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365 Challenge: Day 307 – Instinct

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Instinct: (a) an innate, typically fixed pattern of behavior in animals in response to certain stimuli or (b) what your gut says

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There are moments in life when you tell yourself to push beyond the instinctual behavior that generally guides your actions. Sometimes you can accept a different feeling or approach, but not always — and even when you do, you may not fully engage to see a different result. It is when you reflect back on your decisions and determination that you often see how accurate your instincts can be after they’ve been a natural part of who you are for so very many years. But if you choose to always rely on them, you might not ever experience a necessary revelation.

My instincts have been on high alert in regard to several decisions and trust over the last few months. I remind myself each day to take chances. It might pay off. It might not. If I listened to my instincts today (as in this morning, this moment), and followed through on what they tell me, I might be listening to fear rather than opportunity. I doubt I’ll cater to them right now, as I can see why the voice is louder in the current period — and that’s a good thing. Recognizing the parameters under which you originally developed your instincts is necessary before unequivocally accepting them as concrete guides to evaluating your options and making your decisions.

I’m more vague and philosophical than usual today — it’s something I usually contain in my open words; it’s underdeveloped thoughts, musings of a sensitive soul, a way to ponder what comes next. Nothing’s wrong or bad. It’s simply good to think outside the box (or even forget there is a box, if you recall a post from about two weeks ago) at times… there  should be a balance each day to relying on instinct versus random decisions; we must learn to use it wisely and evolve the process we use to achieve each goal.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 242 – Cringe

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Cringe: what happens when you start getting text message from your mother as she’s reading your book and about to reach that section

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Today’s post is a collection of video graphics (sorry A, I know these aren’t your favorite, but they are so apropos for a few things that happened last night). As I mentioned previously, my mom has been holding off reading my debut novel because she wanted the physical copy. I ordered it and finally gave it to her this week when she came by for lunch. I might have had a few heart attacks but not for the reason you think. I can take the criticism, we have a good relationship; however, a few things suddenly came flying at me from every angle possible. Yes, if you haven’t read the book, the true danger of some of these items might not make as big of an impression, but if you read it, I know you’re with me on this one. I’m NOT getting Christmas presents this year, I just know it.

  • What if she asks “Is Olivia based on me?”
    • No, definitely not. And that’s the truth. Well, maybe only the good parts.
    • I do not have any siblings, nor do I come from an upper class Connecticut family, so there really can’t be any resemblances.

  • What happens when she gets to the part where Olivia ‘walks in’ on her son, Caleb?
    • Seriously, I don’t want to have to explain any of this to my mother. I’m gonna die tonight, I just know it.
    • No, my mother has never walked in on me in any way, shape or form.

  • How do I explain that love scene between two characters? I named a few body parts… that’s gonna be awkward!
    • No, Mom. I had someone ghost write that section for me. I never read it either. I’m quiet, innocent and shy. I don’t even know what ‘that word’ means!
    • OK, so can someone kidnap me this afternoon before she reads anymore?

I wish I could share more, but I can’t without revealing any of the secrets or scenes that might cause someone to cringe in the book… so I’m left with only one response:

You’ll have to read it to know what I mean!

 

NOTE: My mother does not read my blog nor have any social media accounts. A few of my family members, however, do have access to these posts. I live in fear, cringing right now, at which one of you is going to share this post with her. I will get revenge; you’ll be tortured in my next novel…

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay, an author who lives in NYC. My debut novel, Watching Glass Shatter, can be purchased on Amazon @ http://mybook.to/WGS. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 110 – Solution-Oriented

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Solution-Oriented: used to describe a person who finds solutions to problems. Rather than dwelling on dilemmas, a person who is solution-oriented takes an active approach in solving them

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As our picture for the word of the day suggests, we can either be solution or problem-oriented, when it comes to facing dilemmas. For most of my life, I’ve always been solution-oriented; however, I do feel it is important to spend an appropriate amount of time, dependent on the size of the issue, first focusing on the problem, so that you can clearly determine your collaborative objective and goals. And then you should turn your focus to looking at all the options for success and remediation rather than shoot down ideas because some part of it isn’t ideal or effective. OK… enough technical jargon… two things clearly on my mind today… and although both touch on politics, that’s not the intention at all.

Two issues happened in the last week which significantly annoyed me: (1) NY State Governor declared a state-of-emergency for the NYC MTA (subway and trains for those who don’t know) and (2) My primary care doctor is implementing a concierge-style service which will require me to pay more money each year. I’ll explain both in detail, and why the word solution-oriented seems to come to mind today.

(1) NYC Subways & Trains

  •  I do not claim to know all the problems with our transit system, nor what is holding us back from being able to fix them, so please don’t think my little summary here is anything more than a very personal and subjective thought. But it seems the Governor has given the MTA a 30/60/90 day ultimatum to fix the issue or… something will happen — not sure what that will be. They’ve asked for all rider input to help solve the problem.
  • Lots of derailments and shutdowns occurring recently, caused by both mechanical reasons and human failure. Air conditioning and venting has grown quite problematic, resulting in 100+ degree temperatures and minimal quality on the ride. The percentage of trains that are on-time is now far less than those which are late or canceled. The plan for the future has little strategic thought, the costs are increasing where it is in-affordable and there is very little in the way of communication or new technology being implemented.
  • Obviously, the people who have been in charge of this issue in the past have not been solution-oriented. I am throwing no shade at them, as I understand what it’s like to be in a business or company where everything is so inter-connected that it is very difficult to find a solution without annoying or hurting some part of the business or customer-base. But… that’s life… and sometimes you have to move forward despite the inconvenience. So… what I am thinking here is… this is a commuter-based transportation system that serves millions of NYC residents, workers and travelers. Surely we can build a solution that provides incremental change over some number of years and get to a place where we either (1) cough up more money to do it faster or (2) find a solution that provides some relief for different parts of the system and shut our mouths while the progress takes place.
  • But that’s just me… that’s how I approach a situation. I don’t know all the details here, but I’m pretty sure some smart minds can find a solution to this. That’s one of my strengths… maybe I should be running this program right now. Anyone have an in to get me hired there?

 

(2) Medical Insurance & Care

  • Ever since I’ve been an adult, I’ve been lucky enough to have a privilege where my job paid for a large portion of my medical insurance. I certainly paid a lot too, but I can say nothing when so many other people have had no insurance or no ability to pay for insurance. The problem has not really been at my door, and it wasn’t until my parents began somewhat struggling when my dad was able to collect Medicare but by mom had to get her own policy, as she’s a bit younger. They worked through a solution, and it was expensive, but they found a way to deal with it. Still, we are a lucky family.
  • Last week, my primary care physician mailed a communication to all patients that they are moving to a concierge-style service, where they will reduce existing patient counts to a much smaller population, offer a few additional services and charge an annual fee. For my age, it is $2K per year to remain a patient. Yes… $2K to stay or I can go somewhere else. While my doctor is perfectly lovely, and I’ve gone to him for 5 years since I moved into NYC, there’s nothing extraordinary in the sense that he’s top in his game for a specific illness I might have. Quite the opposite… I’m in very good health, and from 24 thru 34, I went to the doctor only two times — for a really bad sinus infection / flu-like thing… otherwise, I avoided doctors (that’s another story for another day).
  • So… I’m not angry or going to complain about this, as I’m sure there’s some logical reason this was the solution resulting from all the hullabaloo going on with the healthcare industry. And I’m not going to get political and blame anyone right now. Whether I can or can’t afford this fee isn’t the issue. For me, though as I get older I will need the doctor more, I can’t imagine why I’d pay $2K a year just to keep a doctor I will only go to once for a check-up. That’s what a walk-in clinic or new doctor might be for… but the partner and I are still thinking it through — as we’re both solution-oriented guys.
  • This is yet another situation where people responsible for managing healthcare options in the US (and perhaps other countries) are simply not taking this seriously enough and looking for true solutions. Instead, everyone finds a problem with every component and is unable to put forth changes that truly make a difference. No, I’m not saying we should pass the current new plan just to move forward… I’m saying we need to stop trying to fix everything at once and instead we should break this into smaller and more manageable pieces.
  • I’m sure there are smarter minds than mine working on this. And I’m sure there are honest and caring people not trying to include things other than healthcare in all the bills and laws. But enough is enough… we’re talking about healthcare for an entire country… and I can’t possibly see how going concierge-style is anything but beneficial for doctors who are being bled dry of any income because of all the shenanigans. So… if anyone knows how to put me in charge of all this… I need a challenge. I’m solution-oriented. And I thrive on helping people get what they deserve.

 

So… my little rant today is not to be taken in a political way… I’m not making a stance from a liberal or conservative, republican or democrat perspective. I’m simply stating something obvious that I apply in everything I do all throughout my life: let’s find a way to approach both of these topics in a solutions-oriented way where we don’t solve it all at once — but we break it down into manageable components where we drive positive change every day / quarter / month / year for the next few years until we are in a legitimately better place… and then we can squabble over the areas that people can’t agree on.

Simply put:  why should 80% of the population suffer to appease 20% who can’t get their heads out of their asses? Again, not political… just saying… put the right solutions-oriented people in place to solve problems. Not those who are in a place to have to deal with things that have nothing to do with the problem.

For anyone who wants to respond, I would totally love to hear from you about how people are solution or problem-oriented.  BUT one rule / condition… please don’t respond with political statements on who is doing well or not doing well, or rhetoric about specifically how to solve these two issues. That’s not the point of my 365 Daily Challenge and blog. I picked these two topics because they affected me this week, I saw a commonality between them, and I am relating it to people’s personalities and the way they approach things — like finding solutions to problems, whether those problems are the NYC MTA or US Healthcare… or how to teach a kid how to tie shoes in a velcro or shoelace-less world… or remember phone numbers with a device that might lose its battery. Someday, the whole technical world will stop and everyone will stare at space hoping to remember the number they need or the address they are looking for.

And if you can’t help yourself and have to say something political send it elsewhere or to me privately. 🙂 xoxo

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.