365 Challenge: Day 99 – Social

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Social: (a) relating to society or its organization, as in being friendly and engaging with others, or (b) using technology to stay connected with others

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As I awoke this morning, I reached for my phone and looked to see if I’d missed anything overnight. Apart from the normal news, nothing too big happened, except I had over 200 notifications waiting for my review. I thought to myself… so many red dots in the corner of each app on my phone… how will I ever keep up when I am working more frequently and have more people I connect with. Yikes!

Stepping up to the podium, my eyes look down… my expression a bit sullen. “My name is Jay, and I have an issue with the little red dots in the upper right corner on my phone. It calls to me. It mocks me. It makes me think I am slow and unable to keep up. I think I’m growing obsessed with staying on top of social media and I need help.”

Anyone else get a tad bit of anxiety when they have notifications or messages to read or follow up on?

The solution is probably to condense the number of apps I use. To set specific times when I let myself read, review and comment. To relax if it takes a day to respond to someone. So… my post today is going to list all the social media accounts I use and see what others are doing. I’m curious how you all handle it:

  • Which social media apps do you use?
  • Do you interface from one to another or post separately?
  • Do you read every post from every follower or just randomly go thru when you have time?
  • Do you comment on everything?
  • Do you respond when someone writes to you?
  • Do you have “no social media time” rules in place?

 

OK… where is Jay… and why?

 

  • Goodreads: My favorite site… where I list all the books I’ve read, want to read and am currently reading. I’ve created ~500 reviews for books I’ve previously read (99% caught up finally!) and write new ones the day I finish the book. I look for new books, groups and great people to connect with. I am always on here.

 

  • Facebook: It was the first site I joined nearly 8 years ago, but I was one of the last of my friends to finally give it a chance. I’ve added all my former high school and college friends, then removed anyone I didn’t speak with regularly, then added some people back. I can’t decide what I want to do with this site. It’s now a way to see what’s going on in friend’s and family’s lives when we don’t get to connect that often. But sometimes I post book reviews in groups I’ve joined. I’ve created a basic author page, but I rarely post because I haven’t yet published my first book.

 

  • Instagram: I post 1 or 2 pictures a week, generally of food I’ve cooked or baked, the apartment, the terrace or Ryder. I’m not a good photographer and don’t have any editing software, so I’m fairly basic here. I’d like to try to do more with it, but it doesn’t occur to me to take a photo of a book and post it. I’m not creative in that way.

 

  • Pinterest: I’m all over the place on here… I snapshot all my book reviews and setup a collection to highlight them all. I also have clothing, foods, desserts, houses, places, people, books… so many collections of things I love. But my usage is random. I’ll go weeks without looking for anything new, then spend days on it. But if you look through all my collections, you will clearly see who I am and the things I love.

 

  • Twitter: I rarely use Twitter other than to share my book reviews, which I do from the WordPress site. I only go on to check when someone has messaged me. It’s not that easy of a tool to use, plus so many people follow for follows, I don’t have a clean list of people’s accounts I’d actually want to read and follow!

 

  • Google+: I interface book reviews and the 365 Daily Challenge. But I never just go on to search it. Anyone else use it? Find anything new or good?

 

  • Tumblr:  I interface book reviews and the 365 Daily Challenge. But I never just go on to search it. Anyone else use it? Find anything new or good?

 

  • LinkedIn: I created a huge account on here a few years ago for my professional life as a technology executive. I have nearly 3K connections and go on almost every day to see people’s job changes, anniversaries or birthdays. I send a message anytime something changes to keep up our connections. But I don’t look for articles that often anymore since I haven’t been working this year. I need to get back to it, but there’s nothing on here about my writing or reading life.

 

  • Professional Site: I have 2 other websites besides ThisIsMyTruthNow. This is my professional one as a technology executive. I need to keep it up more updated once I get back to work.

 

  • Book Site: I have 2 other websites besides ThisIsMyTruthNow. This one is dedicated to my book, “Watching a Glass Shatter,” as I search for a literary agent or decide to self-publish. I’d love to get feedback on here from everyone.

 

Above and beyond, I have an account on WhatsApp, SnapChat, FourSquare, Ancestry, LINE, OpenTable, Seamless, NetGalley… and it goes on and on! My intention by creating all of these accounts was to be able to connect with and be available across all platforms as: (1) book reviewer, (2) writer and (3) thinker / musings / 365 Challenge dialogue… perhaps find a voice that leads me into my future role and career. Have I over-extended or is everything in the right place…  lots to think about! OK… hit me with it… what do you think is wrong or right, good or bad, useful or silly?

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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38 thoughts on “365 Challenge: Day 99 – Social

    Mischenko said:
    June 19, 2017 at 9:17 AM

    You sound so much like me. Grabbing my phone is the first thing I do in the morning. I’m not on any social media apps other than Goodreads & Etsy, but I do use pinterest occasionally. I also use Netgalley and Bookstr, but not everyday. Between Goodreads and WordPress, I don’t have time for anything else if I want to read and do other things. I’ve thought about Facebook and Instagram since I started blogging, but I just don’t think I could keep up with everything.

    Sometimes I wish I didn’t have a smartphone though, it’s very distracting. Often, I tell my husband that we have to put our phones down. Many times we’ll be right there in the same room and so engrossed in our phones, we don’t even notice we’re there together. It’s kind of crazy. Technology has changed so much about my family. I’m also amazed at how most people I talk to want to text, whereas I miss the phone interaction and actually miss their voices. I guess that’s a topic for another day…

    I always respond on Goodreads and WordPress. I try to read everything as far as reviews and posts, but it’s hard. I always prioritize my close friends though. If someone is taking the time to read and comment on my stuff, I always try to do the same for them.

    That was a serious ramble! Anyhow, great post. You always cover topics that are frequently on my mind…

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      June 19, 2017 at 9:43 AM

      I love rambles tho… provokes so much discussion. We are so in tune sometimes! I don’t know how you do it with a family. My partner and I are good about no phones during meals. Then we take about 30 to 45 minutes to get thru computer-related stuff before we settle down to watch a TV show or two before bed. But the I blog and write, I find I pick up the phone while watching TV and FF’ing thru commercials or bathroom breaks. Silliness!

      Good to see how you handle it all and which sites… sounds like I may need to turn a few down or off!

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        Mischenko said:
        June 19, 2017 at 2:11 PM

        The family meal, that’s so important to me as well. Sitting down to eat should mean no devices, at least for us. We do have that rule.

        I agree though, it’s silly. My oldest who is now 17 is a YouTuber and very involved in social media. It scares me. Sometimes it seems like the iPhone is like a security blanket for him. :/ It’s like there’s no downtime. He loves the interaction though.

        That’s a lot of apps you have! I think I would go nuts with notifications. Lol! 😉 I’m interested in which ones you’ll let go. I could never let Goodreads or WordPress go! 😉

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        June 19, 2017 at 2:12 PM

        I couldn’t imagine being 17 again… to deal with all this in order to stay in touch with friends or be able to get through college and a first job. Wow!

        GR and WP won’t be going anywhere! 🙂

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    Norin said:
    June 19, 2017 at 9:30 AM

    I’m literally surprised by the number of Apps you use! lol Likewise Mischenko, now I’m predominantly on WordPress and Goodreads. I used to be active on Twitter, but now that I’ve made friends with so many other bloggers (thank you!), i don’t have much time to handle everything. I only use Instagram whenever I post book pics, and respond to comments. About Facebook and LINE… I used to, but not much now. None of my real friends can share my love of books, we do text chat every now and then, but we’d been doing fine before the prevalence of social media. I don’t think I need to connect with them 24/7. While I do appreciate the friendship with them, constant beeping notification every time one of the group members posts on LINE… that’s pretty distracting. I may seem distant or detached, but that’s how I handle social media with my offline friends.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      June 19, 2017 at 9:46 AM

      You’ve got great points about detached and too much! Part of it for me is getting out there to be more known for the future when I publish books. But still… sometimes, too much is too much. Hard to keep up.

      Your point about just not responding or going online makes sense. It’s technology… it can bring us together, but it doesn’t mean we have to be on 24/7. I only use LINE to talk with my cousin in Thailand or Ukraine… but even we have cut down a lot. I’ve turned all sound off on my notifications and will turn the phone upside down when I don’t want to be distracted. Doesn’t always work!

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        Norin said:
        June 19, 2017 at 10:27 AM

        I seriously wondered how you’ve managed to handle all this up to this point! I’d be overwhelmed by the sheer number of notifications… 24 hours would never be enough for me to catch up lol
        Likewise you, turning off notifications and putting the phone upside down won’t work for me either, I always end up picking up my phone to check Goodreads and WordPress like every 30 minutes unless I’ve got my hands tied with work or family stuff, like hanging out with my mom. Because it’s so much fun! But reading everything and commenting on every posts is undeniably hard. I need to prioritize what to read or whose posts to read depending on the time I have on my hands.

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        June 19, 2017 at 10:31 AM

        I sympathize. I am getting a bit out of control, so I do need to figure out how to manage it better. I’m not keeping up very well lately! 🙂

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    Nel said:
    June 19, 2017 at 9:34 AM

    I pick up my phone first thing in the morning too but mostly because it’s my alarm clock so I don’t have a choice or it’ll never stop. I’m on Facebook and check those notifications because I’m part of my mom’s Book Club and the Grimlet street team for Darynda. I mostly repost Bookstr memes or share pictures. I don’t friend everybody that sends me a request so it’s pretty easy to manage and I’m really good at pressing the block button when the occasion calls for it. I’m on Goodreads as well, always looking for new books to read and posting reviews especially now that I’ve started getting ARCs. I also have Twitter. I like Twitter the most because I don’t get all the junk and negativity that you usually see on Facebook. I follow a lot of authors, earth porn (which is landscape and animal pictures), Android related Twitters and National Geographic. I respond to messages if I get them and I mostly only go look when I’m bored and want to see some random stuff. I also have LinkedIn but I’m not on there ever unless I get a notification.
    It’s not really hard for me to put my phone down. My husband and I are good at ignoring our phones for each other. It didn’t always used to be that way but it’s definitely become easier to do for us. Plus, Do Not Disturb mode on phones is a beautiful setting that a lot of people should definitely take advantage of!
    Sorry for the long comment, hahaha

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      June 19, 2017 at 9:48 AM

      Love the long comments. Helps us all think about this more, as well as decide what’s best for us as individuals. I’ve never used the Do Not Disturb button. I need to give that a shot. You’re on just as much social media as I am… you must have figured something out! Thanks.

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        Nel said:
        June 19, 2017 at 9:53 AM

        I tried Instagram before but never got into it. Never understood Snapchat and the original premise of why it was created stuck in my head which made me even less interested. I have Pinterest floating around but I was into it for all of 5 minutes and that was that. I’m content with just Facebook, Twitter and Goodreads and well now WordPress. It’s enough for sure, haha

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    Roda said:
    June 19, 2017 at 10:25 AM

    I keep Facebook for friends and family only. I love Pinterest and do post on Instagram. I find that I spend most of my time on WordPress. ☺️

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    Carrie Rubin said:
    June 19, 2017 at 10:30 AM

    The only notifications I have turned on for my phone are from Twitter. I check into my other sites daily, but I think I’d get a little batty if I let them all come through. Social media can be a tricky world to navigate. Once we enter it, hours can pass before we leave if we’re not careful! 😄

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    Jo-Ann said:
    June 19, 2017 at 10:53 AM

    Holy! I don’t know how you keep it all straight! And you post often to boot! I try not to look at my phone or laptop until after my walk in the morning. I try to respond to everything on my wordpress site. My posts automatically update on my facebook page and twitter.
    As for Instagram, I just haven’t figured it out yet. When I get a bit more organized with my emails etc, I’ll likely add posting regularly to it.
    So I might be a bit crazy, but I end up spending a tremendous amount of time with email. I follow a ton of blogs via email because its one stop shopping. Some blogs you can subscribe to the reader and others you have to be on bloglovin but they all generally let you send to email.
    I’m overwhelmed. I open the tabs that I want to respond to, then delete the posts that I don’t. they’re usually follow up comments. Does everyone subscribe to followup comments?
    So basically all these emails are keeping me from posting and from writing and painting. Yikes! Something has to give, I think!

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      June 19, 2017 at 11:00 AM

      I know… I can’t keep up anymore! LOL At least you have some rules you try to follow. I don’t subscribe to comments, which is a bad thing. So I often only see the comments someone replies to me on my post or in response to something I’ve placed on their post. I am probably missing a few things, but I have to draw the line somewhere. If it’s a good post, I’ll go back and check it occasionally to see what others have said!

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    Jo-Ann said:
    June 19, 2017 at 1:14 PM

    Trust me, not subscribing to comments is a good thing! It’s too much. I hate to miss comments after but you’re right, you have to draw at line! I did the Sunday post, and went to over 80 blogs and commented and then responded to comments. And honestly, I love doing that. I love the interaction, but my day is pretty well shot. lol

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      June 19, 2017 at 1:16 PM

      80 blogs is a lot to keep up with! I feel for you. That would take the whole day!

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    Kristin said:
    June 20, 2017 at 12:11 AM

    Goodreads, facebook are used daily. I use instagram a couple days a week. I have twitter, tumblr and g+ but all those are set to autopost from wordpress.

    I don’t really consider netgalley a social media site but I go on there to look for new books from time to time.

    Notifications don’t bug me but I also don’t have an overwhelming amount of people commenting on my stuff. I don’t participate much in GR groups I guess.

    I think people dont comment as much on my blog lately because the reader has decided my comment button needed to poof and now people have to visit my site to comment instead of from the reader.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      June 20, 2017 at 6:45 AM

      What’s up with WordPress? I always wondered why some people’s show he comment button and some don’t in the reader!

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        Kristin said:
        June 20, 2017 at 7:01 AM

        I asked WordPress and they gave me a weird reply that it is because Im self hosted but Ive always been self hosted on WP

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        June 20, 2017 at 7:06 AM

        Odd. I see that with another friends bLog too. And she’s self hosted.

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        Kristin said:
        June 20, 2017 at 10:24 AM

        my pingbacks aren’t working either. I’m trying to get WordPress to fix that too

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        Jo-Ann said:
        June 20, 2017 at 10:59 AM

        I’m having similar problems Kristin, I’m self hosted as well. I rarely get pingbacks and my blog posts are hard to find unless subscribed by email. It’s frustrating as hell.
        Jo-Ann

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        Kristin said:
        June 20, 2017 at 11:01 AM

        It is frustrating. I’ve contacted wordpress.org for answers. I host a second blog for a friend, using the same template and the same host. Exact same settings. She gets pingbacks. I do not.

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        Kristin said:
        June 20, 2017 at 11:43 AM

        Jo-Ann, I see you in the reader because I followed you but I believe you have to be following someone for their self hosted site to show in the reader. The tags do not work for self hosted blogs. Which I feel they need to fix. Many of us upgraded for various reasons, one of which is to have our own shops or professional templates and we are punished for upgrading in certain ways. It isn’t right.

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        Kristin said:
        June 20, 2017 at 3:59 PM

        Jo-Ann, so, I checked to see if the pings are also selected under quick edit and they are. I guess I’m out of luck.

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        Kristin said:
        June 20, 2017 at 7:02 AM

        It worked until the last WP update. 😳

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        Jo-Ann said:
        June 20, 2017 at 11:29 AM

        Weird. And frustrating. I’ll be interested in hearing what they have to say, if you don’t mind sharing.

        Do you use Jetpack? I think a few of my problems stemmed from that. I had to change a few settings that were well hidden.

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        Kristin said:
        June 20, 2017 at 11:35 AM

        Yes, I do use jetpack. Any tips of things I can change?

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        Jo-Ann said:
        June 20, 2017 at 11:42 AM

        I had lost my comment box on my posts altogether. Spent a day and a half trying to find it again! I clicked comments everywhere in the dashboard I could find a box for comments. Here’s what worked:
        Posts-Quick Edit-Allow Comments
        There is also allow pings there, I just noticed. That might do the trick for you! Let me know!

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        Jo-Ann said:
        June 20, 2017 at 4:24 PM

        Poop. I’m going to try something…see if you get a pingback.

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    Kristin said:
    June 20, 2017 at 11:45 AM

    I will check it out when I get home 🙂

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    caterpillars2butterfliesblog said:
    June 20, 2017 at 10:15 PM

    Wow, certainly sounds like you have your hands full. I can’t even fathom trying to keep up with all those sites, but then I do still work a full time job. There simply wouldn’t be enough hours in the day. While I understand the desire to be on all of then, if you aren’t really active then is it really doing the good that you had hoped?? Maybe trying moderating and downsizing. Or, set yourself up a schedule rotating the days that you focus on each site.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      June 21, 2017 at 6:38 AM

      I like the idea of a rotating schedule. But you are right, not being active on it doesn’t really do much either!

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    Rae Longest said:
    July 2, 2017 at 6:18 AM

    My goodness! Too much to keep up with! My socials include: having ladies’ coffees here at my house,;going to visit friends who are ill, recovering from surgery or can’t get out and TAKING the coffee/tea and dessert, having friends over for lunch or supper; having “phone visits” with friends, sometimes lasting for 40 minutes or an hour, and other assorted chats and social contacts when I run into friends at the library, post office, or grocery store, which last as long as my feet and bad back will let me stand without being “taken out” for the rest of the day. I’m not much on social MEDIA; I follow my brother, neice, and great neice on Facebook, but that’s only to stay in touch.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 2, 2017 at 7:16 AM

      those are all very strong social ways, especially in person. I have a couple of former colleagues turned friends who live furthers away now. We scheduled calls every 4 to 6 weeks to keep in touch and catch up rather than small text messages or chats online. Makes it more personal. I totally understand! I’m glad you are on Facebook tho, to keep in touch with the extended family.

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