365 Challenge: Day 128 – HYPO/HYPER-critical

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HYPO/HYPER-critical: excessively and unreasonably critical, especially of small faults; behaving in a way that suggests one has higher standards or more noble beliefs than is the case

Note: No, I haven’t done it again; I’m not making up a word to try to describe my behavior this weekend over an incident that played out for three days… I’m trying to decide which word is more accurate and I apparently need your help!

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Background

  • Ryder, my nearly 10-year-old shiba inu dog, has had seizures since he was a small puppy. It’s a scary event to watch, as you can do nothing but let them roll through it on their own. If you try to help, they might associate you with the seizure and be afraid afterwards. He has one or two episodes per year; each lasts about 45 to 90 seconds. On occasion, he’ll have a bad one for 3 minutes. When it happens, he drops to the floor, crawls, curls up into a ball, limps, hides in a corner and during extremely bad ones, he can lose control of some bodily functions. As his pet-dad, I feel awful, though I know I can’t do anything but watch him go through it, then pet him afterwards; however, he usually wants to hide on his own for at least an hour.
  • To manage them, or at least minimize them, as it could be far worse, he takes a controlled substance, phenobarbital, in pill form twice a day. As it’s a controlled substance, it’s a difficult process to ensure he has his medicine. I am allowed no more than a 30 day prescription, with 5 renewals, so essentially 6 months at a time. Before the next subscription, he needs blood work to verify all the levels and adjust the dosage when necessary. The prescription can be filled at a regular pharmacy, and he’s listed as Ryder Cudney. It’s truly like I have a son. I have to provide his birth date every time.
  • Since I moved from the West Side to the East Side of NYC, I haven’t changed veterinarians as I like his vet and don’t want to change the medicine or deal with someone new. But it means a minimum of a 1-hour walk or cab ride (assuming the cab agrees to allow a dog inside) across town each way to bring him to the vet. It’s not an easy process and takes a long time, hence I try not to do it unless I absolutely need to do it.
  • Due to it being a controlled substance, I’ve had no less than 12 issues in the past 9 years with pharmacies either running out of the medicine, or trying to change the dosage, or having concerns with the prescription, or only giving it to me and no one else if I can’t get to the pharmacy myself. It’s left a very sour taste in my mouth and I get easily annoyed by the whole process, mostly because it’s for a dog and should be so much easier. I might take one or two just to kill the anxiety. Just kidding.

 

Last Month

  • I went to the vet and re-filled the prescription. As it’s all paper-based, since electronic is not allowed, I brought him home, then went back out to the pharmacy (where he’s not allowed to go inside) and renewed the prescription. I briefly looked at the paper and noticed the “5” months in the renewal section looked a little funny, but I didn’t do anything about it. I came back thirty minutes later to pick up the bottle, had no incidents and left a happy customer.

 

This Month

  • On Friday last week, I realized Ryder had 2 day’s worth of medicine left. I can only fill it 4 days before it’s due, as they won’t allow it any sooner (makes vacations impossible to schedule or to get advanced pills). I got busy and never went until Saturday early afternoon, assuming if they were out of it, they could order and have it ready on Sunday. When I arrived, the pharmacist told me I had no re-fills available. I told him I knew I had 5. He said I didn’t. I told him to look at the prescription. He said he didn’t have it. I told him he did, as I recalled them scanning it into the computer. We went back and forth just enough for my irritation to build up. I made them retrieve it. Then he said, “Oh, we do have it.”
  • But he proceeded to tell me that the person who last entered it marked it as no refills and so I can’t get anymore. Rules are rules. Can’t change it. Then he said, “You can wait until Monday and we’ll call to resolve it with the vet.” I tell him that won’t work, as I need the medicine for 8 am Monday morning. He gets another pharmacist involved, they call the vet who of course is gone for the weekend. The emergency contacts won’t do anything as Ryder is not having a seizure, and they don’t have access to the original records. I’m forced to wait until Monday. I adjust his pills just a little to stretch it out until the vet opens at 10 am on Monday morning.

  • I call the vet to work the problem out at 9:30 on Monday morning. The receptionist is very helpful, but the vet won’t be in until 12 for some reason, then he can sort it out. I put some pressure on, which helped. It took 2 hours for the vet office and the pharmacy to sort it out. The end result, due to state laws, they can’t change the refill amount and I need a new prescription which means 3 hours back and forth to go get a new one on the West Side, as it has to be paper and they can’t issue the pills without a copy of the prescription. They can authorize 10 emergency pills until I can get the prescription to them for the full month’s amount. I ask them to do that. Another 2 hours go by until finally at 12:30 I get a call to come pick it up from the pharmacy to cover a few days.
  • I arrive at the pharmacy. They give me the pills and charge me nearly triple the price. I ask why. They tell me it’s just the price when you buy less pills. I say “Um… your office messed this up last time. Why do I pay the price?” Rather than go out in detail, you can imagine what that conversation must have been like. I negotiated a discount for next time but had to pay the higher price today. It’ll offset next week.
  • A few things that occurred over the weekend:
    • I bitched and complained about the stupid pharmacy who can’t read and the frustrating vet who can’t write.
    • I didn’t sleep last night deciding how to handle the conversations this morning.
    • I spent my morning anxious and irritated over the waste of my time for something that should have taken seconds to correct. I got nothing else done.
    • I talked to myself, calling the other parties involved “inept,” “awful people,” thinking about how I’d try to humiliate them for risking a dog’s life over a clerical error.

HYPO/HYPER-critical

  • The situation has been resolved. Ryder has pills thru Friday. I need to go to the West Side for my eye doctor on Wednesday, so I’ll make a quick stop at the vet and get the new prescription, then drop it off at the vet and we’ll be fine for 6 months.
  • At first, I was so annoyed that I blamed everyone else. Then I realized, I could blame myself equally as much at several points along the path.
    • I have had issues with the prescriptions before; why didn’t I do anything earlier in the month to try to prevent this issue.
    • I noticed the “5” looked like a funny shape for the # of refills, but I didn’t say or do anything about it when I gave the prescription to the pharmacy last month.
    • I also didn’t check the new bottle they gave me last month where I could have seen it had 0 refills listed.
    • I waited until Saturday when I could have gone on Friday last week, called the vet right then and there and settled it all without having to worry over the weekend.
  • So… to the whole point of this 365 Daily Challenge Post… I was busy being so HYPER-critical of everyone else that did something wrong, it took me too long to realize I was also being HYPO-critical because I had blame in the events, too.
  • What does that mean for my future?
    • I will check the paper prescription and the bottle they give me with the pills to match it.
    • I will not go to the pharmacy on a weekend.
    • I might turn this all over to my partner to deal with, as it’s his turn to deal with this drama. (And if you’re reading this W, consider yourself served for August.)
    • And I’ll think about my role in a situation a little more closely before attempting to throw any shade or blame only at the other people involved.

  • How about you?
    • Have you ever noticed yourself being hypo-critical or hyper-critical at the same time in a situation?
    • What do you do to step back and look at it with open eyes?
    • Do you get so rattled you spout venom at the stagnant air while alone because you think it makes you feel better?
    • See anything else I did wrong here?
    • Do you agree that W should take this over? (I’m in so much trouble now)

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Misty @ Misty’s Book Space. Misty has absolutely nothing to do with the topic in today’s 365 Daily Challenge, but I’ve to the conclusion that I can’t always connect the two parts of my post, so from now on, my recommended blogger is just that — the blogger I want you to know on this particular day independent of the word of the day! With that said… on to a very cool person you need to know. Misty and I connected a little less than 3 months ago when we happened to be reading a similar book, though our genres are usually quite different. We laughed and joked over a few of the covers, but then we found ourselves constantly tagging one another for awards and games. She’s a really welcoming and kind blogger. Her site has a very clean and organized layout with pretty colors and lots of extras for the insatiable bookworm. I’d highly suggest taking a look at her blog if you have any interest in books, as she’s been blogging for over a year now. While her reviews are good, it’s her book hauls and updates that I find most engaging and entertaining. So take a chance on this southern gal’s love of books and make a new online blogging friend! And then follow to her social media accounts where she also has some ideas and tips about makeup and other beauty items.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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48 thoughts on “365 Challenge: Day 128 – HYPO/HYPER-critical

    Nel said:
    July 18, 2017 at 7:13 AM

    Hmm. Well I’m definitely both but they still should not have given you a hassle since it was their mistake. That’s just plain customer service. Yes, maybe you didn’t notice that something was wrong with the prescription initially and yeah you waited til the last minute but you still deserve proper service not people who are just like “no, can’t help you”. That’s when you say “I understand you can’t help me, but can you transfer me to someone who can? Your boss perhaps?” They can’t deny you weren’t polite, lol.
    Have you ever heard of or thought of using 1-800 Pet Meds? You can take your script online and get the medicine mailed straight to your house.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 7:15 AM

      I was definitely nice to them! 🙂 I didn’t want to be a few times. I will check out Pet Meds, but I think because it’s a controlled substance, legally, they can’t do it. But I might be wrong. worth checking out!!! 🙂

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        Nel said:
        July 18, 2017 at 7:16 AM

        Yeah. It’s like the number #1 pet med pharmacy so you might be surprised. You may even be able to find the generic version of what you have. Some of the meds on there you can get without a script like flea and tick meds but some of them, like the one you need, you need a script.

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        July 18, 2017 at 7:17 AM

        good to know… checking that out tonight

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        July 18, 2017 at 7:19 AM

        did a quick look, they have a few options, but i have to read further if they are the right dosage / strength / etc. thanks for the heads up. must be new as years ago, i don’t think they did

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        Nel said:
        July 18, 2017 at 7:21 AM

        You’re welcome! 🙂 Happy to help as always and who doesn’t want to make their life a little easier especially when commuting is involved.

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    mistysbookspace said:
    July 18, 2017 at 8:38 AM

    I used to work in a pharmacy and as a pharmacy technician I would get annoyed FOR the customer when they had issues like this or similar to this. People make mistakes and you can’t fault hem for that but there should be a better quicker way to fix a mistake like that especially when there are lives involved.

    Also thank you so much for all the kind words you jut made my day!!

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 8:43 AM

      You are very welcome! 🙂 It was a painful morning, but it’s resolve now. I totally agree… I’m sure in the coming years, something will change as so many people grow older and need prescriptions.

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        mistysbookspace said:
        July 18, 2017 at 8:46 AM

        I am glad you got it all worked out. I hate that you had to go through all of that.

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        July 18, 2017 at 8:47 AM

        just reminded me to pay more attention next time!

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        mistysbookspace said:
        July 18, 2017 at 8:49 AM

        Yeah I need to pay more attention to stuff as well. I haven’t had any issues with my pharmacy luckily but there have been times where I have been like I really should have done so and so before I got that.

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    Patrick Dykie said:
    July 18, 2017 at 9:10 AM

    I have any older dog, and he has health problems. I just had him at the vet for a bad infection, due to Lyme disease, and he’s on antibiotics. The infection keeps recurring, over and over, and I have to visit the vet each time I need more medication. Like me, you love your dog, and you’re doing the best you can. Don’t be critical of yourself. They made the mistake. You may not have caught it, but you had other things on your mind.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 9:22 AM

      I appreciate the comment. Thank you. Hopefully your dog is getting better.

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    Roda said:
    July 18, 2017 at 9:38 AM

    So much I could type here! I think a break for a month will do you good. (Sorry W, but we don’t want anyone to get hurt!). I’m an emotional critter… I feel everything. I get it! There are times I turn everything over to wifey, who is always calm, cool and collected. In this situation, she would say “this is business it is not personal.” I would reply that it is personal because it involves one of my babies. Everything is personal when you live life from the heart. I can reassure you that W will probably be relieved to take it over for a month and not have to relive the chaos, when you vent about every detail. Granted, I am just speaking from experience! 😜😉😂💚

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 2:12 PM

      Let’s see what he says tonight! But you have great advice. And wifey is so absolutely correct on this one. It’s not personal, so try not to take it that way. Even though it feels personal because it’s someone we love. 🙂

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    Mischenko said:
    July 18, 2017 at 10:58 AM

    James, I can relate to this post. I’ve been in similar situations and it’s hard to step back and take a deep breath. I’ve always sort of “expected” people to act how I believe they should, and then get let down often. Many times we get busy with life and forget things. It’s hard to keep up and we drop the ball not realizing how important something is. I’ve been in this situation myself with my own meds and it’s not fun. We make mistakes, then others do, and then comes frustration. I think the emotions you experienced are normal. Plus it sounds like you’ve learned from this and will more vigilant in the future.

    I’m so happy that Ryder has his meds! That’s the most important thing and it’s enough to cause some anxiety for sure worrying about not having something that you need. I’m just glad it panned out for you guys! 💗

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 2:17 PM

      Thank you for sharing that message! I’m glad to know I am not alone, but also that others understand. Ryder’s doing fine today, has no clue that I go thru for him. But I love the little guy, so not even a question! 🙂 xoxo

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    rugby843 said:
    July 18, 2017 at 11:11 AM

    First, my granddaughter’s dog has seizures and she uses drops of marijuana to control it. Second, I sympathize because I’ve been through the same thing myself. I was on the Fentanyl patches for pain. ‘ Written scrip once a month in triplicate. If one slipped one slipped off in the shower, you were out of luck. No amount of pleading worked. I guess they assume everyone lies or because they assumed you are an addict they don’t give a crap. But this also caused me to get off the addictive drug, so maybe it’s all part of some big plan some sadist has in mind. It’s a long story, but I’ve been there and feel the frustration in your words.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 2:18 PM

      That would be one awful plan! Painful, sorry you had to go thru it too… thank you for sharing and dropping a note to commiserate. I appreciate it.

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        rugby843 said:
        July 18, 2017 at 10:24 PM

        If you want I can get the website she orders there’s drops for her dog. No appointments needed if your vet gives the ok. Just comes in the mail.

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        July 19, 2017 at 7:13 AM

        If it’s easy. I’m not sure I want to change his medicine and risk it yet, but it would be good to know as an alternative option if this ever gets worse. Or to even look it up and see the options as this one could be even better. Thanks!

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    Valerie @ Valerie's Musings said:
    July 18, 2017 at 11:41 AM

    Wow. I’ve had issues like this with my A.D.D. meds. Almost all A.D.D. meds are controlled substances and difficult to get. I’m glad it got resolved.

    As a small side note, how the heck do you get Ryder to take them? I was on phenobarb as a small child because I had a single seizure at 13 months old. To this day, I cannot think about taking it without drinking something because those pills were *SO* bitter. My poor mom tried everything – applesauce, jelly, mixing ’em in my dinner, nothing helped. They were just bitter and nasty. How do you get Ryder to do it without a constant fight?

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 2:20 PM

      I’m sorry you have to go thru it too!

      Pill Pockets. Flavored treats that the pill sits into, seals and he doesn’t even know it. He just tastes the bacon or chicken liver. Sell them at PetSmart or maybe even online!

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        Valerie @ Valerie's Musings said:
        July 18, 2017 at 4:11 PM

        Dang. I wish they would’ve had something like that when I was a kid! My poor mom tried everything. They were just horrible.

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        July 18, 2017 at 4:13 PM

        I used cheese and believe it or not, butter, the first year. It worked, I made him run up and down the yard for it so the butter didn’t add to his weight (two times a day every day, yikes!). Then I found them!

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    scr4pl80 said:
    July 18, 2017 at 11:56 AM

    I have had this issue with my husband who was on narcotic pain meds due to a back issue and we have had to deal not only with the pharmacy but also the Workers’ Compensation insurance. Fortunately I have worked in medical offices so I read prescriptions very carefully when given to me by the doctor. I know they have changed regulations over the years on controlled substances to make them much more difficult to obtain. I do try to practice control when the mistakes happen as I know I have made some myself along the way but it is not always easy and if I know I have been overly vocal to the clerks, I’ll usually apologize to them – unless they are complete jerks. Knowing that it is so far for you to go to get the meds, I definitely would not have waited until the last minute to start the refill process. Perhaps your vet knows another vet closer to you that could handle the problem your dog has? I know you like your vet and love your dog, but I don’t know that I would take so much of my time on it. I am doing a 365 project too, taking a picture a day. I’m going to follow your 365! Thanks for stopping by my blog.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 2:22 PM

      Hi. Thanks for sharing. I appreciate it. I will definitely stop by your blog this afternoon.

      And you seem like a very thoughtful person when it comes to all the medicine and prescription fun I blogged about. I might check into the vet hospital 1 block away to see if they have some sort of arrangement. That might be a solution too. Thanks for the input and thoughtful comment.

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    Run Wright said:
    July 18, 2017 at 12:35 PM

    I am not a pet owner but I can truly empathize with you for this frustrating situation. It is difficult for the care giver to know their loved one can’t access a medicine because of red tape but since phenobarbital is used for lethal injections and euthanasia, it is also understandable that extreme precaution has to be taken.
    Anyway, I am glad you got it resolved – it doesn’t sound like your pup suffered while you were working things out on his behalf and I like your “lessons learned” attitude.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 2:24 PM

      Thank you. I try to learn from things. And Ryder had no idea anything was going on. He got his pills 1 hour late yesterday as a result, but now we’re fine. Assuming I go to the vet tomorrow to get the new prescription for 6 months! I didn’t know it was used for euthanasia… thanks for that info.

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    roseelaineblog said:
    July 18, 2017 at 1:23 PM

    I feel stressed just reading about it 😳 love the fact that you take a share of the responsibility though 😁

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    BrizzleLass said:
    July 18, 2017 at 4:08 PM

    Wow I would say you responded pretty calmly! When I have prescription problems I flip out! Happens a lot two of my psych meds are controlled so I’m always running into issues, plus my Drs like to change my prescriptions without telling me which causes no end of trouble! We don’t get multiple repeats here so I have to request my prescription from the Dr everytime I need it, luckily they send it directly to the pharmacy but I do end up doing a lot of running around when they mess it up.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 18, 2017 at 4:09 PM

      No repeats? That is definitely much harder. I’m so sorry! And they change it? That’s just wrong without talking with you in advance. Yikes.

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        BrizzleLass said:
        July 18, 2017 at 4:11 PM

        Haha! Oh yes! There are definite downsides to a free healthcare system! 😂

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    twogalsandabook said:
    July 18, 2017 at 5:08 PM

    Awful situation! Yes, I think everyone has felt as you described– I think it is basic human nature to initially react that way, then later, in retrospect, revamp the perspective– or maybe it is just a sign of maturity? : )

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    wakinguponthewrongsideof50 said:
    July 18, 2017 at 10:49 PM

    I am totally hypo and hyper….if about every sense of the word…..but really….I’m never wrong……

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    Rae Longest said:
    July 19, 2017 at 3:16 AM

    Your situation at least equals and probably surpasses anything I’ve ever had to deal with with vets/pet illnesses/having one’s hands tied with red tape. The “joys” of living in a small town include this example: Once when my Lena was about to run out of her hyperthyroidism medicine, and the compounding vet pharmacy in nearby Houston (really big town) was closed and temporarily out of business due to flood damage caused by Hurricane Ike, my local vet said he had none of the special medicine, but a lady in town whose cat had the same prescription might be willing to “lend” me two vials which I could repay when the pharmacy actually was able to fill Lena’s prescription again. He called her, she gladly was willing to help, and we met for coffee at her house where I picked up the medicine. I was sure to repay her when our vials came in, and I added a cake as a way to say thanks. SOMETIMES it’s nice to live in a town barely over 20,000 population!

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 19, 2017 at 7:15 AM

      That was amazing of you, the vet and her. People can be so wonderful. But that’s scary what a storm can do to every aspect of life. Thank you for sharing.

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    carhicks said:
    July 19, 2017 at 9:45 AM

    I agree with the above people that you were pretty calm in my estimation. Hind sight is always 20/20. I do however get a bit hyper sometimes and usually take it out on my kids. Once I have calmed down, then I will make the call to whoever I really needed to speak with.

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    mainepaperpusher said:
    July 19, 2017 at 12:40 PM

    Jay, I’m so very sorry your dog has to go through all of this. I have epilepsy and it’s not fun. You may be blaming your self for some of this, but it is not all your fault. You went to great extremes to make sure your dog had the very best of care. Yes, you had a bit of a slip up, but the fact that the vet emergency service wouldn’t help you is unconscionable! Sorry, my dogs mean the world to me and knowing what an epileptic seizure feels like, I’m a little sensitive to this subject. I am so sorry you had to go through all of this. Give your dog a pat from me.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      July 19, 2017 at 1:13 PM

      I just did. He looked at me a little funny as there was no treat with it. I told him treats are for when I leave the apartment and pet him. If I’m just petting him, no treats. I don’t think he understood. But I appreciate it! 🙂 And I can’t imagine your own struggle with epilepsy. Scary. Hopefully you have it as under control as possible.

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