on the problem, so that you can clearly determine your collaborative objective and goals. And then you should turn your focus to looking at all the options for success and remediation rather than shoot down ideas because some part of it isn’t ideal or effective. OK… enough technical jargon… two things clearly on my mind today… and although both touch on politics, that’s not the intention at all.

Two issues happened in the last week which significantly annoyed me: (1) NY State Governor declared a state-of-emergency for the NYC MTA (subway and trains for those who don’t know) and (2) My primary care doctor is implementing a concierge-style service which will require me to pay more money each year. I’ll explain both in detail, and why the word solution-oriented seems to come to mind today.

(1) NYC Subways & Trains

  •  I do not claim to know all the problems with our transit system, nor what is holding us back from being able to fix them, so please don’t think my little summary here is anything more than a very personal and subjective thought. But it seems the Governor has given the MTA a 30/60/90 day ultimatum to fix the issue or… something will happen — not sure what that will be. They’ve asked for all rider input to help solve the problem.
  • Lots of derailments and shutdowns occurring recently, caused by both mechanical reasons and human failure. Air conditioning and venting has grown quite problematic, resulting in 100+ degree temperatures and minimal quality on the ride. The percentage of trains that are on-time is now far less than those which are late or canceled. The plan for the future has little strategic thought, the costs are increasing where it is in-affordable and there is very little in the way of communication or new technology being implemented.
  • Obviously, the people who have been in charge of this issue in the past have not been solution-oriented. I am throwing no shade at them, as I understand what it’s like to be in a business or company where everything is so inter-connected that it is very difficult to find a solution without annoying or hurting some part of the business or customer-base. But… that’s life… and sometimes you have to move forward despite the inconvenience. So… what I am thinking here is… this is a commuter-based transportation system that serves millions of NYC residents, workers and travelers. Surely we can build a solution that provides incremental change over some number of years and get to a place where we either (1) cough up more money to do it faster or (2) find a solution that provides some relief for different parts of the system and shut our mouths while the progress takes place.
  • But that’s just me… that’s how I approach a situation. I don’t know all the details here, but I’m pretty sure some smart minds can find a solution to this. That’s one of my strengths… maybe I should be running this program right now. Anyone have an in to get me hired there?

 

(2) Medical Insurance & Care

  • Ever since I’ve been an adult, I’ve been lucky enough to have a privilege where my job paid for a large portion of my medical insurance. I certainly paid a lot too, but I can say nothing when so many other people have had no insurance or no ability to pay for insurance. The problem has not really been at my door, and it wasn’t until my parents began somewhat struggling when my dad was able to collect Medicare but by mom had to get her own policy, as she’s a bit younger. They worked through a solution, and it was expensive, but they found a way to deal with it. Still, we are a lucky family.
  • Last week, my primary care physician mailed a communication to all patients that they are moving to a concierge-style service, where they will reduce existing patient counts to a much smaller population, offer a few additional services and charge an annual fee. For my age, it is $2K per year to remain a patient. Yes… $2K to stay or I can go somewhere else. While my doctor is perfectly lovely, and I’ve gone to him for 5 years since I moved into NYC, there’s nothing extraordinary in the sense that he’s top in his game for a specific illness I might have. Quite the opposite… I’m in very good health, and from 24 thru 34, I went to the doctor only two times — for a really bad sinus infection / flu-like thing… otherwise, I avoided doctors (that’s another story for another day).
  • So… I’m not angry or going to complain about this, as I’m sure there’s some logical reason this was the solution resulting from all the hullabaloo going on with the healthcare industry. And I’m not going to get political and blame anyone right now. Whether I can or can’t afford this fee isn’t the issue. For me, though as I get older I will need the doctor more, I can’t imagine why I’d pay $2K a year just to keep a doctor I will only go to once for a check-up. That’s what a walk-in clinic or new doctor might be for… but the partner and I are still thinking it through — as we’re both solution-oriented guys.
  • This is yet another situation where people responsible for managing healthcare options in the US (and perhaps other countries) are simply not taking this seriously enough and looking for true solutions. Instead, everyone finds a problem with every component and is unable to put forth changes that truly make a difference. No, I’m not saying we should pass the current new plan just to move forward… I’m saying we need to stop trying to fix everything at once and instead we should break this into smaller and more manageable pieces.
  • I’m sure there are smarter minds than mine working on this. And I’m sure there are honest and caring people not trying to include things other than healthcare in all the bills and laws. But enough is enough… we’re talking about healthcare for an entire country… and I can’t possibly see how going concierge-style is anything but beneficial for doctors who are being bled dry of any income because of all the shenanigans. So… if anyone knows how to put me in charge of all this… I need a challenge. I’m solution-oriented. And I thrive on helping people get what they deserve.

 

So… my little rant today is not to be taken in a political way… I’m not making a stance from a liberal or conservative, republican or democrat perspective. I’m simply stating something obvious that I apply in everything I do all throughout my life: let’s find a way to approach both of these topics in a solutions-oriented way where we don’t solve it all at once — but we break it down into manageable components where we drive positive change every day / quarter / month / year for the next few years until we are in a legitimately better place… and then we can squabble over the areas that people can’t agree on.

Simply put:  why should 80% of the population suffer to appease 20% who can’t get their heads out of their asses? Again, not political… just saying… put the right solutions-oriented people in place to solve problems. Not those who are in a place to have to deal with things that have nothing to do with the problem.

For anyone who wants to respond, I would totally love to hear from you about how people are solution or problem-oriented.  BUT one rule / condition… please don’t respond with political statements on who is doing well or not doing well, or rhetoric about specifically how to solve these two issues. That’s not the point of my 365 Daily Challenge and blog. I picked these two topics because they affected me this week, I saw a commonality between them, and I am relating it to people’s personalities and the way they approach things — like finding solutions to problems, whether those problems are the NYC MTA or US Healthcare… or how to teach a kid how to tie shoes in a velcro or shoelace-less world… or remember phone numbers with a device that might lose its battery. Someday, the whole technical world will stop and everyone will stare at space hoping to remember the number they need or the address they are looking for.

And if you can’t help yourself and have to say something political send it elsewhere or to me privately. 🙂 xoxo

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 109 – Momentary

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Momentary: lasting for a very short time; brief

My left eyelid fluttered open a moment before my right, then promptly closed in protection from the blaring stare of the sun searing towards its core. The warmth of the air dancing on my skin comforted me until the gentle breeze alerted the entirety of my surroundings. The dirt was firm yet it felt soft against the tips of my fingers and the curve of my neck, as I realized I lay flat on my back. I looked all around, breathing in the lustrous scent of a familiar flower and listening to the faint and unremarkable hum of an insect’s life beating somewhere nearby. Two questions immediately plagued my semi-conscious mind: Where was I and what was I doing on the ground?

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At some point today, preferably during the light of day, find five (5) minutes where you can be alone and uninterrupted. While five (5) minutes is a lot of time to ask, it’s really not compared to the vast number of minutes remaining in your life. And though it can be difficult with our jobs and families around, it is important to embrace these moments of solitude to allow any chance of success in this experiment. Close your eyes. Forget everything going on and every person in your life. Let your mind relax. Ignore anything trying to penetrate its borders. And in these five (5) minutes, do five (5) things if you can:

  • Open your eyes and focus on something living and breathing — other than a fellow human being.
  • Attune your ears to a sound made in nature — not produced by humankind.
  • Inhale a deep breath through your nose and contemplate where it came from.
  • Taste a piece of gum or mint, your lunch or run your tongue against the back of your teeth and gums.
  • Touch something nearby that appeals to you, or even gently run your fingertips against one another and think about that sensation.

How do you feel? What are you thinking about during each of these five (5) moments?

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Have you ever truly taken a moment to think about the fact that you are real? Not contemplating life and death. Not being thankful you are alive. Not grateful you have time to pursue the things you want to do in life. I mean that you are a living organism… a sentient being with abilities and functions that maintain your ability to see, smell, hear, taste and touch? Recognize what’s happening without you knowing your body took several steps to make that action happen.

That’s what I thought about this morning when I woke up. I imagined a dying person laying in their bed, knowing that they have less than ten breaths left before their days are over. I thought about my own life, sensing my chest’s slight move upward and downward, the air conditioner’s constant mechanical breathing, noticing the appearance of my bedroom and began wondering… everything around us is happening without an acute sense of awareness truly understanding it. And in those moments, I realized how little I know about life. How do my eyes choose what to see? What alerts my ears and nose to recognizing something I like and dislike? Does the texture of something feel the same to me as it does to someone else?

It’s moments like these ones where you realize and accept how small what you are thinking is in comparison to the vastness surrounding you. But it also means you have so much opportunity to learn and grow. I got out of bed and followed my normal early morning routine, then sat down on the couch with my coffee and started this post. But I started just writing whatever was in my mind… and that’s where the first paragraph came from. A moment. That’s all it takes for something to quickly change from bad to good, or good to bad. And these things happen around us, often without our control or knowledge of it even occurring.

No special point today. I’m not saying “Live life to the fullest.” I’m not realizing “It could all end in a moment’s notice.” I’m not suggesting we all make some sort of change. Just saying I took a moment… five moments… to use my senses to understand what was happening inside and outside of me. And this is where I ended up. Where will you end up?

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 108 – Early Riser

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Early Riser: a person who gets up early in the morning

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I concede that today’s word might actually be considered two separate words; however, it represents a concept that we are all familiar with and is something I have become as I grow older. So that’s why I feel it’s OK to use this in the 365 Daily Challenge. I believe there’s a ‘next’ button you can hit if you feel I’ve cheated today and can’t bring yourself to read this post. I can accept that and will see you tomorrow.

Early riser. Does that mean you are awake before the sun rises? Or does it mean you’re up by 7am? Does the time change based on work day or non-workday, during the week or weekend? Or are you consistent in that you get up at the same day all the time? For me, although it’s changed over the years, I’ve been in the same pattern for the last decade. I’m generally awake between 6:30 am and 7:00 am. I consider myself an early riser, although by many standards, that might be considered a bit late.

Ignoring sleepless nights or if you’ve gone to bed much later than usual. Forget those with babies or very young toddlers who haven’t adjusted to sleeping through the night. Strictly speaking on a normal day, where’s that line between rising early and rising at a normal time? I ask for a few reasons…

Alarms

  • I rarely set an alarm clock anymore. If I had a very important meeting before 9am, I might set the alarm as a back-up. But for the most part, I don’t need one to ensure I’m awake and out of bed in the morning. My body has attuned to the time of day, the amount of sleep I get and the sunrise. It’s good because I don’t have to be jolted by some strange noise telling me to wake up. I’m also the first one awake in the morning, so I become the alarm clock for anyone else in the house. And I’m generally quiet when I do wake up the other half to get ready for work.
  • Do you use them? If so, is it your phone or an actual clock? What kind of noise does it make?

First Thing

  • When I wake up, I usually reach for my mobile phone to check the time. I can often guess within a few minutes, but I like knowing the exact time. If it’s still on the early side, I’ll try to stay in bed and think about what needs to get done that day… try to ease into my schedule and objectives. If I happen to wake up on the later end of my normal window, I’ll get out of bed and start the mini-routine… bathroom, send the dog outside, switch on the coffee pot, put out Ryder’s pills, food and fresh water, and then begin scrolling through my phone to see if I’ve missed anything overnight. Takes about 10 to 15 minutes but then I’m on the couch with my coffee and laptop to begin the day.
  • Do you jump up out of bed? Do you head right for the shower? Check on other people in the house? Or find some quiet time for yourself before anyone else gets up?

Morning Person

  • My head needs at least 15 minutes before I function properly in the morning. I can go thru that routine I mentioned above, but that’s about it. And then I can’t talk to anyone for about an hour. I need that hour to pull myself together, but then I’m good for the whole day. Not really a nap person. Naps just make me more tired or a bit cranky when I wake up, as that 1 hour period starts all over again. So I just run full steam ahead until the end of the day. I’d say I’m best between 10 am and 4 pm most days. And on vacations, it’s the same way. Just because I’m in a hotel and only in a city for a few days to a few weeks, and might not return again, doesn’t mean I have to maximize my time and throw off a perfectly good routine.
  • Are you bright-eyed and bushy-tailed when you wake up? Do you need some sort of jolt to push you through that first portion of the day?

So what am I really trying to say here?  I don’t like when I have a busy day ahead and I’m forced to write my 365 Daily Challenge post this early. My mind’s not quite awake. But I have a project plan to draft starting at 10am, and I need to head to the gym first, so unless I get this done now and head to the gym within the next 2 minutes, I’ll be behind. Tell me something fun about your morning routine!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

Film Review: Beauty and the Beast (2017)

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4 out of 5 stars to the 2017 release of Beauty and the Beast. If you’re unfamiliar with the latest version, check it out at: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2771200/

I’m sure most people have heard this story before… either through the Disney versions or reading the original French fairy tale. In case you haven’t, the story goes essentially as follows:

  • Prince doesn’t realize how good he has it and fails to be kind to others.
  • A curse is placed upon him, where he will turn into a beast for a very long time.
  • Years later, he may or may not torture a village (different versions).
  • A beautiful maiden, Belle, meets the Beast.
  • He captures her and she’s forced to stay in his castle.
  • She stays there to protect her family and the village from him.
  • She falls for him, but he cannot allow himself to be with her.
  • He eventually lets her go, his way of showing his love.
  • Belle leaves, but something draws her back.
  • She kisses him and the curse is broken, now that’s he’s learned his lesson.

Disney tells the story one way. Literature another. The TV show Once Upon a Time yet even other way. But it always comes down to the simple saying:

“If you love someone, set them free. If it’s meant to be, they will come back to you.”

I never realized how much this story was similar to Phantom of the Opera. What’s with those French? That said, I’ve seen a few versions before this one. I wasn’t anxious to see it in the movie theatre, so I simply downloaded it On Demand this weekend and watched it with a lovely glass of champagne… or a bottle actually… somehow in the 2 hours the movie ran, I finished off the whole bottle. And no, I’m not saying the movie drives you to drink. It just happened.

I enjoyed the movie and the changes in the story. The graphics were amazing, especially with all the inanimate object characters that come to life. Wow! That was fantastic editing. The music was good. The acting was strong. All in all, a solid effort. It didn’t completely overwhelm me, so it earns a 4 out of 5 on my movie scale. Key players include:

Emma Watson Emma Watson
Dan Stevens Dan Stevens
Luke Evans Luke Evans
Josh Gad Josh Gad
Kevin Kline Kevin Kline
Hattie Morahan Hattie Morahan
Haydn Gwynne Haydn Gwynne
Clothilde
Gerard Horan Gerard Horan
Jean the Potter
Ray Fearon Ray Fearon
Ewan McGregor Ewan McGregor
Ian McKellen Ian McKellen
Emma Thompson Emma Thompson
Nathan Mack Nathan Mack
Audra McDonald Audra McDonald
Stanley Tucci Stanley Tucci
Gugu Mbatha-Raw Gugu Mbatha-Raw

What I found most interesting was all the hullabaloo over LeFou being gay in the movie. From everything I’d heard, I expected him to be flamboyant, out and a main part of the show. But it was such a small aspect… he flirted a tiny bit with Gaston. He danced with another guy at the end. And he had a bit of flair. But so did they all. Ugh, please. Not even worth mentioning anymore. Was totally fine for all viewers. And to think a movie theatre wouldn’t show the film. Yikes.

The setting and scenery between the abandoned castle and the woods were gorgeous, especially the aerial views, which seemed to capture everything. I thought the film was a bit short and could have told a few more stories between some of the other characters, as if you didn’t know who all the characters were from previous versions, you might have missed a few pieces of the beginning and how they connected to the rest of the movie.

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Anyone else see it? What’d ya think?

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

 

TAG: Desert Island Discs Blog

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Thank you so much Patty @ Moohnshinescorner for nominating me for the Desert Island Discs Blog Tag.  Patty has awesome adventures… it’s her birthday week… and we have lots of books and thoughts in common. So if you like my blog, you’ll love hers!

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The Rules:

  • Link back to BookBum’s original post, so she can see all your answers! (Remember to do this via pingback, she won’t get a notification if not!)
  • Thank the person who tagged you… show some love!
  • Come up with your answers
  • Then tag others to keep the tag going!

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The Premise:

You are cast away onto a remote desert island:

  • You can bring 5 albums – what are they?
  • You can bring one book – which is it? You are provided with a Bible/ other religious text if you want it, as well as the Complete Works of Shakespeare. No series!
  • You can have one luxury item (it has to be inanimate and can’t help you escape the island) – what is it?

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My Answers:

The Albums:

I am the single worst person to ask this question as I don’t buy music or albums. I am a radio guy and always find a station I love. I do download some songs on Spotify, but I like different artists and genres, so I’m just gonna pick 5 artists and we’ll assume it will be a compilation of their best songs. And to be fair, I’ll explain why.

  • Phantom of the Opera
    • We all need a little drama and excitement. I love this entire score and see its dark side, its beauty and its ability to make me laugh and cry. I’d need both those things on a desert island.

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  • Adele
    • I’ve come to love and adore her music over the years. It’s haunting. It stays with you. The lyrics are beautiful. I can get lost in the message and forget that I’m stuck on an island.

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  • Madonna
    • OK, so I grew up in the late 80s and early 90s when she was in her heyday. I can dance all night to her without ever getting bored or tired. It’s pretty, it’s mysterious, it’s dark, it’s deep, it’s funky and it’s disco. It would have just about everything to keep my mind occupied when I can no longer deal with the heat on this insanity of an island… and whoever dropped me there will pay!

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  • Maroon 5
    • OK, primarily because of Adam Levine. Between the tattoos, his attitude and his appearance, I’d survive this torture just thinking about, looking at or listening to him. Oddly enough, his brother and I seem to have more in common, so maybe Adam will be my brother-in-law one day. {Sorry, Winston!} But the music is just as good. I love the beats and the range. Some of their songs just stick in my mind all day. I could listen to it while building myself some sort of hut to live in.

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  • ABBA
    • So… don’t judge me… but I always wanted to be a child of the 60s and 70s. Whenever ABBA comes on, my body starts dancing without my mind’s permission. If I had to get stuck on this stupid island where it’s hot and sunny, which I am not fond of, then I need something that just takes over my entire being so I can forget where I am. ABBA would do that. I could just go to town on my own dancing from one side of the island to the other until some plane saw me and realized another fan needed rescue from the 60s.

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The Book:

Well, not only do you put me on this island… you tell me only one book? Well fine… then I’d take a blank book… so I could write my own stories and any quotes or lines I remember from my favorite books. I can have them all… assuming I can find a writing utensil. But you see… I’m smart… so I’ll find a henna plant and make some ink to use. Thought you had me there, huh?

 

 

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The Luxury Item:

Toothpaste. I thought about soap, but perhaps the water would clean me enough, or some flower cream I create. But I’d want to have fresh breath for my rescuer.

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I tag…

 

The last 6 people I chatted with today:

 

Have fun with it! Skip it if you are not interested. If you were not tagged, but want to play along, please do it! Love to see everyone’s answers… 😛

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

TAG: Friends for Days

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Many thanks to my friend for cwhiteweb for tagging me. You must check out her site for great content, but especially for her daily 6 word writing challenge… the two characters have been dating for the last 85 days and there’s lots of interesting action going on in only 6 words! Also, Cheila from pinkfordays created this tag, so check that out too!

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The rules:

  • Say who created the tag and provide a link to their blog.
  • Do a blog post showing your Tag.
  • Add the logo to the post.
  • Always thank the person who nominated you, provide a link to their blog and, if you like, say something positive and supportive about their blog.
  • Choose 5 bloggers that you don’t know very well or that are just starting their blog.
  • Go over to their blogs and read a few posts, like and comment.
  • Say 3 things you love about their blogs; (3 things for each blogger)
  • Those 5 bloggers are automatically nominated to do the same.
  • Nominate two bloggers who have been doing this for a longer time! Don’t forget to let them know you’re nominated them!

 

My nominees are:

Five (5) people I am relatively new friends with… who all deserve a shout-out and mention… some have had blogs for a while, some are brand new. Go check ’em out!

 

 

 

 

 

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 107 – Idle

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Idle: without purpose or effect; pointless; avoiding work; lazy

idle

As an advanced warning, today’s post will be an exaggerated one to wake myself up. And it’s not about a car engine or someone patiently waiting for someone to arrive. It’s 100% about me, as I had a moment this morning where I realized I am absolutely, positively, certainly, and any other definitive word, being IDLE about something. You’ve probably read at least one post where I’ve talked about trying to figure out my next career, searching for a job or looking for an agent for the book I’ve written. And on the outskirts, I must seem pretty busy and prolific in all that I’m doing. Well… it seems I must confess that I’ve been lying to you, by way of lying to myself, by omission and tunnel vision, that is…

I claim to be smart. I pontificate about how focused I can be. I tell everyone how I’m determined to achieve my goals. Yeah, sure, that’s all true. But I’m not practicing what I preach, and I am starting to realize it more and more as each 365 Daily Challenge post is released. A few pieces of background information to set the stage… I actually am an extremely hardworking individual. I have an incredible passion for what I want to do. I usually achieve more than feasible in any given period of time. My former career and frequent promotions serve as evidence. The project plans I’ve kept to achieve so many goals clearly speak for themselves. That I wrote my 400 page novel in less than 2 months supports these statements. And the 500 book reviews I’ve written in the last year certainly show my stamina. But you know what? Somehow I got off-track in the last few months… and I became idle.

And here’s how I know why… for someone who claims to have needed a few months rest and re-focus so he could plan his future… for someone who wanted to make a giant leap into a new and different future… for someone who provides so many thoughts and advice to others in the 365 Daily Challenge, here are also some facts you deserve to know:

  • I am not consistently sending out my query letters to potential agents.
    • How will it get published if I don’t do this?
  • I have not researched the Amazon self-publishing route.
    • How will I have a back-up plan if I don’t find a traditional publisher?
  • I have not truly started the second book.
    • How will I have more works to be published without putting myself on a writing schedule?
  • I have not joined any writer’s groups or developed stronger relationships with writers.
    • Who is going to push me and help provide guidance?
  • I haven’t connected with publishers and online sites to get my name out there.
    • How will people know of me as more than just a blogger and book reviewer?
  • I spend at least 6 hours a day sitting on my ass, reading other people’s posts and reviews on all the social media sites but don’t have any sort of regular plan or approach.
    • If I’m so inconsistent, how will people trust me?

So… since I always put myself out there… it was important for me to say these things aloud — to recognize them and be fair and honest. It’s all fixable. I strayed. I went off track. But if I want to pursue a different future, well then I better get off my ass and get back to what has made me so successful in the past. I’m wallowing in my self-pity and it ain’t a pretty sight. No… this isn’t a pity party… and I promise you, I don’t need anyone to tell me “it’s good you realized it now and can change it.”

I need everyone to hold me accountable… to push me for content, to partner on changes for the future… and to ask to see some sort of a plan within the next 7 days. Because if I want something… or if you want something… how is doing the same thing every day hoping it achieves a different outcome anything other than the definition of insanity?

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That’s the line in my sand. This week I write my project plan. It’s always made things more clear and organized in the past. And next Monday, I will start the second half of 2017 with my formal plan in place to achieve my goals in publishing, writing and reviewing.

I will get back to being me!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.