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365 Challenge: Day 224 – Help (LIST: Artist Support)

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Help: the various ways to support someone who is trying to launch a new product or service (like a book)

Help an Author

Sundays are LIST days and today is no different. Do you know someone who recently launched a new product or service (artist, author/book, greeting cards, editing services… it goes on forever!) but you’re not exactly sure how to best help them? Perhaps you’re not a reader or you don’t have a lot of money to purchase their new book or product. That’s OK! You can still be a critical part of his or her team by supporting them in tons of other ways. Below is a quick LIST of possible ways you can help promote or market, whether it’s a writer, painter, artist, creator, editor, musician… adapt the option to fit the service.

  • Tell your friends, family and colleagues all about the person and their product.
  • Write a review (even a simple one):
    • I’ve learned some interesting things about Amazon from reasonably reliable sources. Amazon doesn’t do anything to highlight your book (or product) until you have at least 20 reviews (good or bad). For instance, they might not start suggesting “if you liked product X, you might like product Y” until you have those reviews, assuming if no one writers a review, why would their marketing automation ever pick it up.
    • They may not showcase your product in certain areas on their page if it’s not getting reviews or purchases. They want to promote products that are already selling, so they start first with those who have a lot of reviews.
  • Ask the author or creator HOW you can help them other than buy the book or product. They might already have ideas but no one to test them out.
  • Join their mailing list and then share those emails with your friends.
  • Re-Blog content. It could be some of the author’s posts, or even book reviews by other readers. Keep the momentum going.
  • Social Media
    • Tweet about the artist or author, the book or share what others in your circles have said about it.
    • Post something on Facebook to interest other people. Perhaps fun quotes or pics that might garner new fans.
    • BookTube your thoughts on the genre or author and let others get familiar with the names.
    • Share the cover or painting on Instagram with different hashtags.
    • Like their posts and pages wherever you can.
  • Check at your local bookstores or galleries to see if they have opportunities to highlight authors and artists.
  • Suggest the book for any book clubs you know.
  • Ask for a copy of the book if you can hold a giveaway with a lot of potential people who might then buy it.
  • Ask the author for a 1-page marketing sheet with all the key details so you can tell others about it and find your own method.
  • If you see a great website or app highlighting or promoting other books and products, tell the author as (s)he may not know about alternative places to market.

 

Share any other ideas you might have! Let this be interactive as it always is on the 365 Daily Challenge. I’ve got the best followers, friends and fans… can’t say enough positive things about all of you who are sharing the love. I just want to spread the news to everyone so they know how to help each other. Thank you to everyone for their advice, support and words. It is much appreciated on all levels.

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Sunday posts, the end of each week, have become a theme on This-Is-My-Truth-Now, often organized by groups of five (5) focused on interesting things about my life. I’m continuing the trend of the seventh day, ending the week on Sunday, as a list (we know I love them) that provides more in depth knowledge about me. Past weeks included:

  • Weeks 1 – 5: Primary ethnicity groups and nationalities
  • Weeks 6 – 10: A to Z Favorites
  • Weeks 11 – 15: Colors with an important meaning
  • Weeks 16 – 20: Cities I’ve lived
  • Weeks 21 – 25: Jobs I’ve held
  • Weeks 26 – 30: Top 10 entertainment options
  • Week 31: How to follow or contact me across all social media platforms

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks.

 

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365 Challenge: Day 130 – Prompted

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Prompted: assisted or encouraged to do or say something

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When I was 16 years old, our English teacher had us write letters to ourselves, listing a few goals, some fears, and things currently on our mind. He took them, nothing that he’d mail them to us in 5 years. A few people laughed, as they didn’t intend on living in the same place when the time came due. Others were afraid to reveal any secrets in case someone else opened it. But the vast majority took the risk and played along. I was one of those people. I listed the 5 goals I hoped to achieve, the 5 things I was most scared of and the 5 things I was trying to sort out in my head. It felt easy and harmless. I had low expectations of ever actually receiving it… the man might not live that long. But he did. And somewhere in the neighborhood of five years, I received the letter in the mail the year I graduated from college at my parents’ home, which is where I still lived during the summer.

It was a surprise. I’d forgotten most of what I had written. When it arrived, I tore it open with nimble fingers. My eyes feverishly scanned the cryptic handwriting; I’ve never been one to write with a deft hand. Did I honestly write some of those things? In the wrong hands, it’d be an easy blackmail scheme.  Thankfully, my secrets remained hidden as I decided what receiving the letter meant to me. Should I interpret it as a nudge to get back on track? Perhaps a reminder to realize what I’d accomplished? No… I saw it as a sign… a sign that this was a fantastic idea! We should all think about writing ourselves letters with some encouraging advice to help us cross the finish line on whatever our goals or tasks might be.

I love Wallace and Gromit. Any other fans?

As a kid, I LOVED getting mail. I made my parents leave it in the mailbox all day, so that when I arrived home from school, I could retrieve it myself and experience the joy of someone sending me a surprise or even an expected message. As I grew older, and started receiving those nasty monthly bills masquerading as wonderful news from different companies and services, I began to dislike the mail. Actually, as I began using electronic email, I found myself not interested in paper communications… online was something new to capture my attention. A few decades years later, I don’t check the mail because there’s never anything good in it. If I have a package or a delivery, the building’s system sends me an email to pick it up or request a drop off at a certain time that evening. In a way, it’s turned itself around, meaning… now I am tired of all these electronic notices, messages and communications. If you really want my attention, send me something in the mail that I have to open to understand what it is you need from me.

No, I don’t want a summons or official notice. Just something with a pretty color, different shape and interesting cover. Make me want to open it. Tempt me with your creativity. That’s the kind of prompt I need to be excited about checking the mail again… that is, unless, we adopted my high school teacher’s method. Hmmm… let’s think this one through together… are there a few goals you have in mind, but tired of tracking them on your phone, computer or journal? Do those sticky notes sometimes seem overwhelming? Maybe you don’t trust yourself to check the status or due date… so why not find a friend who will help you through this solution? Write yourself a letter with all the big things you need to focus on, then give it to them to mail at some point in the future. Perhaps it’s at a date of their choosing… but let them create the envelope so it’s a surprise when it arrives. And you can experience the same cool feeling of opening up your own little present!

I’m not actually joking on this one. Sometimes we all need reminders to do something, to feel something or to consider something. And we also find ourselves easily able to ignore electronic notifications or even our own sticky notes and journal entries. But you can’t really ignore something fun and colorful that arrives in the mail. For instance, if you have a friend who is very shy, send him/her a bold envelope with stamps of half-naked men or women posted all about it. I’d suggest naked, as we all know I’m fine with it, but I don’t know all the laws and wouldn’t want to get anyone arrested, now would I?

{Insert a very sinister and dark laugh!} Wouldn’t that be an amazing shared experience?

I suppose what I am actually suggesting is that we should all write letters to ourselves, praising something we’ve done, reminding ourselves of some big accomplishment we’ve recently attained… suggestions for how to keep motivating our future plans and ideas… and get our friends and/or family involved to mail it out when it’s most needed. So as you’re opening up that jury summons, late notice, exorbitant cable bill, or change in some service you don’t want altered, you also have that really awesome letter to brighten your day and keep you focused on the future prize. And if your friends are in charge of it, think of all the fun you could have? Sending something from “Playboy Magazine” to a friend who wouldn’t ever look at that magazine. Or sending what looks like a list of nunneries or monasteries to a friend who’s about to get married and wants reminders about the wedding! Prompts with Passion. Prompts with Power. Prompts with a Poof!

We all need a prompt every now and then. And that’s part of the friendship circle’s set of responsibilities. So… if someone needs a prompt, I’m offering my availability to help you if it’s needed. I’m also going to write my own letter about what I hope to accomplish in 6 months, then decide who’s the lucky victim. Don’t worry, I will likely pick someone I’ve know for a few years, which rules out all my online friends for right now… but rest assured, your time will come! Any thoughts? Any ideas? Silly idea or something to give a chance to? Share away…

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Kiersten @ Once Upon A Spine. Kiersten and I met about two months ago through a few books we were both reading, as well as connecting over previous life experiences and just generally being fun and weird people. I love the name of her site, and she has fantastic book reviews and content all about the literary things in life. She’s also very open and friendly, sharing many experiences that she’s dealt with over the years, learning how to grow from them and also how to keep herself focused on future goals. She’s refreshing and shares frequently, which makes her someone I am often chatting with. Between cat/dog humor, her own writing and young adult fiction (TV or Books), we always find things to talk about. I enjoy hearing from her and think she’d be a great addition to anyone’s list of followed blogs. So please go check out her site. And if you don’t believe me, here’s a small tidbit from her “About Me” section, where she tells us:
    • “I’m a Jersey girl currently living in Charlotte, NC with my two fur babies. I am an unapologetic nerd and chronic worrywart at heart. The focus of this blog is to share my love of literature, to write reviews of the books I’ve been reading, and to (hopefully) spark inspiration for my own stories. In addition to reading, some of my other hobbies include dance, cooking and baking, crafting, and cleaning up cat barf. I’m also a diehard fan of Harry Potter and Gilmore Girls.”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 129 – Adjustable (With New Poll For Input)

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Adjustable: able to be moved to achieve the desired fit, appearance, or result

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Today’s been an interesting day in respect to choosing a topic for the 365 Daily Challenge. I checked my project plan and looked at my overnight messages, comments, notifications, emails, communications, alerts and every other little icon that tells me what I’m supposed to do each day. Free will is gone in my life, at least as the primary driver, and I can accept that if I want to maximize my availability and efficiency. Although a very good friend thinks I have some clones working here with me, it is sadly and unfortunately not true. I have eleven tags/awards requesting that I draft blog posts for them. And they aren’t nice about it. Little reminders show up saying “You’ve left me alone for 4 days. Where’s the love, Jay?”

While I am thankfully caught on my on my book reviews, I am currently reading two novels and have the next 8 books lined up for either buddy reads or due dates on ARCs. And I’ve also committed to reading two other novels for some friends who asked for a beta read; while there is no real rush, they are sending tiny electronic zap signals to my brain that occasionally hurt or make me giggle. I never know which it might be, just pray I don’t pee myself as a result of it. At least not in public. I know I need to get to them soon before the consequences are far worse.

The characters in Father Figure are screaming at me to start writing their dialogue, which isn’t scheduled to happen for another two weeks. I need voices to be clear and distinct before I can write lines, I plead with them. They laugh at me, teasing about my foolish notions of organization. And quite frankly, I’d tell them to shut their pie holes if I weren’t afraid it would send them into hibernation when I truly do begin giving them what they’ve been asking for. And that’s not a good outcome either, as then I’m the one who has to make up the book’s words as opposed to the characters whispering them in my ears while I either sleep, do laundry, cook or exercise. That’s usually when my mind is at ease enough to let all the ideas blossom into creativity.

I can listen. I can change. And so, I directed my focus towards the 365 Daily Challenge post to at least say I’ve accomplished something today. Nothing clear has come to me that is useful in this area. I could tell you all about the edits on Watching a Glass Shatter, but that doesn’t belong here either. I’ve got a whole separate website for the book’s marketing campaign. I could tantalize you with the growth on the NYC Terrace Garden, but that post is not due for another 3 weeks. It’s not that I can’t think of anything to write about; it’s just that nothing seems to stand out as the right 365 worthy subject for today, mostly because I don’t repeat myself, want to ensure it’s vibrant and motivational, connect everything with a single word, and need to feel a passion for the subject on which I’m blogging.

Have you ever felt that way when trying to decide on the topic you wish to cover in a post? I have tons of things to post about — really I do. I want to tell you all about my efforts in defrosting the freezer this week which resulted in a big mess; however, it’s a funny story, not a 365 Daily Challenge lesson. I am jumping up and down about the potential literary agent who wants to talk next week about my book, but that’s way too soon as it could still go nowhere. I’m scattered with ideas. I’m over-producing content. It’s a wonderful feeling to be able to just write and write and think and think and well, it’s an amazing feeling. But the lack of a 365-specific focus is not a normal experience for me. Maybe I’ll just keep writing for the next 5-minutes and the clones will appear.

They didn’t. Ten percent reduction in their salary. Oh wait, they don’t really exist.

I took a few minutes to question why, and I realized it might be that the 365 Daily Challenge is changing just as I am changing over the course of this last year. It started out as reflections on who I am as a person, with the hopes of finding the right career path. After four months, I’m so enthralled with having my hands in a little bit of everything, I’m not sure I need to search for the answer as much as I need to accept that it’s OK to choose this answer. How often do we fail to see what’s staring us directly in the eyes, willing us to notice that the solution is hiding behind a glass wall you can absolutely see through, over, around or behind. Sometimes you just need to adjust your vision a bit to notice what’s already there. BAM, there’s my word of the day. ADJUSTABLE. Hot Damn, I’m almost done. And it may turn out to be a good one after all that earlier complaining…

Being adjustable is paramount to success. It’s a bit like one of my favorite pieces of life advice I often share with others. “Rules are meant to be broken. But you cannot break the rules until you understand the reason for the rules.” And what I mean is that you can do whatever you want, but if you want an ideal outcome, do the research, understand the circumstances, weigh the pros/cons, and then if the proper response is to break one of the original rules… guess what? IT’S OKAY! Sometimes you have to adjust a rule in order to make it work properly for all situations. Not everything is picture perfect out of the box. Life is one of those exceptions. Perhaps you follow the 80/20 rule, or Murphy’s Law, or even Occam’s Razor… whatever it is… but until you have a clear enough understanding of why the rules in are place, you shouldn’t mess with them to the point of potential disaster. However, if you have a fairly strong grasp on the underlying structure, then a small twist, a gentle bend or a push to the side shouldn’t topple over your entire life. It’s all about accepting the need for adjustments from time to time. So I’m gonna break the rules…

By wondering if an adjustment is needed in my posts… and I would love input from all the people that count when it comes to the 365 Daily Challenge – YOU. I’ve set up a poll with 6 basic answers, but I’ve allowed an “other” option in case you want to suggest new ideas. I’ll leave the poll open until July 25th (1 week) with plans to make any requested changes to the content and style of how I post with the 365 Daily Challenge beginning August 1st. A few things that will remain the same…

  • It’s a 365 Daily Challenge which means I will still post something unique every single day
  • It’s meant to be introspective, inspirational and thought-provoking to the point where we are constantly re-imagining our reality and our future
  • It’s for anyone to comment at any point with a clear focus on collaboration across our community of bloggers

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Please participate in the poll. It’s anonymous, so I won’t know who voted which item unless you also send in a separate comment telling me what you chose. Rest assured, for those who want me to keep posting, I won’t be going away. I’m the gnat irritating the last nerve on your existence. I’ve got a lot to say and I love this interaction. For those who want me to shut up, private message me please. I will show you where the button is to stop following me. It may not be the button you’re thinking of, I promise you that. But I’ve got on big boy pants and I can take it. I am adjustable to the situation, the people and the solution. So should you be.

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Sassy_Brit @ Alternative-Read. I’ve been in a very sarcastic all week, which goes hand-in-hand with being sassy, and so it made perfect sense that she would be today’s highlighted friend! She’s British, which everyone should know I am quite fond of. She’s a caretaker to lovable fancy rats. Yes, you heard me correctly. Go check out her site if you need more information. I’m not going to ruin the surprise. But she’s also got a huge website and following for all the work she does within the book reviewing industry. We’ve had several comment conversations on different books and my 365 Challenge. She’s got her own challenges, memes and contests. You’re guaranteed to find something to love. Plus she’s on every social media site possible, so you can follow her everywhere or just on the place(s) you love the most. Great pictures. Strong voice. Enjoyable reviews. Lots of humor and wit. A reader’s blog worth taking a chance on… so go jump the pond or the ocean or cross the land barriers to get there and let me know what you think!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 94 – Meddlesome

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Meddlesome: nosy; fond of interfering in something that is not of your concern

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I am not meddlesome, nor do I wish to become a meddler. When I began the 365 Daily Challenge, I know I indicated these traits would be something I am or want to be, but let’s face it… there aren’t 365 traits that will provide unique content, which means on occasion, I may discuss why I don’t want to have a certain characteristic. And this is one of them.

As you’ve probably guessed from reading many of the previous posts, I am somewhat of a quiet and shy guy, a bit on the private side when it comes to letting people get close to me. While I am friendly and I am very open about myself either with friends, when asked a question or in these daily posts, I have a pretty strict line when it comes to interfering in other people’s business. I’ve been accused of being cold and distant, or that I don’t care about other people, but it’s quite the opposite. I believe it’s important for people to have the freedom to make their own choices, and unless they ask for advice, I rarely provide it.

If I see someone doing something stupid, hurtful or risky, I will certainly relay my opinion or try to assist; however, it’s only in either extreme circumstances or if we’re deep into a conversation and talking about the best way to handle a situation. My opinion is generally my opinion, right? And unless you ask for it, why would I push it on you? That tends to be approach to most situations, as it feels comfortable and appropriate. Let me explain a little more so it doesn’t look like I’m being too indifferent.

In conversations with friends or family, they may mention that another family member or friend is doing something that might not be such a good idea. We’ll talk a little bit about, usually because the other person wants to, but once it’s been covered or explained, I’m generally good to move on to the next topic. But when I drop the subject, people often ask me if I’m going to get involved or if I think they should do something about it. I always say “no.” If the person is not going to hurt themselves, and they didn’t ask you, then stay out of it. At least that’s my motto. It’s probably because I am not a fan of confrontation, but ultimately, it’s really because I do what I would want others to do for or to me. If I didn’t tell you about something, or I didn’t ask you for help, then you don’t need to do anything. I don’t take offense to it. It wouldn’t hurt my feelings.

Of course, there are exceptions. If a friend goes on a date with someone and begins to say they think they are falling in love, and I see that other person cheating or doing something my friend may want to know about, I will probably mention it to him or her. But that’s where it ends. What you choose to do with that information is your business.  Similarly, if I hear that you’re going on an interview at a company I know has some issues or may treat their employees unfairly, I’ll relay my prior experiences. But I won’t try to convince you not to do it. That’s where the line is drawn.

I’ve run the gamut of feelings on this one, trying to decide what responsibility we have to protect or help one another, and I always come back to that line in the sand. It’s my responsibility to share the information I have with you (if I can legally), and I might tell you the risks if you weren’t aware, but afterwards, we’re each independent thinkers and have our own experiences and needs; we will follow through on what we feel is best for ourselves. We learn from our mistakes or errors. And that’s important to me, so I attribute it as being important to others.

I remember when I used to see friends trying to set each other up, or people calling to warn someone about the fight that two other people had… it’s just not something I want to be involved in or with. It leads to fights, misunderstandings, false starts, disappointment. So I stay out of other people’s business. I won’t let you get physically hurt. I won’t let you get blindsided in a disastrous way. I won’t let you make a decision without all the information when it’s something important. But then off you go… and I support you… and if/when something negative happens, as your friend, I’ll be there to help you deal with the aftermath. I won’t tell you afterwards “I didn’t think it was a good idea,” as that’s just rude and childish. Life’s got too many pits, turns, twists and fun to get caught up in all the “shoulda, would, coulda” aspects. Instead, I say, “have a rough plan, work the plan and enjoy every day.”

So I let them do what they want to do!

How about you? Do you think this is a callous or indifferent attitude? Do you find yourself wanting to get more involved than I do? Or are you the extreme and ultimate meddler? I’m cool if you are… it’s not for me… but I respect our differences.

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

Blog: Midweek Meltdown – A Moment of Clarity, Liebster and WP Angst!

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Hello Friends!

I’m either having early-onset “he’s lost his mind” syndrome, someone’s deleted a few posts or WordPress is just messing with me today for its own evil pleasure.  I thought I’d share my mini-meltdown from today. I try not to post silly notes like this one, but I’ve spent the last 2 hours trying to figure out what went wrong and that’s a lot of lost time.

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I read all the posts from people I follow this morning when I woke up — around 400 of them — and then took care of my normal routine. I went back to start drafts for anything I had to respond to or answer, and all of a sudden, it was like 50 new messages showed up from earlier in the morning that I had not previously read. And 1 message disappeared. Who stole it!??!?!

WordPress: Are you trying to take advantage of this rainy day and turn my mini-meltdown into a massive-meltdown. I can only have one of those year, and I’m holding off for the end of year holiday season when tourists takeover midtown and I can’t go anywhere!!! (I love tourists and my friends who come visit NYC, but oh my… when they hold hands and block the entire sidewalk, screaming on cell phones and just stand there not moving anywhere…  #@$#@$@#… some of us live here and have to commute and use the sidewalks to get to stores and subways and…. oh… gotta stop… meltdown temperature increasing)…

Phew… avoided the meltdown. Thank you, glass #2 of a lovely French Sancerre at 3:55 in the afternoon.

Disappearing Message: I KNOW I saw a post this morning where I was nominated for  a blogging award (Liebster Award, I believe). I went back around lunch-time to thank the person and respond, and realized it was gone. Disappeared. I searched 400+ posts twice today, and it’s just been sucked up into a vortex. Where??????

If you nominated me, please send me the link to the message, as I can’t find it and don’t want you to think I am ignoring you… and it wasn’t a ping-back, as I checked my notifications. Oh… WordPress… I’ve been so good to you, why are you messing with me. Taking things away. Sending them back at different times. Changing what I see on my iPhone versus laptop. It’s so unfair. I’ve been so generous to you… why???????????

Maybe it’s not you, WordPress. Maybe it’s me?  Too many juice boxes today?

 

About Me

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. Once you hit my site “ThisIsMyTruthNow” at https://thisismytruthnow.com, you can join the fun and see my blog and various site content. You’ll find book reviews, published and in-progress fiction, TV/Film reviews, favorite vacation spots and my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge.” Since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life… see how you compare! Each month, I will post a summary of a trip I’ve taken somewhere in the world. I’ll cover the transportation, hotel, restaurants, activities, who, what, when, where and why… and let you decide for yourself if it’s a trip worth taking.

Review: Matilda

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Matilda Book Review
Roald Dahl gets 4+ out of 5 stars for his knock-it-out-of-the-park story, Matilda, from 1988. For some reason, I thought this was published before 1988, but I know I read it when I was 13, so… must have been right then. I thought it was great. Looking back years later, and seeing all the films and cartoons made from it, I love it even more. While she’s a good role model in many ways for young kids, she’s all a little too spunky and might give some the wrong impressions. Nevertheless, with the right guidance, she can be someone to look up to.

Not everyone gets the best parents, family, teachers and friends. And when you don’t, you better be a smart girl to be able to make it on your own. And that’s what she is… brilliant, funny, witty, sarcastic, friendly… everything all wrapped up into 1 adorable young girl. She has a few adventures, tries to make things happen and shows the world who she. And that’s all we can ask for! Great book. Great story. Lots to see and learn. Definite re-read some day!

About Me
For those new to me or my reviews… here’s the scoop: I read A LOT. I write A LOT. And now I blog A LOT. First the book review goes on Goodreads, and then I send it on over to my WordPress blog at https://thisismytruthnow.com, where you’ll also find TV & Film reviews, the revealing and introspective 365 Daily Challenge and lots of blogging about places I’ve visited all over the world. And you can find all my social media profiles to get the details on the who/what/when/where and my pictures. Leave a comment and let me know what you think. Vote in the poll and ratings. Thanks for stopping by. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 43 – Mentor

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Mentor: an experienced and trusted adviser, to advise or train someone

A few interesting thoughts occurred to me as I sat to draft today’s 365 Daily Challenge. One, I awoke thinking about something entirely different from the daily characteristic. Two, how many traits are there to describe oneself without being redundant, repetitive or superfluous. Ha, aren’t I funny?

Three, it doesn’t have to always be a characteristic, i.e. it could be a noun that offers certain images or feelings which I’m ultimately trying to represent. And so today, I will veer a little bit and offer up a word that means a lot to me. And perhaps it will be a useful mechanism in the future for these daily posts. I have at least a dozen other traits in mind, but some I’m saving for a certain day or time period.

Back to the word “mentor.” I wrote a post about being a mentor on my professional website (https://jamescudney4.com/the-6-key-elements/mentor/), where I keep pertinent information for anyone who may stumble upon me and consider me for a consulting position. It very much applies to today’s post. That said, in this post, I will try not to duplicate what I’ve already noted, but instead indicate why being a mentor is something I already am on some levels, as well as something I would like to expand and showcase in the future.

What I admire about a mentor is his/her genuine interest in sharing the knowledge gained to those in an inner circle. To me, there is a difference between a mentor and a coach, friend, adviser, boss, et al. A mentor, usually long-term, is (1) someone who has amassed an expansive amount of knowledge and experience in certain areas that demonstrate (s)he is qualified to be a mentor and (2) someone who develops intimate relationships and bonds with the individuals being mentored above and beyond a brief exchange of advice.

A mentor is someone you can talk to who has a well-rounded amount of knowledge about you, too. I wouldn’t classify it a mentor relationship when you’re reading someone’s books or attending their seminar to improve your own skills. It’s not having a conversation with your boss about the next step in your career. It’s not feedback from a more established writer to help you get your focus back on a specific chapter or task when they don’t know anything about your work. It’s about continuous conversation, outside of normal “work-related” activities, where you engage in introspective and enlightening discussions about the topic you are being mentored in and decide on a path together, that seems logical, and focused on your future.

An adviser can tell you about things you need to consider for next steps, but that seems more temporary to me. What I like about the mentor relationship is that it seems more permanent. Sometimes life-long, sometimes only a few years; it all depends on circumstances, need and location. The key is a solid foundation, commitment and depth of connection between the two people involved. Both need to want it to work and not in a fleeting manner. It’s picking up a phone and talking about where you are today and where you want to be in 3 months, 3 years or 3 decades. And then reflecting in that future period how it turned out.

I’ve been privileged to have two true mentors in my lifetime thus far. Both came through my professional career in technology. I still consider myself friends with both, even though our lives are more separate now. I often pick up the phone and chat when I want to discuss something important about me, my choices, my decisions, my options, et al. It’s not like calling a friend and asking for advice, although we also do have that kind of a relationship. But when the format is as a mentor, it’s very clear and distinct from casual friendly conversation about “how was the trip,” “what’s new with the family,” “did you see that play?”

I hope to be a mentor one day. I’ve had the beginnings of this develop with a few people, but not enough that I would call myself a true mentor – yet! I’m on that road tho, as it is part of a cycle where I’ve been blessed with the relationship and want to give back in the same way. It also makes me feel better than most anything else in normal, every day life. To know that I can share common thoughts, goals and dreams with someone else, watch the growth and changes, and see the end results is a very rewarding experience.

NO – NOT LIKE THIS EXAMPLE!!!

I read a post last week about being a mentor, and it reminded me I haven’t been focusing on this as much as I should be. Thank you to that blogger (you know who you are if you are reading this!) for the reminder. You’ve put a spindle back up on the stairway guiding me on this journey. And what I should be focusing on is finding a mentor to help me with deciding my next steps as well as ensuring those around me know I’m open to helping someone else in the same way. Now to figure out what it is I’d be good at…

And while I’m working on both of those options… how about you? Any good examples of a mentor relationship you’d like to share?  How does it make you feel when you’ve been successful? Or even when you haven’t been?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay. I am 40 and live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post.