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Author Discussion: Where Do you Write?

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Please check out this great interview with the amazing Sassy Brit from Alternative-Read.com where she and I chat about my writing desk – how and where I write! I shared a few amusing tidbits about life in NYC, but the best part is learning more about her and her site; she’s a prolific blogger and UK book promoter with a fantastic web presence. Definitely someone to follow!

via What’s on your desk, Wednesday? #AuthorSpotlight James Cudney @jamescudney4 #WatchingGlassShatter

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365 Challenge: Day 141 – Facts

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Facts: pieces of information used as evidence that are indisputably the case

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It’s been quite a fun morning – NOT! – as the teenager in me often used to say. Now my mother says it to me all the time, thinking she’s funny. I suppose she is… let’s back up a bit, shall we? Yesterday we celebrated my mom’s birthday; my other half and I cooked brunch (two different kinds of quiche [pancetta/asparagus & onion], corn salad, brussel sprouts with red chili flakes, prosciutto, green apples, cinnamon, sugar, herbs, and an Italian Cream birthday cake). My cousin who is visiting from Ukraine was here, as well as my dad. We finally put up the arbor on the NYC Terrace Garden. After everyone left, I decided to focus on catching up on some blogging work.

I apologize in advance for posting 7 awards and tags all on the same day. After looking through my draft folder, I realized there were a bunch sitting around, being lazy, which is never a good thing. So I worked through them and posted all evening… I hope I didn’t bore you, as I try to come up with different questions and responses, as well as incorporate a lot of humor… I attempt, at least. I love doing all the awards and tags, but sometimes it takes a while, as I want to put a good deal of effort into them. I want it to mean something, rather than just be a few quick words that don’t have a big impact on others. I feel the same way when I choose people to tag or nominate at the end of my posts. I like connections to be connections.

I try to match the topic or the subject of the post with the people I’m including as nominees, but it doesn’t always work out. I attempt to select people who are deserving of an award, need to be seen by other bloggers or have posted something really cool that week. When I nominate someone, I really want to read their responses, but I also understand not everyone wants to participate. And if they choose not to, it’s OK. I’m not upset or offended. I usually search my notifications to see who I’ve chatted with the most in the last few days and pick from that bunch, if it’s a fun tag. That said… I finished a few last night and look forward to everyone’s responses. But something was on my mind last night as I was picking everyone…

I let it go and went to sleep. This morning, I was chatting with a friend who shall remain anonymous… (s)he asked me a question about a fellow blogger, and we both realized, neither of us knew the answer for sure. And it was a simple question. It got me thinking… how well do we really know our fellow bloggers? Some people share a lot of information about themselves (like me). Others share very little, preferring to remain in anonymity, or using their blog as a way to be someone different than who they are in reality. I prefer to have a deeper connection with people when I’m chatting with them, hence why I sgare a lot. For instance, when I meet someone new, I want to know their name. Or if I’m highlighting their blog, I don’t like saying “their” because I can’t tell if it’s a “him” or a “her.” And then there’s those moments where I have no clue where the person lives, which can be awkward if they are not in the US and I’m asking them to do a tag about the US. D’Oh.

I suppose none of this is all that important… blogging can be light and fluffy, too. Or if it’s a deeper connection, does it really matter if you have all the basic FACTS about someone you are talking to? Perhaps not… perhaps it’s just the words you share that truly mean the most. So… I typed up the post earlier this morning. I was adding the featured image, and the whole thing froze. I had saved it, so I wasn’t worried. I exited WordPress and came back in. It hadn’t saved the last 30 minutes of updates, so I only had half a post. I was a tad annoyed. But I copied it and wanted to start a new one, in case it was corrupted. Somehow, I cut instead of copied… and then it shut down again. When I re-booted and brought WP back online, the saved post was the empty post. So I lost about an hour’s work. I might have said some nasty words to the air, my computer, the fly passing through on its (as I don’t know if it’s a male or female either) journey in my home… anyone or anything that would listen to me complain about the time I’d wasted. But it happened. I’m now re-writing from memory. And I’m sure this one will undoubtedly be worse in some parts and better in others.

The whole point of the post is FACTS. I’d like to know more about the folks that follow me. If we chat, I probably know some of this already. But if we don’t, please share. No pressure, if you don’t want to share, that’s OK. But instead of having to check everyone’s About Me page, what if we all had signatures at the bottom of our posts, telling others who we are so that we don’t have to look it up each time until we get to know someone better? And quite often, bloggers don’t even put the information in their About Me section either. So… today’s post, in lieu of you all getting to know more about me through the 365 Daily Challenge, I’m asking for more info about YOU.

If you want to skip a response, that’s OK. But if not, let’s share some information and then share it with all the rest of your bloggers, so we can learn more about one another. For starters, please respond with:

  • Name
  • Location
  • Gender (however you choose to interpret the word)

And if you are brave, and this is your truth now, share more like me:

__________________________________________________________________________________________

Jay / 40 / Male / New York City / Writer / Possibly Crazy / Reserved But Funny & Open-Minded / Should Be Working But Isn’t Right Now / Loves Ryder / Curious To Know You

__________________________________________________________________________________________

That was simple, right? Let’s see what everyone has to say…

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Cindy @ Cindy Knoke Photography. Cindy and I met a few months ago when some of her stunning photos showed up in another blogger’s feed. I had to check them out, and once I did, I quickly decided it was a blog to follow. Cindy had been traveling in Germany and France at the time, stopping in small villages along the way. She stumbled into a few where my ancestors lived nearly 200 years ago. All of Cindy’s photos capture amazing aspects of life, including nature, people, animals, villages, scenery and life at its core. I adore her site and think other people would love to check it out. She’s a really friendly blogger, interacting and checking out other people’s blogs beyond just those with photography. I enjoy admiring her work and whatever she presents to us on her blog. If you love photography, you should definitely make the effort to stop at the site and find something worth adding to your list of followed blogs. At the end of the day, when you can’t read another review, peruse another tag or award, or listen to anything inspirational… and you just want to stare at beautiful photos to relax you, this is the place to be. I’m confident you will find yourself scrolling through it for a very long time.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 126 – Long Island, NY

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Long Island, NY: an island in the southeastern part of New York state, compromised of four counties, two of which house parts of NYC(Queens and Brooklyn)

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Sunday posts, the end of each week, have become a theme on This-Is-My-Truth-Now, organized by groups of five (5). In the first set of five, we explored my primary ethnicity groups and nationalities. In the second set of five, we had the AtoZ Challenges for various favorite things in our lives. In the third set of five, we discovered all the colors (excluding black and white) that have an important meaning to me. And so… I’m continuing the trend of the seventh day, ending the week on Sunday, as a list (we know I love them) that provides more in depth knowledge about me. This is our fourth grouping, covering weeks #16 thru #20 of the 365 Daily Challenge, and the topics will be: the 5 Places I’ve lived!

Last week was the city where I was born (Fort Myers, Florida) but this week is the place where I grew up — Long Island, New York. Before we get into those details, a few interesting facts about this lovely place as well as the Wikipedia link for more information.

The Long Island Medium

 

  • Long Island received its name for very obvious reasons: it’s a very long island which was highly unusual for explorers back in the 16th and 17th centuries who first stumbled upon it from Europe. Giovanni da Verrazzano was the first explorer to meet with the Lenape Native American tribes. He now has a bridge named for him to cross over to Staten Island.
  • The Dutch and English battled it out, with the Dutch settling the western half and the English settling the eastern half. In 1650, it was all controlled by the English.
  • Although Brooklyn and Queens, part of New York City, inhabit the western part of the island, there’s always a debate on whether people include them as part of “Long Island” proper, given they are part of the physical island. Additionally, there are hundreds of smaller barrier islands surrounding Long Island, which are also usually considered part of the general area referred to as “Long Island.”
  • Most people know it from either the Long Island Medium TV show (never saw it), the wealthy Hamptons lifestyle (not where I lived), Fire Island (I have had a few summer house rentals there), Walt Whitman’s birthplace (been there) or its silly doppelganger “Lawn Guyland,” based on the supposed accent everyone who grew up there still retains. I’ll cover that a little bit later… so stick around!

As I hinted at last week, I spent a lot of my life on/in Long Island. My ancestors settled there between 1700 and 1800; I’m still trying to finalize the exact dates. It might actually be a little earlier, but I have no confirmation on it. I know for certain they lived there in the 1760s. My parents lived there before I was born, but eventually took that two year hiatus to Fort Myers where I was born. By the 1980s, they were back to Long Island. I’ve lived in several different towns across the island:

  • Bethpage: Where I grew up and lived throughout my childhood and during summers in my college years. I also bought the house I grew up in from my parents, as my mom bought it from her parents twenty-five years prior. I lived in Bethpage for a few years before I moved across the country (that’ll be a future post).
  • Commack: When I returned from college (as I wasn’t staying on LI for school – no way!), I rented my first apartment about 30 minutes further east of Bethpage. I had my first real job when I lived in Commack and commuted back and forth each day in nasty traffic. My landlords were great, but after a few disagreement with the person I was dating and we ended the relationship (as we had moved in together too quickly). I returned back to Bethpage for a little while. Parents always welcome you back home, don’t they?
  • Plainview: About a year after I moved back home, I was in a new relationship (yes, another one too soon) and we bought a house together in the town next door. Though the relationship only lasted about 5 years, we had just enough time to completely re-model the house. We did all the work ourselves (with my dad’s and uncle’s help, too), stripping back down to the studs, adding a room off the back and landscaping everything brand new. We made a decent profit in selling the house, which was always a good thing!
  • Melville: After I returned from living cross-country, and lived in Brooklyn, I yearned for the suburbs. We bought a house directly in the center of Long Island, at the top of the highest point, too… which was odd, as I never knew that’s where it was. Lived there for a few years, but that relationship ended (yes, three ended where I lived and owned property with the other person… I suppose you might have something witty to say in response to me, but now I’m very happy. We are not splitting up ever). Once my commute into NYC for work became 90-minutes each way… i was done with that. I sold another house and moved to Manhattan, where I’ve been for 5+ years now.

*** Yes, I move a lot. See post on Moving. ***

Long Island has been my home for about 25 of the 40 years I’ve inhabited this body and this planet. (I think my soul has been other places.  See Past Life post.) As much as I love the place, I know in my heart that I won’t live there again. There’s nothing necessarily wrong with it, as I have tons of happy memories. Despite the fact that so many of my ancestors have roots in Long Island, they also lived other places, such as Pennsylvania and West Virginia. I’m excluding Europe for now as a place where my peoples have lived. But ultimately, Long Island always feels separated from the rest of the world. To get through NYC and into NJ, Connecticut or upstate NY state, it’s a minimum of 90 minutes even when the traffic isn’t all that bad. It’s not easy for weekend trips. It’s over-crowded. Where I grew up, Nassau County, is literally the most expensive county in the country — more than Manhattan on a lot of levels. The house I owned is 1/3 the cost almost anywhere else.

When I first went to college in Pennsylvania, and told people I came from Long Island, they were shocked. “But you don’t have the accent?” they’d inquire. And they were correct. Everyone I know who grew up or was born on Long Island has that accent. Except me. I could only attribute it to a few things: (1) I learned to speak in Florida, so my (o to 2) formative years where I picked up language and talked to people was not Long Island. I was always a writer and a reader, loving linguistics and theatre, such that I probably over-accentuated words which made the accent harder to pick up on. I’ve always been a low talker, so people usually have a hard time hearing or understanding me. In the end, few realize where I come from. But I know it.

And now you know it. Whatttyaaaa gonna doooo abbbouttt it?

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Peela @ CWhiteWeb but she has absolutely nothing to do with Long Island; I just thought she’d find this post very amusing, which is why I selected her for today. Peela and I connected about 2 months ago, and for the life of me, I cannot remember how it came to be. {Do you recall? Tell me!} Peela is very funny and witty, currently working on her economics degree, living and working in Asia, far away from home. She’s a daily blogger with a lot of different topics and stories. My favorite right now is her Six Word series, where she posts each day about the growing relationship between two young lovers who in episode #1, first glanced at one another. As of now, she’s just finished episode #96, but closing in on #100. She won’t tell me when she plans to end it either… so I think she’s going to do 365 days just like I do in challenge – that’s how it will all be connected. But she inserts fantastic graphics with the six word story which help you understand the context of what’s going on. I love her life journey stories, particularly one about a boy she met and a conversation with her mother. It was hilarious, but probably utterly true. Peela has a great attitude and always humorous when chatting, engaged and open to all types of discussions. Go meet someone from another country who is living in yet another country with an entirely different outlook on what’s going on right now. You’re bound to love her!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 70 – A to Z Happy Places

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A to Z Happy Place: A list of 26 places that make you happy — challenge posed to any readers who would like to participate. Maybe it’s the innocence of childhood or that favorite vacation spot…. somewhere that always brings a smile to your face

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As a follow-up to last week’s foods from A to Z, this week we’re focusing on the places that have brought us love and excitement, continuing the trend of the seventh day, ending the week on Sunday, as a list (we know I love them) of sorts that provides more in depth knowledge about me.

Rules

  1. Pick something that starts with that letter and add it to your own list. Don’t think about it… just come up with a couple ideas in under five seconds and choose the best of the bunch.
  2. It can be a named place or a general place. But it has to be an actual physical location; not metaphorical!
  3. This is the final week of the AtoZ items… the next grouping will be revealed in a few days!
  4. It’s a fun game, but if you are nominated and DO NOT want to participate, you don’t have to. Just ignore it! Totally OK.
  5. You may not have been nominated, but you can totally participate by following these rules.
  6. Post it as a reply on the person’s blog where you found it. Also post it on your own blog as a new post.
  7. Should we use a tag so we can see all the responses? Suggestions… AtoZPlaces
  8. This may not go anywhere if there is no participation other than me. And that’s OK. The 365 Daily Challenge was about me to start, so I cannot expect or force anyone else.
  9. Have fun and get to know your online friends. Tell us when you post your 26 items.  Thanks!

A to Z Happy Places to Make Me Smile

A – Attics

B – Bookstores

C – Cotswolds

D – Dos Caminos (Mexican restaurant I eat at on Fridays)

E – Erga Bakery in Bethpage when I was growing up

F – Farms

G – Gardens

H – Home

I – Iceland (never been, but I do love the cold weather)

J – Jubilee (French restaurant I eat at once a week)

K – Kitchens

L – Libraries

M – Museums

N – New York City

O – Ocean

P – Parks

Q – Quality Meats (Steak restaurant in NYC)

R – Restaurants

S – Scotland

T – Trolleys

U – University campuses

V – Vineyards

W – Wishing Wells

X – X-Mas Tree Lots

Y – Yellowstone Park

Z – Zoo

People You Are Tagging

NO ONE! Anyone who wants to participate should… But someone has to or my friend below is gonna come after you!

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post.