365 Challenge: Day 310 – Ryder (LIST: Objects I adore)

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Ryder: my 10-year old shiba inu dog who unexpectedly passed away this week

Ryder

When I took this photo 3 months ago, I never realized its meaning…

Sundays are LIST days and today is no different. While I never expected to include Ryder as an object I love, it feels appropriate given his unexpected death this week. If you are new to my blog, you should first read this message, which explains what happened to him earlier this week. This post will be about celebrating his life and my love for him.

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Ryder was born September 3, 2007. During the Thanksgiving holiday weekend that year, while visiting my parents in Pennsylvania, we took a trip to a pet store with the only intent being to visit with a few puppies. By the next day, I adopted Ryder, a red sesame shiba, who was about 13-weeks old. He was such a tiny little puppy, the runt of his litter, and looked more like a little bear.

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Ryder first lived in Brooklyn, NY with me, as I had just moved back from California that month. We had a temporary garden apartment on the first floor of an old brownstone. It had lots of nooks and crannies, and he loved to play hide and seek. I think it was being in that apartment which caused him to be a bit of a little devil. He never liked to listen to commands, even when he went to doggie training, but he passed the weekend course and learned to sit, lay down and give someone his paw. After a few weeks, we enrolled him in a doggie daycare, so he would be socialized with other dogs, but also because there were times I had to stay late for events for my job. I didn’t want him home alone for 12 to 14 hours a day.

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One of those days, the owner called me at work to tell me Ryder had an aggression problem. He would play with other dogs, but after a minute or two, he would intentionally start a fight. Seriously. He was being a little ass, and I went to watch him for an hour one day through the window. They were telling the truth. If another dog got too close, even after they happily played for ten minutes, he would growl and jump at the other dog. He would never harm or bite, just be aggressive. He’d thrown his ten-pound body against a thirty-pound dog and expect to knock it over. I vividly remember thinking…. Why me? I’m so quiet and non-confrontational, how did this happen! Needless to say, we were told Ryder couldn’t come to doggie daycare anymore. I found another reputable place and tried again. A week later, he was asked not to return. I was so ashamed! I tried a third one, and clearly told them upfront that Ryder needed training. They understood and were willing to try it by putting him in with the big dogs to let him get tossed around a few times, in the hopes it would control his behavior. They would watch him, and only do it for short periods of time… but even the big dogs didn’t scare him. He had the ever-famous Napoleon complex. So… Ryder was never enrolled in doggie day care again.

Shortly afterwards, Ryder had his first seizure around 6-months old. It was small, but I had another dog with horrendous seizures. I wanted him on the same medicine, a lower dosage, as it had worked for the other dog. The medicine controlled his seizures, and for the rest of his life, he would only have maybe 2 or 3 per year, if even that. We went for a year once without any. It breaks your heart to see it happen, but you can’t touch them during it, as you don’t want them to associate you with the feelings they get from the seizure.

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But that fear is quickly ingrained in you… and every night, if he got out of bed, and I heard the tapping of his toe nails against the wooden floors, I got up to check on him. He was a good sleeper and rarely wandered. If he was out of bed, it meant something was wrong. A few weeks later, the weather started getting warmer and spring arrived. I’d let Ryder out on the enclosed patio we had on the apartment in Brooklyn. One day, I see him chasing something… assuming it’s a fly. When I go outside to check, I notice it was a bumble bee. Ryder is barking and screeching at it, almost to the point someone thought I was killing a cat. He runs through the screen door opening and into the living room… I follow him only to see him bite down on the bee. It didn’t end there. His screeching suddenly intensified and he fell back on the floor. The bee went flying out of his mouth and he yelped as if he was hit by a car. I grabbed hold, checked his mouth and saw the huge black mark on his tongue. He’d been stung by the bee, which he of course deserved. So… an hour back and forth with the vet, as I don’t know if he’s allergic to bees, or if that could trigger a seizure… needless to say, he went unharmed, but he had that black scar on his tongue for the rest of his life. He also still chased bees whenever he saw one. He didn’t get his intelligence from me, I’ll say that for sure!

Right after he turned one, I moved out of Brooklyn and bought a house with a large backyard. He had a doggie door and could go in/out all day long while I was at work. He screamed at birds, chased squirrels and ate everything he could. At least twice a week, he woke me up tapping on the bedroom floor, not because of a seizure, but because he was yakking up whatever he’d eaten that day. If I could tell you how much lack of sleep or worry this dog has caused me in ten-years, you wouldn’t believe me. But that’s where our bond began – as much as he drove me nuts, it made us closer. He ran to me for everything. He developed a need to be near me 24/7, and although I would force him to go play by himself from time to time, I missed not having him sitting on my feet or laying against my thigh.

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In time, my job became too intense and I was away from home too much. Commuting by train took an additional 3+ hours each day, which was time away from him. I had also just met W and wanted to live in the city to be closer to him and my job, so I sold my house and moved into Manhattan. Ryder was not happy. He was going to lose his outdoor space. And he did… my first apartment was a small box, even for someone his size. He whined and yelped all day. I could hear him from the elevators which were a good 40 feet from my apartment door. Speaking of elevators, Ryder’s first interaction with one was with W. I had pulled my car up in front of the building, unloading boxes. W took Ryder to the apartment and rode the elevator. He had no idea what to do with it. He was a very young puppy when we lived in the city last time, on the first floor, so he never used an elevator before. It’s one of W’s first memories with him, and I know it’s a happy one.

It was in that first Manhattan apartment that Ryder exacted his revenge on us. He wouldn’t adapt to walking for his bathroom breaks. Instead, my living room rug was his personal wee wee pad. I tried to cage him to avoid it, but that little rascal would purposely pee in the cage, roll in it and then expect me to clean him when I got home from work. After a week, I gave up and papered the floor with wee wee pads. Eventually, he learned to use them, but he’d have accidents in the wrong place 10% of the time. I call them accidents, but they were on purpose. He could be spiteful in a fun way, and we all knew it. But that was part of his charm. You played by his rules or you didn’t play at all. W and I moved in together for a short time in his apartment where the same things happened until Ryder adjusted. A friend referred to W’s rug as a bio-hazard for a few weeks. Neighbors asked if we had a cat living there, as they heard strange whines all day. They weren’t supposed to have dogs, so we said yes, it’s a cat… and that’s how Ryder came to have his own Facebook page: Ryder the Cat-Like Dog.

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Summertime meant the beach. We rented a house off the cost of Long Island with some friends every summer and would travel there at least 10 weekends. Ryder loved it. He had outdoor space again. He could chase wildlife, even had his first encounter with a deer! He was afraid and in love all at the same time. We let him off-leash one day, to see how he’d do – big mistake. He ran everywhere, and it took almost thirty minutes to catch him. W aged a few years that day, as it was his idea to test Ryder and was so afraid to lose him. We lured Ryder back with treats and various calls, but then he never went off leash again. He loved the place so much, prancing around, except when he realized there was water at the beach. We took photos of him surfing on a board one day, getting knocked around by waves. He hated it. He refused to speak with us for days. We kept torturing him on walks by walking close enough for the waves to get him. We tried to get him to adjust, but he never would. There needed to be 20 feet between him and water at all times! But hey, after what he put us through with the bio-hazard rugs, what’s a little water torture as revenge?

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When it came time for W and I to buy our own apartment together, Ryder made the decision. We knew it had to have outdoor space. We wanted something big enough for Ryder to get in a few runs, but not ground level as it would be too easy for someone to break in. We got lucky when we found our current place… Ryder came over to test it out, and he went berserk running all throughout the apartment, in and out of the two different doors to get outside. We have a video of him seeing his new home for the first time, and he was absolutely in love. We called the outdoor terrace ‘Ryder’s Enchanted Garden,’ and W spent much of his free time cultivating a beautiful space for Ryder to have trees, bushes, flowers, play areas, and lounging area (he loved to lay in the sun). Finally, Ryder learned how to do his business outside again, as well as use pads if he was ever inside for too long while we were out.

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There is so much more I could say about this lovable little creature, but I will keep it brief with a few fun memories before I say goodbye to him. This is only 1% of 1% of the memories we have had together as a family…

  • Ryder loved beef brisket so much. The first time he had it, he wolfed down his plate, then had to immediately go to the bathroom. He couldn’t get out quick enough and while we were eating, just a few feet away, did his business on the floor. We called it the ‘brisket shits’ ever since that day, but luckily, he controlled it on a go-forward basis. As soon as he ate, he’d run to the glass door, tap on it furiously, we’d let him out while we were eating and within 5 minutes, he’d be back for more, furiously tapping on the door to be let inside. We got no rest or time to eat with his antics. His needs always came first. W and I would swap turns, so whomever let him out didn’t have to get up to let him back in. The last meal Ryder actually ate before he grew too sick last weekend was brisket — made by W that day to try to cheer Ryder up and get him to eat something. He actually enjoyed the meal and had a smile on his face for a few minutes.
  • Ryder caught his first bird on the terrace. I had already gone to work. W was in the shower and heard Ryder screeching. When he came out to check, Ryder had dropped a dead bird on the dining room floor, prancing all about – proud of his work. W was unable to process it (he can’t be near things like that) but had to. I was at work and he couldn’t leave with the bird on the floor. Poor Ryder, he never understood how scary his gift to W was!
  • Ryder was not fond of small children; whether it was height or age, anything under 10-years-old unnerved him. When W’s nephew and niece visited, Ryder barked incessantly. He tried to play, but he was just not sure how to interpret them, and they were well-behaved. He actually ran off to the guest bathroom and literally pushed the door closed so no one could get in. When they left, he wandered out, nervously, and then hid under the table for a day. He also dressed up for a few Halloweens to help give out candy for trick-o-treaters, but quite unwillingly. He’d answer the door, stare at the children in costume, lean towards them to smell them, and as soon as someone squealed ‘doggie,’ he barked and ran to the bedroom. W forced it on the poor pup, but I suspect Ryder secretly enjoyed it.
  • There was only one time when he ever willingly played with a child: Grace. She was a friend’s daughter, about 2-years-old, and chased him all over the apartment. He hated it at first, but then she sat down on the carpet with her bowl of cereal. Slowly, she won Ryder over… handing him cheerio by cheerio, until she stopped eating them and he ate the whole bowl. Grace became his new heroine that day, and he actually let her pet him, if she’d hand him a cheerio. He had intelligence that day, so I know he just liked to play W and I against one another to get what he wanted. He was quite astute when he wanted to be.
  • Ryder’s favorite thing to do besides eat, was to take your spot. Whether it was on the couch, or where you stood trying to cook dinner or unpack bags, the moment you left the spot, he went to it. He needed to be attached to one of us while sleeping. He would alternate nights staying up a bit later with W who watched a TV show while I went to bed to read for a bit. As soon as he was ready, Ryder would tap into the bedroom, paw at the bed, and I’d lean down to lift him into it. When we left the apartment, he would sleep in the front hall by the door until we came home. We left music playing for him and lights on so he didn’t feel too alone. And when we left the terrace door open, he’d stay outside the entire time keeping watch over all of nature.

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Ryder had a wonderful life. He was adored and loved by countless friends and family, everyone on the blog and all the people who took care of him over the years. Ryder passed away at 10-years old on January 18, 2018 at 12:43pm EST, in my arms with W sitting with us. Ryder will be missed more than any words this man can conjure or imagine. I don’t know how to move forward with his Monday Ryder Rants, but I probably will discontinue them tomorrow. I will always be grateful for the time we had together; you were part of my soul, Ryder… and someday, W and I will see you again. xoxo

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Sunday posts, the end of each week, have become a theme on This-Is-My-Truth-Now, often organized by groups of five (5) focused on interesting things about my life. I’m continuing the trend of the seventh day, ending the week on Sunday, as a list (we know I love them) that provides more in depth knowledge about me. Past weeks included:

  • Weeks 1 – 5: Primary ethnicity groups and nationalities
  • Weeks 6 – 10: A to Z Favorites
  • Weeks 11 – 15: Colors with an important meaning
  • Weeks 16 – 20: Cities I’ve lived
  • Weeks 21 – 25: Jobs I’ve held
  • Weeks 26 – 30: Top 10 entertainment options
  • Week 31: How to follow or contact me across all social media platforms
  • Week 32: How to help an artist with promotion
  • Week 33 – 37: Favorite Book Genres
  • Week 38 – 42: Holidays
  • Week 43 – 47: Objects I adore
  • Week 48 – 52: TBD

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks.

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123 thoughts on “365 Challenge: Day 310 – Ryder (LIST: Objects I adore)

    […] For anyone who doesn’t know, Ryder was my ten-year-old shiba inu dog, who had a huge presence not only in my life, but on this blog. As you can probably tell by my use of the past tense, Ryder is no longer with us. It’s taken me several days to even be able to return online and to try to let everyone know what happened. This will unfortunately be a very sad post, and if you prefer not to read it, I completely understand. I know how many people enjoyed hearing from Ryder, and I wanted to at least let everyone know what occurred this last week. You can skip this and just read a happier memorial here. […]

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    susandyer1962 said:
    January 21, 2018 at 3:37 PM

    Oh no……I’m so sorry Jay…..I have no other words….big hugs my friend….

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 21, 2018 at 3:56 PM

      Thank you, Susan. I appreciate you checking in on me. I’m going thru messages now that I missed. xoxo

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    scr4pl80 said:
    January 21, 2018 at 3:38 PM

    I “liked” this post but I don’t like this post. Hugs to you. Glad you are slowly coming back. We wouldn’t want to lose you too!

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 21, 2018 at 3:57 PM

      Thank you, Janet. Today is my first day online, and it’s been hard to write the post. I think it may be helping a bit, too. 🙂

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    russtowne said:
    January 21, 2018 at 3:39 PM

    Thank you for sharing these special moments with Ryder with us.

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    Kristin said:
    January 21, 2018 at 3:39 PM

    I don’t know what to say. I’m really sad over this. I mean, so sad that I’m lamenting the loss of this little guy on the phone to a friend and sending her this link.

    I don’t know what I’ll do without his adorable rants.

    I’m thinking of you and W as you grieve the loss of your beloved friend. : (

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 21, 2018 at 3:58 PM

      Big hugs, thank you. He was such a vibrant part of my day, I think I just felt I had to share him with everyone. It means so much. xoxo

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    The Cozy Pages said:
    January 21, 2018 at 3:48 PM

    You had me in tears Jay. This is a wonderfully fitting tribute to a charming creature who brought smiles to those who had the privilege to meet him (in real life or just online). My thoughts are with you.

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    Jessica Rachow said:
    January 21, 2018 at 3:54 PM

    Thinking of you, Jay. A beautiful tribute, thank you for sharing this. Hugs to you.

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    mistysbookspace said:
    January 21, 2018 at 3:55 PM

    I am so sorry Jay!! I’m at a lose for words right now. It’s hard to believe that Ryder is gone and I know it’s heartbreaking for you and W to lose him. You and W are in my thoughts and prayers take all the time you need to grieve the loss of your baby 🐶.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 21, 2018 at 4:03 PM

      I appreciate it. And thank you for being there for me during the week, checking on us. It meant so much. xoxo

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        mistysbookspace said:
        January 21, 2018 at 4:24 PM

        Of course!! I truly am sorry that you are having to go through this!

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    foodzesty said:
    January 21, 2018 at 3:59 PM

    😦 Jay

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    Kiersten said:
    January 21, 2018 at 4:11 PM

    Ryder was lucky to have you for a dad.

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    coffeelovingbookoholic said:
    January 21, 2018 at 4:35 PM

    i have no words right now, just tears…
    i’m so sorry! ryder was a great dog and he had the best family! thank you for sharing jay! i hope it helped you talking about him! big hugs to you! 🤗

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 21, 2018 at 4:41 PM

      It does help to see pictures and talk. Makes more tears, but that’s the process. Today is the first day I’ve actually felt like maybe I will be ok. Then I feel guilty and don’t want to let go of thinking about him.

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        coffeelovingbookoholic said:
        January 21, 2018 at 4:43 PM

        don’t feel guilty! ryder wouldn’t want that! and you will never stop thinking about him. he‘ll always be with you! 🤗

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    susandyer1962 said:
    January 21, 2018 at 4:48 PM

    Damn it Jay, you grieve however you want and as long as you need to. Do not make me drive seven hours to come down there to hug you…

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    theorangutanlibrarian said:
    January 21, 2018 at 4:48 PM

    This was such a beautiful tribute to Ryder- he was such a rascal and had so much personality by the sound of it. You were a wonderful, caring dad to him xoxo

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    wakinguponthewrongsideof50 said:
    January 21, 2018 at 4:51 PM

    XOXO

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    Valerie @ Valerie's Musings said:
    January 21, 2018 at 5:14 PM

    What a loving tribute to Ryder. He was a wonderful pup and will be missed. *hugs*

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    Mischenko said:
    January 21, 2018 at 5:29 PM

    This is such a beautiful post, J. I was tearing up throughout. Ryder will be missed and you are so right to say that he was loved by so many and had a wonderful life. ❤ I think about him often and come across things that remind me of him a lot, whether it be a movie or a dog pillow I saw a few days ago. Thank you for sharing Ryder with us and my thoughts are with you guys. Take care of yourselves.

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    Nel said:
    January 21, 2018 at 5:38 PM

    I can’t believe how tiny he was! So cute! Thanks for sharing his extraordinary, fulfilling life with us. He couldn’t have asked for better dads. 😊 You two did good. It shows tenfold in this post and don’t worry, Ryder knows everything word you wrote and is giving you that brisker smile in doggy heaven right now. 💕

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 21, 2018 at 5:43 PM

      He was tiny! I held him in one hand when I first got him. 🙂 thank you so much.

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        Nel said:
        January 21, 2018 at 5:44 PM

        Omg no wonder you were always waking up to check on him in the middle of the night. Tiny little orange spark!

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    anne leueen said:
    January 21, 2018 at 6:10 PM

    This is a lovely tribute to Ryder. I am sending you and W a virtual hug.

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    Ann Marie Bryant said:
    January 21, 2018 at 6:20 PM

    I loved your tales about Ryder; thankyou for sharing.

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    Didi Oviatt - Author said:
    January 21, 2018 at 6:43 PM

    Jay, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m finally catching up on a few blogs after the break away from WP due to the loss of my own. I’m so heartbroken that this is the very first post I’ve pulled up! Ryder was adorable, and I loved reading all of his posts! He’ll be missed by so many. Looks like he had such a full life, so much love! Sending love your way.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 21, 2018 at 9:17 PM

      Thank you, Didi. You’ve had an awful experience, too. Losing your grandmother was heartbreaking and painful, and I am so sorry you have had to go through this, too. I appreciate you and send tons of love and hugs back to you.

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    By Hook Or By Book ~ Book Reviews, News, & Other Stuff said:
    January 21, 2018 at 6:54 PM

    What a beautiful tribute to Ryder Jay. I was laughing and crying as I read it. Thank you for sharing your memories and gorgeous pictures of him. Would you mind if I reblogged this?

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    Jenn @ Bound to Writing said:
    January 21, 2018 at 7:10 PM

    Beautifully written post! Thank you for sharing your special moments.

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    roseelaineblog said:
    January 21, 2018 at 8:28 PM

    A great read and a great tribute to Ryder the dog who lived how he wanted to live !😃 He had a great life from beginning to end. 🌹

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    foodinbooks said:
    January 21, 2018 at 8:33 PM

    James, I am so terribly sorry to hear of your sweet doggie’s passing. He looks likes such a sweet and charismatic dog, and your stories and descriptions of him and his antics were both hilarious and heartbreaking. I lost my sweet Sparky last year and so I understand the hole it leaves in your life. You’re so much in my thoughts and prayers. I understand and wish I could do more, but if it’s any comfort, your baby had such a good life because of you. Hugs.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 21, 2018 at 9:26 PM

      Oh, Vanessa… I’m so sorry you lost Sparky. The impact it has on us is absolutely horrific. Thank you for sharing your words and friendship this last year. Big hugs to you. I am thankful for all you’ve done for us.

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    By Hook Or By Book ~ Book Reviews, News, & Other Stuff said:
    January 21, 2018 at 9:48 PM

    Reblogged this on By Hook Or By Book and commented:
    Last Monday I reblogged a post from Jay, who so many of us know and love. His beloved dog Ryder was extremely ill and I asked everyone to send their thoughts and prayers. Well, sadly ten-year-old Ryder passed away on Wednesday in Jay’s arms with his other dad by their side. Jay has put together a beautiful and moving tribute to this special dog that will make you laugh and cry. It will also reaffirm how much of an impact our pets have on our lives. R.I.P. Dear Ryder. You will be sorely missed.

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    thebookwormdrinketh said:
    January 21, 2018 at 11:27 PM

    It sounds like Ryder had an amazing life, which is a good think to focus on. It’s very brave of you to share these memories and I hope it helps you both heal.

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    Noriko said:
    January 22, 2018 at 12:11 AM

    I am sorry for your loss, Jay. But I am so glad that you got over the initial grief that must have eaten away your soul… but then again, I do think Ryder was extremely happy to have a dad like you! And he wishes you happiness and health from high up in the sky! Thanks so much for sharing such sweet and beautifully memories of Ryder with us… Funny as it may sound, (and I forgot to tell you), but I did feel Ryder very close to me, as though I had actually known him…
    Rest in Peace, Ryder! We will never forget you ❤
    xoxo
    Noriko

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 22, 2018 at 8:02 AM

      Thank you, Noriko. I’m so glad to hear you felt close to him, too. I enjoyed all our shiba conversations!

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        Noriko said:
        January 22, 2018 at 8:12 AM

        You’re welcome! Tell me when you are ready to have another shiba chat! I’d be more than happy to 🙂

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    Books Teacup and Reviews said:
    January 22, 2018 at 3:43 AM

    I am so sorry for your loss! I don’t know what to say! What a beautiful tribute! I just loved to hear Ryder’s story, I felt so much while reading this post. I laughed at some point, I literally felt proud that Ryder was so brave that he confronted dogs bigger than his size, like him i too could be aggressive and spiteful and I support his motto ‘You played by my rules or you didn’t play at all’. I wish I could say more but I just adore him. It’s really great that Ryder had very happy life with lots of good memories and lots of love. His memories will stay with me forever. Rest in Peace, Ryder! ❤ Hugs to you, James!

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 22, 2018 at 8:04 AM

      Much gratitude for your words. Ryder was a big personality but also a very gentle and calm on. I’m so glad to share him with you. xoxo Thank you.

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    tylerus said:
    January 22, 2018 at 7:54 AM

    OMG – you brought tears to my eyes. What a lovely tribute (he was quite the rascal, wasn’t he?). Thank you for sharing; I enjoyed this bittersweet read. Here’s to you Ryder; you’ll be missed.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 22, 2018 at 8:16 AM

      You’re welcome, and thank YOU. He was a rascal, but always loving. xoxo 🙂

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    Rae Longest said:
    January 22, 2018 at 8:05 AM

    My heart is broken for you.

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    shalini said:
    January 22, 2018 at 8:50 AM

    Jay💗💗

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    Chauncey Rogers said:
    January 22, 2018 at 9:18 AM

    Thanks for sharing all these beautiful memories. Had you guys on my mind all day yesterday.

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    Stephanie said:
    January 22, 2018 at 10:40 AM

    Oh, Jay, this was such a beautiful tribute to your wonderful little guy! I sobbed and laughed whiled reading it. There is no doubt that he had a tremendous life in his 10 years and was loved so very, very much. These memories will help you as you grieve; I know that my memories of Branna have helped tremendously the past 2 months. You find moments where you just stop and randomly think of things you would do together or they would do and it brings a smile (or tear) to your eye, and I truly think in that moment that they are with us again if only for a brief moment. They are never gone…they can’t be since they hold our hearts. Hugs and love to you and W. ❤

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 22, 2018 at 11:19 AM

      The tears just come, I understand. Ryder has so many memories for me, just like you and Branna. I’m glad to be here for one another. Hugs to you, too. xoxo Thank you again! 🙂

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        Stephanie said:
        January 22, 2018 at 3:46 PM

        They do! It’s so hard anytime to read about someone’s loss of a pet. Oh, definitely! We both had a decade with them or longer (I had over 14 years), so there are memories that I have now that were long forgotten-that is very special. We have another dog, Onyx, who is 10 1/2, and I worry about him now that he is older (especially after Branna) and he’s been very melancholy since she died because they were so close. But he has helped me a lot too since he’s now attached himself to my hip (interesting with an 80lb Lab trying to move around when he’s underfoot and trying to sit on my lap on the couch)! Still, no other dog can replace the one you lost, so those memories are like gold. I think I rambled there, lol since I was all teary eyed again!! Hugs and much love to you! Thinking about you!! ❤ ❤

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        January 22, 2018 at 10:15 PM

        Poor Onyx. Love the name. Poor you! But I know how special it is with him. Thank you. Hugs.

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        Stephanie said:
        January 23, 2018 at 12:40 PM

        Thanks…he’s a black lab obviously with the name 😉 I had never thought about how animals grieve like humans until now, so I’ve learned even more about what amazingly wonderful and compassionate creatures they are during all this. He’s always been the boys dog, that is until my daughter was born, and she stole his heart <3, so it's been so interesting to watch him become my everywhere companion. It's a very special connection. Different than it was Branna, but special. Sending you comforting thoughts. ❤

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    N. N. Light said:
    January 22, 2018 at 12:07 PM

    What a beautiful tribute to dear, sweet Ryder. I cried, I smiled and the love you shared with Ryder comes across clearly. Nothing will take Ryder’s place in your heart and know he’ll be with you always. *hugs* — MRS N

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    misifusa said:
    January 22, 2018 at 12:15 PM

    Jay, what a beautiful tribute to sweet Ryder. I have tears in my eyes as we all loved him too. I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that I am sending you healing hugs and prayers. Our pets hold a special place in our hearts forever. xoxo

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    rugby843 said:
    January 22, 2018 at 12:19 PM

    I didn’t know, but I understand this post perfectly. I’m glad you are writing part of the pain, it helps. And later on you will talk about him and that also helps. When we gather as a family many stories include fond memories of the animals we’ve loved. And tears still appear, but that’s okay. So sorry, Jay.

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    Patty said:
    January 22, 2018 at 1:47 PM

    Oh no! Not my sweet Ryder. I am so sorry Jay. I feel like such a horrible friend. I have been offline for the past week on vacation and not read any of my favorite blogger posts. That is why it has taken so long to see this. I am playing catch up. I really am sorry Jay be sure to tell W. 😦 I’m so sad now.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 22, 2018 at 2:58 PM

      You are not a horrible friend, vacations happen – they are necessary and important. I hope it was a great one. Thank you for much for being so kind.

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        Patty said:
        January 22, 2018 at 4:45 PM

        Oh I needed a break from work. It was nice to unwind not to mention spend time with my bestie whom I hadn’t seen in two years. I hope she moves closer soon. 🙂

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        January 22, 2018 at 10:09 PM

        Me too. Good to have your bestie close.

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        Patty said:
        January 22, 2018 at 10:38 PM

        Take a break. You and Winston should get away for a long weekend and decompress. 😉 If you need anything let me know.

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        James J. Cudney IV responded:
        January 22, 2018 at 10:49 PM

        We might go upstate this weekend if we feel like being social. Still in a quiet zone, but that’s 4 days away! Could get better. Thank you!

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        Patty said:
        January 23, 2018 at 10:53 AM

        Take some me time. 😉

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    robbiesinspiration said:
    January 22, 2018 at 11:33 PM

    A lovely tribute to your dog, James.

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    carhicks said:
    January 23, 2018 at 8:27 AM

    Oh Jay, my heart goes out to you. As I wipe away my tears, I am sending you a virtual hug. Our fur babies are so much a part of our lives and I know from reading Ryder’s Rants, what a special relationship you had. Yes you will meet again. Thanks for sharing him with us.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 23, 2018 at 8:29 AM

      Hi. You’re welcome. I appreciate how well you and others responded to Ryder’s humorous posts. He will be missed. Thank you for your words and kindness. Hugs.

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    Dani☆Touch My Spine Book Reviews☆ said:
    January 23, 2018 at 6:32 PM

    He was such a beautiful and sweet doggy! Sending you so much love and condolences during this hard time. Ryder brought me so much smiles on some of my roughest times. It’s so beautiful to see how much you LOVED him. My thoughts are with you.

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    RobbyeFaye said:
    January 23, 2018 at 7:02 PM

    Jay and W,
    I am so sorry for your loss. (I just saw this and your other post. I wrote a little more on the other post.)
    You wrote such a sweet loving tribute, thank you for sharing more of your love for Ryder with us.
    We’re all richer for having “met” Ryder through his rants and your posts about him.
    Hugs~

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 23, 2018 at 11:12 PM

      Thank you, R! I had so much fun and comfort sharing him with you. I miss him dearly but I know he made a positive impact on anyone who read the blog. He deserved every word. :). Xoxo

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        RobbyeFaye said:
        January 23, 2018 at 11:54 PM

        You are so welcome! Jay, I loved reading about Ryder!! He was such a cutiekins!! I know you miss him in a way we your readers never can, but we will miss him, too. I have no doubt he deserved every word and more.
        xoxo ❤ ❤

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    declutteringmylifeweb said:
    January 24, 2018 at 2:12 PM

    I am so sorry to read this. Your post is so moving.

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    jackielovesreadingtruestories1 said:
    January 25, 2018 at 4:52 AM

    Jay I am so glad we connected again. I could not find your theme so I will add you to me links today. Jackie*

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    jackielovesreadingtruestories1 said:
    January 25, 2018 at 8:54 AM

    Wonderful ways to see different photos of your dog.

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    Robin @The Robin's Nest said:
    January 26, 2018 at 9:28 AM

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    mainepaperpusher said:
    January 26, 2018 at 12:20 PM

    What a sweet and lovely boy he was. I will miss his Monday posts a great deal. Levi and Walter are mourning the loss of their friend “from away.” I would actually tell them stories about Ryder. I just know they were enjoying his escapades and making mental notes of how to emulate his mischievous behavior. We send you and W our love.

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    ignitedmoth said:
    January 28, 2018 at 9:17 AM

    Hugs. ❤ This is such a lovely tribute to Ryder. You have so many wonderful memories to cherish and hang onto.
    Ryder sounds like he was quite the character and just filled to the brim with personality. Never a dull moment, I'm guessing. 😛 And such a cutie, too!
    I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad that you have so many wonderful memories to celebrate his life with. ❤

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    Cozynookbks said:
    January 30, 2018 at 1:11 PM

    I’m kicking myself for missing this wonderful tribute to Ryder. I don’t know how I got through it. So touching. What a dog you had, full of personality. I laughed when you said how did you wind up with a dog so unlike your personality. I guess opposites attract. 😉
    Our German Shepherd gave the kennel so much grief once that when we came back to get her the folks in the place were asking everybody who came in “do you own a German Shepherd?” When we said April was ours they told us to take her and go. No charge. 😂😂
    I sure miss my beautiful girl. And as I told you previously, we lost her too at 10 years young.
    Savor the beautiful memories you have. Oh darn….I’m crying now.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 30, 2018 at 1:52 PM

      Crying can help sometimes, but I’m sorry it made you think back to that awful time. Big hugs.

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        Cozynookbks said:
        January 30, 2018 at 7:13 PM

        I was crying because of both of us. I feel so sad about Ryder. 😔 it’s so hard when you lose a dog, so I feel your pain.

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    thewisegreek said:
    January 31, 2018 at 3:40 PM

    At least he lived pretty long and you had some happy moments with him.:) My boxer died of cancer when he was ten, it was eating him from the outside in and it got to the point where he wouldn’t eat or drink anything. When his ribs started to show we decided to put him down. I felt super empty for a while after he died, but we still have a Labrador that’s managed to try and fill that void, but he’s getting older too and I don’t know how much longer he’ll be here.

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      James J. Cudney IV responded:
      January 31, 2018 at 5:52 PM

      Thank you. It’s always hard. I’m so sorry you went thru it too. Positive thoughts for you and the Lab!

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    Darque Dreamer Reads said:
    February 4, 2018 at 4:03 PM

    Oh Jay! I am so sorry! I got so far behind on emails and blog hopping, I can’t believe I missed this. I feel like a bad friend. *hugs* You were such a great doggy dad, and I know Ryder always felt loved. 😦 I am sending you positive thoughts!

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