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365 Challenge: Day 141 – Facts

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Facts: pieces of information used as evidence that are indisputably the case

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It’s been quite a fun morning – NOT! – as the teenager in me often used to say. Now my mother says it to me all the time, thinking she’s funny. I suppose she is… let’s back up a bit, shall we? Yesterday we celebrated my mom’s birthday; my other half and I cooked brunch (two different kinds of quiche [pancetta/asparagus & onion], corn salad, brussel sprouts with red chili flakes, prosciutto, green apples, cinnamon, sugar, herbs, and an Italian Cream birthday cake). My cousin who is visiting from Ukraine was here, as well as my dad. We finally put up the arbor on the NYC Terrace Garden. After everyone left, I decided to focus on catching up on some blogging work.

I apologize in advance for posting 7 awards and tags all on the same day. After looking through my draft folder, I realized there were a bunch sitting around, being lazy, which is never a good thing. So I worked through them and posted all evening… I hope I didn’t bore you, as I try to come up with different questions and responses, as well as incorporate a lot of humor… I attempt, at least. I love doing all the awards and tags, but sometimes it takes a while, as I want to put a good deal of effort into them. I want it to mean something, rather than just be a few quick words that don’t have a big impact on others. I feel the same way when I choose people to tag or nominate at the end of my posts. I like connections to be connections.

I try to match the topic or the subject of the post with the people I’m including as nominees, but it doesn’t always work out. I attempt to select people who are deserving of an award, need to be seen by other bloggers or have posted something really cool that week. When I nominate someone, I really want to read their responses, but I also understand not everyone wants to participate. And if they choose not to, it’s OK. I’m not upset or offended. I usually search my notifications to see who I’ve chatted with the most in the last few days and pick from that bunch, if it’s a fun tag. That said… I finished a few last night and look forward to everyone’s responses. But something was on my mind last night as I was picking everyone…

I let it go and went to sleep. This morning, I was chatting with a friend who shall remain anonymous… (s)he asked me a question about a fellow blogger, and we both realized, neither of us knew the answer for sure. And it was a simple question. It got me thinking… how well do we really know our fellow bloggers? Some people share a lot of information about themselves (like me). Others share very little, preferring to remain in anonymity, or using their blog as a way to be someone different than who they are in reality. I prefer to have a deeper connection with people when I’m chatting with them, hence why I sgare a lot. For instance, when I meet someone new, I want to know their name. Or if I’m highlighting their blog, I don’t like saying “their” because I can’t tell if it’s a “him” or a “her.” And then there’s those moments where I have no clue where the person lives, which can be awkward if they are not in the US and I’m asking them to do a tag about the US. D’Oh.

I suppose none of this is all that important… blogging can be light and fluffy, too. Or if it’s a deeper connection, does it really matter if you have all the basic FACTS about someone you are talking to? Perhaps not… perhaps it’s just the words you share that truly mean the most. So… I typed up the post earlier this morning. I was adding the featured image, and the whole thing froze. I had saved it, so I wasn’t worried. I exited WordPress and came back in. It hadn’t saved the last 30 minutes of updates, so I only had half a post. I was a tad annoyed. But I copied it and wanted to start a new one, in case it was corrupted. Somehow, I cut instead of copied… and then it shut down again. When I re-booted and brought WP back online, the saved post was the empty post. So I lost about an hour’s work. I might have said some nasty words to the air, my computer, the fly passing through on its (as I don’t know if it’s a male or female either) journey in my home… anyone or anything that would listen to me complain about the time I’d wasted. But it happened. I’m now re-writing from memory. And I’m sure this one will undoubtedly be worse in some parts and better in others.

The whole point of the post is FACTS. I’d like to know more about the folks that follow me. If we chat, I probably know some of this already. But if we don’t, please share. No pressure, if you don’t want to share, that’s OK. But instead of having to check everyone’s About Me page, what if we all had signatures at the bottom of our posts, telling others who we are so that we don’t have to look it up each time until we get to know someone better? And quite often, bloggers don’t even put the information in their About Me section either. So… today’s post, in lieu of you all getting to know more about me through the 365 Daily Challenge, I’m asking for more info about YOU.

If you want to skip a response, that’s OK. But if not, let’s share some information and then share it with all the rest of your bloggers, so we can learn more about one another. For starters, please respond with:

  • Name
  • Location
  • Gender (however you choose to interpret the word)

And if you are brave, and this is your truth now, share more like me:

__________________________________________________________________________________________

Jay / 40 / Male / New York City / Writer / Possibly Crazy / Reserved But Funny & Open-Minded / Should Be Working But Isn’t Right Now / Loves Ryder / Curious To Know You

__________________________________________________________________________________________

That was simple, right? Let’s see what everyone has to say…

 

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  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Cindy @ Cindy Knoke Photography. Cindy and I met a few months ago when some of her stunning photos showed up in another blogger’s feed. I had to check them out, and once I did, I quickly decided it was a blog to follow. Cindy had been traveling in Germany and France at the time, stopping in small villages along the way. She stumbled into a few where my ancestors lived nearly 200 years ago. All of Cindy’s photos capture amazing aspects of life, including nature, people, animals, villages, scenery and life at its core. I adore her site and think other people would love to check it out. She’s a really friendly blogger, interacting and checking out other people’s blogs beyond just those with photography. I enjoy admiring her work and whatever she presents to us on her blog. If you love photography, you should definitely make the effort to stop at the site and find something worth adding to your list of followed blogs. At the end of the day, when you can’t read another review, peruse another tag or award, or listen to anything inspirational… and you just want to stare at beautiful photos to relax you, this is the place to be. I’m confident you will find yourself scrolling through it for a very long time.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 140 – San Francisco, California

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San Francisco, California: a city where I lived for just under a year after a cross-country move from Long Island

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Sunday posts, the end of each week, have become a theme on This-Is-My-Truth-Now, organized by groups of five (5) focused on interesting things about my life. I’m continuing the trend of the seventh day, ending the week on Sunday, as a list (we know I love them) that provides more in depth knowledge about me.

  • Weeks 1 – 5: Primary ethnicity groups and nationalities
  • Weeks 6 – 10: A to Z Favorites
  • Weeks 11 – 15: Colors with an important meaning
  • Weeks 16 – 20: Cities I’ve lived

Last week was the city where I went to college (Bethlehem, Pennsylvania), but this week is the last place I’ve previously resided: San Francisco, California. Before we get into those details, a few interesting facts about this lovely place, as well as the Wikipedia link for more information.

  • Founded in 1776 by the Spanish
  • Became part of Mexico in 1821 when it won independence from Spain
  • California became a state in 1850
  • Often has earthquakes
  • Known for a large LBGT community
  • Home to the Golden Gate Bridge

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I loved hanging out at the park across from the famous 7 Sisters Homes

 

It was 2006 when my ex-partner and I decided it was time to move in together; the only problem, one of us lived in California and the other in New York. After living in Long Island for my first 25+ years, I decided it was time for me to move elsewhere. I discussed it with my mentor and boss, went back and forth a few times, and ultimately chose to quit my very promising career in the hopes I would learn more about the world, country, life and myself. I gave 12 week’s notice in September, then began searching for a job in San Francisco. It wasn’t easy, as hiring managers or recruiting companies want to meet you before they hire you. They also don’t usually understand or trust when people want to move cross-country. I coordinated a few interviews over a few days and hopped a flight to California.

I was later offered 2 of the 3 jobs I’d interviewed for, weighing the pros and cons of each opportunity. I had a full-time offer and a consulting contract. I ultimately accepted the consulting contract, even though I wanted the benefits and perks that come with full-time positions. We negotiated a deal that I’d work 3 months as a contractor, and if we were both happy, they’d make me a full-time opportunity. Sephora became my second home while I lived in San Francisco. I started as a senior project manager implementing Point-of-Sale (POS) systems, managed the deployment of a new store planning software package and worked with LVMH (Louis Vuitton Moet Hennessy), their parent company, and Sephora Europe, to begin opening a new collection of stores in Canada and Mexico. Sephora made good on their promise and offered me a promotion to Store Systems Manager as a full-time employee.

We drove cross-country, taking a two-week vacation tour of about 12 different states. Unfortunately, due to the timing, we were on the road in January, which meant potentially bad weather. We encountered several ice storms and snow blizzards that pushed us further and further south in the hopes we could avoid them. We did well, except for Arkansas, when it was so bad, even the gas stations couldn’t accept fuel deliveries. We made an unscheduled stop for an additional 24 hours, but it was worth it. Had some good BBQ! I was not ready for driving in San Francisco on the hills. If you’ve not done it before, I wouldn’t recommend it. At some point, you’re on a 45 degree angle with your foot pushing so tightly on the break, you want to scream. And when the light turns green and you have to take your foot off the break, you roll a good 4 to 6 feet down the hill before you have enough juice to gun it across the intersection, which you can’t see because of the angle. And then… you don’t know if the pedestrians are gonna stop, so you freak out you might hit someone. Not my favorite place to drive.

But it was my favorite place to drive when it came to a monthly weekend trip up to the Napa Valley. It was about 90 minutes away, and I definitely checked out every single winery while I lived in California. It was amazing being able to spend so much time in a place you loved. Living in San Francisco was a dream I hadn’t even known I had. It was the first time I’d lived in an urban area. I took the cable car to work every day, which was about 1 mile away. It was so fun to jump on and off, sometimes while it was still moving. You’re literally inches away from the cars driving by you, but it never felt that unsafe. I’d walk home from work, which was uphill… and I’d be a sweaty mess by the time I’d arrived. But I had the best calf muscles on my block! I lived right at the top of Nob Hill in an old Victorian mansion home converted into apartments. It was right next door to Grace Cathedral, a beautiful and relaxing place of worship with fantastic bells.

The food was amazing. The people were friendly. The weather was near-perfect for me… 60s most days with a few dips below and jumps higher. I would head over to Oakland once a month to have Chicago-style pizza (my favorite kind), the only other place I’ve been able to get it besides Chicago. I adore the city and would love to live there again some day in the future. As you probably know by now, I don’t still live there; I’d received an unexpected call around October, after I’d been living in San Francisco for about 9 months. My former boss was re-organizing our department, curious if I’d be interested in coming back to NY with a promotion to a Director-level role. It was a hard decision, but my partner and I talked it out together for a few weeks. Luckily, he could work from home, as he traveled a lot.

I had dreams of reaching this professional level by the time I was 30, and suddenly the universe was giving me the opportunity to make it happen. So I took it. We packed up and I had to say goodbye to some of the best months of my life. I had also missed friends and family, which meant this was a win on many fronts. I arrived back in New York right before Thanksgiving and found the place in Brooklyn. That same week I adopted Ryder, my shiba inu, who will turn 10-years old next month. Time certainly flies… especially right now as I realize it’s an entire decade since I lived in San Francisco.

Life is a gift. You don’t always have the opportunity to choose where you want to live. But I was given the opportunity to not only move cross-country once for an adventure, but to move back again for a chance to achieve one of my major goals. And after that accomplishment, I propelled it a few steps further to Senior Vice-President before I gave it all up last year to focus on building my career in writing. Another major opportunity not everyone is given a chance to pursue. I am lucky. I am grateful. And I appreciate all of you for listening, reading and responding.

This ends the fourth group of themes I mentioned at the beginning of this post. Next Sunday, we start a new 5-week series of items I want to share with everyone. And I’ve already picked the topic… as I think about my career, ever since I started working at 10 years old, I’ve had somewhere between 12 and 15 different jobs / roles, but they all boil down to 5 professions or types of work. I think it’s time I shared all the positions I’ve held prior to my current one: soon-to-be published author… and I can’t wait to get started.

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Des @ Random Thoughts. Des and I met about 4 months on via our WordPress blogs. I can’t recall the specific reason, but it had something to do with books. She reads a lot, but this is not the most interesting thing about her. She lives in France! I found it so fascinating, I had to ask questions and become a little pest in my undying quest for information. We chatted a bunch, followed each other’s sites. I kept tagging her a few times on different games and awards, and she’d tell me she would get to them eventually… a few weeks later, one by one, she started knowing them out and I really got to learn more about her. She’s funny and very kind, reading each of my posts and commenting whenever it means something to her.  She has a “purple hearts” book rating system and has an archive of all her posts available to read prior book reviews and blogs. I think she’s someone worth following. If you don’t believe me, check out the below blurb from her About Me section and then go visit the site yourself:
    • “Welcome! My name is Des. I am a Filipina living in France with my husband. I enjoy doing a lot of things and below are the lists of stuff of what this blog is about: – books
      – jigsaw puzzle
      – life experiences
      – random musingsThank you for visiting my blog and I hope you had fun.”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 139 – Stalkery

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Stalkery: characterized by or displaying an obsessive and inappropriate or unwelcome interest in someone

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I finished reading the book Hidden Bodies by Caroline Kepnes last night before bed. Review will be posted later today or tomorrow. It’s about a serial stalker who will scare the <<insert your choice of expletives>> out of you, but if you’re like me, you’ll fall in love with him and dream about… well, let’s just stop there. As I thought about the 365 Daily Challenge word, for the pure fun of it, I searched the word ‘stalkery’ expecting nothing to return. But it’s a real word in the Oxford English dictionary. Yet, it’s got the wavy red line underneath it in Word and WordPress, telling me to fix my stupid spelling error. But apparently I do not need to fix it when Oxford says it’s legal — the spelling of the word, not the act of stalking… don’t get those two things confused! Then I searched for an image… and it’s really a true statement, people will put pictures up of EVERYTHING they do on the Internet. It seems destined for the 365 Word to be stalkery today, so let’s just go with it, shall we?

Stalkers are bad things. You really don’t want one. If you’re interpreting the excess attention as a wonderful, loving and caring gesture from a person whom you don’t know very well, you might need to spend time talking through those feelings with someone else (other than said stalker), as it’s probably not healthy. I myself in reality do not want a stalker, but in my head, it might be kind of fun to stalk the stalker in return. Unless I’d get a little confused as to who was stalking who, what the purpose of it all was, and how to safely exit the game… not unlike how it happened on the TV show Pretty Little Liars — all too frequently. If you’ve never watched it, multiple stalkers torture a group of girls over a six year period to the point where you almost want to lose your own mind. And at the source of it all is social media!

Which is what’s on my mind this morning… stalking by way of social media, in respect to how much information you actually post about yourself on each of the different websites or apps. I’ve previously mentioned all the platforms I use, so no need to duplicate efforts; however, when you put yourself out there on 1 or 2 of them, you suddenly receive all the links and suggestions indicating “you’re friends with X on site Y, here they are on our site.” And sometimes I think to myself… there’s an alien behind all these computers laughing at us while it collects every bit of information to eventually use against us! Despite coming from a technology background and finding all of these tools quite valuable, it certainly makes me wonder when enough is enough.

People can legitimately stalk you on social media! On one hand, I find it a bit alarming. All that information they know about me… On another hand, so what? If I’m posting a message on one site, who cares if someone finds it on another site and starts following me. Isn’t that the point? If you’re on all the apps, you want to chat with other people. And if you don’t want to talk to anyone but instead simply just read what’s happening to others, then create a fake name and don’t have any connection to your real identity. Become the stalker instead of the stalked. {Aside: I am not advocating stalking other people. This is not healthy and please do not tell the police it was my recommendation. Thank you.}

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Too funny not to post – blood in celery? I don’t get it…

Then you’ve got the people who find you on one site and purposely search for you on every other site. Sometimes they connect all at once. Sometimes they patiently wait it out over a few weeks, hoping you don’t realize it. Other times, they send invites asking you to join the site they’re already on. Stalkery. Seems like a good word to describe it. Rather than hunt ’em down the old-fashioned way (follow down a dark path), hide behind the Internet walls. It’s still a form of remaining hidden, and it can be quite useful, especially to people trying to sell things… that’s the stalkery type that bother me most often. Someone sees you looked at their site and suddenly they message or follow you. Yikes! What do they want? Run. But I don’t. I tend to accept those types of requests if it’s someone who seems to have a good product or service. Everyone needs to try to market their stuff, so I get it. I can choose to follow them or decline them. It’s just part of the process.

No, don’t drown me in that Bloody Mary! Oh, that’s where the blood is…

What I mostly worry about is how revealing to be in my 365 Daily Challenge posts. Once you start listing places you’ve lived, hobbies, or family member names, stalkers do have a goldmine of information to recreate your identity. I check my credit report and other sites every month or two; I am cautious in looking out for those types of things. I think I’ve got that covered. And I really don’t expect someone to become obsessed me with based on seeing the words I write in my posts… I’m good, sure… {Aside: Where’s that post on humility versus being a jackass right now… it’s like I’m patting my own back here… honestly, the nerve I have…} but not that good. And if you’re my hidden stalker reading this right now, ‘Please be kind. I’ve done nothing to hurt you. We can go for dinner and talk about it. On your dime.’

So when it comes to being stalkery, I’d suggest knowing that line before your cross it. Yes, send a friendly message. No, don’t try to search for someone new on every site the second you meet them — unless they advertise on their website how and where to find them. Then it’s OK. If you’re trying to find me, have at it any which way you please! I chose to put the content online. I won’t put anything I’d fear you finding out. And I love the connections, hence being happy to chat across all platforms. But I understand not everyone is like that. Even though parts of the book last night certainly freaked me out a bit, in a way, I admired the main character for having the guts to be himself and just go for it. {Aside: If the cops are reading this in the future, this is not an acknowledgement on my part that I condone stalking or am in the process of currently stalking anyone.}

That celery is stalking the poor Golden puppy… help him please!

For a minor bit of humor, the word stalkery reminds me of the word celery. And the picture I included above hints at celery. It kinda sounds the same. So maybe since the word doesn’t really exist outside Oxford, we’ll start saying celery instead of stalkery. And this my online friends… is why I write the 365 posts after I’ve had coffee and not before I’ve had coffee. You end up with some really bad humor and silly memes otherwise.

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  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Dee @ Rad Reads and Reviews. To be clear, the 365 Word has absolutely nothing to do with the Blogger of the day — I’ve pre-planned the bloggers for the next few weeks. It’s just the luck of the draw when I pick the 365 Word.
    • Dee and I connected on Goodreads at least six months ago, frequently checking out each others reviews, sharing recommendations and talking about new releases. We realized at some point that both of us had WordPress blogs and began following each other on here, too. Now we’re constantly trying to remember if we read the other person’s review on Goodreads or on WordPress, as you never know which ones pops up first in your notifications or activity log. But that’s OK because she reads fantastic books in tons of genres. I’m constantly finding new releases that I missed during my own searches, choosing new and old books from her read and to-be-read list. We also have a lot of the same online friends in our inner circle on Goodreads, as far as who we’re always chatting with, constantly surprised (or maybe not) when we meet other people who already know the other person. If you ever need a book recommendation, or just want to chat about the silly end of a book you both loved and hated at the same time, Dee’s the one to chat with! If you don’t believe me, check out the below blurb from her About Me section and then go visit the site yourself:
    • “I am an avid reader in my early 40’s.   I joined Goodreads a few years ago to keep track of books I had read, and books I wanted to read. It wasn’t long before I started writing reviews for the books I had read. Next I joined NetGalley and found even more books to read and review!  I love to give my thoughts and opinions on what I have read and eventually decided to create this blog in order to keep all of my reviews in one place.”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 138 – Reminder

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Reminder: a message or communication designed to ensure that someone remembers something

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I often compare myself to others. It’s part of my intellect, instinct and introversion. No matter the situation, my innate response is to analyze where I fit on the scale among others. Some argue this will only lead to disappointment or frustration. Others believe it’s essential to existing in our society. I see both sides of the struggle and fall somewhere in the middle on the ideal route upon which one should embark; however, life is not a contest. With billions of people on this planet, it’s a certainty that you’ll never know if you truly are the best or at the top of the list. It’s practically a guarantee that someone else out there is just a step beyond where you are, which means you’re probably just trying to compare yourself to the immediate group of people around you. And if you can accept that someone else is better at it, ask yourself why you still feel the need to do the comparison at all?

For me, comparisons aren’t always about deciding when I’m better at something than someone else. It’s about understanding where I fall within the overall range. I find it helpful to know whether I possess more or less skills in a certain area, as it can be a guide post to help me determine whether it’s something I should put added focus towards. For example, if I want to be a bowler, I need to know whether I’m good or not, what my weaknesses are, how to improve in certain areas. That’s a healthy comparison. It’s determining the path to meet your objectives without criticizing yourself for the current state. It’s the process of learning and growing.

I will often compare myself to others strictly for the sense of deciding a bit of my own self-worth. Not in a heavy way where it thoroughly depresses me, but enough to recognize it’s not a good approach. I’ll see pictures of guys in extremely well-fitting suits, highlighting all the reasons I find someone or a certain style attractive. I then wear something I believe is similar, yet it looks very different on me due to either my height or body proportion. I immediately find myself unhappy, and it will even sometimes damper my mood for a good portion of whatever event I’d be going to. A suit changing my entire composure. This is an unhealthy comparison. There’s nothing I can do about some of those situations. Even if I custom-tailored a suit or hired a fitness trainer to change the shape and size of certain body parts, it wouldn’t achieve the exact same look. I’d have to go through surgery to stretch my bones to reach the height I think I need to be able to pull off said look. That’s an example of an unhealthy comparison. How silly is that?

Then there are those in between areas where you are not necessarily on a marathon to be the absolute best at something, rather a smaller race you’ve designed yourself in which there is a specific person as a target. For the creative types, we’re often thinking… Am I a better writer/painter/artist/photographer than “x” ? Do I build characters or capture the perfect amount of light more than “y” ? The goal always changes. Sometimes you’re comparing yourself to a favorite artist you enjoy. Others, it’s a friend or colleague you find competitive. And often it’s someone who’s winning awards or gaining popularity. You ask yourself, “Can I really beat that person?” If managed properly, this can be a healthy comparison, but it’s rare any of us approach it properly. If you are challenging yourself to continue to evolve and improve, it’s healthy. If you are hoping to move your supposed ranking up the scale one peg at a time, knocking down the people around you, it’s probably not healthy.

I’m definitely not an expert or guru in this area. I am competitive. I have a need to be number one at all things I do. I choose to do very few things for this reason, as I certainly can’t be perfect at everything I do. Last night, as I read a few chapters from a book, I kept thinking to myself… “this author develops characters with so much more depth than I do.” When I got back from the gym yesterday, I made a comment to myself about still not eliminating the love-handles. And when I checked the ratings on something that is updated weekly, I had dropped a ranking. Wow… three unhealthy approaches in a row. So I’m not an expert. But I do know how to manage it. It’s a constant reminder to ask myself “what is so important about this supposed competition?” If I don’t have a good answer, then I need to drop the need to compare and replace it with a need to grow.

It comes down to choosing how to spend your time. Ten minutes of complaining that you’re not where you want to be. Fifteen minutes wasted, hoping you can change something that is literally impossible to change. Five minutes of binge-eating cookies that will later add another 20 minutes to the cardio session to drop the 5 pounds you need to lose to fit into the suit you think will make you look the way the model does but will not because you have a different body type which cannot be altered because you’d have to spend thousands to break your bones and add 4 inches to your height so that you can then say “I’m the best.” WTF? That’s “what the fudge” for some of you…

So really, when you find yourself comparing things… make sure you know why. There might be an alternative path to reaching the goal hidden just below that fake goal you think you are really trying to achieve. I’m not trying to look like the model who wore that suit. I’m trying to say “I’m proud of who you are and the efforts you’ve put in.” So I’ll worry less about all those things above and more about building the foundation for the future I plan to have. And in all sincerity, today’s post is not even about me… it’s more about the idea of comparisons and how our minds work. I’m really not in need of a change in approach or a friend to make things seem better. I’m hoping to share some ways that help me get out of the constant comparison rat race. These are simply words that we all need to remember to remind ourselves from time to time.

And that’s what I’m doing today in the 365 Daily Post. Simply reminding us… as that’s what happened during a morning conversation with a very good friend. Thank You, Friend. And I felt the need to pass it on…

Oh, but you will… I make sure of it. I am the best at helping people pass!

 

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  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Melanie @ MelToTheAny. We met around 4 to 5 months ago either on Goodreads or WordPress, I don’t remember for sure, as we chat back and forth not only on those sites, but also on Twitter, Instagram, BlogLovin’, and even a few others.  We’re both all over social media, constantly talking about books and commenting on each other’s posts. She also snaps lots of pictures of the books she’s bought, received or reading, and it’s always fun and cute photos with some interesting connection to the story; you can feel her personality shining through, as someone you’d totally love to grab a cup of coffee with, maybe near the beach, and just dish about books, authors and characters. She has really great insight, reads tons of different authors and is someone you would enjoy commenting and chatting with throughout the week on different platforms. If you don’t believe me, check out the below blurb from her About Me section and then go visit the site yourself:
    • “Hi, I’m Melanie! I have an unhealthy obsession with signed books. There is nothing better than a rainy day filled with coffee and books. I play way too much League of Legends. I am constantly daydreaming of new tattoos. And I think unconditional love is the most powerful force in the world. I’m also terrible at describing myself. The first thing you’re probably wondering is “why Mel To The Any?” Well, the short answer is that that has been my gaming ID on everything since I was in middle school. I’m now in my late twenties and far too lazy to change everything that I’ve accumulated for almost two decades. Also, I like it and that’s enough for me. I’ve been in love with reading my whole life. In 2009 I started my Goodreads account and discovered I loved reviewing books, as well. I don’t consider this a job, it’s just my passion and an amazing hobby that I am very blessed to be able to do.”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 137 – Character

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Character: (a) the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual, or (b) a person in a novel, play, or movie

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Characters are on my mind today. In many different ways. The characters on my screen at some point changed to a whole bunch of symbols. I didn’t do anything to cause it. They just up and converted themselves. I gave the laptop screen my best sideways glance, calmly explaining that I was not taught how to read hieroglyphics. I casually mentioned if this was a message from the Writing Gods to consider a different language or story, my response would be to remind them I could close this file and start an entirely new novel, one in which they did not exist. I stepped away to pour a glass of seltzer, hoping it was just a momentary glitch. When I returned, all was back to normal. Apparently, when I speak, computers jump. I also realized I had been leaning on the touchscreen monitor when trying to adjust its angle, somehow temporarily changing the font to “MT Extra.” Word of Caution: Unless you are Robert Langdon, I wouldn’t suggest doing this to yourself.

That’s fine. I can take a practical joke. On to the writing. Have you ever argued with one of your characters? (if you’re a writer, that is… because if you’re not, I suspect you don’t have characters… but I wouldn’t know for sure as that’s what I have all the time… these characters in my head who like to start fights with me). Today was all about nicknames. I have a thing for them. I’ve been given nicknames all my life. It gets to the point where everyone now calls me something different and I just have to learn to deal with it. So I think it’s OK to have nicknames. But not everyone else does. For instance… my main character suddenly has three different nicknames. It could confuse people. Or make it easier to know who’s talking without any dialogue tags. Eh, I won’t bore you non-writers. It should be sufficient to say, we are all different characters, depending on who we happen to be socializing with at the time. And having a nickname that is different from friend to friend seems like a logical thing to me. I don’t care what my character thinks about this decision. I write. They listen. If there’s a problem, call Thursday Next to help. {Aside: She’s a literary character who fixes problems with book plots and characters in a murder mystery series by Jasper Fforde.}

Some people bring out the sultry side in me. Yes, there is one. I usually project a vanilla and plain personality, so as not to cause an uproar on the blog, but there’s more to me than just the blogger you all know. I actually can be flirtatious, seductive, sexy, alluring… fill in whatever word works for you. But then again, my characters also need these qualities, so I often need to blur the line between them and me. I’ve currently got two people on a train who suddenly get jostled together, and I need to describe the intimacy growing between them. Where do I start? Experience. But as I’m writing it, I think… wait, now that’s something I would do. Would “x” do that? Hmm… Wait, would I really do that? Fifteen minute reflection on how I’d behave on a train in public under those conditions. Anyways, I find a way to write the scene, return to edit it, then put it down for a few hours. When I re-read it, something kept telling me it was the wrong two characters for that scene… that’s fine, I’m amenable to change. I can cut/paste to a future chapter and write something for the two on the train who won’t leave me alone. Characters. Can’t live with them and can’t live without them, huh?

We all have friends like that. People who are characters, pushing and pulling us in many directions until we just don’t know what to make of them. That’s how I feel about describing myself sometimes. I’m different depending on who I’m with. I feed off the energy between us and find a way to make what exists in our little world at that moment something special. I have a friend who is absolutely hilarious when it comes to all the efforts he will go to when trying to get out of a new relationship. I’m talking after two or three dates, nothing serious. Rather than tell someone he is no longer interested, he ends it a few different ways. He will just stop responding to any texts or calls. He tells them he’s moving to North Carolina. He tells them he is entering the priesthood. But none of them are jokes. He makes it seem like it’s all serious. He’s also the same friend who leaves parties, bars or dinners without saying goodbye. He is there talking one second, says he needs to use the bathroom or is going to talk to someone else, then he sneaks out. While these are two things he does that could showcase a negative quality, he’s so amusing and fun, you always just look the other way. He makes it a fun experience, and for that, I’d call him a character.

Character can also be that moral stance you take or image you project… usually said by someone wiser… “You’ve got a lot of character.” {Aside: Yeah, I know, tell me about it. Too many to handle.} But what makes up that sense of having good character. Honor? Humility? Down-to-earth? Strong? Honest? Old-Soul? I’ve got a few of those under my belt, but I wouldn’t really consider myself as someone with strong character. Not in a negative way, but I think the word describes someone who’s had a harder life, somebody closer to the Earth… gets his/her hands dirty every day, builds things, teaches moral lessons. Not sure that’s me. I’m more the partially funny / partially nutty one who tries to find hidden meanings in things while stirring up a little bit of fun trouble.

So where am I ending up here… a few questions I’m pondering as I pick up new books, shuffle some people around and draft my own chapters:

  • Will you describe your definition of a strong character in a book?
  • What qualities make up an individual with solid character?
  • How many different characters (unique people) do you have in your life?
  • Who’s your all-time favorite character in either a book, show, movie, cartoon, etc.?
  • Have you ever tried to read hieroglyphics (AKA, this rather peculiar post)?

 

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  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Avonna @ Avonna Loves Genres. As today’s post is all about characters, the connection is Avonna’s love of literature, books, genres and characters. We met five months ago on Goodreads, where we connect on tons of books with each other all the time. We have similar reading interests, as well as some differences, too. But her site is full of so many different reviews — always very detailed and analytical. I’ve picked up a few new books from her and hope I’ve shared a few good ones with her. If you love books, and you read different genres, and like reading reviews, then this is a good site for you. If you don’t believe me, check out the below blurb from her About Me section and then go visit the site yourself:
    • “I am an avid reader, reviewer and genre book lover! This site is for reviews, discussions and articles on genre books. We are all lovers of great stories, but like all readers, we have differing tastes and opinions even on the same book. That is what makes reading and reviewing interesting. I would love for you to comment on the various books reviewed and feature blogs. I will not publish a book review I would rate less than 3 stars. I hope everyone enjoys my site and reviews!”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 136 – Brief

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Brief: of short duration, a concise statement or summary

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As today’s word suggests, today’s post will be a bit more brief than usual. Although the poll has a few more hours before I close it, over 90% of the responses indicated I should feel free to adjust the content or approach in the 365 Daily posts, as long as I retain the same voice and message. I may be writing a bit shorter posts, so that I can also focus on writing my novel, but I still want them to be a valuable part of your day.

We’re going to start out this one with a laugh. After following my routine of choosing the word, I conduct a Google search for images that have the word within their contents. For some reason, the word ‘brief’ did not conjure up cute cartoon word art or memes with a funny picture of the word. Instead, it brought up hundreds of men wearing briefs followed by several wearing briefs that were missing some of their fabric, as in the entire part that’s supposed to cover your ass, or wearing no briefs at all. I was mildly interested amused salivating curious surprised and spent a second minute hour looking for what I needed. I was tempted to use the first picture in the returned list as my post’s featured image, but then I realized it might give everyone the wrong impression. So… sorry to say… no guys in skimpy bathing suits or underwear for you today. Just me and some brief words hopefully worth sharing.

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For a brief moment this morning, I had caught up on most of the outstanding items on my plate, such that I could focus on writing for a solid 6 hours today. It felt great. By lunch, I checked my phone to see what messages I had missed. Those were not brief. Those were plentiful but encouraging. Two hours later, I lost track of how much time had passed. How do you all do it? What I thought might be a brief break to look at a few sites turned into hours of reading and responding. No writing. OK, so I put my phone on a hiatus for a few hours and continued writing. I never stopped for the gym when I should have at 4pm. I’ll punish myself later with no liquor allowed at or after dinner. It’ll be a rough night, folks. No telling what will turn out this evening.

But I quit by 5:15 and said, I’ll do a brief check of social media before I clean up and figure out what to make for dinner. All the posts I’d written last night had now been published, giving me a whole new round of responses to review.

*** I swear it’s like rabbits. I’ve got a herd of hares humping in my hard-drive and heaven better help me before they hippity-hop into my head. ***

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I might be losing my mind this week, which is why I’ve opted for a brief post for tomorrow’s 365 Daily Challenge. Brief because:

  • Sometimes our minds are tapped out.
  • Our energy levels are normal instead of the usual bonkers which is required to actually do everything I need to do.
  • Your head’s spinning trying to decide:
    • write?
    • read?
    • post?
    • tag?
    • award?
    • which social media tool?
    • what agent?
    • how many words today?
    • did you pay the bills?
    • Ryder, stop throwing your hedgehog on the table at me while I’m working.
    • Yes, I would like a nap.
    • The voices are getting stronger in my head.

And with that said, I hope you all enjoyed this moment of schizophrenia I am sharing. Because if I have to live with this crazy today (all good stuff), I’m sharing it with everyone that matters on my blog.

So there you have it. A few last thoughts of what you’ve seen just now:

  1. A brief glimpse into a man losing his mind — please call help
  2. A brief interlude between my sanity and my insanity — but seriously I’m fine
  3. A brief post to meet the 365 Daily Challenge goal — it feels good to be done today
  4. A brief moment of laughter in your day while reading this post — at least I hope so
  5. A brief step away from the norm — we all need one
  6. A brief update on the “Adjustable” poll — thanks for telling me to do whatever I want in these posts
  7. A brief morsel of knowledge — never Google this word unless you’re searching for something a tad bit R or even X rated
  8. A brief story — didn’t you just love my little “H” themed rabbit moment – HILARIOUS
  9. A brief apology — for not producing high quality content today
  10. A brief pair of underwear — despite denying I’d include a picture of them

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Question: Why do they call them a “pair” of briefs? And another question, an even more important one, … who would wear something like this? I’ve heard of Granny Panties for women before, but what do you call these other than Tighty Whities? I wouldn’t be caught dead in them. Everyone needs to have a good pair of underwear or we can’t be friends anymore. I prefer boxer briefs. And I’ll leave you on that note. Happy Briefs!

 

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  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is The Orangutan Library. First thing to say — there is absolutely no link between the 365 Daily Challenge word and the Recommended Blogger of the day. I’ve pre-planned the bloggers through mid-August, and sometimes it’s just gonna happen where the selections are a bit amusing and disconnected. But… where there is a small connection… is in that we met 3 months ago, briefly chatting over a few different book reviews and TV shows, ranging from Shakespeare to Pretty Little Liars… From there, we covered various apes and gorillas to the 365 Daily Challenge words, and how both applied to each of us. But after all the tags we’ve done together and a few shared awards, we’ve built a fun rapport throughout our posts and comments back and forth. The site library is great, with tons of feedback and full of new ideas. Great art work and graphics. A load of humorous links. If you don’t believe me, check out the below blurb from the About Me section and then go visit the site yourself:
    • “I bet you are all surprised to see that an orang-utan can manage to use a keyboard, let alone run a blog about books. Well, prepare to be amazed, because I’ve barely got started yet. Ok enough aping around. Please insert the usual disclaimer about all opinions being my own here. Also try not to take offence at any of my brutally honest opinions. Yada yada yada, etcetera etcetera.  So without further ado (*drumroll please*) I hereby declare this virtual library open. And yes, for all you Terry Pratchett fans out there, the title is a nod to the Librarian. Just getting into the Discworld and becoming a massive fan… so stay tuned for more!”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 135 – Effortless

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Effortless: requiring no physical or mental exertion; achieved with admirable ease

As we dive into today’s 365 Daily Challenge, the first step is to stop and think about a few things in our lives that we’d consider effortless. Take a few minutes if needed, but picture two before reading any further. {Insert elevator music… 120… 60… 30… 3… 2… 1…} Ready?

  • Strolling through nature simply to enjoy the beauty surrounding you
  • Listening to music and allowing your body to react however it feels the need to

Those were the two I’m focusing on as I write this post. While some might say both of those require a tad bit of physical exertion, I disagree. You can put as little or as much as you want into each action, ensuring your own level of admirable ease is met. It’s rare for me to engage in either of these activities purely for the sake of just these activities. If I’m walking through nature, I’ve usually got a problem I’m trying to solve. If I’m listening to music, I’m usually feeling something emotional that wants to connect with lyrics and sound from an artist I admire.

But have you ever just stopped what you were doing purely for the sake of allowing something effortless to occur, without worrying about what you get from it in return? Without choosing to mold or shape the journey to fit whatever path you want to embark upon? Rarely, if at all, would be my guess. Effortless is not a word that most people think of or feel as part of their normal day. We have schedules and clocks. We have to do lists and goals. We have fears and concerns. There’s always something we need to accomplish and our minds naturally look to focus on achievements before relaxation. We are programmed to put effort into a task so the outcome is beneficial. But that’s where we often fail to recognize what’s right in front of us sometimes… doing something that requires little or no effort and has no specific tangible outcome might actually be exactly what our bodies and minds need, so that we can continue to reach our future expectations.

Today was a busy day for me. I flipped my schedule so that I spent most of the afternoon writing. Within three hours, I had drafted 5K words for Father Figure, finding myself remarkably impressed that the story was flowing from my fingertips to the keyboard with relative ease. But it wasn’t effortless in the beginning. I stopped and started. I re-checked the outline several times. I had a few interruptions with phone calls and a visit from the repair man (the freezer has been fixed). But after about 45 minutes, it felt like the most natural and normal experience. By late afternoon, feeling thoroughly accomplished and in need of physical activity, I went to the gym. Then I headed across town to meet the significant other and some friends for dinner and an early show. Linda Lavin was having a cabaret performance at Birdland here in NYC, singing a few songs, telling a few stories and reminiscing about all the shows and tv series she’d previously acted in. And all I had to do was sit at my table, have a few drinks, relax and enjoy the entertainment for several hours. It was an effortless experience where no one needed me to do anything and the only required duty from me was to listen.

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Enter the adorable, sweet, creative, fun, intelligent and charming Roda from Growing Self. We chatted for a few minutes about cookie dough, magic, clones, writing and opportunity. She could tell I was struggling with the right 365 word, then drew a card from her set of Earth Magic Oracle Cards created by Steven D. Farmer. The card, as the picture shows above, was Effortless. It displayed a picture of a waterfall, sharing a story about the natural, graceful and powerful flow of water cascading through a rock formation and settling in an exquisite pool of simplicity. The message was clear: to allow yourself to surrender to the will of Spirit. Essentially, give yourself permission to relinquish control to another. Could my decision to choose a word and write the post be anything other than effortless at this point?

I bet you’re wondering why I didn’t choose permissive after that experience, but how could I? My takeaway from the cards pointed me towards that feeling I’ve been having for the last week… among all the items on my list of things to do, I most feverishly and frequently looked forward to sitting at my desk to begin writing the chapters for my second novel. Once I allowed myself to let go, forgetting about everything else I needed to address, writing no longer felt like a task on a long list of to-do’s. No one was expecting anything from me. My mind was open and ready to create life from the outline I’d finished last week. And all I had to do was give myself permission to move forward with these steps for me to see it was truly an effortless activity.

Life doesn’t always give you the freedom to choose what you want to do. But when it does, you need to wisely accept that chance. You need to allow the world to show you what it is that you haven’t been able to see for yourself. Find the path that feels as effortless as either your stroll through nature or listening to music — whatever your two items were at the top of this post. Don’t let yourself be so caught up in everything that you’re supposed to be accomplishing less you forget the beauty of your own effortless waterfall. You might just get swept up by its sheer serenity, finding yourself landing in an even better place than the water chose for you.

 

REMINDER: The poll will close today regarding any changes I might make to the 365 Daily Challenge posts. I appreciate everyone who voted over the last six days. If you haven’t had a chance to vote, here is the link: Vote for Changes to 365 Daily Challenge.

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  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Patricia @ Tea And Tales. We met just a little over three months over a shared excitement over cozy mysteries. As I got to know Patricia, we learned there’s so much more in common. We both loved Hush, Hush… Sweet Charlotte, are excited researching our genealogy and found Fifty Shades of Grey just awkward! We’re constantly checking each other’s reviews out on all types of books, but mystery has been on the top genres we both flock towards. Her website is extraordinarily beautiful in its colors and tranquility. The menu on the right clearly shows all the different types of categories for her posts… everything from cooking to faith to life to humor and of course tea! You will definitely find a few books to pick up as well as a new online friend. If you don’t believe me, check out the below blurb from her About Me section:
    • “Welcome to Teaandtales1… I love talking Tea and hearing a good Tale, or a new Cozy Mystery! Have a favorite of either? Let us know, we love a good tea and/or tale. We have a Facebook Page also, which is full of Tea news, offers, discounts and Cozy Mystery Book Reviews.  Facebook Link“”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.