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365 Challenge: Day 77 – Grey (Color)

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Grey: (a) of a color intermediate between black and white, as of ashes or an overcast sky, or (b) dull and nondescript; without interest or character

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Sunday posts, the end of each week, have become a theme on This-Is-My-Truth-Now, organized by groups of five (5). In the first set of five, we explored my primary ethnicity groups and nationalities. In the second set of five, we had the AtoZ Challenges for various favorite things in our lives. And so… I’m continuing the trend of the seventh day, ending the week on Sunday, as a list (we know I love them) that provides more in depth knowledge about me. Only this time, I’m going with colors that are important to who we are. For the next five Sundays, I will select a color that has some significance to my life and explore it in my post.

{Aside: Thank you to Valerie at Valerie’s Musings for convincing me to go this route… she had lots of good ideas we tossed around, but I’ve settled on this one and have other thoughts for future posts, too.}

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Color: Grey. Or is it Gray? That’s the first thing we need to discuss, even before I explain why this is the initial color I’ve chosen. And if you’re perceptive, you may have noticed I used “grey” in the subject’s caption, which means that’s my preference. At its simplest, “grey” is the UK spelling while “gray” is the American version. I’m American. I should use “gray,” but I feel like “grey” is the more appealing way to spell the word. It has a little bit of flair, ambiance and intrigue. And I like leaning towards my British roots, whenever I easily can, without confusion. I choose the British spelling for other words, too. That settled, why “grey?”

It is a beautiful color. It’s a middle ground between black and white, two polar opposite colors that are striking, each in its own way. But when you bring them together, you can create the most amazing of shades that highlight anything else you choose to go with it. I searched the Interwebs for the first article I could find (no science here!) explaining the color grey in terms of people’s personalities and choices. Below is the link, but the gist reveals, like the definition I posted above, that grey is an “emotionless, moody color… typically associated with meanings of dull, dirty, and dingy, as well as formal, conservative, and sophisticated.”

http://www.bourncreative.com/meaning-of-the-color-grey/

I disagree. Grey to me… is power — though, not in a typical way. I believe purple is reserved for royal or powerful. But in my world… Grey is a shade. It can be darker or lighter. It can hide, yet it can be visible. It can mean quiet, or it can be strong. Grey is neutral, goes with anything, almost like the Switzerland of colors. That’s who I am. I am torn between two extremes in all that I do. I find something I like in everything. I can be around anyone and figure out how to connect, if necessary, even for a short time. Grey feels like the color of my personality.

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In some ways, I am also boring, bland and dull. I offer little in terms of being able to clearly articulate who I am, meaning I’m not known for my passion over a sports team or my exceptional knowledge of any one topic. And, as I’ve said before in my posts, being average to me is a good thing — it’s not something I think of as a negative quality about myself. It’s an ability to fit into my surroundings without being noticed, but reliable and consistent in all that I do. That is the color grey. That is me.

Let’s chat about famous examples of the color grey… And yes, there are probably more, but these are the ones that come to mind or I have familiarity with:

  • Gray Matter: Our Brains
  • Grey’s Anatomy: A famous TV show, and I believe a book on the human body
  • Fifty Shades of Grey: a famous series of books and movies
  • Grey Hair: Divisive – people either hate it or embrace it
  • Gandalf the Grey: “Lord of the Rings”
  • Greyhound: the bus company, dog and drink
  • Earl Grey Tea: most common flavor, I think (To my “TEA” friends — yes/no?)
  • Grey Poupon: remember those mustard commercials?
  • The Picture of Dorian Gray: Classic book
  • Grey Gardens: Hamptons House in disarray of Jackie O’s family

Many feel depressed with the color grey, as though it is so dull, it offers nothing to the eye. To me, it offers Calm. Relaxation. Mood. Grey is in every room in my home. It’s on the walls in three different shades between the hallways, bedroom and living room. My couch is grey.  My bathroom towels are grey. My bed comforter is grey. It may seem bland, but it’s not. It’s a beautiful base that allows other colors to shine in their own way.

Grey is almost monotone (though by it’s definition, it is not). Think of black and white photographs. Your eyes don’t see the black or the white. They interpret grey. At least mine do. And it feels historic. Antique. Important. Valuable. Memorable. Like the grey wolf — another beautiful image:

How do you feel about the color grey? Does it stand out or hide among your life? Is it a neutral base of an item you avoid? And which way do you spell it?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 76 – Courageous

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Courageous: not deterred by danger or pain; brave

When I first thought about the word courageous, images of people who protect others from danger flooded my mind. I imagined all our armed forces (navy, military, air, et al) around the world, doctors and nurses who travel the globe to treat the sick, cops and firemen who keep us safe from our own disasters and criminals, civil rights activists trying to achieve equality and fairness for everyone… all the people who knowingly take a job or volunteer position in which they have a strong chance of dying or being hurt as a result of such a choice. I was not surprised with the results when I searched for an official definition and picture for today’s 365 Challenge post. Those are courageous people.

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Although it is only a mere daily blog, and has little impact on anyone other than a few of us, I’d like to take a moment to remind all of us to be thankful for these individuals. Without them, our lives would be very different: less safe, more sickly and full of risk. The world grows more dangerous each day, but with the careful dedication of these groups, we have a fighting change to live full and healthy lives. So… Thank you… to anyone who falls into the category I’ve described above. I appreciate all that you do for me, and I simply wanted to take a moment to say it without it being prompted to by some event that caused me to think about it, e.g. newscast or article, natural disaster, seeing a member of this community.

By this definition, I am not what I would consider a courageous person. I have not embarked on a profession or become a volunteer in any area where I protect and serve the people of our country and this world. I have not been on the front-line watching my friends being shot at. I have not taken any risks studying a disease I could catch, in the hopes I can find a cure. I have not fought for a cause to protect all the freedoms for people who have been denied the basic rights every human should unquestionably hold. And I have not put on a uniform to keep our streets and homes safe and clean from things that could harm them.

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But underneath this prominent definition of the word “courageous” lives a more subtle meaning, one we apply to situations when someone takes a risk or goes above and beyond the expectation, knowing it will potentially have a negative outcome. We call these people courageous and brave for doing something different, for pushing the envelope, for standing out in a situation.

I applaud these people, too. Not nearly as much as those who serve and protect us, as noted at the beginning, but those who find a way to be courageous in their every day lives. When I look at myself, I have been brave in a few areas of my life. I’ve been courageous under such a definition or explanation. I quickly searched for a few commons components of this type of courage… more than the Wizard of Oz’s cowardly lion but less than Mother Theresa. A link is below to the full article, but the 6 key items I found were:

  1. Feeling Fear Yet Choosing To Act
  2. Following Your Heart
  3. Persevering in the Face of Adversity
  4. Standing Up For What is Right
  5. Expanding Your Horizons; Letting Go of the Familiar
  6. Facing Suffering with Dignity or Faith

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201208/the-six-attributes-courage

As I’ve done on past posts, a quick exploration on these six items:

  1. I’ve felt fear and still acted. I once thought someone had broken into my home, so I grabbed a weapon and carefully checked the house. I was prepared to confront rather than escape and call the police (probably the wiser thing to do in that situation).
  2. I left a very strong, profitable and dependable career to take a chance on writing, which has always been my passion.
  3. I’ve faced little adversity in my life and wouldn’t dare try to show that I have. I have been privileged. I know it and am grateful. I need to do more here for others.
  4. I have stood up for a few things in my life, but not always. I should do better here, too.
  5. I have expanded my thoughts and taken chances. I am probably right about where I should be for this one.
  6. I’ve never been placed in a situation with major suffering. I have been privileged. And I am grateful. But if I were, I am more apt to have a dignified reaction in person. I may post and complain a little in writing, but that’s just creative expression. In reality, I would be much more admirable.

Courage is not easy. Some days, it feels like something we can easily attain. Others, it’s as far away as Oz. But it’s important to know that we should never forget about it.

Are you courageous? Do you have a story about someone with courage? Let’s share…

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 75 – Patient

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Patient: able to accept or tolerate delays, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious

Patience is not something innately arriving at my doorstep, exquisitely wrapped within a lovely basket, a brilliant bow and all the rest of the pomp-and-circumstance trimmings. It’s more like the tragic, nagging reminder in the back of my head, warning me to be good and to let things happen naturally — or I’ll grow warts and hairy moles. And when those are the measures at stake, who the hell wants warts and moles? Or wants more warts and moles… cause you know we all have one at some point in our life… don’t even try to hide from this one, my friends!

We’re told at a young age to allow whatever situation you’re waiting to occur… to happen naturally. Naturally. Does anything happen naturally anymore? So many things in our lives are artificially triggered or engineered, it’s hard to know what’s occurring on its own or happening due to a gentle [read: massive] push from some other force. And the energy behind those “other” forces often leave you unable to determine what should have happened on its own in the first place.

I am very much driven by accomplishments and checking things off the “To Do” list. I always have a bit of anxiety just beneath the surface of my skin when there is something I need to do, but haven’t yet gotten to it. I remembered this morning that I also have the same little aggravating pulse, throbbing beneath my skin when it comes to my control over the art of patience. It’s painful, annoying and itchy. And I want it to balance itself out, so I don’t have to think about it. But it’s always been a battle of wills that I struggle to win on a regular basis.

I want something. It’s within inches of my grasp. But I have to wait. Why? Perhaps it’s not my turn. Could be that it’s not yet ready. Maybe it’s not meant for me. Eh… too many things fall into that category… yet I let them control my actions. When I push myself to think about why it’s so frustrating, I believe it boils down to the mere fact that I have way too much to do. And unfortunately, I also believe we’re all on that same boat treading water in a very deep and wide ocean. There is never enough time to do the things we want to do, and failing to accept that reality can have major consequences.

My lack of patience isn’t over something specific today. No grandiose situation perforated my life (other than the usual ones we all face). It’s simply a moment in time reflection that we are all way too busy, yet sometimes finding ourselves with nothing we want to do, and trying to patiently wait for whatever it is that’s supposed to come next. When I reflect on this behavior over the years, I recognize that it’s been a fairly consistent one: lack of patience for most anything going on in my life.

It’s not an outward manifestation, but an internal one. Consuming. Niggling. Yes, sometimes it causes a bit of eye-twitching, teeth-grinding or is lack of sleep-inducing, but I’m fortunate enough to take the brunt of it myself, saving others from feeling my undeserved wrath. I’m sure you’re familiar… we all are at some point: very few of us are just comfortable 24/7 with whatever happens when it happens.

Patience is a virtue. Patience is rewarded. Patience is honorable. We hear these little sayings all the time. And yes, I’m sure to a large extent, they are quite true. But it is also an art that needs to be practiced — if we ever want to achieve it as a natural and normal state of our reactions to situations. Some people find patience in religion, exercise or spirituality. Others find it elsewhere. I’m not looking to understand how to become a more patient person, as I kinda know what I need to do. I think I may just be too old to change it. You know what they say about old dogs…

And it got me thinking… what if we had a chance to scrap it all over and start fresh? A re-start or new beginning to our life. Forget about the implications and the things you’d lose by engaging in such a marvelous re-boot to your days. I’m not getting philosophical in my daily post, but what if you could keep an on-going journal of all the things you wish you’d learned how to do the proper way when you first entered this world. And then you could share it with yourself and watch from a distance to see how it all turned out — a second time around. Would you do it? Would you have the patience to watch yourself make the same mistakes? Or new ones? Or witness the improvements?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 74 – Mechanical

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Mechanical: (a) not having or showing thought or spontaneity; automatic or (b) working or produced by machines or machinery

Two definitions; two polarizing meanings and impacts. Should I get deep and introspective, or just cover the perimeter of both… What’s a guy to do on a very rainy morning? Think about pasta… seriously, look at that photo below. Did you know that’s how they shaped and created spiral noodles? I’d never thought about it before, and when I found this GIF, I stared at it for over a minute, fascinated by the ingenuity and simplicity all wrapped in one little machine. I suppose it’s baked afterwards, or maybe it hardens on its own. Very curious now… OK, back to the topic at hand… mechanical… I fit one definition perfectly, but I’m quite far from the other one. I’m sure you know by now which is which.

My father is a very handy jack-of-all-trades. He can build motors, repair most anything and understands exactly how any piece of machinery works. I, unfortunately, did not inherit any of those abilities. On the rare occasion, I understand enough to get by, but there are many things out there that still confuse me. I laugh about it, but part of me is disappointed in myself for not being able to grasp what seems like a simple concept. A few examples:

  • Toilet Bowls
    • Occasionally the lever or internal parts will stop working. Plastic breaks every few years. It’s often a simple and direct replacement. I sorta get how it works and if I really applied myself, I could probably fix it. But I’ve had a few times where I just stared, willing it to fix itself. It’s not about doing the work; I’m happy to fix and repair things. But trying to figure out which piece to hold up while you push the other down… or how to get the water level just right for the flush. Ugh… for a smart math guy, I’m pretty dumb when it comes to something like fixing a toilet tank.
  • Cars
    • I was once taught how to change a tire. I’ve never had to do it myself because I’ve never had a flat tire when I was a driver (haven’t had a car in the city in 5+ years). I had a nail in the tire once, but it was not causing any real immediate damage. I had an inspection coming up, so I dropped the car off for both to be handled. I probably could have attempted it myself. But it’s not a strength in my wheelhouse, so I avoided it. One would think I’d look at it as an opportunity to learn something new, but I don’t. It’s not laziness, as I am fine spending 4 hours cleaning every nook and cranny of the kitchen and bathrooms. I’m good with building bookshelves and planters. But I couldn’t tell a carburetor from a muffler if my life depended on it. Pretty sad.
  • Door Knobs
    • I once tried to replace a door knob and lock on my own. I thought it would be a simple task. But my brain struggles to grasp the whole concept of which direction something turns, how the gears wind or work, what loosens or tightens. In the end, I installed it, but it was still a bit loose, and I was glad it was an inside door as I’m sure anyone could have easily broken in to the place if it were the outside door. From that point on, I won’t touch door knobs or locks.

So… my point being… I can calculate numbers and advanced mathematical equations in my head. I can write a character description or scene setting you’ll fall in love with. I can grow flowers, cook and clean. I can lift heavy weights and do intense exercise routines. But I have little to no mechanical skills whatsoever. While not life-threatening, I’d not want to be stuck in a life or death situation on my own, where I needed these skills.

The only saving grace I feel in this situation comes from what other people think of me, or what they’ve told me on past occasions. A large group of friends and I once played something called “The Voting Game” during one of our monthly game nights. We found it at Barnes and Noble, and it’s basically a bunch of cards with sayings or quotes, and then you vote which person in the group is most like that card. It’s semi-anonymous, but you could play it either way. A card came up basically saying the person who you would most trust to help you get off a remote island and survive any complication thrown at you while stuck somewhere. My friends all voted for me, so that helps offset the lack of mechanical skills. At least people know I’m persistent and always find a solution to a problem.

On the flip side, I am often mechanical in my approach to things, thus meeting the first definition. I am very consistent. I follow routines. I have a linear and organized approach to planning. I often have automatic responses to questions or situations without even thinking about or interpreting what I’ve heard. So at least I fit one of the definitions. Any mechanical folks out there, either definition?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 73 – Gardener

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Gardener: a person who tends and cultivates a garden as a pastime or for a living

Let me be clear right at the beginning: Gardening is not the way I make my living! And while it’s a bit of a pastime, it’s not something I have a lot of opportunity to do right now for two primary reasons: (1) I am blogging and reading in all my spare time and (2) I live in NYC. But let’s do a quick re-cap on why I chose gardener.

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As a child, I helped my mom with all the gardening. We had a 150 square foot raised patch in the back corner of the property where we planted vegetables. We also had a fairly large piece of property in the suburbs situated on a corner lot, about 1/3 of an acre. We spent a lot of time on the weekends mowing the lawn, trimming trees, cleaning up weeds and leaves, and planting flowers. If I had to count, I’d say we had about 40 flower beds between the front, back and sides. I learned a lot about gardening! When I moved into my own house, I tried to re-create a lot of those memories, and my mom would help, but I worked a lot and couldn’t keep up. But I always had a few beautiful flower beds I could maintain in the front yards. Then I moved into the city… and on to the 12th floor of a building. So what was I suppose to do when I wanted to garden?

I love to garden. I enjoy planting seeds, watching things sprout, watering, checking the growth and seeing the pretty colors. It makes me happy. It’s calming. It’s a pretty scene to look at when you live in a concrete jungle. And while I do live in a major urban area, there are tons of parks and lots of small corner flower beds to admire, so it’s not all brick and mortar. But, when the significant other and I bought this apartment, we carefully chose a place with a large terrace for a few reasons: (1) Ryder needed some space to run around, (2) We needed an escape outside of the apartment without having to travel far and (3) We were giving up our summer beach share and wanted some connection with nature in our new place. So… our apartment has a 600 square foot terrace. It’s about 8 feet wide and 75 feet long. That said… to bring this back to today’s post… and to share a little about me… and to give us all something to look forward to, I’m going to post pictures every few weeks of everything we’re doing with the flowers, bushes and trees on the terrace.

We spent about 5 hours last Sunday, with my mom’s help of course, planting a bunch of flower pots, moving around some trees (yes, we moved 8 foot trees in pots from one side to the other… very heavy!) and deciding how much more we’d need to purchase. Knowing it’s way too expensive to buy things in NYC, we take the train out east to Long Island, buy everything much cheaper at a huge nursery, and then my parents drive us all back in with the flowers to the apartment. It takes about 3 to 4 hours for that part, then I make lunch while they start prepping outside. And we plant for a few hours, relax with coffee and some dessert I cooked… they head home and we crash from exhaustion!

Without further ado, below are the photos I took this morning at the beginning of the season. Please remember these were just planted, have very little color at this point and aren’t picture-perfect; however, they will be in the coming weeks and months.

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Three pots with roses on the East corner. The bright pink one is new, the other two we put in last year. They are already starting to flower. This will be a collection of varying heights and pinks.

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Both larger pots are new. We bought a bunch of flats with different colors. One is a pot full of yellow and orange flowers, and one is a pot full of purple and red flowers. I can’t wait until they grow together and cascade over the sides. The smaller green bush might not make it, but we removed it from another place and wanted to see how it would do.

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Another pair of new pots, both full of various yellows, whites and greens that grow tall and will cascade down the planter sides.

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On the left is a hydrangea that we trimmed to the base last year. It’s already grown back and starting to get some buds. On the right is a new wisteria vine we will train to grow on the railing once it’s bigger. A few small colors in the base, too.

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We have 5 huge planter boxes full of ivy. In #1 above, we added purples and reds, and a strawberry bush.

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In #2, we have a few bushes, including a very fragrant jasmine tree and some impatiens.

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In #3, we have petunias and foxglove that’s still fairly small and needs to grow.

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In #4, we have a few bushes, heather and a bleeding heart.

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And in #5, we have more colorful perennials.

We’ll need to buy a few more flats with colors for the window boxes and these planters, as well as think about the herb garden… but that’s next weekend. I’ll post new pictures in about 3 weeks when there is enough growth and change!

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 71 – Dark

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Dark: absence of, or very little, light

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When I chose the word “dark” for today, I thought readers may assume I was going macabre and evil. And while that may be a good topic for the future, as there is a little sinister part of me that is dark (in the books I read), today, dark refers to the brightness of a light. So… now you’re probably thinking I’m a little peculiar to choose this as a personality-type trait. But it’s true, I prefer to be in dark, or less bright, environments. Perhaps I should explain…

I’ve mentioned before that eyesight isn’t one of my strengths, which has always meant I’ve felt ‘in the dark’ over a great deal of things. It also means my eyes are very sensitive to bright lights. As a result, I tend to keep the lights on a lower setting than most others. Whether I’m watching TV, resting, or even having a casual conversation, I prefer a dim light… sort of mood-inducing lighting. Even when I’m reading, the lights are on only as high as necessary to not strain my vision while reading the words. It feels more calming and relaxing, rather than as though I’m under a microscope being observed by everyone around me.

Many fear darkness. I do not. I’m not saying I’d be happy to be locked in a room with no lights, nor would I want to roam a dangerous place without any way to see what’s around me. I simply mean it feels natural to have a bit of shade, a way to hide a little, from the surroundings. Bright lights tend to make me feel like I should be up jumping around, being very active, almost on stage for all to see. My quiet nature likes remaining in the background, so this makes sense based on what I’ve noted before in the 365 posts.

But darkness is also a place to go when I need to think. I’m easily distracted by noise or moving objects. If I ever need to mull over an important decision, let my emotions control me, or absorb serenity, I need to be in the dark. To me, darkness is like that stage before life begins. It’s a moment of silence to ponder all that could happen… all that you want to experience. It’s the few minutes before the world consumes your innocence, your opinions and your actions.

Darkness, not bright light, is the initiation of something for me. And that seems a bit odd to say it aloud, but it’s how I associate change or transition. Darkness is that period between two situations, two people, two answers, two of anything… like bookends, leaving what happens in between as a place for all to see. And when I need to re-boot, darkness is the source of “new” for me. I see this as a healthy mindset. It’s not a fear. It’s not a way to avoid something. It’s how I can process growth. It’s that opportunity to reflect on what needs to transition.

Think about how you feel after an intense emotional situation. You’re drained. You feel winded. Your body might even hurt. You need to re-group. You need to find energy. Some people rush to the gym or a sport to revitalize. I search for darkness. I listen to the vacuum around me. My eyes search for the patterns or lines, drawing me towards things I could not see when I was distracted by everything the light had shown me. {I’m not being figurative here… I’m purely talking about true absence or presence of light}

Few often think about these things, from anytime I’ve mentioned it to others. How about you? Do you prefer light or dark lights? Which gives you more energy? What about the brightness of light propels or detracts how you behave?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 70 – Happy Places

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A to Z Happy Place: A list of 26 places that make you happy — challenge posed to any readers who would like to participate. Maybe it’s the innocence of childhood or that favorite vacation spot…. somewhere that always brings a smile to your face

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As a follow-up to last week’s foods from A to Z, this week we’re focusing on the places that have brought us love and excitement, continuing the trend of the seventh day, ending the week on Sunday, as a list (we know I love them) of sorts that provides more in depth knowledge about me.

Rules

  1. Pick something that starts with that letter and add it to your own list. Don’t think about it… just come up with a couple ideas in under five seconds and choose the best of the bunch.
  2. It can be a named place or a general place. But it has to be an actual physical location; not metaphorical!
  3. This is the final week of the AtoZ items… the next grouping will be revealed in a few days!
  4. It’s a fun game, but if you are nominated and DO NOT want to participate, you don’t have to. Just ignore it! Totally OK.
  5. You may not have been nominated, but you can totally participate by following these rules.
  6. Post it as a reply on the person’s blog where you found it. Also post it on your own blog as a new post.
  7. Should we use a tag so we can see all the responses? Suggestions… AtoZPlaces
  8. This may not go anywhere if there is no participation other than me. And that’s OK. The 365 Daily Challenge was about me to start, so I cannot expect or force anyone else.
  9. Have fun and get to know your online friends. Tell us when you post your 26 items.  Thanks!

A to Z Happy Places to Make Me Smile

A – Attics

B – Bookstores

C – Cotswolds

D – Dos Caminos (Mexican restaurant I eat at on Fridays)

E – Erga Bakery in Bethpage when I was growing up

F – Farms

G – Gardens

H – Home

I – Iceland (never been, but I do love the cold weather)

J – Jubilee (French restaurant I eat at once a week)

K – Kitchens

L – Libraries

M – Museums

N – New York City

O – Ocean

P – Parks

Q – Quality Meats (Steak restaurant in NYC)

R – Restaurants

S – Scotland

T – Trolleys

U – University campuses

V – Vineyards

W – Wishing Wells

X – X-Mas Tree Lots

Y – Yellowstone Park

Z – Zoo

People You Are Tagging

NO ONE! Anyone who wants to participate should… But someone has to or my friend below is gonna come after you!

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post.