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365 Challenge: Day 360 – Titchy

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Titchy: very small or tiny, but also the word chosen by a fellow blogger and friend who you should be following– check out her post twitchy today!

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Kelsey at The Loyal Brit Wit blog and I met around 7 to 8 months ago after realizing we were both doing daily word challenges… while I tend to throw out a word and find something interesting to say about it, Kelsey takes it a step further and provides a creative piece of writing that includes the word and/or impressions and characteristics of the word. Sometimes it’s a brilliant excerpt from a story, and in others it’s a full poem. Whatever she chooses, I learn a titchy bit new that day… I wonder if I used that word properly. You see, it’s a UK word… so not only am I learning new things to say, but I’m getting more British just by reading her blog. How fun is that! If you haven’t already, I’m highly encouraging you to stop by and visit the link above to see what she’s produced in the past… and what she’s considering doing next as she’s also in the process of finishing her 365 days of a word challenge. I guess the world is a titchy place after all… wait, I don’t think I used it properly there either. Kelsey (or any other of my UK friends), I apologize in advance for any mistakes I’ve made here with the use of this very fantastic word! But go check her site out; you won’t regret it!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 311 – Purpose

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Purpose: the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists

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This morning has been different, but I expected it to be. W needed to get back to work today, and with Ryder gone, it means I’m alone in the apartment for the first time. Between the silence, frequent memories and constant head shake when I realize I don’t need to give Ryder his pill, check the water bowls, let him outside or look for him between my feet as I wander around, I’m lost this morning. I felt it the most when I sat on the couch with a cup of coffee and began reading through overnight email. It’s part of the process and I understand it takes time to figure it all out. I question the purpose of taking away such a lovable member of my family too many years too early. Part of what I am struggling with today is the realization that my life will be different. When I left my corporate position over a year ago, I felt like I had less of a purpose than I did previously. I no longer needed to leave the apartment on a certain schedule, nor did I have a deliverable due to a boss or an organization to support. With Ryder gone, there’s one less thing I am responsible for, which has made me question my own purpose again.

It’s mostly in that no one truly needs me or my attention in the same way they did before. As an author, my deadlines are generally my own, which can be positive and negative. I still have milestones to reach, networking to do with fans and followers, and stories to tell, but they are because I want to and choose to focus on these tasks — not because someone tells me I have to do it, or because I am a caregiver. I’m not ready to pick up my second novel, Father Figure, and begin wading through the beta reader feedback I received last week; that is the next step on this book. I will not meet my February goal to have it with the publisher to begin their launch process, but that’s okay and I can re-adjust my schedule to fit what will work for me right now. There is one thing I can and need to do when it comes to fleshing out my purpose. And that’s the 365 Daily Challenge.

When I began this daily blog challenge on March 13th, 2017, it was 365 consecutive days to post a characteristic about myself, ending on March 12th, 2018. After a few months, the daily blog challenge evolved to include my connections with other people (author alerts and spotlights), interesting news about my novel, or lists that we could all debate. It seems the daily blog challenge will need to evolve once again, as I missed 5 consecutive days of blogging while supporting Ryder and grieving his loss. But I’m okay with the change and in no way do I feel like I didn’t follow the course I set for myself back when this started. As I thought about it over the weekend, it became clear how to pull this back together. I could double up posts, but in full disclosure, the next few days or weeks are going to be difficult to focus on strong, quality content; one post per day is quite enough. Thus, I’ve found a solution that works for me.

I’m going to extend the daily blog challenge by 5 days, which means it will now end on March 17, 2018. In a way, this is more ideal. This challenge was born out of all the major changes going on in my life at the time — leaving a job, publishing a book and turning 40. My 41st birthday is March 18, 2018. With the new end date being the day before my birthday, it’s a fitting way to end one year (plus 5 days!) of introspection into who I am. As I wind down in those last few weeks in March, I will reflect back through the year on this journey; everything from Ryder’s Rants to the Author Alerts, the lists of things that described who I am to the stories I’ve shared about my life. My goals are still front and center, and the extra five days provides me a way to jump into the next year of my life with so many positive changes and friendships. It also gives me a chance to work through my grief and find the best path for my future — to find my purpose.

Thank you to everyone for their support and guidance the last few days (and the last ten months)… and believing in me and this 365 Daily Challenge — plus five!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 300 – 300

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300: a number that seems to follow me around a lot

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Today’s word for the 365 Daily Challenge is actually a number. I had a few other thoughts planned for this post, but I need to spend time thinking about the next set of 5 Sunday list items for the challenge; I’ve opted for a quick post today — a few things about 300:

  • As a bowler — when I was younger, that is — I strove to hit that 300 mark every game. It meant 12 strikes in a row — 12 perfectly executed and timed releases knocking down all ten pins. While I came close, I haven’t ever achieved it. Nor will I, as I stopped bowling years ago. When I try to bowl the occasional game or two now, it’s usually interrupted midway by drinks, laughter and silliness. None of my friends are frequent bowlers, so inevitably, if we do bowl, it’s not taken seriously. I also feel like I’m heaving my entire body down the lane when I try to bowl recently. Perhaps age is a factor, but when I walk up the onset to the lane, there’s a part of me that thinks… ‘what am I gonna hurt this time?’
  • I’ve never seen the movie 300, but I’ve been a fan of Gerard Butler for years. Not sure why I didn’t watch it, other than I tend to avoid ‘war’ movies, but I love ancient Greek battles. I think that’s what it’s about… who knows… perhaps I’ll check it out today. It reminds me I would like to go back and read the Oedipus Rex trilogy again. It’s been almost twenty years.
  • 300 seconds is 5 minutes. (Yeah, I told you I was good at math, and that sometimes I’m Captain Obvious – LOL)… point being… whenever I do cardio, it is for 30 minutes with a 5-minute warm-up and 5-minute cool down. Those two parts are the hardest to get through. During the 30 minutes, I think about plans, writing, books, etc.; however, I actually count from 300 to 1 during the initial and final parts because I can’t wait for it to be over. I force myself to go slower, it’s usually when my body is unwilling to workout (either not ready to start or just wants to stop)… so I feel like I’ve always got the 300 count going down inside my head. When I lose track of my count, I get frustrated and then force myself to start at 300 again. I’m cruel.
  • Today is the 300th post of the 365 Daily Challenge. When I set up the templates for this week, the last one I created was #300. I vividly recall thinking: ‘Wow, you’re getting close to the end, which means it is time to start writing a few key lessons learned to share with everyone.’ But I haven’t done it. I wonder if I’ve changed in the last 300 days, either in style or voice on the blog. I may go back and re-read the early posts to see if I notice anything…

That’s probably long enough for a post today. Anyone recommend the movie 300, or should I skip it?

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 183 – Doggedly (RYDER RANT)

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Doggedly: in a manner that shows tenacity and grim persistence

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Ryder’s Rants is back, must mean it’s Monday. Had a hard time searching for a word today. There aren’t a whole lot with ‘dog’ in them that have anything good for me to talk about. Went with ‘doggedly’ today since there’s something that has been persistently driving me bonkers lately. Have you ever had one of your toys follow you around wherever you go? I do. It’s Ducky. He constantly quacks all night long, tries to snuggle with me and just plain gets all up in my grill. He weighs like 3 ounces, has lost most of his feathers (someone likes to bite him — not me — just sayin’) and smells worse than I do after a week without a bath. The only way to stop Ducky is to throw myself at him with full force. Well, I throw my rear end into him with full force. You’ve probably heard of headbutting someone, right? Well, I use my butt to headbutt someone. Except I got confused this week and started doing it to both the Dads. They find it funny. Not sure why. I’m just trying to exert my dominance over anything and everything that lives in my house. And I’m only twenty pounds, not that heavy. But they act like I’ve thrown a whole building on them when they feel my wrath.

Doggedly pursuit. That’s what I’m all about lately. To keep things in check around here. Though I’m not sure about that word ‘grim’ in the definition, since I finally got my brisket. Twice! Dinner and lunch. Dad made it Friday. He finally found it at the market the next day. Lucky him. There would have been hell to pay if I didn’t get my birthday present. It was delicious. I watched it cook in the over for five hours on Friday. And then again for 30 minutes on Saturday. Takes too long if you ask me. I have things to do. Can’t just watch stuff cook all the time. Right?

It was a quiet weekend around here. No visitors. They usually have people over. Sometimes I get kinda bored with just them — not a whole lot of interesting things about those two. They did work on my Enchanted Garden. Pruned the wisteria bush. Now it doesn’t have enough vines to attack me for a few weeks. That’ll be nice. It gets a little scary worrying every time I go outside if it might be my last. And now the bees seem to have taken up residence in one of the planter boxes. They like those bushes that make raspberries. I haven’t gotten to taste any berries yet. As you can probably tell, I’m not treated very fairly around here. I should be able to eat anything I want. But no flowers or plants, they remind me constantly. Seriously? I might go on a hunger strike if they keep telling me what I can’t eat around this joint. But oh, the bees. I like to chase them, and try to bite them when they fly too close. I did that once when I was a puppy. And I caught one! Except it was an angry bee. Stupid thing stung my tongue. Turned it all black for a few days. I even have a small scar on it now. Made me angry. All I wanted to do was eat it. Geez.

Let’s see… I thought I should forewarn you that Dads leave on a two-week vacation this Sunday. So I will have full control of the blog. Well, maybe not. I think they are sending me to Ella’s again. That’s a long time. I am not sure I will forgive them this time. We’ll see how it goes. The only good news to share about my little trip is that I know Dad 1 is going to the Petco this week to buy supplies. He usually brings me back new treats and a new toy when he goes to the store. It’s only right. I do bring tons of love and joy around this otherwise boring place. So today’s word, I guess I should explain that. Minus the grim part. As I don’t agree with that being part of the definition.

But the reason I chose doggedly is not for me. It’s for Dad 1. He’s been doggedly pursuing this 365 Daily Challenge for such a long time. Actually, that’s the news I wanted to share. Today it is officially 50% complete with 183 posts available to read on the blog! Can you believe it? He started the challenge back in March and has finished a full six months. I bet it all goes down hill from here. No one’s that creative. Well maybe I am, but he won’t let me be in charge of it. Next time you hear from me, I’ll be with Ella. Have a great week! And send me something. I’ll get bored while Dads are away. Yes, I’ll miss them too. Bye!!!!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 132 – Casual

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Casual: relaxed and unconcerned

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Every once in a while, you wake up on the other side of the bed. Literally. Not physically. I have a dog that prevents me from moving at night, so waking up in a different part of the bed is not usually an issue. On the floor is a possibility, as with every hour that goes by, his little paws push me an inch closer to the edge. One day, I will be knocked off. And that’s the only day it will ever happen. I push back. I’ll tie up all his stuffed animal toys just above where he can reach them on the wall and see what he does about it. Evil. That’s me sometimes. Unpredictable. Relaxed. Casual.

Most people on this blog probably know me as a bit too organized and formal when it comes to my posts. I never just wing it… for the last week, I’ve been drafting the posts at night and scheduling them for the next morning. It gave me an opportunity to spend more time writing “Father Figure” with less distractions and worry over “oh, yeah, gotta get to that 365 post.” But last night, I was in a good mood and we went out to dinner, then watched some TV and I had a book to finish (review to come later), so no 365 post was drafted last night. This morning… I went to check that the post was released and went “Aaack… I still have to write something.”

Casual. Sometimes just writing what’s on your mind and combining a few things together is OK. It’s still putting in effort, but it’s also allowing our bodies some time to re-group. Writing the 365 posts isn’t difficult, but when you want them to have substance, it does require a good chunk of uninterrupted time. So today’s post is going to be about letting go and just doing whatever feels natural and normal at that moment. Nothing pre-planned. Nothing forced. Nothing formal. I’m not even going to discuss what being casual means or why it’s important. From this point forward in today’s post, I’m just gonna tell you what’s going on in my life this weekend. “I can grow. I can change,” said the boy as his nose doubled in size.

I have an arbor to build and install on the NYC Terrace Garden. It might need a hashtag. Although, Ryder (9-year old shiba inu) calls it the Enchanted Garden. He has his own Facebook page… “Ryder the Cat-Like Dog” {Aside: Yes, he can talk… it’s a strange little voice my friend Paul invented, but W has taken it over and now Ryder chats all day long, asking for food, demanding more flowers in the garden, wanting his allowance to go out with friends to the local bar. We like to keep it fun around here.} This arbor is going to be quite a little project, as it’s for a new wisteria tree. It never ends around here. Our friend Matt is very concerned as wisteria is invasive; he fears one day, he won’t hear from us and when he stops by to check on us… the wisteria will have grown through the always open bathroom window… into the apartment… trapping us against the walls and taking over like a jungle. Poor Ryder will be trying to bite his way out. He’d just as soon leave us here to die, taking any cash and starting a new life, I’m sure. That dog while adorable is the most independent codependent dependent unusual creature next to… well… me. #EnchantedGarden #NYCTerraceGarden

And then there’s Game Night tonight, where a bunch of friends of ours are getting together for drinks, pizza, cards and games. It’s an amazing night of fun where someone brings a new game we all learn and play… it’s often very adult in its childishness… a very dirty cartoon version of Cards Against Humanity was once played. I’m still recovering from those pictures and what people made a few stick figures do. And the last time we played, it was the Voting Game where you vote for which person is most like the phrase on the card. I got a few really bad ones. And a few good ones. I think they voted me most likely to be a serial killer. Not Good! Tonight though… I think it will be more card games. And I’ve settled on wine as my beverage of choice — no hangovers needed while trying to finish that arbor tomorrow. And I’m writing Sunday’s post this afternoon, as it’s time for either Pennsylvania or San Francisco, the last two other places I’ve lived.

My stream-of-conscious knows no bounds today. It was a productive week. I let myself accept being casual and relaxed over a few things. I accomplished a lot. And I’m giving myself a break this weekend from constantly being on the computer… at least tomorrow… as today will be catching up on anything outstanding: 3 award, 3 tags, book review, 365 post, author spotlight, reading plans, etc. Hitting the gym soon. Reading Hidden Bodies, the sequel to You. And preparing my list of questions for the agent and publisher I’m meeting with next week. I’ve got some good things brewing on that front… very exciting. But I won’t go into any details until I know if something is working out or not. And other than that, I’m going to relax. It’s time to just have a day where whatever gets done, gets done. Last thing on my mind, I owe you a response from last week’s post…

Unpredictable Reminder

  • In last week’s 365 Daily Challenge Unpredictable post, I noted I’d confirm what I selected for my list of things to put in the hat. After discussion with the significant other, we settled on NYC Things To Do. We’re always finding we have blocks of hours available on the weekend in between errands, house or garden maintenance and hanging out with friends. Rather than toss the ball back and forth, never settling on anything, we’re going to list 26 items in NYC with all the key info: location, directions, open days/times, categories, website links and who is responsible for planning it. We will put them together in the next few weeks to start in September. I estimate we will pull from that hat every other weekend, but we will have pre-planned things to do for about a year. We still need to decide if it’s a physical hat or an electronic program (he hates technology, so it might be a good punishment for him to be in charge of this… and if you’re reading this part, W, you did agree to this while you were half asleep the other night) to make the choice during each selection. What did you all decide to do with your unpredictable challenge?

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Danielle @ Books, Vertigo @ Tea. Danielle and I met about 4 months ago over a few books we were both reading around the same time. Our favorite reading genres tend to cross paths a lot, as we’re often recommending books to one another. But we also have different reading tastes, so it always becomes interesting to see what we’re chatting about! Danielle is a really cool person to chat with, especially when you get on topics that you both have in common. She’s recommended a few teas to me, though I’m a coffee drinker. She suffers from vertigo, which is awful, but she has a good approach about it all, which makes reading her entries about what’s going on in her life quite interesting. I enjoy chatting and commenting back and forth, and I believe you will, too. Stop by her site, check out the extremely varied books she reads. Danielle’s on several social media apps too, which makes connecting quite easy. She has tons of recommendations by genre and a fantastic game / poll called “You Choose, I Read” where you can pick the book she reads in the future. Go check it out now!
    • “I am Danielle, a 30 “ish” yr old mother of two. I have an insatiable appetite for all things books. I adore bookstores, libraries, and falling asleep while surrounded by my current reads. I prefer to do the latter with tea in hand. I also happen to be a fan of my kids, anime, food, and life in general when I can partake! I am also 100% anti-adulting when possible, so if you are easily offended, I apologize in advance 😉But only a little, because life is seriously too short to be serious all of the time. You will probably see a little bit of everything that is me here at Books, Vertigo and Tea. Enjoy!”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 97 – Far-Away

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Far-Away: distant from others, as in space or time

In yesterday’s 365 Daily Challenge, there were two definitions for the word distant, but I only covered the first one, meaning reserved or cool; not intimate. Today, we shall explore what I intended in the second meaning of “distant,” relative to being far away from our family and friends, due to either distance or time.

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Life is full of change. People come in and out at different points, usually depending on the circumstances surrounding both of your lives. There’s an old expression that says something along the lines of “You can’t change your family. They’re blood relations.” While we could play word games all day and explore family by marriage or adoption, I’m not looking to find all the hidden meanings in these words. But what I do want to discuss is how important a role family plays in your life. A little background:

As I’ve posted before, I am an only-child, but both of my parents have a bunch of siblings who all grew up on Long Island. I have around 15 first cousins whom I essentially grew up with, each living somewhere between 2 minutes and 20 minutes away from me. Perhaps a story for another day, but I wasn’t aware of 2 of the cousins until my grandfather passed away when I was in high school. I met them for the first time at his funeral, not ever knowing they lived in the same town and I went to high school with one of them. {Aside: Not for nothing, but what if I ended up dating one of them without our families knowing… how crazy would that be!} Nonetheless, apart from that one set of relatives, I saw my family nearly every weekend.

We’d have dinners during the week, holiday parties, summer barbecues, impromptu visits and regular play dates. We were all very close, as my parents were close with their siblings for most of their lives. Over the years, for various circumstances, the family has grown further apart. One aunt passed away, but we still see my uncle and cousins. They are the only ones to remain on Long Island with one other exception. The rest have all moved away to Florida or Pennsylvania. My generation, all the cousins, have scattered even further. We’ve moved to the west coast, all over the country and even to Asia and Eastern Europe. Scattered. The family has scattered. Throughout those years, I’ve been both close and distant with each of my cousins, sometimes dependent on our ages and at others where we lived.

You’re thinking… Captain Obvious again, Jay. Sometimes we’re close, sometimes we’re not. True. But my question is… when it’s family, should we make more of an effort? I love them all. I like them all. Some I probably wouldn’t be friends with if they weren’t relatives. Some I probably would be close with even if we weren’t related. As the 15 of us are now all between 25 and 43, we are the generation having children and beginning to think about the future of our family. We try to keep up with texting and social media, sometimes calls and the occasional visit or get-together. But it’s nothing like we did as children with our parents and grandparents. In one way, it’s sad. In another, it’s an exciting challenge, meaning, as we each see the world, we can grow and expand the knowledge of our family.

But are the days of the close-knit family essentially gone? Is this circumstantial to just my family (and people like us)? Is it due to most of us wanting to get off of Long Island? {Aside: It’s a beautiful place, but very congested and hard to travel anywhere. Minimum 2 hours to get outside of the island and beyond NYC, which makes weekend trips a bit difficult} Is it generational with those of us born from 1975 through current days? Or is it that we are too selfish to purposely keep the family connections intact and intimate?

For me, it’s a bit of a pattern. I had a group of grammar school friends, but I don’t see them anymore. We’ll occasionally exchange a message on Facebook or Instagram, but it’s rare — even with my best friend who lived next door. We spent every day together for 18 years, then every summer together during college years. But nearly 20 years later, it’s quite different. Same with my high school and college friends. We grow further and further apart. I’ve got a small group of close friends that my partner and I see frequently, and there is a lot of substance there, but none have known me for decades like some of my former oldest friends… or my family.

Is this how life is, e.g. transient in the sense you pick up and move, find new friends and go on? Technology makes it easier and harder to stay connected. When you have a smart phone, you can see what everyone is doing. Yet at the same time, you’re less inclined to physically get together. While I’m not upset or depressed by everything I’ve just said, I am curious how this plays out for the next 40 years of my life (or more… since I might just live forever). If my partner and I move outside of NY, will we need to start over and find new friends to regularly see in person? Will I grow further apart from family? We don’t have children now, and probably won’t in the future (never really finished that conversation), what happens to us when we’re in our 60s and 70s… are we the great uncles to our cousins and his siblings kids that randomly visit from time to time?

I’m just thinking aloud. I’m a very happy person, so these are just questions that I ponder. How about you? What relationships do you have with your family today? And how do you see that changing in your future? And your friends? Let’s be honest… we say we will stay connected forever… and at 20, I believed it. At 40, I see reality. Or is it just my perception? Let’s get to the root of this… I look forward to hearing from everyone.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

AWARD: Cramm

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Many thanks to FitnessGrad for nominating me for the Cramm Award. She and I connected about a month ago and have exchanged some fun banter on our sites. You need to stop by to visit her blog, as it is all about her sanctuary for the body and mind. Cool stuff!

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The Cramm Award was created by Liv, the owner of theCramm, an awesome blog, visit it here to see the rest for yourself, you’ll not regret it as I’ve been told. I am checking it out myself this week. It’s got quite a unique approach to the news from my initial quick gander!!!

Rules 

  1. Include a little bit about who created this award (with a link) and mention the person the who nominated you.
  2. Share 3 things that motivate you to blog and share 3 people that motivate you to blog as well
  3. Share one thing you hope to do that will improve the world.
  4. Answer your challenge question
  5. Nominate your choice of bloggers and give them a challenge question.

 

My Blogging Motivators

  • Things:
    • (1) The 365 Daily challenge motivates me to push myself every day. Instead of just posting randomly or when I think of an idea, it’s a little pressure to keep my writing abilities on their toes, to ensure I communicate with fellow readers and writers each day, and to challenge my intellect to come up with unique and interesting content.
    • (2) Reading is important to me. I want everyone to know that. And I am consistent and whole in everything I do. Creating a book review for everything I’ve ever read is another challenge to push my limits. Sometimes my memory is strong, but at others it isn’t. And when it isn’t, I find ways to make the review interesting. I’ll hit my total of 500 pre-read books this month. I know I forgot some, but I’ll address those as I remember them.
    • (3) The Future. Doing this is helping me figure out what I want to do with my life besides “work” and “play.” Seeing my strengths and weaknesses. Figuring out my voice and perspective. Am I funny? Am I serious? Do I use proper formatting and grammar? Do I have a style? Helps figure out my writing identity and possibly people who might be interested in reading my current book or future books.

  • People:
    • (1) All my online followers friends. Interacting with everyone means people enjoy what I have to say, so why would I stop? It may mean less some days and more other days, but as long as I have positive and collaborative communication with each of you, I’ll blog. When I get bored, boring or redundant, it’ll slow down. Thank you for being such a great community.
    • (2) My significant other has been very supportive of my decision to take this year off and focus on my creative outlets, rather than work full-time in a corporate position. I may go back to work this summer, but the blogging won’t stop. He’s been helpful, reads some and responds, and stays out of it too. It’s a fair balance and I’m grateful to have such a connection.
    • (3) My friend and former co-worker, Lisa. She and I no longer see each other regularly because we live in different states, but each time we talk, she brings up so many of these posts, ideas and comments… makes me realize that I have great friends, too. And she encourages me to keep pushing these limits to see how far I can go with my blogging and writing.

 

My World Improving Action:

  • If I could change one thing, it would be in how we [the world] communicate with one another. Few are open-minded and listen. People hear what they want to hear and say things without realizing the words they choose and the tone surrounding it. I’m guilty of it from time to time, too. But if we all just took a moment to relax and have an honest and open conversation, recognize there is no need for violence and hatred, we’d be a little bit closer to where we need to be. If I could do anything, I’d want to spread that word from person to person, so we’d all try just a little bit harder. It may sound a bit silly or useless, but instead of responding when you are upset with someone, stop and think… why did they do it? why did they say it? Could I look at this differently? And then when you do respond, see if there’s a way to discuss it rather than blast emails or words back and forth until someone feels horrible or does something bad. So… perhaps by helping a few people via my daily posts, something will start a little fire around the world. A guy can hope, right?

 

Challenging Question

  • If you could join the “TEAM” who’d be changing the world, what role would you play?
  • To be fair, I’ll answer it as well:
    • I’d be the project manager because that’s my greatest strength. I have a great memory for tasks, I’m very strong in communicating, I am quite organized and I change the way I work to suit the person I’m working with… thus ensuring we can collaborate successfully together. Plus, I have high expectations and I tend to hold people accountable to their duties. I don’t accept failure.

 

My Nominees Are:

 

About Me

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. Once you hit my site “ThisIsMyTruthNow” at https://thisismytruthnow.com, you can join the fun and see my blog and various site content. You’ll find book reviews, published and in-progress fiction, TV/Film reviews, favorite vacation spots and my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge.” Since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life… see how you compare! Each month, I will post a summary of a trip I’ve taken somewhere in the world. I’ll cover the transportation, hotel, restaurants, activities, who, what, when, where and why… and let you decide for yourself if it’s a trip worth taking.

Feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Tell me what you think.