Day: March 7, 2018

365 Challenge: Day 355 – Pedestal

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Pedestal: a position in which someone is greatly or uncritically admired, but can also be the structure that will always hold you up

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As I write this post, I’m focused on accepting that after today, there are only 10 of these left in my 365 Daily Challenge. Choosing words is important, as I want to make a powerful impact on anyone reading them, or on myself years in the future when I look back on my accomplishments. I’ve chosen pedestal today because it’s important that we never put ourselves (or someone else) on one without having the tools to collect and reassemble the pieces when we (or someone else) fall(s) off it. Because it will happen, and there is no shame in it. Life is a series of ups and downs. Sometimes, we’re high above the clouds. Others, we’re stuck in the fog. At the center of it all, there is a support structure surrounding each of us, and it’s our responsibility to tend to this foundation each and every day. We must create the safety net before we let anyone (or ourselves) get too high. {Aside: This is not a metaphor about drugs, by the way!}

Today I sent my second novel to the editor for her final read-through. At varying points in the day, I thought to myself: (1) This is truly a remarkable piece of work — way better than my first novel by miles, (2) You are not ready to submit this to the publisher — there are basic flaws and disconnects and you suck as a writer, (3) Sleep needs to happen soon or you won’t find all the issues — nor will you embed the little nuggets of wisdom and charm you work so hard to deliver in your words…

I put myself on the pedestal several times, then knocked myself off to keep everything in balance across the entirety of who I am.  When I fell a few times, I was not only prepared, but I didn’t fall to pieces — because I don’t ever let myself get too high on the pedestal without realizing there are many others already there. My five (5) thoughts on how to manage your own pedestals:

  1. It is important to create a pedestal so you can tell yourself how proud you are when you accomplishment a great feat. Let yourself glow for a few minutes, but then step down off the pedestal so someone else can have a turn, too.
  2. The air at the top is often hard to breathe, they say. I’m not sure who they are, but I never want to reach the top of my pedestal because it means I’m either done or I’ve over-shot the mark. I want to keep on climbing and growing, but also be available to those who need a help stepping up from time to time. I often need the help to step up on the pedestal, too.
  3. More than one can stand on the pedestal at the same time. Life is not a competition like the Olympics. On my pedestal, I have room for everyone who works hard and does their best. I put people there for different reasons at different times in my life or their lives. It’s never fixed, always fluid.
  4. Be prepared for others to try to knock you off the pedestal. Not everyone plays by the same rules, and when that happens, it’s okay to dust yourself off and get back up again. Sometimes a mistake or blame happens, but what counts is how you respond when you’ve done something wrong.
  5. Your pedestal can change. It may be stone one day and wood the next. It could crumble under pressure or stabilize with strength. First build the foundation so you are capable of always knowing where to find the pedestal again.

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My words today have lots of meaning, some clear and some as a mixture of metaphors. They may also seem cheesy… sometimes, that’s who I am. But most of all… the pedestal I’m referring to here is different to each of us. And that’s why we all put people on them for unexpected reasons and unusual purposes.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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