365 Challenge: Day 81 – Adaptable

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Adaptable: able to adjust to new conditions or be modified for a new use or purpose


I debated with myself this morning whether to select “adaptable” or “open-minded” as today’s 365 Daily Challenge characteristic. I tried to engage Ryder in a little discussion, but he chose to chase birds on the terrace. Screw him, I say! BTW, don’t you just adore Legos?

Obviously, I settled on “adaptable,” {Aside: No doubt, either I’m Captain Obvious today or I should send myself back to bed!} and will save “open-minded” for next week. When I think of the word “adaptable,” besides what you see in the above definitions {Further Aside: I feel like Henry James today; dude, just get on with the post}… I think of Charles Darwin and the “Origin of Species.” For anyone unfamiliar, it’s the theory of natural selection, i.e. those who can adapt will survive longer than those who cannot adapt (in simplest terms).

Come on… let’s all channel our inner Gloria Gaynor and belt it out: “At first I was afraid, I was petrified…” OK, that’s enough. I’m the most inappropriate person to try to sing these lyrics and don’t I know it! To be serious (the point of these posts), we all need to learn how to be adaptable… meaning able to try new things, give something an opportunity to prove whether it will or will not work, and to give ourselves a small area for growth and improvement.

While I strongly believe in being consistent, it is important to know when things must change and when you must look for new opportunities. And this is where adaptability becomes significantly important. Imagine if you always did the same thing everyday in the same manner. Or you never allowed yourself to try new things. Besides being boring, you wouldn’t fulfill one of the highest tenets of life: to learn and grow.

When I reflect on how I am adaptable, I consider understanding alternative options, thinking about something with a different pair of eyes or glasses (for those who have vision trouble like me), or recognizing a new approach to process through. A few examples bouncing around my mind:

  • I wasn’t much interested in using e-readers when they first came out. I loved paper and print. I was tired of reading computer screens and phones all day long. Who needed another device? But, since I rarely say no to something without giving it significant thought, I downloaded Kindle Reader on my iPad. I gave a book a chance. And I liked it. Now, I find it’s useful when I don’t want to carry both a computer/tablet/device and a book around with me. I still read physical books throughout the week, but the e-reader had a useful purpose for me, and I adapted to its user interface, occasionally finding it easier than a physical book.

  • When I first moved into the city, I disliked everyone being so close to me. I liked personal space. A yard to have boundaries. Space to invite people over to visit. Slowly, I found things about living in the middle of an urban center that made me quite happy. I didn’t have to worry about drinking and driving, therefore I could have 10 or 12 drinks each night and still… JUST KIDDING… I can have 2 drinks and not worry about being pulled over. Without a spare room, I had less uninvited company. I could get to any restaurant rather quickly without having to drive far. I had a shorter commute to work. I adapted to the situation and found ways to like both suburbia and the city.

  • I’ve adapted to people in ways I never thought possible. I used to be quite judgmental, and to some degree, I still can be. Through the years, I realized it gets you nowhere quickly. If all you do is find something wrong with someone or something, you’ve set yourself up to always have a disappointment. Instead, I try to focus on a reason why I like someone or something, especially if it has to be part of my life for whatever time period. There are people I work with whom I don’t like. There are friends of friends I end up socializing with when I’d probably prefer having my toenails ripped off than be near them for any length of time. But that’s life, dude / chick (whatever you want to be called — my attempt at humor today)… so figure out how to adapt to the situation because it will happen again in some way, shape or form. So when I’m around them, I don’t let it consume me.

Being adaptable means you have the power.  And that’s what you need to retain no matter what. I don’t mean power as in control over other people — I mean control over yourself. If you can adapt to the situation at hand, then you can survive it. And if you can survive it, then you have a chance to keep on moving forward. I guess what I’m essentially saying… as I prepare to close out this post… is…

Conquer those feelings that keep you from being adaptable, and you’ll be more successful than you thought possible. When you have choices… when you let yourself try or consider new things… and when you move with fluidity rather than the staunch and robotic “no, I won’t… ____ <<fill in the blank>> ____ … do that!” you’re holding yourself back.

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.


21 thoughts on “365 Challenge: Day 81 – Adaptable

    cwhiteweb said:
    June 1, 2017 at 1:44 PM

    Hmm, I like this one very much!

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    Kristin said:
    June 1, 2017 at 1:56 PM

    Oooh! This is one I need to work on. I struggle with change. I eventually adapt but it is after much frustration!

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      June 1, 2017 at 2:37 PM

      I do too. Then I Try to bring it back down to “what’s really at stake here?” And it feels easier.

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        Kristin said:
        June 1, 2017 at 3:12 PM

        I truly think I have mild OCD tendencies. I have my rituals and I like to stick to them. I cope well and use distraction techniques and am able to curb the rituals that have potential to disrupt my life.

        But, there are smaller instances where I adapt but struggle with changing. Take my coffee for example. I want to drink out of the exact same style cup. It doesn’t have to be the SAME cup but it has to be the same style/size.

        If I’m forced to change brands because the store was sold out, I’ll just sort of sip on it until I get used to the change. Then? I’ll continue to buy that brand instead of going back to the other. Because, I’ve adapted to and gotten used to the change. I won’t change back unless forced.

        I also don’t like a coffee just “thrown together” as it always has to taste the same. I won’t drink it if it’s off. I can tell. I need to measure the liquid, the coffee, the milk and the truvia. It all has to be measured.

        I can’t switch flavoring around. I can’t have cold coffee one day and an iced coffee the next. Nope, I need the same thing every day.

        I need to work on it. It just makes me anxious to do things differently.

        In fact, I’ve found myself being very casual in reviews on my blog lately and I keep obsessing that people aren’t going to like it.

        But, I’m trying 🙂

        Great blog post to think on and reflect on!

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        June 1, 2017 at 4:02 PM

        Thanks! I’m trying to throw “deep” thinking content out there….

        As for light reviews on your blog, it may come down to how often you read / produce a review. If it’s every day, lighter might be OK. Or if it’s a shorter book, a shorter review works. I hear ya tho… for these older reads where I’m writing the review 10 years later…. it’s not a lot, and I don’t want to disappoint anyone. Pressure! LOL

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        Kristin said:
        June 1, 2017 at 4:07 PM

        I think for me, casual means, I’m saying things in the way that I think them. It’s the things I’ve thought but I’ve always had the tendency to hide?

        I call this voice my “hey you” voice. She’s fierce and blunt and a side that I’ve always kept in a box.

        I’m unsure if it is my dislike dor change or perhaps the fear that people may not like me if I open up.

        Your blog is pushing me to explore these parts of myself ❤️

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        June 1, 2017 at 4:14 PM

        Cool, glad to help create some opportunity for thought.

        Interesting perspective on the hey voice. I like it. She needs to come out sometimes. A good balance across the voice sounds like it works… i.e. confidence in your opinion on the book makes you have the strong voice whereas if it’s super introspective, you may still hide. (I’m probably babbling!)


        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        June 1, 2017 at 4:04 PM

        As for OCD… it’s good you can sorta control the bigger things while you let yourself get a little out there on the smaller things like coffee. It does need to taste good. And if you have keen taste buds as to the measurement parts, I actually understand that. So you are kinda adapting as you said. If you have coffee every day or once in a blue moon, you want it to be right. If it’s just every so often, a couple of times a week, and it’s off, then it’s not so bad.

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        Kristin said:
        June 1, 2017 at 4:13 PM

        Unfortunately, I’m a coffee addict. 20-40oz a day 😳

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    Mama Cass said:
    June 1, 2017 at 2:42 PM

    Go on now, Go!. Great post Superman. 🙂

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      June 1, 2017 at 3:08 PM

      Hehe, me??? More like Sillyman! Thank you… glad I make sense still.


        Mama Cass said:
        June 1, 2017 at 3:31 PM

        That Clark Kent disguise doesn’t fool me, I know you can fly. And yes, you do make a lot of sense.

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        June 1, 2017 at 3:35 PM

        Up, up and away!!!

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    BrizzleLass said:
    June 1, 2017 at 3:44 PM

    Yes! I like this one and am in complete agreement! If I go back even 10 years I am a completely different person now to then where I have adapted to the changes in my life and things I’ve learned. I think it happens to most of us quite subtly as we jog along through each day!

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    RobbyeFaye said:
    June 1, 2017 at 6:05 PM

    Hmm, interesting ideas and concepts. I need to think on a few of these because I haven’t adapted to some of them yet.
    Thanks for the post, it really got me to thinking.

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    Rae Longest said:
    June 1, 2017 at 6:19 PM

    Gee, I’m pretty adaptable too according to your definition. I really think flexibility and adaptability come easier with age, Hon.


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