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TAG: Who am I?

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Many thanks to Patty @ Moohnshine’s Corner for including me on the Who am I? tag. I adore Patty, who has been one of my 365 Daily Challenge Recommended Bloggers, so you must already know her. But if by chance you didn’t see that post or haven’t connected with her, please go check it out now!

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What does my name mean?

James is my given name, and I am the fourth in the male line with the name ‘James John’ which means it’s definitely a rooted family name. I’m not sure there will be a fifth.

For a bit of humor, I checked the ‘Urban Dictionary’ to see what my name meant. It said that I was a very attractive guy and women always love me. I’m not really sure what to do with this definition, so I’m just gonna ignore it. It said a few other things that although I’d love to copy/paste them here, I might offend a few people, so I’ll just leave the link:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=James

I’ve always known the name as being Hebrew, coming from the Bible, and meaning “one who follows.” I’ve not ever thought of myself as a follower, so that’s unusual. One for the books, I suppose!

What is my Myers-Briggs Personality Type? (Link

Personality type: “The Defender” (ISFJ-T)
Individual traits: Introverted – 75%, Observant – 54%, Feeling – 53%, Judging – 94%, Turbulent – 68%
Role: Sentinel
Strategy: Constant Improvement

What is my Zodiac Sign? (Link)  — PISCES

Element: Water

Quality: Mutable

Color: Mauve, Lilac, Purple, Violet, Sea green

Day: Thursday

Ruler: NeptuneJupiter

Greatest Overall Compatibility: VirgoTaurus

Lucky Numbers: 3, 9, 12, 15, 18, 24

Date range: February 19 – March 20
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)

PISCES TRAITS

Strengths: Compassionate, artistic, intuitive, gentle, wise, musical

Weaknesses: Fearful, overly trusting, sad, desire to escape reality, can be a victim or a martyr

Pisces likes: Being alone, sleeping, music, romance, visual media, swimming, spiritual themes

Pisces dislikes: Know-it-all, being criticized, the past coming back to haunt, cruelty of any kind

What is my Hogwarts House? (Link)

The Sorting Hat says:


Which Hogwarts house will you be sorted into?

Your in-depth results are:

Hufflepuff – 13
Ravenclaw – 13
Gryffindor – 12
Slytherin – 6

 

What are my Learning Styles? (Link)

Your scores were:

  • Visual 4
  • Aural 3
  • Read/Write 8
  • Kinesthetic 1

You have a strong read/write learning preference.

 

Am I Left or Right Brain Dominant? (Link)

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What is my Blood Type?

I know my blood type is A+

What Career am I meant to have? (Link)

What Divergent Faction do I belong to? (Link)

 

You

What does my Birth say about me? (Link)

I’m an only child… so I am all of them!

 

Tag! You’re it!

 

About Me

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. Once you hit my site “ThisIsMyTruthNow” at https://thisismytruthnow.com, you can join the fun and see my blog and various site content. You’ll find book reviews, published and in-progress fiction, TV/Film reviews, favorite vacation spots and my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge.” Since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life… see how you compare! Each month, I will post a summary of a trip I’ve taken somewhere in the world. I’ll cover the transportation, hotel, restaurants, activities, who, what, when, where and why… and let you decide for yourself if it’s a trip worth taking. Feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Tell me what you think. Note: All content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 98 – Purple (Color)

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Purple: of a color intermediate between red and blue

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Sunday posts, the end of each week, have become a theme on This-Is-My-Truth-Now, organized by groups of five (5). In the first set of five, we explored my primary ethnicity groups and nationalities. In the second set of five, we had the AtoZ Challenges for various favorite things in our lives. And so… I’m continuing the trend of the seventh day, ending the week on Sunday, as a list (we know I love them) that provides more in depth knowledge about me. Only this time, I’m going with colors that are important to who we are. For these five Sundays, I will select a color that has some significance to my life and explore it in my post. I am ignoring black and white, as those are both obvious and also not considered colors by some!

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Color: Purple. I love this color, but it has no place in my wardrobe except for a couple of dress shirts and ties. Otherwise, I don’t any purple shorts, pants, shoes, socks, underwear, or shirts. For a color I seem to prefer, I wonder why? Too flashy? Too feminine? I’m not sure, but I think that’s a summer goal: to introduce more purple into my wardrobe. So if I don’t often wear it, why is it so important to me? Well, it surround me so often between the foods I eat and the flowers I grow. It makes me smile. I feel happy. It’s the color of royalty. It can stand out or it can blend in.

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It seems to be such a non-basic color that it’s powerful when introduced in the right setting. And so while I have very little of it, perhaps I reserve it for true important circumstances. If I’m playing a board game, and there is a purple piece, I always go for it. When I plant flowers, I tend to look first for purple colors. Of all the flavors besides chocolate in candy or drinks, I go toward grape and purple-colored items. Taffy. Soda. Pop Tarts. Kool-Aid. Jelly. It’s amazing what this seemingly non-natural color shows up in all across the board.

Let’s chat about famous examples of the color purple… And yes, there are probably more, but these are the ones that come to mind or I have familiarity with:

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  • Purple People Eater (what a song!)
  • Purple Nurple (love saying this, but how many people know what it is???)
  • Harold’s Purple Crayon
  • Barney
  • The Color Purple
  • So many flowers, fruits and vegetables
    • plum
    • eggplant (nasty!)
    • figs
    • lilac
    • heather
    • lavender
    • potatoes
    • kohlrabi
    • cabbage
    • peppers
  • Willy Wonka
  • Grape(s)
  • Ursula the Sea Witch
  • Cheshire Cat
  • Color of a bruise
  • Dino from the Flintstones
  • Maleficent
  • The Joker
  • African Violets
  • ROY G. BIV (Violet = Purple)
  • Purple Rain

 

It’s also the color of Easter. Some may argue that pink might be more appropriate, but I lean towards purple, especially when you think about the colors of lent. I believe purple is one of them for us Catholics. Think about the Easter egg dyes… always some share of purple shows up. And the grass in baskets. The wrappers on the candy. Almost like a renewal or new beginning. It’s a theme!

From a quick InterWebs search, descriptions of the color: “Purple is associated spirituality, the sacred, higher self, passion, third eye, fulfillment, and vitality. Purple helps align oneself with the whole of the universe. Different shades, tints, and hues of purple have different meanings. Light purple hues represent feminine energy and delicacy, as well as romantic and nostalgic feelings. Dark purple hues evoke feelings of gloom, sadness, and frustration. Bright purple hues suggest riches and royalty.”

You can read more at: http://www.bourncreative.com/meaning-of-the-color-purple/

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How do you feel about the color purple? Did I miss any famous “purple” things or phrases and names with the word “purple” in them? Do share…

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 95 – Challenged

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Challenged: impaired or lacking a specific request

{Aside: That’s the worst definition I’ve found since looking words up for my post.)

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Ashley: “I’d rather just stay in bed today and reflect on where my life is. That cool?”

Dylan: “I’ve gotta shower and head to work. You should probably get up and do something, right?”

<<Ashley does a giant eye roll while Dylan slips off the bed and walks toward the bathroom. >>

Ashley: “I am doing something. Enjoying my life. What’s wrong with just watching TV, reading and blogging?”

Dylan: “Nothing. But is that what you want to do everyday?”

Ashley: “Maybe. Problem?”

Dylan: “Not at all. But how do YOU feel about it?”

<<Dylan turns on the shower while in the bathroom. Ashley turns over in the bed, face smooshed into the pillow. >>

Ashley: “Blah Blah Blah.”

Dylan: “What was that?”

<<Dylan steps out and looks at Ashley with a set of concerned eyes. Ashley’s head lifts from the pillow with a smirk. >>

Ashley: “I said it feels great.”

Dylan: “Well then why did you ask me if it was okay?”

Ashley: “Because I don’t know what the hell I’m doing anymore.”

Dylan: “You need some help. Maybe I should stay home today and get you out of here for a few hours.”

Ashley: “Um… no. I’m fine. You go to work. I’ll just lay here until I figure it all out.”

<<Approximately nine (9) hours later, Dylan arrives home. Ashley’s now on the couch. >>

Dylan: “I see you’ve made some progress today. How’s it feel?”

Ashley: “Didn’t we talk about our feelings already this morning?”

Dylan: “Yes. But since you’ve moved your ass off the bed and on to the couch, I thought maybe there’d been a change at some point today.”

Ashley: “Hilarious. Maybe you need to go back to work again.”

Dylan: “Ah, yes… I see your feelings haven’t really changed.”

<<Ashley throws a pillow at Dylan. Dylan catches it and smiles. >>

Ashley: “Nope. Still the same as when you left.”

Dylan: “There’s always tomorrow.”

Ashley: “You mean it’s still the same day?”

<<Ashley drops to couch, face smooshed into a different pillow. Dylan nods and walks away. >>

 

QUESTION ON YOUR MIND

Jay, have you lost your mind today? This is supposed to be the 365 Daily Challenge. What did I just read, and are you having a breakdown?

 

 

RESPONSE

Nope, I still have the same half a brain I had during yesterday’s 365 Daily Challenge. Just wanted to spice it up a little. I didn’t want to bore everyone and thought a little format change might do us some good. A few explanations:

  1. Ashley and Dylan are not me and my partner.
  2. We did not have this conversation today. Honestly.
  3. Ashley and Dylan could be two men, two women, one of each or any combination.
  4. We’ve all had these same thoughts before. Seriously.
  5. What’s the first word you felt after reading that dialogue?

 

For me, after re-reading what I wrote, I thought: “Truth.”

Then I sat back and thought some more. And it came to me. I think that’s the dialogue going on inside my own head every morning when I wake up. I can see the two people bantering away, oblivious to the others rattling around in there who are tasked with keeping my body running. For example:

  • Miss Scarlet ensures the blood is circulating while I’m sitting on my ass.
  • Colonel Mustard is thinking about what to eat or cook. Important stuff.
  • Mrs. Peacock is literally making bird noises to keep Ryder (the dog) entertained.
  • Mrs. White is keeping my skin nice and pasty.
  • Professor Plum is researching how to escape. He can’t stand to be around the others.
  • Mr. Green is dealing with all that digestion and growth. Someone’s gotta work.

 

Lesson

I have a few too many ideas in my head about what I should be doing right now. And after 95 days of trying to figure it out, I’m not all that much further; however, I feel like this is something I want to keep doing… minus that on-going conversation in my head.

 

So now I’m revising my own word to be: “Challenged.”

And that’s why this is appropriate for today’s 365 Daily Post.

<<Go ahead and laugh. A little humor can help this situation! >>

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 86 – Only-Child

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Only-Child: a person with no siblings, either biological or adopted

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As I awoke this morning, two ideas scratched the surface of my sleepy mind: (1) you are an only child, and (2) you wish you could dance [thanks for a certain someone for putting this in my mind yesterday]. Since I’m not prepared to discuss dancing, we’ll go with me being an only-child as today’s 365 Daily Challenge topic, despite it not being a characteristic; instead it is a noun, but I’ve allowed this a few times in the past.

The first thing I did, so as not to create my own suggestions as to what it means to be an only-child, was to google only-child syndrome. There’s no hyphen, by the way; but I’m being a bad-ass today and including it! The first article I stumbled across noted 12 things people assume about us only-children. The link is included, as they own the original idea, but below are my thoughts and impressions of those 12 items:

http://aidanneal.com/2014/08/14/12-things-you-should-know-about-only-child-syndrome/

1. People automatically assume we’re spoilt.

  • I was not spoiled during my childhood. I did not get everything I wanted, nor was I smothered. I didn’t ask for a lot, so I did get most things I asked for unless they were too expensive. But we really didn’t go on a lot of vacations. We split the cost of my first car, a used ten-year Oldsmobile. I didn’t get new clothes all the time. I had to help around the house and in the yard.

2. People automatically assume we’re selfish.

  • I am in the middle. I am a very generous person, but I can be selfish when it comes to things being equally divided. I was much more focused on this when I was younger, e.g. inspected everything to be sure we each got 50% or we took turns all the time. Now I’m less focused on selfish things, but I probably was considered selfish when younger.

3. Most every reaction we have is attributed to misconceptions of our upbringing.

  • Um… no. I hardly ever think about it. I have a few things I attribute to the way I was raised or what it was like being an only-child, but definitely no more than anyone else.

4. We’re most likely achievement oriented.

  • Yes, I base everything I do on how much I accomplished. I’m very goal-oriented and need to track progress, often to a fault.

5. Patience is just not our virtue.

  • This one is similar to being selfish. When I was younger, I was not patient. I’m much more practical about it now. If I notice myself getting frustrated over things taking too long or not going my way, I do things to prevent it or calm it. It doesn’t happen often, and it’s usually over very very big things or extremely minor things.
    • I lost my patience a couple of weeks ago when I was dusting. Yes, dusting. I had cleaned an entire bookshelf and by the time I got to the last one, I noticed dust floating back up to the top one. And I couldn’t get it to go away. I was not a happy camper for a few minutes. So I went and stood outside, looking at the flowers until I relaxed. Silly, but it happened.

6. We have a total disregard for anyone’s feelings or thoughts but our own.

  • Absolutely not. Quite the opposite. I’m so caught up in pleasing other people that I often let my own feelings sit on the side.

7. Alone time and/or moments of silence are detrimentally essential.

  • Yes, very true. I can’t be around a group of people for more than two hours without needing a break. I’m very uncomfortable in large gathering places, rarely going to music concerts or sporting events. Even when I’m having fun, I need to step away to not feel overwhelmed. Silence and solitude have always been my friends.

8. We’re not anti-social and we’re not altogether introverts.

  • Exactly! I’m in the middle. I claim to be an introvert, and when I want to be alone, you better leave me alone. But if I want to play, you better want to play.

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9. Attention seeking behavior is nonsensical to us.

  • I’m not sure I understand this one, but I know I’ve done a few things in the past to seek attention. I was likely feeling too alone or too needy over something, so I attempted to find ways to get a little focus on me. Nothing extreme, but I’d act silly or push myself to be something different. It’s not nonsensical, it’s more peculiar and unusual.

10. We’re really good at keeping secrets.

  • Quite true. I’m a lock-box when it comes to secrets. It goes in one ear and doesn’t know how to come back out. Gets lost up in there. Too many distractions and places to hide. Cobwebs also keep things intact.

11. We’re unforgiving.

  • Oh, unfortunately, I do need to admit this one. I actually can hold a grudge, even over small things. I’ve always lived by the “do unto others as you wish done to you” mantra. And in the past, if you did something I didn’t think was right, you were knocked down a peg on the scale. After too many pegs were chipped away, I distanced myself from you and found new people to climb the ladder. Foolish, I know. I was young. Now, I still have an initial reaction to push away people who don’t live up to my expectations or hurt me, but I am less harsh about it. And it takes much longer.

12. We’re more mature.

  • I think this is true in 90% of the cases. Apart from some personality flaws (things mentioned above), I tend to be very mature in most everything I do. I’ve always been a good 10 to 15 years older than my true age. But there is definitely a case for 10% of the time when I still act like a child or a party boy. Maturity for me started early. As a toddler, I wanted to be in school. In middle school, I wanted to be done and working. In college, I wanted to be married with children. Now, I want to be retired. But it’s really my mindset that I find is mature. I often think about things as though I’ve had more experience in life than I actually have had. It’s why I call myself an old-soul.

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How about you? Are you an only-child? Do you have only one child? Do you think these are accurate, or are tools like this really not pertinent since we’re all different?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 85 – Inspirational

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Inspirational: providing or creating the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something, especially something creative

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After 80+ days of blogging in the 365 Daily Challenge posts, I’ve turned to an online list of personality traits as the source to pick the word of the day, at least whenever it’s not a Sunday (pre-determined lists) or “inspiration occurring” as I sit down to write. Today there was no inspiration, so I went to the list and the first word I saw… ironically… was inspirational — I promise you… I have a scrolling issue on my screen, so when I opened the page and scrolled down to get to the letter A, it went to the letter I.

And there you have it… inspiration from Jay on this fine Monday and start of the week. When we think of examples of inspirational people, it’s usually the “self-help” gurus who have books, blogs, courses and TV spots. But I don’t usually buy into those things; it’s not that I don’t believe in the person or their words. It’s that I have a different view of the inspirational: “lead by example.” I am not the type of person to tell someone else how to search for happiness or how to find your nirvana. It’s too subjective. I’m not a psychologist. I’m not really in the business of giving out advice on things that I’m not an expert on. And as you probably guessed, I’m not an expert on anything.

That said, these 365 posts often make recommendations or provide some level of direction and suggestion on things to consider. I’m more about saying what’s on my mind and letting listeners or readers choose to find something of value, laugh or ignore me. BOOM! I can take it… go ahead and ignore me. 🙂

To be inspirational, you need to have great courage, strength, conviction, passion and experience. To provide inspiring thoughts and actions, you need to have accomplished tremendous goals and objectives. Not only do you have to show why you are the person to lead someone to their answers, but you also have to practice what you preach every minute of every day. Once you are safely wandering that road, you are in a position to inspire others to do the same thing. I don’t feel that’s me, nor do I have a desire to walk that path. I much prefer, as I noted above, to lead by example and if someone finds something of value in who I am or what I do, I’m happy to share.

To lead by example means truly just living your life in the way you believe it is best lived. For me, it’s knowing my place in the world. I’m happy and content to have a fair balance of friends and family, a career and hobbies, social and quiet time… to commit to providing good content in my daily 365 posts that is focused on things prevalent in my mind or my day — and not worrying about whether someone reads them or comments… to connect with others from different countries, different walks of life, different personalities and different ages. My 365 goal has always been to help myself; I’m completely being selfish here. But at the same time, it’s enabling so much more to happen than I expected.

Through various people I’ve met online, I find inspiration in a mother who is raising children under difficult conditions, a professor who is teaching students, non-Americans sharing their culture with me, teenagers showing me what it’s like to grow up with so much technology at our finger tips, and people sharing beautiful pictures and experiences. I’m gaining confidence as a writer. I’m learning how to accept differences in other people. I’m speaking my mind more, thanks to the boundaries of sitting behind the InterWeb wall (not that I’m saying anything too controversial). I’m challenging myself to open up about many personal things. I’m finding a voice that maybe is a little bit humorous, despite always thinking I’m not a very funny guy.

And so… picking inspirational as today’s word is a two-way street for me. I find all of you inspirational because I truly get something new and different from each relationship. Sometimes it’s just a connection where someone says “I agree” or “Thanks,” and other times, I’m building online friendships that could grow into offline friendships in the future. At the end of this week, the 365 Daily Challenge will be 25% complete — and that feels a bit inspirational too… for someone who isn’t much of a talker… {Aside: Seriously, if you saw me with my friends, I’m often referred to as the silent mute. I listen much more than I talk. I blend into the walls during conversations.} I’ve certainly had a lot to say on ThisIsMyTruthNow.

Hence… inspirational to me isn’t about finding a guru to help identify the path for your life. It’s about learning a little bit from everyone in your life, interpreting words and emotions within your own mindset and sharing it through being who you are and demonstrating the way in which you think things should be. Inspirational can be spiritual and religious, but it doesn’t have to be. It can be admiration for something or something you feel is a guidepost for your own future as a general approach to life. The impact could be momentary or life-altering, but in the end, there is valuable insight.

As I march toward my conclusion here… the biggest thing that comes to mind is that I don’t have any one individual in particular who inspires me — on a grandiose level, I mean. I’m inspired by little things across many people, as they help me compile ways to consider in how I want to live or who I want to be. There are certainly people who do inspiring things and are considered the archetype of inspiration, and that’s important. But for regular folks like myself, and probably many of you (no offense intended), when I need to be inspired, I want it to come from someone tangible and reachable. I want to see someone I know or often communicate with reach his/her goal, share a rewarding experience or find a welcoming path. It’s not about famous idols. It’s about real and familiar, where I can place my trust and experience it myself.

How about you? What inspires you? Who inspires you? How do you inspire others?

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 84 – Blue (Color)

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Blue: (a) of a color intermediate between green and violet, as of the sky or sea on a sunny day, or (b) melancholy, sad, and depressed

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Sunday posts, the end of each week, have become a theme on This-Is-My-Truth-Now, organized by groups of five (5). In the first set of five, we explored my primary ethnicity groups and nationalities. In the second set of five, we had the AtoZ Challenges for various favorite things in our lives. And so… I’m continuing the trend of the seventh day, ending the week on Sunday, as a list (we know I love them) that provides more in depth knowledge about me. Only this time, I’m going with colors that are important to who we are. For the next five Sundays, I will select a color that has some significance to my life and explore it in my post.

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Color: Blue. When I was born, blue went into a boy’s bedroom and pink went into a girl’s bedroom. Maybe that’s why I love the color blue. Cause I’m a boy. Oh please… Pick whatever color you want — why make it such a big deal! At least that’s how I feel… and since that is a very common, though antiquated, interpretation, I couldn’t go the whole post without mentioning it, but also saying I don’t feel it’s important. That said, I did grow up on the color blue and I do like it very much. But the reason I chose it as one of the 5 colors that represent me well is more because of its alternative definitions — not necessarily depressed or sad, but calm. It generally has a very muted, low-key and relaxed feeling to it (obviously not all bright or bold blue colors), and people turn to the sky or the ocean, the two biggest representations of the color blue, when they need a sense of peace. {Aside: BTW, the links in this post take you to previous 365 posts where the characteristic was something I blogged about.}

I’m not too fond of the ocean, simply because I don’t really know how to swim. My grandmother taught me when I was young, but I never felt comfortable in the water. Having poor eyesight meant when I was in the water, I either went without glasses and couldn’t see well, or I wore them and constantly had to dry off the lenses to be able to see. I could never swim underwater as it bothered my eyes, drying them out quickly. So I avoid the water for those reasons, but also because it’s generally too cold for me. I like water around 90 degrees, which it rarely gets to unless I’m in a heated pool. Swimming in the Mediterranean in Barcelona was the only time I thoroughly enjoyed the experience. Even in Hawaii, it was too cold; although I did jump into a waterfall one day… I’ve got the pictures to prove it, but I can’t share them, as I was wearing very little or nothing in those photos for that impromptu experience (wild side comes out sometimes). Instead, I’ll show a photo of beautiful blue rose!

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Let’s chat about famous examples of the color blue… And yes, there are probably more, but these are the ones that come to mind or I have familiarity with:

  • Blue Whale
  • Blue Man Group
  • The Blues
  • Blue Ribbon
  • True Blue
  • Blue Balls (Please! I can’t ignore this one…)
  • Blue Blood
  • Blueberries
  • The Blue Lagoon
  • Blue Jeans
  • Bluebird
  • Turned up out of the blue
  • Blue Sky
  • “Little Blue Pill” — for the life of me, I can’t remember what it is…
  • Ocean Water
  • Cookie Monster — this is totally me with any package of cookies

From a quick InterWebs search, descriptions of the color blue, in regard to a person’s thoughts and feelings, confirm the following:

“Blue is associated with open spaces, freedom, intuition, imagination, expansiveness, inspiration, and sensitivity… as the color of the spirit, it invokes rest and can cause the body to produce chemicals that are calming and exude feelings of tranquility.”

You can read more at: http://www.bourncreative.com/meaning-of-the-color-blue/

The Fifth Element is one of my favorite movies. It combines humor, art, history, revenge, secrets and the future. What does it have to do with the color blue? If you’ve seen it, do you remember this woman singing? How cool was her voice and the action in that seen!

 

The color blue has always been in at least one room in my home, no matter where I lived. In my current pad, it’s one of two primary colors in bedroom (the other is grey).  A quick photo (about a year old) — too lazy to get the latest ones with all the pictures on the walls and more pillows (orange, as it needed a splash of color).

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As a kid, I hated blue jeans. I couldn’t wear them — they were too itchy. And since I wasn’t allowed out of the house in sweats or gym-type clothing, I had to wear khakis all the time. I went to public school – none of that fancy private stuff for me!!! – and of course, I always got some comments for dressing “well” when everyone else wore jeans.  At 18, I gave jeans a try again, and finally… I could wear them. Now I live in them… or sweats… or shorts because I’m always hot. But the funny thing is… of the 8 pairs of jeans I currently own, only two are blue. I also don’t own a blue suit. I have one pair of blue corduroys, but blue mostly comes into my wardrobe either in dress shirts or casual every day shirts. And even in the latest picture of me (from last night), even though the sun is toning it down a bit, I was wearing blue. I had a few too many drinks right before dinner and needed a bit of a nap on the terrace, hence the slightly dazed look in my eyes.

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How do you feel about the color blue? Did I miss any famous “blue” things or phrases and names with the word “blue” in them. I know I did… but I can’t seem to remember right now.

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 82 – Assertive

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Assertive: having or showing a confident and forceful personality

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I have a negative connotation of the word “assertive,” which has ultimately resulted in my discomfort around people who have overly assertive behaviors. When I think about why I feel this way, it’s probably centralized around experiences with those who have a more aggressive and domineering assertive personality, rather than confident and affirmative behaviors. But I’m also smart enough to acknowledge and support assertive behaviors when they are productive and positive. As always, I tend to break things down across two distinct areas of my life, since I’ve previously mentioned I seem to be two different people wrapped up in one body.

(Just being funny… only one of us sucks — the other one is awesome)

In my professional working environment and culture, I demonstrate a more assertive style than I do in my personal life. In my last position, I directly managed 9 people (Vice-Presidents, Directors and Managers) and approximately 100 people in total within my organization. While being assertive was important to being seen as a successful leader and executive, I certainly did not represent the norm when it comes to an assertive management style. And it was often a topic of discussion both with my staff and my own supervisor, who respected the ability I had in still accomplishing our goals without being a typical assertive leader — but also faulted me for not representing what (s)he thought was important to display for other executive management.

As a leader, my style is often relaxed, friendly and inclusive. Although I was the boss and had the corner office, I never felt comfortable acting and treating people as though there needed to be an arm’s length distance between us; my door was “always open” and I encouraged everyone to stop in to tell me how things were going, both professionally and personally. In meetings, I certainly “ran them” with a clear and focused agenda, kept everything on time, listened and made decisions, etc. — all with confidence and strong direction. But I was never the manager who would walk in, shut the door, get down to business, and then walk out after being sure I told everyone else what to do. That never felt like the right style for me. To me, that was a negative way to assert your leadership and management over people and projects.

When I think of negatively assertive behaviors, my experience was with managers who quickly shut down new ideas, said “no” without fully listening, or phrased their messages in either an accusatory or reckless way. (I’ve also had very positive managers, so no worries!). But as a result, I associate assertive with dominance, rudeness and indifference to people as humans with different personalities and comfort styles. I tend to dislike or feel uncomfortable around people with any sort of forceful personality — both in the business world and in my personal life.

At work, I tend to be driven and results-oriented. I need to be the leader and always take on new responsibilities. It’s such a huge piece of my personality. I’m sure a psychiatrist would suggest that I’m searching for approval and acceptance, as I must feel like I don’t have it in some other part of my life. Whatever the reason (not really all that important to me), I’m the complete opposite in my personal life. Outside of work, although I do take charge of “events” such as planning our annual holiday party or coordinating vacations, when it comes to every day things like choosing meals, decor, times to go out, et al… I would rather just go with the flow. I don’t want to take the lead, as it’s my opportunity to take a break, sitting back to let others run with things on their own accord.

For the same reasons, I also don’t like having forceful personalities in my friendships. When someone tends to be domineering or assertive in terms of pushing their own agenda, monopolizing conversations, arguing, or attempting to show why they are better or stronger at something, I immediately shut down, and to some degree, want to write off that person. I’ve abandoned many friendships or potential friendships for those reasons. And I’m totally OK with it! If I don’t like someone’s assertive personality, or they get too aggressive with me, I’m not going to enjoy being around them. When they assert themselves more than necessary, it’s a major turn-off. That said, I won’t throw away a solid friendship over an argument or slight change in behaviors. I’ll certainly make attempts to change how I think/feel or let him/her know what’s going on. But in the end, I want people in my life who are collaborative, open-minded, friendly and more able to let go of the unimportant things.

I know being assertive can be a positive thing, too, and I’m not discounting that side of this equation — just focusing on the negative aspects of it in this post. Another day will highlight the positive ones, when it comes to those with a “can-do” attitude. Due to how I feel about this type of negative assertiveness, I’ve heard a few interesting things when I make my position clear to others. Some say I lack passion. Others say I’m afraid to speak my mind. I’ve been accused of being weak-minded. My response: “OK, thanks for your input. Always glad to hear someone else’s opinion.” Then there’s some noise (usually me getting up, leaving and shutting the door) And I’m free!!!!!

True, that’s an exaggeration, but my point here is… we all have a comfort level when it comes to our own level of assertiveness and that of those around us. Assertive can be both positive and negative. In my world, if you are dominant, forceful or aggressive, I am inclined not to want to share much time in the same space as you. If you are flexible, open and accessible in your assertive behavior, we’ll get along quite well.

How about you? Do you have different levels of assertiveness at home or at work? With different friends? Do you like when others are assertive in a forceful way?

NOW!!!

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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