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365 Challenge: Day 298 – Silence

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Silence: (a) cause to become silent; prohibit or prevent from speaking or (b) complete absence of sound

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It is incredibly silent this morning as a blizzard (being called a Bomb Cyclone!) descends on NYC (and lots of other places, too). I adore the silence, as it’s when I can truly think without interruption, usually finding little gems of brilliance. In honor of silence, which often makes me quite happy, today’s post is just that — short, simple and essentially silent. We all need those moments and should never be afraid of basking in them when they are for healthy reasons. On the flip side, there are moments when it is not okay to be silent, but that’s a different post. Find a moment today where you can ignore everything but the silence inside you — and see if it brings about whatever it is you’re looking for.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 172 – Me

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Me: used by a speaker to refer to himself or herself as the object of a verb or preposition

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Some people are born without any selfish bones in their body or thoughts in their mind. Many are absolutely incapable of thinking about other people, reserving every moment of the day for themselves and themselves alone. I’m willing to bet that a majority of people out there fall somewhere in between on this scale of extremes. I know I certainly do, hopefully somewhere right in the middle, but definitely aware of the times when I am too focused on myself, feeling like ‘it’s all about me.’ Having a healthy ego or confidence in focusing thought or action on yourself is a good thing when managed properly. But there needs to be a fair balance, which is why today’s 365 Daily Challenge word is ‘me’ and comes, of course, with suggestions for a change in our approach to each day. I’m sure you ask: “Will this guy ever shut up about himself, always with advice?”

I’ve decided to institute a NON ‘me’ day each month, rotating it into my schedule so that I purposely focus on other people and not myself. I think it will do wonders for my outlook and humility to see and understand things from other people’s perspectives — and not just my own. It certainly won’t be easy, at least not the way I have this planned in my mind, but I believe it’s important.

I’ll share a few examples but am ultimately curious what others think of this exercise, as well as how they handle things in their own life. The most obvious illustration I can share is my WordPress blog: ThisIsMyTruthNow and the 365 Daily Challenge. It was created as a way to help me identify what I wanted to do in the future and as a method to connect with people from around the world. When I choose the word each day, I relate it something specific about me and my life. Many wonderful people comment on it each day, and we have an interactive dialogue regarding how the word fits in both of our lives. It’s a great tool to get to know someone, but there is a downside. Shocker, I know!

The discussion and online friendship is being kicked off because I started talking about myself. Not because we randomly met and began a conversation about something other than either one of us. On the flip side, I try to read everyone’s blog that I follow to learn more about them; sometimes I have little time to comment, and there’s just a “like” after I’ve read the post. While that’s fine for most days, given how busy we all are, I think it’s important to learn more about other people and build on relationships by clearly focusing on other people and their blogs. What I’m planning to do is pick 1 day a month where I have a very tiny post to cover the 365 Daily Challenge, which will reduce the time I would have used for both writing my post and responding to comments. In its place, I plan to respond to as many other blogger’s posts from that day that I can fit in.

The comments will be all about them and their post. Not me or how I felt about it, but something to let the blogger know the value they’ve brought to the table. It might be hard, for instance, if it’s a book review we both read. How do I comment without indicating how I felt about the book? But isn’t that the point sometimes? Your feedback, as I mentioned in yesterday’s post, should be about the person who wrote the post sometimes too, not just your own opinion. {Aside: I am not referring to when someone comments on my post — it’s ALWAYS been an equal balance about both of us, so please don’t change how you interact with me — this is just about how I want to change my interaction on other people’s blogs!}

It’s only fair to spend time focused on that person and their words without introducing your own experience as the primary response. I’m not saying this is how it should always be, but it’s a healthy exercise to train ourselves to stop being so “I” and “me” in our responses. Sharing experiences often leads to a strong relationship, I fully agree, which is why I wouldn’t do this all the time. But picking 1 day a month where I focus only on the other people in my life seems like a fair thing to do. And it’s not only online in my blog or my social media connections. It should be everywhere. For instance…

Phone conversations. I want to pickup the phone to ask others how they are doing. Focus on what’s good or new, or sad, in his/her life. See if I can do something to help them or brighten their day. Hopefully no one interprets this as me saying I’ve not done this before, as I definitely do think and focus on other people. But as we get busy, we often forget a bit of our manners, falling into traps of relating everything back to ourselves and our own experiences. I think it will be a great way to re-energize and engage with someone who maybe felt a little distant lately, or in need of a pick-me-up in the form of a good conversation about their life with a friend they hadn’t chatted with in a while.

I’d apply the same to letting someone else choose where we went for dinner or what TV show we picked to watch that evening. It’s often the little things in life that go a long way, especially as we all get busier and use technology to do the work for us, rather than good old-fashioned intimacy between real-life people. I’m generally aware of balancing the conversation equally among both parties, but not always. This is simply a way to ensure I’m being less selfish, more open and bringing about a little positive change across other people’s life. You never know when someone needs a bit of extra attention, but even more important, when they deserve it. The world is too small (sounds kinda funny, huh?) and life is too short (really, it is) to not put in the effort that might make it a better place for someone else.

How about you? Do you find that you talk about yourself more than you should? Do you have tools and tips and tricks to balance out your interactions? Share with ME please!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 96 – Distant

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Distant: (a) not intimate; cool or reserved, or (b) far away in space or time

There are two definitions that felt appropriate for today’s 365 Daily Challenge, and I plan to cover just one of them in this post. I’m reserving the other for a future daily blog.

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Not intimate; cool or reserved

I often feel as though I am too reserved or cool with the people in my life. It’s not that I am unwilling to build a deep relationship; it’s quite the opposite — I simply don’t like superficial things. I would rather have just a few very close and intimate relationships than many artificial ones. Unfortunately, this leaves me feeling a bit removed from everything around me, especially with how I tend to behave in these environments.

When I meet new people, particularly in a group setting or through someone else, I tend to remain quiet and shy. Part of it is because that’s my nature, but there is a piece resultant from my disinterest in expending more energy to get to know yet another person for a temporary basis. It feels fleeting and unnecessary, which also makes me appear distant. For example, if you meet someone for the first time, you have the standard dialogue to get to know the person… name, where are you from, what do you do for work, how do you know so-and-so… and then the basics are done. What’s next? Do you find common ground? Do you make comments on the setting? Do you tell a story about the person you both know?

For me, I kinda want to just walk away. I don’t mean to be rude, but I already have a few good friends in my life and it takes a lot to build something new. It’s also not a comfortable feeling, and at this point in my life, why would I put myself in uncomfortable situations unless there is something I’m hoping to attain from it? Does that make me wrong? Inconsiderate? Rude?

I’m not sure. In my mind, if I will likely not see this person again, what’s the point of sharing additional time and conversing over things to fill those moments? I’m fine wandering around on my own or moving on to the next person to continue the pattern. At the same time, if you don’t utilize those moments to discover new relationships, you could be missing out on something that would be a big benefit for you. I also think if it’s meant to happen, fate will step in to ensure you meet the people should meet.

When I dive a little deeper, I notice something interesting in this pattern I’ve developed. If it’s in-person, I prefer to simply close the discussion and walk away. If you are important to the person we share in common, I likely already know you or I will make more of an effort under those conditions. But if it’s through email, social media or blogging, it’s the opposite for me. I’m more than willing to continue the conversation and chat, exchanging messages back and forth at times that suit us both. It feels like a much more level playing field, one in which I want to participate.

It almost seems like my self-conscious behaviors have stepped in and don’t want to deal with the awkwardness of meeting new people or searching for conversation to keep things moving along. I undoubtedly worry about things… are my teeth white enough or is something stuck in them? Is my skin appearing too pale or do I have red blemishes showing up? Does my voice sound funny? When I lean in such a way, do I look like my clothes don’t fit or my body is weird? Do they think I am smart or am I acting immature? All of these things plague my mind, but I’m also in control and can keep it at a minimum. It’s still always there somewhere, despite the confidence I’ve grown over the years.

But if we are behind a wall, and doing other things at the same time as chatting, it feels comfortable to exchange ideas and feelings on our own time. I’m sure several folks reading this are examining any discussions we’ve had since meeting over the last few months via our blogs… what do you think? Is it odd that I feel more comfortable chatting with you than meeting new people and having to deal with the weird eye contact moments, the “shake-hands-or-kiss greeting,” the start and stop when you both talk at the same moment? We all feel that from time to time, but for me… it’s often a decision-maker when a friend says let’s meet up for dinner. My first thought is usually… “Just us, right? You’re not inviting anyone else, I hope.” I don’t say it aloud, but that’s how I feel. Considering all this… I think as friendly as I am, I’d be considered a distant person.

With all that said, I wonder if it’s how we all feel inside. For me, it’s the normal state, but at the same time, no topic is off-limits with me. My emotions are always up for discussion. You want to know what I’m afraid of, I’ll tell you. Curious about why I behaved in a certain way? Ask and I’ll explain it. Wanna know if I find you attractive, I’ll tell you. I’m not afraid of sharing my thoughts and opinions, I just choose not to do so, under most circumstances. I’d rather listen than talk. Does that make me aloof… distant?

Interesting things to think about. What makes someone distant for you? Do you feel anything I’ve shared is “in the norm” or “in the extreme” compared to you or others? Curious minds want to know… see, now I’m asking the questions… but then I’ll just sit back and listen. It’s in my nature.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 79 – Authentic

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Authentic: of undisputed origin; genuine; real

When I picture the word “authentic” in my mind, for some reason, it tends to be cultural or based on one’s heritage and ethnicity. I understand how food can be authentic with proper tastes and ingredients. I recognize people want authenticity when buying original paintings and books. I see objects as being from older civilizations as authentic. But I’ve not ever delved into what makes an individual authentic. I’ve said someone is a genuine person or that they feel real, but what exactly does that mean?

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As always, when I’m looking for a general consensus, I search the Interwebs. I stumbled upon a list of 11 signs that a person is truly authentic and provided the link below. I cannot vouch for who this person is, or whether they are qualified to provide such input; however, in general, from a quick read, I thought it was a good explanation. But as always, I have a few things to add, which will come towards the end of the post. Before diving into this little exercise, I would have said I’m a very authentic person, basing this purely on some key facts:

(a) I always do what I say I am going to do,

(b) I am open, honest and fair with everyone,

(c) I hopefully come across as genuine and real — never a fake attitude or action,

(d) what you see is what you get with me.

Let’s dive into the article’s eleven key points to determine if my initial views were accurate or off base. You can read the full article at:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-twardowski/11-signs-of-a-truly-authentic-person_b_9462220.html

  1. Recognize emptiness in material things
    • I love materials things, and I recognize how bad that sounds. What I mean is that I truly enjoy having books, art, clothes, culinary items, furniture, etc. They make me happy to look at or use, share with others or just be around. It’s not a reflection on how I value them above/below people. It’s purely that I do find an importance in having them in my life. I understand how that can appear empty or insufficient; they are inanimate objects, whereas people and animals can share an emotional experience. But I believe you can have an authentic experience with someone else via a material object that brings you both positive feelings and memories, e.g. buying a book and reading it together. I’d say 50/50 on this one for me, since I absolutely do need material things, but I know enough to say people are more important.
  2. Recognize experiences make things richer
    • Yes, I agree with this one, as it is one thing to read a book about going on a first date versus going on a first date. Forgetting about social awkwardness or finding the person to go on a date with… once it happens, that is a powerful experience, hopefully for the better and not the worse. To be authentic tho, it has to be something special between the people involved — not ordinary and repetitive. I have had lots of positive and rewarding experiences and fit this one well. As I’ve settled down into a committed relationship, it’s more moment-in-time rather than large group of constant new things. A moment early in the morning over a cup of coffee watching the sunrise, or a quick look at each other while playing with the dog together in the park.
  3. Truly listen to others
    • I’m a really strong listener. I try to understand everything from words to expressions, both physical and emotional. I tend to ask deeper and more probing questions, not usually content with surface discussions, especially when someone wants to talk with me about something important. I’m very strong with this element.
  4. Express true thoughts, feelings and views unapologetically
    • For the most part, I’d agree with this statement. I definitely express all of this, but I often choose not to share my thoughts and feelings — not because I don’t want to stir up trouble, but because I wouldn’t be adding any value or difference to whatever is already being discussed. If I think someone is doing something wrong, and there is an impact, I will definitely bring it up. But if someone says blue is the best color, I’m not going to argue why I think grey is. So… I’m probably 50/50 on this one since it contains the word unapologetically, as my opinion isn’t necessary in every occasion.
  5. Not out to please people
    • Major fail here for me. I am a people-pleaser. I know it. I accept it. However, on big things, I am not. I will say what I want and push my agenda or opinion. I tend to prefer collaboration and agreement over confrontation. I go with the flow if something isn’t important enough to me to fight over it. I can see how this is important to being authentic, as if you do things just because you feel like you have to please someone, you are not being authentic. Unless you say aloud, “I don’t want to do this, but I will because you want me to do it.” Then maybe you are authentic.
  6. See value in giving love to others
    • I’m probably 50/50 on this one, too. I absolutely see the value and respect the value; however, I’m very distant in some respects when it comes to love. I have different levels or versions of love. There are people whom you see regularly that you enjoy being around, but it doesn’t mean you “love” them. We’d need to agree on a proper definition of love. I’m not talking about a religious believe of “love thy neighbor.” To me, love is something you share with people you are extremely close with… could be family, friends or significant others. I reserve those deep connections for very few; however, I am a much closer friend to my friends, as I don’t believe in “surface-level” friendships — those are just acquaintances you see from time to time, even if you’re out at a bar having a drink to catch-up once a year. To be authentic, you have to acknowledge these different types of relationships.
  7. Love themselves
    • Depends on the day! As I grow older, I learn to love myself more and more. This 365 Daily Challenge has had an interesting impact on how I feel about myself. In general, I think I fit this example pretty well; however, there are parts of me I do not like and would want to change. I accept it, don’t fight it, nor do I let myself get upset over it. This is important to being authentic, but not necessary. You can be a jerk and not like yourself, but admit that to people. You are authentic even when you are not a good person if you acknowledge it.
  8. Willing to see and acknowledge their own faults
    • Yes, I’m good with this. I acknowledge and admit everything I do incorrectly. I embrace faults as it is an opportunity for me to learn and change. This is critical to being authentic in my opinion. If you can’t look at yourself and admit what it is good or right or wrong or bad, then you aren’t being fair to yourself or anyone in your immediate circle of relationships.
  9. Understand that we’re all unique and it’s OK
    • Yes. I think this is important to being authentic. You need to be you and no one else in order to be authentic. You can be similar to others, and that’s OK. I am definitely unique — and average — all at the same time. I believe I fit this one well and think it’s important to being authentic.
  10. Take responsibility for their lives
    • I definitely line up here. I rely on myself too much — always thinking everything should be 50/50 split so that I am 100% taking care of myself whether it’s in splitting responsibilities, costs, time, etc.  I make my own choices and do not ever blame anyone else. I am my own keeper and I choose how and when to let others take the lead. And if I let someone else take the lead, and it’s the wrong decision, I also made that wrong decision because I allowed and/or wanted the other person to take the lead.
  11. Connected to their own inner guide
    • I fall in the middle here… I do have a connection that is quite strong with my internal body and mind; however, my guide is still deciding what should happen for the rest of my life… so the connection is working overtime and sometimes doesn’t want me too close — as it needs time to figure it out on its own, I believe.  For the most part, it’s a continuous cycle, but I have some work to accomplish in this area.

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After a review and reflection on my responses, it appears I meet approximately 2/3 of these guidelines. I admit, it’s lower than I expected. But I also just picked an article off the Interwebs based on a ten-minute search, so I’m not too worried. For the most part, I’m definitely in the authentic category, but I have a few areas to consider improving. And I’m OK with that… after all, isn’t accepting improvement one of those guidelines?

What do you think of when you see the word “authentic,” specific to people and not things? Would you consider yourself authentic?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 48 – Generous

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Generous: showing a readiness to give more of something, as money or time, than is strictly necessary or expected; showing kindness toward others; larger or more plentiful than is usual

Everyone is generous at some point in his or her life; however, we are also stingy from time to time. It’s often a matter of what’s being asked of us, our level of available resources and our mind-set. I’m no exception, but I will say outright that I am not as generous as I should be and want to be. And it’s something I need to work on.

For the purpose of today’s post, rather the cover examples of how I’ve been or not been generous, I’d like to discuss why it is people often struggle with being generous. It comes down to a few key things — in my opinion:

  1. Fear: It is easy to be afraid to do something. Perhaps you feel you don’t have enough money or time to share, so you hold back rather than lend or donate. Or maybe when you’ve been too generous with someone in the past, they’ve taken advantage of the situation. (No judgment here; each person should determine what is best for for him or herself, or how to handle relationships with others).
  2. Laziness: Often, we want to be more generous, but don’t make this a priority because we forget to think about it. (Again, no judgment; we are all aware of our own selfless level of thinking about things outside our own realm).
  3. Unknowing: I’ve found people are unsure of how to be more generous or knowledgeable about the ways they can actually follow through on it. (Double again, no judgment; we’re not always shown or taught the way to find these options on our own).
  4. Exhaustion: At the end of the day, we’re so busy focusing on the things we NEED to do, we forget the things that we SHOULD do. That said, there is an argument for saying being generous is a NEED and not just a SHOULD. (Yup, you guessed it about judgment… sometimes we just have no energy left, I get it).

I’m sure there are other reasons, and perhaps they don’t fall into 1 of these 4 categories in the most appropriate way, but that’s where I’ve gotten to in my head on this topic. Let’s look at ways to improve how we are doing in these areas:

  • Fear
    • Determine why you are afraid and either confront it, remove the roadblock or ignore it and move forward. Don’t stall or freeze by doing nothing.
    • If it’s fear of being taken advantage, find ways to limit the impact back on you. Or choose to be generous with others and not with that person if for some reason (s)he always takes advantage of it.
    • If it’s fear of doing something on your own, i.e. volunteering somewhere, find a buddy and go with someone else the first time.

  • Laziness
    • Make a note, send yourself an email or leave a reminder on your calendar to find 15 minutes a week where you do something for someone else — not just yourself.
    • Associate something you love to do with a method for being generous. If you have a secret ice cream fetish and go every Tuesday night, tack on 15 minutes to (1) buy a cone for someone else (if you can afford it), (2) clean up some garbage in a park on the way to the ice cream store, (3) donate books to a shelter for someone to have the ability to read.
    • Find something you love to do and figure out how to share it with someone else who doesn’t have access to it as easily as you do.

  • Unknowing
    • Ask your friends, colleagues or acquaintances.
    • Look it up on the internet.  You obviously have access if you’re reading this post (not meant sarcastically!). Find something local that would work for you.
    • Drive or walk around your neighborhood and see what is already there — or what’s missing. See how you can be of help.
    • Think about your relationships… is someone is need of a friend a little more often? Could you buy someone lunch once a week if you know they are struggling financially to support him or herself?

  • Exhaustion
    • Schedule it. Block out 30 minutes a week, an hour a month, whatever works for you. Make it part of the routine, not something you do if you have free time.
    • Start small. Increase as you can. Don’t take on too much at first.
    • Save coins you don’t use until it adds up enough to buy a cup of coffee, a meal or a coat for someone else.
    • Take a break from the things you don’t need to do every minute… don’t clean for 3 hours one day, only use 2 hours and save that last 1 hour for someone else who needs your help. Your house won’t fall apart. Another person can pitch in that last hour.

Here’s the deal (yikes, I’m sounding direct in this post when I really mean to just think aloud)… I have done maybe 10% of the things I just suggested. I’m not as generous as I should be. And just sitting here typing this kinda cements it for me. It’s time I became a bit of a better person. So my commitment to YOU — I will take on 2 new things (from what I’ve listed here) in the month of May. And I’ll report back to you (hold me accountable please) to review it. The good, the bad and the ugly.

With all that said, do you know of any other reasons besides these four (4) items that contribute to our lack of generosity with others?  I’m flat out ignoring the fact that some people just don’t care to help others or be considerate. So reject that one!

Whether it’s giving more time, spending more money or being more open-minded, what stops you from being more generous? Or… tells us how you are a generous person and offer some suggestions on how we can be even better. Thanks!

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay. I am 40 and live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.