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365 Challenge: Day 254 – Glutton

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Glutton: an excessively greedy eater

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Thanksgiving is at the forefront of my mind today for a few reasons. It’s this week. It’s my favorite holiday. I am thankful for all the book reviews and ratings, which led to a special announcement on my author website (2018 GLASS Family Short Story Collection) for today’s final blog tour post. After I published the post, which I’ve been planning for a while, I kept thinking… “Jay, you’re glutton for punishment.” Seriously, I keep taking on more and more without any real desire or intelligence to stop myself. That said… being a glutton is usually associated with over-eating too much… and for many of us, that’s coming down the pike, barreling 60+ mph in less than 48 hours. It’s TURKEY day… well, I mean Thanksgiving, in the USA. I’ll post more about that on Thursday, but for today…

The 365 Daily Challenge word is glutton because that’s how I feel already this week with everything going on in my life. I am gluttonous over being thankful and grateful for everyone’s support. I was gluttonous last night drinking an entire bottle of champagne toasting for all the successes this month. As a reminder to myself, I will not be gluttonous on Thursday when I eat the big holiday meal. I’m cooking… all the trimmings. My mom and W will help, but I usually prefer to keep busy in the kitchen preparing food. Even at holiday parties in the past where I’m the host, W is out entertaining and I stay in the kitchen. That’s where the shyness really comes in, even with my own friends. W is a good cook too, but I prefer to hide so it’s a fair balance.

Anyways… as a lead-in to Thanksgiving this week, I’m throwing out 365 words to keep in our heads as we celebrate. Monday was ‘walk’ because Ryder’s been eating too much and had to get some exercise (which we should all do after dinner on Thursday). Last Saturday was ‘bounce’ because if you eat too much, you’ll probably bounce right out of the house where you’re having the meal. Today is ‘glutton’ because you don’t want to be known as that guest or host who eats so much that they get sick. Any guesses as to tomorrow’s word? You can be sure it will have something to do with Thanksgiving and probably a bit embarrassing… see you soon!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 253 – Walk (RYDER RANT)

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Walk: a little jaunt around the neighborhood to help keep me trim

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No, that’s not me in the pic — just another shiba inu

It’s been quite a weekend, I tell ya. I’ve been on 3 walks in the last 3 days. I guess they mean business. I went to the groomer on Friday and had a nice long walk back and forth. Dad 2 took me on Saturday all around the neighborhood, then Dad 1 took me on Sunday before they went to the movies to see ‘Murder on the Orient Express.’ I would have liked to go, but the movie theatre doesn’t allow my kind there. How rude! I heard they liked the movie (nothing too great), but wow, did Dad 1 complain about the price of the tickets. They went to a 12:20 showing and each ticket was $19. He mumbled something about remembering when it was $7 as a child; wow, he’s older than I thought! Anyhoo… they forgot to bring me home popcorn. I was not pleased. I did enjoy my walks, but I am getting older, too. I get a little lazy after 15 minutes and prefer to stare into people’s windows. Dad doesn’t like it because he thinks I’m being nosy. He really just doesn’t want people thinking he’s staring inside, too.

The groomer was OK. My paw hurts now from getting my nails clipped. I’m walking with a bit of a limp as a result. I’m not sure if they clipped too closely or held my leg too tightly, but it’s a bit sore. I also think I am getting a cold as my nose is a little runny today. I’ve slept in bed (their bed, to be precise) until 9 every day for the last week. They’re usually up by 7:30 and so they worried I might be sick. I think I’m OK, but I know Dad 1 keeps coming over to check my nose, rub my head and cuddle. Maybe he’s not so bad after all, what do you think? They keep telling me no treats and wow, they’ve been sticking to it. I haven’t gotten any of their dinner in over a week. I got a cracker and a carrot one day, but that’s it! Maybe that’s why I am sick… not enough good food. They promise I’ll get some on Thanksgiving, but that feels like FOREVER!

We worked on addressing Christmas cards yesterday. Or to be precise, Dad 2 worked on Christmas cards. I just stamped them all when he was done. Dad 1 doesn’t have time for that right now, nor is he thinking about the holidays yet. He’s got a few more days on this book blog tour and then he can settle down again. He’s getting a bit repetitive and grumpy about it, too. I know he loves it, but he feels like he needs to talk about something else so as not to bore everyone. He told me he’ll finish book 2, Father Figure, this week and do a final read through before it goes out to the beta readers. That sounds fun… but he also said there weren’t any doppelgangers for me in this book. How rude!

I need a nap. Have a lovely Thanksgiving week and please say hello to all my pet friends. -Ryder

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 251 – Bounce

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Bounce: (of an object, especially a ball) move quickly up, back, or away from a surface after hitting it; rebound (once or repeatedly)

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Every once in a while, when I wake up, I have little to no energy or clever ideas for the 365 Daily Challenge. Today is one of those days where I know it would be better to just put out a brief message rather than spend an hour coming up with a really strong one. Just bounce with it for me, will ya? Lately, my mind feels like all it does it bounce from one activity to the next, which is a good thing in many ways. The days go by quickly and I see a lot accomplished during that time. We all feel like that on occasion, so I’m glad to be in great company with all of you.

I talked about potential words with two friends today (Roda & Noriko), who both helped provide some ideas and/or conversation that generated a few good options. In the end, most of them required more thought before I could truly post anything valuable. Instead, I looked up images of things bouncing all around to amuse myself and that’s when I decided today’s word would be ‘bounce.’ We all need those moments of downtime, don’t we? When we do something silly like play with a bouncing ball or jump up and down just for the fun of it. I think I’ve figured out what I need to do at the gym later on… that said, today’s only potentially interesting piece of advice/humor/inspiration is that sometimes you just have to bounce with a situation until you land where you’re meant to land. Let someone else do the driving for a change. Direct me, Oh Universe… tell me where the crystal ball leads today!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 249 – Shop

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Shop: what I’m doing with my mother today in preparation for the holidays

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Today’s 365 Daily Challenge word is ‘shop’ because I need a quick word as I will be busy later. I’m heading out to Long Island on a train shortly to grocery shop with my mom in preparation for Thanksgiving. My parents, cousins and friends will be coming to my place in the city for Thanksgiving next week, so we need to pickup all the trimmings in advance. Since the price for all the food we need is probably less than 50% of the cost of what I’d pay in the city, my mother insisted I go shopping in the suburbs with her. {AsideYou can imagine our ‘discussions’ over the prices of things she sees in my kitchen cabinets or refrigerator!} So… I’m commuting 3-hours back and forth to get everything we need, then bring back in just the items I need to start the turkey and the stuffing early Thanksgiving morning. If you see anyone in NYC tomorrow, on a train or subway, carrying large bags with a turkey and other food, many miles and blocks, it’s me!

I also need to start thinking about shopping for holiday presents. I no longer like doing it because everyone buys what they want when they want it. I’d rather just spend quality time together, but that’s me. I do like gifts, but they’re hard these days. Mom and I will probably go to the book store so I can pick out some books I want, which will be good gifts my parents can get for me. No complaints there! I know three things for my parents, but I need to confirm my dad isn’t also trying to buy them. I also need to start shopping for a wireless repeater for my bedroom as I have no WiFi service on that side of the apartment. I spend too much time in bed early in the morning or late at night trying to get my phone to connect to the internet, struggling against the cellular waves… ugh, silly problems…

But that’s my day today. Oh and mom finished reading my book. I’m likely to hear all about it today. Please say a prayer for that conversation!!! Otherwise, it’s all about the need to shop. Then it will be time to shop for a Christmas tree and a short holiday getaway for New Year’s. Where’s everyone going this year? Let’s share some ideas!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 248 – Medium

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Medium: (a) halfway between two extremes of size or another quality; average, (b) psychic, or (c) an agency or means of doing something

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I had a few items on my mind for today’s 365 Daily Challenge word, and when I thought about how to connect it together, the word ‘medium’ quickly came to mind. Here’s why:

  • Medium as Average
    • I’ve posted before that I have always felt average, which in my mind is a good thing. It means you do well in some things, you are improving in others and you are the all-around good person in all that you do. That’s me! I like it.
    • Lots of book reviews are coming in and it’s kind of nerve-wracking to see people’s thoughts and opinions. Sometimes it’s just ratings without any explanation. On the Amazon and Goodreads scale of 1 to 5, the middle / medium / average would be a 3, which usually means the person thinks it’s a good book you’d probably recommend. I give 3’s out all the time to books I enjoyed but didn’t totally move me for any particular reason. As my book reviews come in, I see a string of 5’s, then 3’s and some 4’s. All in all, it’s averaging a 4.6 with about 75 reviews so far. I shouldn’t be so worried, but I am because it’s about my work. Then I remember… I’m new, it’s a debut and I like medium!
  • Medium as Psychic
    • I’ve gone to a few psychic readers in the past, mostly out of fun. I’m not really sure I believe in it wholeheartedly, but I also don’t know enough about the subject. I find it fascinating and like to see how each performs, thinks, delivers and reads to the patrons.
    • Both psychics told me I would publish books — without any prompting. Maybe they read something into my clothes or words and figured it out. Who knows… but I love hearing other people’s thoughts on the whole psychic medium.  Please share if you believe, attended or dislike!
  • Medium as Form for Artists
    • Artists have different mediums they work in. Today, I want to share two (2) new mediums in which you can check out related to Watching Glass Shatter news.
      • Conscious Talk Magazine: An excellent online journal and magazine with all the typical features, news and information… however, it has even more than that. I’m a big fan already and the best part… some of our fellow bloggers work there as writers and editors. I will be doing a spot on them in the coming week, but you should check out an article written by the lovely Didi Oviatt, who happens to be this coming Friday’s Author Alert. You can read a fun message from me about the book and my life via this link. And just to make your world spin a little, today’s Blog Tour Poster (11) is Jina, who is also a writer at the magazine.
      • Artist First Radio Broadcast: An internet radio station that has over a million subscribers. They have 90K listeners to their Author’s First segments which air on Tuesdays. I was the guest last night talking all about my family life and the family drama in the book. You can listen to my interview with the amazing DJ — you will love his charismatic voice — via this recording.

 

What a word! MEDIUM: share a little bit about all of today’s topics. What’s on your mind?

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 247 – Toxic

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Toxic: when two friends no longer mix well and the relationship has run its course

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Friendships are often the thing that holds us together when life throws too many lemons our way. Friends have your back, they show up when you ask (or even when you don’t) and they offer a sympathetic ear when you need encouragement. Over the years, friendships continue to grow stronger and deeper as the connection forges even more tightly than before. But what happens when things aren’t the same anymore… is it okay to walk away from something that has become toxic?

I’ve had many friends over the years… grammar school, high school, college and even those in my twenties. For the most part, I am not as close with many of them as I was once. Our separation in nearly all the instances was just that: a separation due to physical proximity or the momentum of life situations. It wasn’t a conscious decision, but life takes you in different places and you grow apart; it’s sad, but it happens. There are a few who you can remain just as close with and you adore every minute of it. At the opposite extreme, on occasion, you need to make the tough decision that the friendship is no longer the same, and for the better of both people involved, it’s time to walk away. It’s not fair and it’s certainly not fun, but if the friendship as become toxic, why would you want to continue to hurt one another. Perhaps it’s over jealousy or a stupid incident that just won’t go away. Maybe it’s the way one or both friends change in their own individuality. Religion, politics, opinions and life experience can often help formulate who you are and who you want to be… and sometimes, as you age, those things evolve and take you down a different path.

It’s hard to say goodbye when someone dies. It’s harder in some ways to choose to walk away from a friendship, knowing you will miss the person and/or be reminded of the past too often. There should be some effort put into repairs, but if it’s clear there’s a fork in the road, or in this case, the relationship, it might be okay to walk away from it. It doesn’t change the connection you once had. It doesn’t erase the memories of good times. You might find your way back to being friends again in the future. When the core of the current friendship starts to crumble or change its form, staying in it might end up hurting you more in the long run.

Friends often rely upon one another so much, it becomes second nature. If someone’s thought processes or needs change, it’s not always clear or obvious at the moment. A fight might change the nature of intimacy for a long enough period that the bond is not strong enough to remain stitched together. If one person feels anger, jealousy or abrasiveness, it can start eating away at you to the point where you don’t enjoy the time together. But even when a sense of obligation tells you to keep texting or calling, visiting or going out… it may be time to analyze the whole situation before you keep pushing to fix it. I’m not saying once you have a few fights, it’s time to throw in the towel. You should always make an effort to repair, but when the core things that once kept you close no longer exist, it might be time to accept the changes and walk away as happier people.

Life is short. People change. You want to be close with those who make you happy and whom you love. It may be different people at different times, and it might end changing the nature of your existing friendships. If you are intensely close, you probably will withstand the changes, but if it’s causing more grief, tension, concern or issues than the positive aspects, it’s probably time to move on. The thoughts in this post are not about anyone specific; moreover, it’s about recognizing there are start and end times to everything in life, including life itself. It’s always beneficial to make something good last as long as possible, but on the flip side, if it’s no longer good, figure out how to fix it and/or move on from that friend who makes you feel bad, be upset, get angry, act differently… or just makes your day far worse. It’s okay to walk away when you’ve tried to fix it but the connection has vanished, or it’s just not a good one anymore.

Bad friendships suck… I’ve had a few and had to move on. How about you?

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 246 – Tie (RYDER RANT)

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Tie: (a) a cloth wrapped around a neck sometimes in the shape of a bow or (b) when there is no clear winner or loser as the score is even

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Good Morning, Friends! I am sure you all saw the lovely photo Noriko shared with you in her post today for Dad’s Day 9 Blog Tour. I was in a bow tie for my picture and looked pretty cute if I do say so myself. If you haven’t, here a quick peek again.

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Today, I have little to rant about as it’s been a good week. Despite saying they wouldn’t give me any extra people food because of the diet, they did sneak a bit every so often. Halloween went smoothly with the children. We cleaned out the terrace and the Dads didn’t find any birds. So, I suppose we’re back on good footing and I’m not looking to leave this joint anytime soon. Thanks for all the offers to help sneak me away and provide a home in case these two get out of hand again. The score is set back to even and it better stay tied or in my favor. Not in their favor ever again!

After they took my tie off, I started wondering where ties came from. Anyone know who thought up that little contraption? It’s cute but it’s like a collar. I prefer not to wear a collar unless I go outside where it’s required… along with my little tag that says I have had all my shots. As if I could get anyone sick, puhleeeassse. I did get out for a walk recently, so I was forced to wear it for a little while. I find I’m needing shorter walks and more naps lately. Must mean winter is coming. I heard we might get some snow earlier than expected this year. I love to play in the snow. I’m rambling today and I haven’t much to say. I just wanted to let y’all know I’m OK and I will see you again soon… and oh yeah, the Friday Author Alert will be Didi Oviatt who is pretty awesome. She always says hello to me and asks how I’m doing. I like her. Start looking at her page, I linked it so you know just a little bit before Friday! Ciao!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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