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AWARD: One Lovely Blog

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I was nominated by 5 wonderful bloggers for the One Lovely Blog Award several months ago, but I’m just coming up for air to address a few missed posts in the past… All of these women are truly inspirational and remarkable… you must visit their sites as there is something new and fun every single day. From book reviews to blog tours, learning to laughing, and all the way to recipes, you’re bound to spend hours getting lost in their amazing forums.

Read Rant Rock and Roll

The Cozy Pages

Valerie’s Musings

Two Gals and a Book

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Thank you for the nomination!

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RULES:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you
  2. Share 7 facts about yourself
  3. Nominate 15 bloggers and inform them of the nomination

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SEVEN FACTS ABOUT  ME:

1. I’m making mini-coconut and chocolate cakes for Easter.

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2. I rarely go to the movie theater. I prefer to wait for them to come out on one of the digital apps / television subscriptions I have.

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3. I am starting up 3 new segments on the blog in April. I can’t wait to launch each post.

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4. My favorite season is autumn and I can’t wait for it to come back.

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5. I’ve been back to eating healthy after the doctor yelled at me said my cholesterol is too high. I want cheese again!!!

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6. I’m going to England and Italy for 3 weeks in May.

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7. My second novel, Father Figure, will be released in early May, 2018.

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MY NOMINEES:

  1. Rugby843
  2. Carlalovestoread
  3. Thebookwormdrinketh
  4. Malia @ Princessandpen
  5. mnbernardbooks
  6. writercammieadams
  7. watchingthedaisies
  8. bookloverblogs.com
  9. wakinguponthewrongsideof50
  10. createspaceweb
  11. bvitelli2002
  12. carrierubin
  13. countdownto95
  14. theorangutanlibrarian
  15. bewareofthereader

 

Happy reading and tagging!

Jay

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About Me
For those new to me or my reviews… here’s the scoop: I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon. I write A LOT. I read A LOT. And now I blog A LOT. First the book review goes on Goodreads, and then I send it on over to my WordPress blog at https://thisismytruthnow.com, where you’ll find the revealing and introspective 365 Daily Challenge – words and humor. You can also find all my social media profiles to get the details on the who/what/when/where and my pictures. Leave a comment and let me know what you think. Thanks for stopping by. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators. Follow my blog with Bloglovin.

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365 Challenge: Day 358 – HealthyLiving

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HealthyLiving: a lifestyle we should all embrace and an opportunity to connect with a wonderful team who organizes wellness events and educational sessions hosted in their new Healthy Living room (online and in person components)

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As many of the readers on this blog know, I’ve been focused on a year-long challenge to find myself again. On this journey, I often turn to friends, family and new acquaintances to help navigate the path. Many years ago in my corporate life, I worked for an amazing leader and mentor named Jackie. Although I moved on from the company when I relocated to California, I never lost touch with her. We’d get together for a lunch here and there, catch up with one another at former colleague events, and chat online to stay in touch. Besides technology, Jackie has always had a passion for living and breathing a healthy lifestyle that embraces learning about yourself, determining the right future path and understanding how to be the best you that you can be. In her journey the last few years, she’s partnered with her family and some amazing friends and organizations to open the possibilities for not only her life but for everyone else, too. As part of a larger umbrella of organizations and people dedicated to lifestyle changes, she’s created the O’Brien Family Wellness program and has opened a location in her new ‘Healthy Living Room’ at the Yoga Darshana Center on Long Island in New York.

While you’ll see a few pictures and learn about the upcoming OPEN HOUSE at this physical brick-and-mortar location, there are many other services and lifestyle learning opportunities available through online video sessions. If you live outside the Long Island area, you can still become a member, visit the website, have calls and sessions through multiple technology innovations. So many of us have busy schedules or days, which means finding the time to relax and renew isn’t easy. Sometimes you are interested but might not have any solid recommendations or you might not know someone else who’s used the services from a business or wellness center you think looks helpful. Today’s 365 post is an opportunity to meet a great friend of mine, a former boss and mentor, and a woman leading by example with the creation of a place where everyone can share and support one another in the quest to embrace positive lifestyle changes for healthy living.

I’ve trusted and been a fan of Jackie’s for ~15 years. You won’t find a much stronger or more dependable person than her. Please take a few minutes to checkout her Facebook page and Healthy Living website below. Perhaps you’ll find a new product or service that will be of interest. Or a new organization to follow and get some tips from. Or maybe you’ll connect with a new group of wonderful people to help you figure out how to make changes in your life.  Let’s dive into a few pictures and an overview…

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Welcome to the Healthy Living Room sponsored by O’Brien Family Wellness.  Are you ready for a positive lifestyle change? Then book an ‘Upgrade My Life’ session with one of our coaches. Our 30 minute free sessions are by appointment only.

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Services offered

Chemical Free Product Experiences and Wellness Presentations for skin care, makeup, personal care, emotional well-being cleaning, babies, children, animals and weight management.

Learn how to become a Young Living member as part of TriHarmony Oilers and begin your life changing journey of wellness.

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Join the Living Fit Club to help your Mind, Body and Soul

Activity Tracker for eating healthy and water intake management

Design your life journaling

Individual and team challenges

Lifestyle Coaching

Recipe Library

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Hmm… that book looks familiar!

Key Links

Facebook Page

Join the Group

Upcoming 3/25 Open House Event

Located at the Yoga Darshana Center

180 Great East Neck Road, Suite # 5

West Babylon, NY 11704

Phone: 631-747-8709

Meet the Extraordinary Team

Jackie O’Brien

Young Living Silver Leader and IIN Certified Health Coach

 Cell # 631-747-8709

Healthy Living Website   https://yldist.com/obrienfamilywellness/

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Jolanta Bazyte

Young Living Executive Leader, Transformation Coach and IIN Health Coach

 Cell # 631-398-5598

Website – http://vibrantessentialoils.com

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Cristina Valente

Young Living Executive Leader, IIN Certified Health Coach and Living Fit Club Coach

Cell # 631-438-2977

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Pam Grant Bilfeld

Young Living Senior Distributor, IIN Health Coach and Life Coach

Cell # 516-509-1907

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Rasa Majkrzak

Young Living Senior Distributor and a deep believer in natural healing

Cell # 631-521-5642

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I often try to provide a a brief message in my post and let readers decide if it’s worth exploring. If you’re not already convinced, drop by the Facebook group and follow to see a few posts or comments. It might help you decide what changes you might want to make to find that inner calm and peace in life. Thanks for reading today’s 365 post.

 

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 138 – Reminder

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Reminder: a message or communication designed to ensure that someone remembers something

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I often compare myself to others. It’s part of my intellect, instinct and introversion. No matter the situation, my innate response is to analyze where I fit on the scale among others. Some argue this will only lead to disappointment or frustration. Others believe it’s essential to existing in our society. I see both sides of the struggle and fall somewhere in the middle on the ideal route upon which one should embark; however, life is not a contest. With billions of people on this planet, it’s a certainty that you’ll never know if you truly are the best or at the top of the list. It’s practically a guarantee that someone else out there is just a step beyond where you are, which means you’re probably just trying to compare yourself to the immediate group of people around you. And if you can accept that someone else is better at it, ask yourself why you still feel the need to do the comparison at all?

For me, comparisons aren’t always about deciding when I’m better at something than someone else. It’s about understanding where I fall within the overall range. I find it helpful to know whether I possess more or less skills in a certain area, as it can be a guide post to help me determine whether it’s something I should put added focus towards. For example, if I want to be a bowler, I need to know whether I’m good or not, what my weaknesses are, how to improve in certain areas. That’s a healthy comparison. It’s determining the path to meet your objectives without criticizing yourself for the current state. It’s the process of learning and growing.

I will often compare myself to others strictly for the sense of deciding a bit of my own self-worth. Not in a heavy way where it thoroughly depresses me, but enough to recognize it’s not a good approach. I’ll see pictures of guys in extremely well-fitting suits, highlighting all the reasons I find someone or a certain style attractive. I then wear something I believe is similar, yet it looks very different on me due to either my height or body proportion. I immediately find myself unhappy, and it will even sometimes damper my mood for a good portion of whatever event I’d be going to. A suit changing my entire composure. This is an unhealthy comparison. There’s nothing I can do about some of those situations. Even if I custom-tailored a suit or hired a fitness trainer to change the shape and size of certain body parts, it wouldn’t achieve the exact same look. I’d have to go through surgery to stretch my bones to reach the height I think I need to be able to pull off said look. That’s an example of an unhealthy comparison. How silly is that?

Then there are those in between areas where you are not necessarily on a marathon to be the absolute best at something, rather a smaller race you’ve designed yourself in which there is a specific person as a target. For the creative types, we’re often thinking… Am I a better writer/painter/artist/photographer than “x” ? Do I build characters or capture the perfect amount of light more than “y” ? The goal always changes. Sometimes you’re comparing yourself to a favorite artist you enjoy. Others, it’s a friend or colleague you find competitive. And often it’s someone who’s winning awards or gaining popularity. You ask yourself, “Can I really beat that person?” If managed properly, this can be a healthy comparison, but it’s rare any of us approach it properly. If you are challenging yourself to continue to evolve and improve, it’s healthy. If you are hoping to move your supposed ranking up the scale one peg at a time, knocking down the people around you, it’s probably not healthy.

I’m definitely not an expert or guru in this area. I am competitive. I have a need to be number one at all things I do. I choose to do very few things for this reason, as I certainly can’t be perfect at everything I do. Last night, as I read a few chapters from a book, I kept thinking to myself… “this author develops characters with so much more depth than I do.” When I got back from the gym yesterday, I made a comment to myself about still not eliminating the love-handles. And when I checked the ratings on something that is updated weekly, I had dropped a ranking. Wow… three unhealthy approaches in a row. So I’m not an expert. But I do know how to manage it. It’s a constant reminder to ask myself “what is so important about this supposed competition?” If I don’t have a good answer, then I need to drop the need to compare and replace it with a need to grow.

It comes down to choosing how to spend your time. Ten minutes of complaining that you’re not where you want to be. Fifteen minutes wasted, hoping you can change something that is literally impossible to change. Five minutes of binge-eating cookies that will later add another 20 minutes to the cardio session to drop the 5 pounds you need to lose to fit into the suit you think will make you look the way the model does but will not because you have a different body type which cannot be altered because you’d have to spend thousands to break your bones and add 4 inches to your height so that you can then say “I’m the best.” WTF? That’s “what the fudge” for some of you…

So really, when you find yourself comparing things… make sure you know why. There might be an alternative path to reaching the goal hidden just below that fake goal you think you are really trying to achieve. I’m not trying to look like the model who wore that suit. I’m trying to say “I’m proud of who you are and the efforts you’ve put in.” So I’ll worry less about all those things above and more about building the foundation for the future I plan to have. And in all sincerity, today’s post is not even about me… it’s more about the idea of comparisons and how our minds work. I’m really not in need of a change in approach or a friend to make things seem better. I’m hoping to share some ways that help me get out of the constant comparison rat race. These are simply words that we all need to remember to remind ourselves from time to time.

And that’s what I’m doing today in the 365 Daily Post. Simply reminding us… as that’s what happened during a morning conversation with a very good friend. Thank You, Friend. And I felt the need to pass it on…

Oh, but you will… I make sure of it. I am the best at helping people pass!

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Melanie @ MelToTheAny. We met around 4 to 5 months ago either on Goodreads or WordPress, I don’t remember for sure, as we chat back and forth not only on those sites, but also on Twitter, Instagram, BlogLovin’, and even a few others.  We’re both all over social media, constantly talking about books and commenting on each other’s posts. She also snaps lots of pictures of the books she’s bought, received or reading, and it’s always fun and cute photos with some interesting connection to the story; you can feel her personality shining through, as someone you’d totally love to grab a cup of coffee with, maybe near the beach, and just dish about books, authors and characters. She has really great insight, reads tons of different authors and is someone you would enjoy commenting and chatting with throughout the week on different platforms. If you don’t believe me, check out the below blurb from her About Me section and then go visit the site yourself:
    • “Hi, I’m Melanie! I have an unhealthy obsession with signed books. There is nothing better than a rainy day filled with coffee and books. I play way too much League of Legends. I am constantly daydreaming of new tattoos. And I think unconditional love is the most powerful force in the world. I’m also terrible at describing myself. The first thing you’re probably wondering is “why Mel To The Any?” Well, the short answer is that that has been my gaming ID on everything since I was in middle school. I’m now in my late twenties and far too lazy to change everything that I’ve accumulated for almost two decades. Also, I like it and that’s enough for me. I’ve been in love with reading my whole life. In 2009 I started my Goodreads account and discovered I loved reviewing books, as well. I don’t consider this a job, it’s just my passion and an amazing hobby that I am very blessed to be able to do.”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 117 – Foodie

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Foodie:  a person with a particular interest in food; a gourmet

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I have been posting a lot in the last week about serious topics and determined it’s time for something a little more lighthearted. I’ve been thinking about food more than normal this last week and realized it would be a great 365 Daily Challenge post: How many of my online friends consider themselves a foodie? By true definition, I’m probably not your typical foodie. I don’t stay up on all the latest trends. I don’t try to get reservations at all the hottest new restaurants. I don’t watch many modern cooking shows anymore. I used to watch Top Chef, and then my friends who put me in challenges with mystery baskets — they love to test me all the time! But… truth be told… I LOVE food. I spend so much time thinking about food, what I should eat, what I want to cook, what I know how to cook, what’s healthy for me and what will likely put me in an early grave if I don’t stop obsessing over it.

I’ve posted before about being culinary and healthy. I won’t repeat myself here, but rather talk about how I approach my love of food, what I try to do in terms of balancing out the good and the bad, and then pose some questions to everyone else.

Let’s cover my weaknesses first. In no particular order, the foods and beverages I find myself always in the mood for include: champagne, coffee, wine, Jack Daniels & ginger ale, cheese, chocolate, cake, pastries, bagels, bread and oil or butter, sushi, steak tartare, filet mignon, guacamole, ceviche, chimichurri sauce, pizza and nuts. If I could make those my meals every day, I’d be a very happy guy. My heart might give out earlier than I’d like. My clothes would no longer fit. And I’d probably have very little energy to do anything besides sit on the couch. Probably not a good idea in the end, right?

So I compromise. I figure out how to add in fruits and vegetables. I throw in some protein shakes as meal replacements. I drink tons of water. I cut back during some meals so I don’t over-indulge. It’s all about balance for me. I won’t ever stop myself from eating and drinking the things I love. But I certainly can’t let myself just go at it 24/7. I’ve never been violent, but I will fight you for the last piece of something when it’s sitting on a plate taunting us both. And don’t even think you’ll win. When it comes to food, no one comes between me and my mouthwatering desires.

I’ve been trying to manage my dessert-eating and my drinking over the last few years. Not because I have a problem, but because when that good old metabolism monster decides it’s no longer gonna work FOR you and instead now work AGAINST you, I can’t imbibe and consume like I previously could without noticing the little paunch it gives me in return as a genuine thank you for the lovely tasting liquor or sugar… a few rules I’ve given myself from time to time:

  • 5 drinks per week whenever you want, but re-start on Mondays
  • Drink anything on Saturday and Sunday, but nothing weekdays
  • 1 drink per day maximum
  • Drink only when home, not when out at meals
  • Desserts only on weekends
  • Dessert every other day
  • Only homemade desserts, nothing bought already prepared

And to make matters worse, on Sundays, the other half and I watch a TV show called “The Great British Baking Show.” If you’ve never seen it, you are missing out. 12 bakers. 10 weeks. 3 challenges each week from pastry to bread to pie to cake to pudding. Always delicious. And then I try to make something from the show all the time. My cherry cake came out fantastic. Let’s not discuss what may have gone wrong with the Swiss roll tho… talk about having a:

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Sometimes my foodie battle works. Sometimes it doesn’t. But the problem is always apparent when I see these wonderful foods and beverages. I love the way they taste, look, smell, sound and feel. I need them. They need me. I want to understand how it was made. I want to try to make it myself. I want to see different versions. Different colors. Different flavors. Being together is such a perfect harmonic blend. And that’s why I am a foodie. Because it’s not just that I want to eat it and have a momentary bit of happiness… I connect with my food. We have a special relationship. We challenge each other to be better. How bad does that sound?  Yikes…

Some days I go all day without eating much. I’ll drink lots of water. I might have a small piece of fruit or a handful of nuts. I’ve always approached food more as a eat when I’m hungry rather than you must have “x” meals per day and because it’s 12, it’s time for lunch. No… whether right or wrong, I let my body tell me when it needs nourishment. But if I start thinking about food, or I see food, my body says “You are hungry, Jay. Those macarons look delicious. Please feed 12 to me.” And who would seriously argue with that voice… it’s somewhere between Cookie Monster from Sesame Street, Astro from The Jetsons and Scooby Doo.

{Aside: I’m back. Had to eat breakfast cake. Lemon Blueberry Bundt. With Icing.}

 Anyways… I’m a foodie. Are you a foodie? Tell me about your relationship with food. For instance:

  • Do you get up in the middle night out of bed to eat something?
    • I don’t. Once in bed, I stay in bed.
  • Do you have to eat the whole sleeve of cookies once it’s opened?
    • I do. Any other way is wrong.
  • When you go out to eat, is the primary purpose to splurge?
    • Yes. I need two (2) of everything.
  • Do you have a drink with meals at home?
    • I do. It helps the food go down more easily. Especially bubbles.
  • Do you make the foods you see when out or on TV simply to determine if you can do a better job?
    • I do. I’m competitive, remember? And except for that darn Swiss Roll, nothing gets the better of me. @#$%! Swiss Rolls… Stupid cream that bled all over. Looked like a bloody mess. And the plastic stuck everywhere. #$#@$#$

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Mischenko @ ReadRantRock&Roll. The only reason I connect her with my post today for Foodie is because we’ve had several chats about the foods we love and how hard it is to ensure we balance the healthy and the decadent. And though I could have connected her with so many of my 365 posts, I wanted to get her name out there sooner rather than later. We first connected nearly 6 months ago on Goodreads through our commonly shared book interests. We’d been reading some of the same books and looking at each other’s reviews. I can’t remember which one of us took the first step in connecting our e-friendships, but I’m glad it happened. One day, we stumbled across each other on WordPress, too. She shares a book review site with a friend but also has her own site. I have two sites also, and somehow, I think we didn’t realize we sorta knew each other on here, then got connected everywhere. Her site is full of amazing content when it comes to books, but she also has a special focus on children’s stories and healthy lifestyle choices. We’ve bonded over inspirational posts, protein shake and juice meal replacements and how to organize our days. Some day, we will meet in person… She’s someone great to follow, so please check out her personal blog and site.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.