365 Challenge: Day 141 – Facts

Facts: pieces of information used as evidence that are indisputably the case



It’s been quite a fun morning – NOT! – as the teenager in me often used to say. Now my mother says it to me all the time, thinking she’s funny. I suppose she is… let’s back up a bit, shall we? Yesterday we celebrated my mom’s birthday; my other half and I cooked brunch (two different kinds of quiche [pancetta/asparagus & onion], corn salad, brussel sprouts with red chili flakes, prosciutto, green apples, cinnamon, sugar, herbs, and an Italian Cream birthday cake). My cousin who is visiting from Ukraine was here, as well as my dad. We finally put up the arbor on the NYC Terrace Garden. After everyone left, I decided to focus on catching up on some blogging work.

I apologize in advance for posting 7 awards and tags all on the same day. After looking through my draft folder, I realized there were a bunch sitting around, being lazy, which is never a good thing. So I worked through them and posted all evening… I hope I didn’t bore you, as I try to come up with different questions and responses, as well as incorporate a lot of humor… I attempt, at least. I love doing all the awards and tags, but sometimes it takes a while, as I want to put a good deal of effort into them. I want it to mean something, rather than just be a few quick words that don’t have a big impact on others. I feel the same way when I choose people to tag or nominate at the end of my posts. I like connections to be connections.

I try to match the topic or the subject of the post with the people I’m including as nominees, but it doesn’t always work out. I attempt to select people who are deserving of an award, need to be seen by other bloggers or have posted something really cool that week. When I nominate someone, I really want to read their responses, but I also understand not everyone wants to participate. And if they choose not to, it’s OK. I’m not upset or offended. I usually search my notifications to see who I’ve chatted with the most in the last few days and pick from that bunch, if it’s a fun tag. That said… I finished a few last night and look forward to everyone’s responses. But something was on my mind last night as I was picking everyone…

I let it go and went to sleep. This morning, I was chatting with a friend who shall remain anonymous… (s)he asked me a question about a fellow blogger, and we both realized, neither of us knew the answer for sure. And it was a simple question. It got me thinking… how well do we really know our fellow bloggers? Some people share a lot of information about themselves (like me). Others share very little, preferring to remain in anonymity, or using their blog as a way to be someone different than who they are in reality. I prefer to have a deeper connection with people when I’m chatting with them, hence why I sgare a lot. For instance, when I meet someone new, I want to know their name. Or if I’m highlighting their blog, I don’t like saying “their” because I can’t tell if it’s a “him” or a “her.” And then there’s those moments where I have no clue where the person lives, which can be awkward if they are not in the US and I’m asking them to do a tag about the US. D’Oh.

I suppose none of this is all that important… blogging can be light and fluffy, too. Or if it’s a deeper connection, does it really matter if you have all the basic FACTS about someone you are talking to? Perhaps not… perhaps it’s just the words you share that truly mean the most. So… I typed up the post earlier this morning. I was adding the featured image, and the whole thing froze. I had saved it, so I wasn’t worried. I exited WordPress and came back in. It hadn’t saved the last 30 minutes of updates, so I only had half a post. I was a tad annoyed. But I copied it and wanted to start a new one, in case it was corrupted. Somehow, I cut instead of copied… and then it shut down again. When I re-booted and brought WP back online, the saved post was the empty post. So I lost about an hour’s work. I might have said some nasty words to the air, my computer, the fly passing through on its (as I don’t know if it’s a male or female either) journey in my home… anyone or anything that would listen to me complain about the time I’d wasted. But it happened. I’m now re-writing from memory. And I’m sure this one will undoubtedly be worse in some parts and better in others.

The whole point of the post is FACTS. I’d like to know more about the folks that follow me. If we chat, I probably know some of this already. But if we don’t, please share. No pressure, if you don’t want to share, that’s OK. But instead of having to check everyone’s About Me page, what if we all had signatures at the bottom of our posts, telling others who we are so that we don’t have to look it up each time until we get to know someone better? And quite often, bloggers don’t even put the information in their About Me section either. So… today’s post, in lieu of you all getting to know more about me through the 365 Daily Challenge, I’m asking for more info about YOU.

If you want to skip a response, that’s OK. But if not, let’s share some information and then share it with all the rest of your bloggers, so we can learn more about one another. For starters, please respond with:

  • Name
  • Location
  • Gender (however you choose to interpret the word)

And if you are brave, and this is your truth now, share more like me:


Jay / 40 / Male / New York City / Writer / Possibly Crazy / Reserved But Funny & Open-Minded / Should Be Working But Isn’t Right Now / Loves Ryder / Curious To Know You


That was simple, right? Let’s see what everyone has to say…



  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Cindy @ Cindy Knoke Photography. Cindy and I met a few months ago when some of her stunning photos showed up in another blogger’s feed. I had to check them out, and once I did, I quickly decided it was a blog to follow. Cindy had been traveling in Germany and France at the time, stopping in small villages along the way. She stumbled into a few where my ancestors lived nearly 200 years ago. All of Cindy’s photos capture amazing aspects of life, including nature, people, animals, villages, scenery and life at its core. I adore her site and think other people would love to check it out. She’s a really friendly blogger, interacting and checking out other people’s blogs beyond just those with photography. I enjoy admiring her work and whatever she presents to us on her blog. If you love photography, you should definitely make the effort to stop at the site and find something worth adding to your list of followed blogs. At the end of the day, when you can’t read another review, peruse another tag or award, or listen to anything inspirational… and you just want to stare at beautiful photos to relax you, this is the place to be. I’m confident you will find yourself scrolling through it for a very long time.


About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.


  1. -Kiersten
    -Charlotte, NC (born and raised in NJ)
    -Administrative supervisor at a law firm
    -Aspiring writer
    -Former pastry chef
    -Most definitely crazy
    -Huge animals lover
    -Sarcastic and blunt
    -Should also be working right now
    -Obsessed with Harry Potter, Gilmore Girls, and I Love Lucy

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  2. Hi James! I’m Nel. My full name is Chanel but I also go by Chantel because I have an imaginary T in my name a lot (or it’s silent?). I’m 28, live in Ohio, USA and I’m a woman who loves reading, obsessed with food and loves finding stuff to watch on Netflix.
    Nice to meet you! 😉

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  3. Hi James and friends – I am Janet, a 60-ish female, married for 33 years, mom to 3 adult children. I am in the SF Bay Area and have run a transcription business from home for the last 16 years. I also have an Etsy site where I sell handmade cards and mini-albums. My mission in this crazy life is to make at least one person smile every day because I believe that smiles are contagious and should be passed around! By the way, I did see that you tagged me in one of your recent tag posts and I will get to it this week. Thanks for the spotlight. Have a terrific Monday.

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  4. This was interesting! You know a basic info about me. But I’m writing anyway with some additional facts.

    Somewhat rebellious
    professionally pharmacist, now I’m thinking why I did it at first place!
    Active / learner / I know hand embroidery, paper quilling and just okay photography but reading has been a longest passion till date, basically I don’t just sit and gossip.
    That’s all I guess. 😅

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  5. Hi, James
    I’m Robbie, online I go by RobbyeFaye or Robbye. When I first started my blog, there was a very young lady with my first and last name (which is extremely unusual and never heard of by others!) that had a porn site, and it was the first thing you came to if you searched for me online!
    I am older (early 60’s) than I’d like to admit, but hopefully, I don’t always act that way. I also have fantastic genes (as opposed to not so fantastic jeans!) and can easily pass for 10-20 years younger than I am. I have my Mom’s Cherokee blood to thank for that.
    I am married, have three grown children and one grandchild we raised, that is now grown, too. However, the children keep migrating back home so no empty nest for us!
    I currently live in Alabama, but definitely, don’t plan on staying here! Of all the states I’ve lived in my favs are NC, SC and TX. I teasingly say I’m a Texalina girl, or CaroTexan, depending on my mood. (You’ll love Charlotte and Asheville, btw.)
    I am a Christian. However, I am not dogmatic or judgmental. I have seen and experienced waaaaaaaaaaaay too much in my life to be either.
    I LOVE to read and read voraciously. I write reviews about most of the books I read, though I tend to get really bogged down by my reviews because I want them to be fair to the author and their intent when writing the book. Most, though not all, of the books I review, are in the Christian genre. I receive LOTS of them free from the authors, and due to my sense of thankfulness and sometimes obligation and my reading proclivity, those are the ones I review/
    Ok, so I know this is a little longer than you probably expected, but I thought I would, in the spirit of full disclosure, share a little more.
    I enjoy your blog and am in awe at your perseverance in your 365-day challenge!!

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    • What a wonderful introduction to you. I am so glad to learn more! I am looking forward to my NC trip next month… any suggestions? Thank you for the feedback on the 365 posts. Very kind of you.

      As for the your doppelganger (in name and website), yikes… sorry you had to change your online name, but probably a good idea.

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      • Thanks, James!
        I haven’t been back to NC in about 12 years and everything has changed tremendously, I’m sure. I don’t know if you like white water rafting, but they have a man-made white water rafting experience in Charlotte you could check out. I’ve not been there yet but heard it is fun. http://usnwc.org/about/ There is also a new NASCAR museum if you are into racing. Downtown is the place to go now. Not so much when I lived there, but they have really turned it around.
        Biltmore is the place to check out in Asheville. The city is beautiful. I spent many months there when I worked in construction. (We gutted the old VA hospital and turned it into condos. That was so long ago, I don’t even know if the condos are still there even!)
        The biggest thing, be prepared for the heat and humidity in Charlotte, Asheville’s usually not quite so bad. However, it can get very hot, too.
        James, I might not have minded the doppelganger if she wore just a tad more, LOL. I wouldn’t mind looking that nice and young again!
        Enjoy your trips!

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      • Thank you so much, I appreciate the advice. I was expecting a bit of heat unfortunately, Tho it will be mid September, so possibly not too bad… Asheville is on the list.

        True on the look-a-like, as far as youth, but I’m sure you look great now too, as you said– with your genes! 🙂

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      • You are welcome!
        Mid-September should be nice,
        Thanks for the compliment. The Gravatar picture is only a few years old (about 4) so that gives you some idea. (The rest of me has succumbed to age and gravity a little less kindly!!)

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  6. Here’s some of my basic info. I’m thinking about doing the “Get to Know You” tag soon that will have lots of that information too.

    Valerie — 41 — Michigan (born and raised here as well) — Certifiably crazy (I do have several mental illnesses so that’s certifiable I think) — Relationship is complicated — Librarian (tho’ working as a clerk in the acquisitions dept, not an actual librarian position) — Somewhat open and yet reserved too, there’s a limit to what I share — I tend to want to be in control too much.

    My family comes first – I adore my niece and nephew and will choose them over going out to do something else every time. Outside of my family, reading, water gardening, painting ceramics, and nature photography are my passions (thinking of starting a blog for my nature photography but not sure yet).

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  7. Elaine/60/female/England / Writer / Artist/ Spiritual/Positive/ Try to be funny/Can be sarcastic, particularly if I like you/ loves to laugh/ Always wants to make people feel good about themselves/ Feels others pain/ Award free site 😳 / reads all posts that I follow/ Can talk for England 😉 and breathe 😉

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  8. Misty/28/will be 29 on December 2nd/USA/born and raised in Georgia/stay at home wife/married for 6 years/animal lover/book lover/dr pepper addict/nail polish addict/I have 4 tattoos and I want more/love Mexican food/umm I can think of anything else lol.

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  9. Carla/59/Female/Retired Principal, teacher, teacher librarian/live in Windsor Ontario/grandmother/ recent widow/loves reading/swimming/watching hockey and baseball/baking. Christian who loved volunteering with the kids at the church. I spend 2 months each year in Florida but miss my grandkids too much to stay longer. Love socializing and having people over to use my wonderful backyard and pool. Have received a few awards, but have not posted them yet, feel somewhat self-conscious.

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