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365 Challenge: Day 215 – Chill

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Chill: (a) amazing coolness in the air, (b) relax, (c) shiver up your spine when frightened, (d) what you do to a bottle of wine or champagne to celebrate

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Today’s 365 Daily Challenge word was both easy and cathartic. I felt like a kid in a candy shop when I awoke to such an amazing and beautiful temperature in my bedroom. It was chilly, but not from the air conditioner; I left a window open overnight and the cool air danced its way around me. I love autumn and this is the first day I actually felt like it was beginning to materialize. I’ll forget that on Sunday it will be back up to 78, but then it drops and I will be a very happy guy. I can wear a light pair of pants and a v-neck tee, perhaps a comfy cardigan or sweater, and not feel like I’m in the depths of hell. Hallelujah, the weather deities are on my side. Sorry to everyone who misses summer or is concerned about winter’s approach… between Game of Thrones and this, you must be on high alert.

The word “chill” is also appropriate because W is back from a business trip and we will celebrate my book’s launch this week by chilling a few bottles of wine and champagne; we can celebrate the next step in my hopefully new and permanent career. Even Ryder might get a taste, although he’s a Prohibitionist. He turns his nose up (literally and figuratively) whenever either of us has a drink. I often use it to keep him away from the dinner table when he begs for too many scraps. I bring my drink to his nose as if to give him a treat, but he gets all huffy and walks away, perturbed at my beverage choices. And for anyone who thinks I’m being cruel… this lovable little monster gets scraps everyday, but after one or two, that’s enough people food. He’s only twenty pounds and I’d like him to live forever. Even if he and I have different views on many social and political topics.

Yet another reason to choose the word chill is today’s date: Friday the 13th! It means the beginning of a few scary movies this weekend to lure in the horrors of Halloween. It will send a chill up my spine but scary movies are my favorite. Thrillers… serial killers… and chillers… what a wonderful way to leave reality and just get lost in a good piece of fiction with a spot of danger. I know it’s not for everyone, but I like ’em. And lastly, it’s time to put my feet up and relax this weekend, as it’s been a busy week full of excitement and stress (all in a good way). I will chill for 24 hours and not worry about anything I have to do, rather I will focus on doing whatever I want to do. We all need a weekend day like that…

So tell me… which of these interpretations of the word chill do you most identify with? Or have you located another definition I’ve forgotten?

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 142 – Yield

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Yield: give way to arguments, demands, or pressure

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It’s Monday evening. I’ve just completed every open tag and award sitting in my draft folder. Please don’t hate me. I am not bragging. I am just documenting it so my head can acknowledge it. Between the weekend and today, it added up to over twenty (20) posts. I thought I’d space them out over the week, but after I finish writing them all up, I’m too excited to release them. I also want to see zero items in my draft folder. I need to know that I’m all caught up. If you read any of the “Who am I” tag responses, you’ve probably already figured out that little tidbit about me. And that’s why the 365 Daily Challenge word of the day will be ‘yield.’ I officially yield to the WordPress Gods and Goddesses… no more posts today… except this one, which should be done in about 30 minutes. I HOPE!

As a brief aside… if you tagged me or nominated me in the last few months, and you don’t see a reply post, please let me know. I think I caught them all, but sometimes if I don’t get the ping-back, I might have missed it even when reading your post. Sometimes I don’t look at who a person nominates, assuming I’ll get a ping-back. It’s not 100% effective, but it helps save a bit of time to focus on the real content when trying to stay on top of it all. I had to yield to something… finding mini short-cuts is critical to survival.

I can now breathe a sigh of relief before I begin this evening’s top priority activity: planning the North Carolina trip for mid-September. I’m excited to go on the trip, but not excited to plan the trip. I’ve never been a trip planner, mostly because I plan everything else in my life… this is an area I want someone else to do all the work. Last year, I planned a two week trip to Italy — like a professional — I honestly put at least 100 hours into the planning aspects. I should sell this itinerary. I think it wiped me out from ever wanting to do it again. I fully need to yield to the travel Gods and Goddesses to not force me to plan this trip. Please. No. Not right. Whine Whine Whine.

But I need to be fair, which means W and I need to split the responsibilities. He booked two hotels and sent me some links to other hotels for the rest of the trip. I will work on those tonight, as well as finalize all the flights and car rental. I can compromise. I don’t have to yield to the travel-planning paralyzing fear of getting sucked into the vortex vacuum of too much research. Thinking about planning trips makes me wonder how everyone else goes about planning vacations? Are you focused on getting everything organized or do you like to wing it? Just curious… that’s not really the point of today’s purpose. Maybe I’m procrastinating so I don’t have to open a new browser tab and Google shit…  by the way, I started telling my friends and family when they ask me questions… “I don’t know. Google that shit.” People tend to think I’m a walking encyclopedia. I’m not. I’m losing more data in my brain day by day as I grow more and more old crazy busy relaxed. I hope I don’t lose anything important, like how to pour my wine in a glass before I drink it. Or to buy very cheap wine. That would be bad.

 

When I think about the word ‘yield,’ I often associate it within giving up. I am wrong. It’s not giving up. It’s choosing to do things a better way. For instance… I wanted to write all day, but I had too many items in my draft folder and on my to-do list. So I took the sign literally and let myself yield to someone who knew better — Me! This enabled me to get everything else done today, giving myself a full 8-hour day tomorrow where I can focus on writing chapters 4 and 5 for Father Figure.

I promise to stay off social media and the Internet, so if you don’t see me for most of the day, don’t worry. If you do see me, yell at me — I fully condone any and all efforts to stop me (taser gun included if you can find me or a gun… and if you find both, please don’t aim somewhere that either hurts or causes me to involuntarily pee… that wouldn’t be fun for me. maybe you. NOT me!) — until I get off the Internet and focus on the novel. It’s important to give myself parameters in order to accomplish everything. And sometimes I yield to how my brain feels or what energy level I have, rather than do something because I planned it that way. Today was one of those decisions.

So whether you’re walking through your day, or you’re walking through an intersection, this might be the most important sign you ever follow. You know yourself better than anyone else knows you — no matter what anyone else says. Sure, sometimes you miss a few clues. Often you’re too stubborn to listen to what your body is saying. But deep down, the truth is there and you can find it. Listen a little more closely and yield when it feels appropriate. It might make you feel a whole lot better to re-plan rather than be frustrated the original idea didn’t work. I know it’s helped me the last few days, especially with clearing my plate and my mind enough that I can meet all my goals for the week. How about you? What are you going to yield to this week?

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Vanessa @ Food in Books. Vanessa and I met about two months ago when I stumbled upon a post she had written where she combines a book she’s read with cooking an elaborate meal that has a strong connection to the story. We started talking about different books, and she kept pointing me to prior posts she’d written already that had a recipe and a review. I was so amazed at the great variety and wonderful photos in all her book reviews. Recipes are included. Pictures of the book. Pictures along the cooking process — step by step. We’re even considering doing a joint / buddy book read and recipe post. How fun would that be? Vanessa is very friendly, has so many great ideas and interacts frequently with her followers. I really think you’d love to read her reviews and recipes, as it’s definitely not something I’ve seen a lot of… and her site makes you want to read and cook immediately. If you don’t believe me, you can read more in the About Me section I copied below and then go visit her site.
    • “I’m Vanessa, and welcome to my blog. If you’re a fellow bookworm and foodie, you’ve come to the right place. I really feel that cooking is an act of love, and as I have progressed with this blog, I’ve come to know myself in a way I hadn’t previously. I’ve opened my home, and heart, to many people in the process of cooking and writing, and it’s made me a better person for it.As well, reading is something that is in my blood. I can’t imagine a world without books. Books have saved me so many times, have helped me travel, have expanded my worldview, and have often been a source of therapy and comfort. Combining my two great loves of cooking and reading has inspired me to expand my own horizons, in both the books I read and the food I cook. I’m happy you’ve stopped by, and please check back each week to see the latest book and food combination. And feel free to send me your suggestions about books and the food described in them, and I’ll try them out!”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 120 – Rushed

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Rushed: done or completed too hurriedly; hasty

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During various parts of the last 24 hours, I found myself feeling rushed. A bit of anxiety creeping up beneath the surface. A fear of missing out on something shadowing my actions. A niggling at the back of my head reminding me of all the things patiently waiting for my attention. It seems my attention has too many seekers and not enough moments.

{Aside: Where’s Harry Potter when you need him? Someone’s gotta deal with this — not me!}

That certainly doesn’t seem fair, now does it? Oh, wait… nevermind… that’s just me being selfish and ignorant. I am looking at this all the wrong way. It means I must be doing something right if so many things, people or situations need or want my focus for a brief period of time. So I must be worth it, correct? Now that’s a better way of looking at it. Perhaps being rushed isn’t the right approach; it could be the exact opposite.

I think I need to share a little background…. I wrote my Sunday 365 Daily Challenge post on Saturday evening, as I knew I’d have a short amount of time available to me on Sunday morning to get it done. I was spending the day with my other half and some friends in Tarrytown, New York, where another friend was performing in the show Annie. For those that aren’t familiar with the area, Tarrytown in Westchester County is about 30 miles north of Midtown NYC — a 1 hour drive in normal traffic. We rented a car for the day, drove into the heart of the little township, had a fantastic brunch, took a tour of Kykuit, a Rockefeller estate with several mansions and gardens along the Hudson River. We then strolled through the town’s main streets, shopped a little, took a walk around a small area of the river and then had an early dinner before taking in the theatre performance. Met at 11am at the car and walked back in the apartment at 11pm. Twelve hours of absolute fun… check out my Instagram feed to see a few pictures from throughout the day’s adventures. And go see the show, it was adorable. Westchester Broadway Theatre.

The end result was about 24 hours where I wasn’t focusing on my phone nor all the notifications and posts from WordPress, Goodreads, etc. While all of these adventures were fantastic, there was this small sense of feeling rushed that lingered in the background whenever I had a moment to myself. While I rode in the car back to the city, I found myself a tad agitated flushed with that rushed feeling one has when trying to catch up on what had been missed in the last 24 hours. I went right to sleep last night and then had more events to attend today. Earlier this morning, I met a new friend for coffee for a few hours where we talked about life, blogging, writing, reading, family and NYC. I’m not going to say a whole lot more about who it was, but you know who you are! It felt great to talk with someone else in person, live, about all the things showing up on the blogs we share. There are more people like me! Or other people I’m like!

On the 30-minute walk home, which was my first moment in 24 hours where I could focus on what I needed to accomplish, I let the little anxiety monster do it’s linger-dance-poke-harass thing and then realized… don’t be stupid, Jay! How lucky are you to have all these things that want your attention? And how amazing is it that those notifications and comments will be there forever… so if you don’t actually get to them until tonight, that’s OK. During my coffee meeting today, our conversation revolved around priorities and figuring out how to put the right focus where it belongs. It helped start my mind and energy in the right place. So I let go of the anxiety about mid-walk home… worried less about what I might have missed and thought more about what I wanted to accomplish this afternoon. And within 2 hours after arriving home, I’d completed a short workout, returned a phone call, picked the location to meet a friend for dinner, worked out the landscaping plan for the weekend with the building’s rep so I could bring the materials into the apartment, paid some bills, read all the comments from the last 24 hours, replied to a few outstanding emails and text messages, had some lunch and was able to start my 365 Daily Challenge post.

What did I learn? Anxiety for the sake of anxiety is just plain ridiculous. You probably waste half the available time you had by worrying about what you’re missing. Put it to good use, forget feeling rushed, channel that energy into focusing on the best order to get things accomplished in the available time you have and just do it! So that’s what I’ve done. And now the post is nearly complete, leaving me a few hours before dinner to focus on fine-tuning that project plan I’ve talked about lately… putting me back on schedule tomorrow to start writing character bios for “Father Figure” again.

Doesn’t it seem fairly silly to have lost a few hours over the last day to this rushed anxiety? How about you? Do you catch yourself feeling rushed and not recognizing when you’re missing out on properly using that small amount of time you had available? Any tips or tricks to share? I’m usually pretty good at managing it, but when my time is re-purposed towards healthier things (actually seeing and talking to people instead of hiding behind an Internet wall), it was like I’d forgotten how to handle it all. Momentary. Just like the only bit of energy you should ever give away to that feeling of being rushed. Once it happens, kick its ass out the door and continue on your path. Don’t ever let it hold you back from true potential. {Aside: Is this an appropriate place for a mic drop?}

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Shalini @ BookReviewsByShalini. Ah, what can I say about this very genuine, caring and honest friend I’ve met online, who lives halfway across the world from me… Though her site is primarily for book reviews, she has many other posts which are always a delight and full of great wisdom and generosity. We met about 5 to 6 weeks ago and share a fond love of thrillers and suspense novels, but we are introducing one another to different types of literature. And she’s a doctor… I was honored to have a doctor choose to follow me and engage with fun wit, banter and depth. We enjoy chatting about so many life topics, and sometimes it’s a good 10 hours apart between replies given the time difference, but there’s always consistent strength and a wonderful connection in our dialogue. If we lived closer, I’m sure we’d be friends and hang out. For now, unless you happen to live near her, you’ll have to be content reading her blog as I do. Please take a look at some of her insightful commentary and brilliant book observations.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 109 – Momentary

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Momentary: lasting for a very short time; brief

My left eyelid fluttered open a moment before my right, then promptly closed in protection from the blaring stare of the sun searing towards its core. The warmth of the air dancing on my skin comforted me until the gentle breeze alerted the entirety of my surroundings. The dirt was firm yet it felt soft against the tips of my fingers and the curve of my neck, as I realized I lay flat on my back. I looked all around, breathing in the lustrous scent of a familiar flower and listening to the faint and unremarkable hum of an insect’s life beating somewhere nearby. Two questions immediately plagued my semi-conscious mind: Where was I and what was I doing on the ground?

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At some point today, preferably during the light of day, find five (5) minutes where you can be alone and uninterrupted. While five (5) minutes is a lot of time to ask, it’s really not compared to the vast number of minutes remaining in your life. And though it can be difficult with our jobs and families around, it is important to embrace these moments of solitude to allow any chance of success in this experiment. Close your eyes. Forget everything going on and every person in your life. Let your mind relax. Ignore anything trying to penetrate its borders. And in these five (5) minutes, do five (5) things if you can:

  • Open your eyes and focus on something living and breathing — other than a fellow human being.
  • Attune your ears to a sound made in nature — not produced by humankind.
  • Inhale a deep breath through your nose and contemplate where it came from.
  • Taste a piece of gum or mint, your lunch or run your tongue against the back of your teeth and gums.
  • Touch something nearby that appeals to you, or even gently run your fingertips against one another and think about that sensation.

How do you feel? What are you thinking about during each of these five (5) moments?

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Have you ever truly taken a moment to think about the fact that you are real? Not contemplating life and death. Not being thankful you are alive. Not grateful you have time to pursue the things you want to do in life. I mean that you are a living organism… a sentient being with abilities and functions that maintain your ability to see, smell, hear, taste and touch? Recognize what’s happening without you knowing your body took several steps to make that action happen.

That’s what I thought about this morning when I woke up. I imagined a dying person laying in their bed, knowing that they have less than ten breaths left before their days are over. I thought about my own life, sensing my chest’s slight move upward and downward, the air conditioner’s constant mechanical breathing, noticing the appearance of my bedroom and began wondering… everything around us is happening without an acute sense of awareness truly understanding it. And in those moments, I realized how little I know about life. How do my eyes choose what to see? What alerts my ears and nose to recognizing something I like and dislike? Does the texture of something feel the same to me as it does to someone else?

It’s moments like these ones where you realize and accept how small what you are thinking is in comparison to the vastness surrounding you. But it also means you have so much opportunity to learn and grow. I got out of bed and followed my normal early morning routine, then sat down on the couch with my coffee and started this post. But I started just writing whatever was in my mind… and that’s where the first paragraph came from. A moment. That’s all it takes for something to quickly change from bad to good, or good to bad. And these things happen around us, often without our control or knowledge of it even occurring.

No special point today. I’m not saying “Live life to the fullest.” I’m not realizing “It could all end in a moment’s notice.” I’m not suggesting we all make some sort of change. Just saying I took a moment… five moments… to use my senses to understand what was happening inside and outside of me. And this is where I ended up. Where will you end up?

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 38 – Passive

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Passive: accepting or allowing what happens or what others do, without active response or resistance

Passive is a tricky word. We’ve adopted it across so many aspects of our lives. Passive meaning we do not stand up and fight in a war. Passive meaning we prefer to relax and rest more than rush around. Passive meaning we are lost in thought. For today, I plan to focus on my energy level, which means I am much more passive than I am active.

There are lots of people out there who are energized by running around all day, constantly involved in something and unable to sit still. Folks who get up super early (4am?) to find the time to accomplish all their goals. Those who can survive on 4 to 5 hours of sleep per night. And some who must be doing some physical activity throughout most of their day. That is NOT me. But it isn’t all that bad.

I’ve always required 7 to 8 hours of sleep per evening. I can survive on less, even for a few days in a row, but I’m a bit listless and slower than usual. Productivity and quality probably decrease in all that I do, so I know my limits and try to put myself into bed around 10pm each evening, read for 30 to 60 minutes to relax and fall asleep somewhere between 11 and 11:30. I am not a quick sleeper… it takes a while for me to nod off. I’ve never been able to nap. I’m usually awake between 6:30 and 7:30 each morning, without an alarm, as my body says “let’s start the day.”

I’m good with about an hour of exercise each day. I try to walk if I need to handle any errands, or when traveling on my way to/from work where possible. But when I’m done with work or errands, or socializing at meals or events, I am a passive person. I much prefer to be sitting in a chair / couch / bed, where I am reading, writing or watching TV. By no means am I lazy. I certainly go out to do things, take trips, try new opportunities, play with the dog (he likes to run around the apartment in circles… therefore so must I, it seems). Generally, I could sit for 8 to 10 hours keeping myself busy without feeling the need to get outside and go for a jog, run off to the sports center to play tennis or plan a trip to climb some mountain. I’d rather go walk about a museum, drive through and stop at view points, or poke my head in a few stores for an hour and call it quits for the day.

Some of you are thinking… wow, he’s boring. Yes, probably true. But it’s part of who I am. My brain or body don’t need constant physical stimulation, as they’re both content to express creativity and action in my head. When I am flying in an airplane or in a long car ride, even up to 8 or 10 hours, I can go without needing to stop for any sort of break or even getting out of my seat. Part of me thinks it is “mind over matter,” meaning I can tell myself “this is your plan for the next 8 hours… no need to try to change it.” And then I am capable of sticking closely to it. Of course, this isn’t always the case… and sometimes on a weekend when I have no plans on a Saturday or a Sunday, I get a little stir crazy. Then it’s time to take the dog for a walk, find a store to dash into or look for a friend to go out and do something different.

I certainly wonder how these affinities develop in people. Of course DNA and health have a large factor in it, but how much of one’s upbringing defines how passive or active they are in their activities? Is it about availability of money and time? Or is it about how much you’ve been forced to do as a child that determines what you want to do in your future? Do you choose these behaviors yourself or do they develop as a byproduct of those around you?

I am an only child, so I often spent time alone. I had friends and saw them a lot. But rather than go play hoops on the driveway or climb a tree, I stayed in my room to read or watch TV. It may have contributed to me being shy, I’ll acknowledge that part of the impact. I was a really good child, never asking for things or to be entertained, so my parents never felt the need to yell “go outside and play,” just so they had a moment’s peace. They certainly pushed me every so often to be more active and get outside, but only when they thought I was spending too much time shut up in my room.

If I had a child, it would be about balance. I don’t agree with setting up activities all day and evening long for your kids to be busy. Whether it’s 50/50 or 60/40 (either direction), alone time is important to help develop your analytical skills, as well as build your ability to learn things other than what someone else forces you to focus on. I’d limit the amount of reading, TV and computer time, ensuring at least an hour a day was some sort of physical activity. Maybe even an hour a day of some group activity or sport. Weekends would be 1 down day and 1 up day, meaning they’d go to some cultural or community event, but also need to focus on the whole eat/pray/love theme.

When I started this post about 10 minutes ago, I never intended to discuss parenting styles, but I let the words take me where they did today. And if I were to interpret what I’ve written, I’d say perhaps I’m being a little too passive in my own days. I should challenge myself to try something new every month, get out at least once per weekend to some physical activity other than my normal trips to the gym, and I should probably join a group (book club, writer’s group, museum or community thing) to help expand my self-imposed limits.

How often are you out and about versus home and relaxing? Do you find yourself with 15 minutes of free time on a normal day or 3 hours of free time? How do you balance it all? What’s your preference? For those who can’t just sit still, what’s happening in your mind and body when you just need to bounce?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay. I am 40 and live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post.