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365 Challenge: Day 138 – Reminder

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Reminder: a message or communication designed to ensure that someone remembers something

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I often compare myself to others. It’s part of my intellect, instinct and introversion. No matter the situation, my innate response is to analyze where I fit on the scale among others. Some argue this will only lead to disappointment or frustration. Others believe it’s essential to existing in our society. I see both sides of the struggle and fall somewhere in the middle on the ideal route upon which one should embark; however, life is not a contest. With billions of people on this planet, it’s a certainty that you’ll never know if you truly are the best or at the top of the list. It’s practically a guarantee that someone else out there is just a step beyond where you are, which means you’re probably just trying to compare yourself to the immediate group of people around you. And if you can accept that someone else is better at it, ask yourself why you still feel the need to do the comparison at all?

For me, comparisons aren’t always about deciding when I’m better at something than someone else. It’s about understanding where I fall within the overall range. I find it helpful to know whether I possess more or less skills in a certain area, as it can be a guide post to help me determine whether it’s something I should put added focus towards. For example, if I want to be a bowler, I need to know whether I’m good or not, what my weaknesses are, how to improve in certain areas. That’s a healthy comparison. It’s determining the path to meet your objectives without criticizing yourself for the current state. It’s the process of learning and growing.

I will often compare myself to others strictly for the sense of deciding a bit of my own self-worth. Not in a heavy way where it thoroughly depresses me, but enough to recognize it’s not a good approach. I’ll see pictures of guys in extremely well-fitting suits, highlighting all the reasons I find someone or a certain style attractive. I then wear something I believe is similar, yet it looks very different on me due to either my height or body proportion. I immediately find myself unhappy, and it will even sometimes damper my mood for a good portion of whatever event I’d be going to. A suit changing my entire composure. This is an unhealthy comparison. There’s nothing I can do about some of those situations. Even if I custom-tailored a suit or hired a fitness trainer to change the shape and size of certain body parts, it wouldn’t achieve the exact same look. I’d have to go through surgery to stretch my bones to reach the height I think I need to be able to pull off said look. That’s an example of an unhealthy comparison. How silly is that?

Then there are those in between areas where you are not necessarily on a marathon to be the absolute best at something, rather a smaller race you’ve designed yourself in which there is a specific person as a target. For the creative types, we’re often thinking… Am I a better writer/painter/artist/photographer than “x” ? Do I build characters or capture the perfect amount of light more than “y” ? The goal always changes. Sometimes you’re comparing yourself to a favorite artist you enjoy. Others, it’s a friend or colleague you find competitive. And often it’s someone who’s winning awards or gaining popularity. You ask yourself, “Can I really beat that person?” If managed properly, this can be a healthy comparison, but it’s rare any of us approach it properly. If you are challenging yourself to continue to evolve and improve, it’s healthy. If you are hoping to move your supposed ranking up the scale one peg at a time, knocking down the people around you, it’s probably not healthy.

I’m definitely not an expert or guru in this area. I am competitive. I have a need to be number one at all things I do. I choose to do very few things for this reason, as I certainly can’t be perfect at everything I do. Last night, as I read a few chapters from a book, I kept thinking to myself… “this author develops characters with so much more depth than I do.” When I got back from the gym yesterday, I made a comment to myself about still not eliminating the love-handles. And when I checked the ratings on something that is updated weekly, I had dropped a ranking. Wow… three unhealthy approaches in a row. So I’m not an expert. But I do know how to manage it. It’s a constant reminder to ask myself “what is so important about this supposed competition?” If I don’t have a good answer, then I need to drop the need to compare and replace it with a need to grow.

It comes down to choosing how to spend your time. Ten minutes of complaining that you’re not where you want to be. Fifteen minutes wasted, hoping you can change something that is literally impossible to change. Five minutes of binge-eating cookies that will later add another 20 minutes to the cardio session to drop the 5 pounds you need to lose to fit into the suit you think will make you look the way the model does but will not because you have a different body type which cannot be altered because you’d have to spend thousands to break your bones and add 4 inches to your height so that you can then say “I’m the best.” WTF? That’s “what the fudge” for some of you…

So really, when you find yourself comparing things… make sure you know why. There might be an alternative path to reaching the goal hidden just below that fake goal you think you are really trying to achieve. I’m not trying to look like the model who wore that suit. I’m trying to say “I’m proud of who you are and the efforts you’ve put in.” So I’ll worry less about all those things above and more about building the foundation for the future I plan to have. And in all sincerity, today’s post is not even about me… it’s more about the idea of comparisons and how our minds work. I’m really not in need of a change in approach or a friend to make things seem better. I’m hoping to share some ways that help me get out of the constant comparison rat race. These are simply words that we all need to remember to remind ourselves from time to time.

And that’s what I’m doing today in the 365 Daily Post. Simply reminding us… as that’s what happened during a morning conversation with a very good friend. Thank You, Friend. And I felt the need to pass it on…

Oh, but you will… I make sure of it. I am the best at helping people pass!

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Melanie @ MelToTheAny. We met around 4 to 5 months ago either on Goodreads or WordPress, I don’t remember for sure, as we chat back and forth not only on those sites, but also on Twitter, Instagram, BlogLovin’, and even a few others.  We’re both all over social media, constantly talking about books and commenting on each other’s posts. She also snaps lots of pictures of the books she’s bought, received or reading, and it’s always fun and cute photos with some interesting connection to the story; you can feel her personality shining through, as someone you’d totally love to grab a cup of coffee with, maybe near the beach, and just dish about books, authors and characters. She has really great insight, reads tons of different authors and is someone you would enjoy commenting and chatting with throughout the week on different platforms. If you don’t believe me, check out the below blurb from her About Me section and then go visit the site yourself:
    • “Hi, I’m Melanie! I have an unhealthy obsession with signed books. There is nothing better than a rainy day filled with coffee and books. I play way too much League of Legends. I am constantly daydreaming of new tattoos. And I think unconditional love is the most powerful force in the world. I’m also terrible at describing myself. The first thing you’re probably wondering is “why Mel To The Any?” Well, the short answer is that that has been my gaming ID on everything since I was in middle school. I’m now in my late twenties and far too lazy to change everything that I’ve accumulated for almost two decades. Also, I like it and that’s enough for me. I’ve been in love with reading my whole life. In 2009 I started my Goodreads account and discovered I loved reviewing books, as well. I don’t consider this a job, it’s just my passion and an amazing hobby that I am very blessed to be able to do.”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 132 – Casual

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Casual: relaxed and unconcerned

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Every once in a while, you wake up on the other side of the bed. Literally. Not physically. I have a dog that prevents me from moving at night, so waking up in a different part of the bed is not usually an issue. On the floor is a possibility, as with every hour that goes by, his little paws push me an inch closer to the edge. One day, I will be knocked off. And that’s the only day it will ever happen. I push back. I’ll tie up all his stuffed animal toys just above where he can reach them on the wall and see what he does about it. Evil. That’s me sometimes. Unpredictable. Relaxed. Casual.

Most people on this blog probably know me as a bit too organized and formal when it comes to my posts. I never just wing it… for the last week, I’ve been drafting the posts at night and scheduling them for the next morning. It gave me an opportunity to spend more time writing “Father Figure” with less distractions and worry over “oh, yeah, gotta get to that 365 post.” But last night, I was in a good mood and we went out to dinner, then watched some TV and I had a book to finish (review to come later), so no 365 post was drafted last night. This morning… I went to check that the post was released and went “Aaack… I still have to write something.”

Casual. Sometimes just writing what’s on your mind and combining a few things together is OK. It’s still putting in effort, but it’s also allowing our bodies some time to re-group. Writing the 365 posts isn’t difficult, but when you want them to have substance, it does require a good chunk of uninterrupted time. So today’s post is going to be about letting go and just doing whatever feels natural and normal at that moment. Nothing pre-planned. Nothing forced. Nothing formal. I’m not even going to discuss what being casual means or why it’s important. From this point forward in today’s post, I’m just gonna tell you what’s going on in my life this weekend. “I can grow. I can change,” said the boy as his nose doubled in size.

I have an arbor to build and install on the NYC Terrace Garden. It might need a hashtag. Although, Ryder (9-year old shiba inu) calls it the Enchanted Garden. He has his own Facebook page… “Ryder the Cat-Like Dog” {Aside: Yes, he can talk… it’s a strange little voice my friend Paul invented, but W has taken it over and now Ryder chats all day long, asking for food, demanding more flowers in the garden, wanting his allowance to go out with friends to the local bar. We like to keep it fun around here.} This arbor is going to be quite a little project, as it’s for a new wisteria tree. It never ends around here. Our friend Matt is very concerned as wisteria is invasive; he fears one day, he won’t hear from us and when he stops by to check on us… the wisteria will have grown through the always open bathroom window… into the apartment… trapping us against the walls and taking over like a jungle. Poor Ryder will be trying to bite his way out. He’d just as soon leave us here to die, taking any cash and starting a new life, I’m sure. That dog while adorable is the most independent codependent dependent unusual creature next to… well… me. #EnchantedGarden #NYCTerraceGarden

And then there’s Game Night tonight, where a bunch of friends of ours are getting together for drinks, pizza, cards and games. It’s an amazing night of fun where someone brings a new game we all learn and play… it’s often very adult in its childishness… a very dirty cartoon version of Cards Against Humanity was once played. I’m still recovering from those pictures and what people made a few stick figures do. And the last time we played, it was the Voting Game where you vote for which person is most like the phrase on the card. I got a few really bad ones. And a few good ones. I think they voted me most likely to be a serial killer. Not Good! Tonight though… I think it will be more card games. And I’ve settled on wine as my beverage of choice — no hangovers needed while trying to finish that arbor tomorrow. And I’m writing Sunday’s post this afternoon, as it’s time for either Pennsylvania or San Francisco, the last two other places I’ve lived.

My stream-of-conscious knows no bounds today. It was a productive week. I let myself accept being casual and relaxed over a few things. I accomplished a lot. And I’m giving myself a break this weekend from constantly being on the computer… at least tomorrow… as today will be catching up on anything outstanding: 3 award, 3 tags, book review, 365 post, author spotlight, reading plans, etc. Hitting the gym soon. Reading Hidden Bodies, the sequel to You. And preparing my list of questions for the agent and publisher I’m meeting with next week. I’ve got some good things brewing on that front… very exciting. But I won’t go into any details until I know if something is working out or not. And other than that, I’m going to relax. It’s time to just have a day where whatever gets done, gets done. Last thing on my mind, I owe you a response from last week’s post…

Unpredictable Reminder

  • In last week’s 365 Daily Challenge Unpredictable post, I noted I’d confirm what I selected for my list of things to put in the hat. After discussion with the significant other, we settled on NYC Things To Do. We’re always finding we have blocks of hours available on the weekend in between errands, house or garden maintenance and hanging out with friends. Rather than toss the ball back and forth, never settling on anything, we’re going to list 26 items in NYC with all the key info: location, directions, open days/times, categories, website links and who is responsible for planning it. We will put them together in the next few weeks to start in September. I estimate we will pull from that hat every other weekend, but we will have pre-planned things to do for about a year. We still need to decide if it’s a physical hat or an electronic program (he hates technology, so it might be a good punishment for him to be in charge of this… and if you’re reading this part, W, you did agree to this while you were half asleep the other night) to make the choice during each selection. What did you all decide to do with your unpredictable challenge?

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Danielle @ Books, Vertigo @ Tea. Danielle and I met about 4 months ago over a few books we were both reading around the same time. Our favorite reading genres tend to cross paths a lot, as we’re often recommending books to one another. But we also have different reading tastes, so it always becomes interesting to see what we’re chatting about! Danielle is a really cool person to chat with, especially when you get on topics that you both have in common. She’s recommended a few teas to me, though I’m a coffee drinker. She suffers from vertigo, which is awful, but she has a good approach about it all, which makes reading her entries about what’s going on in her life quite interesting. I enjoy chatting and commenting back and forth, and I believe you will, too. Stop by her site, check out the extremely varied books she reads. Danielle’s on several social media apps too, which makes connecting quite easy. She has tons of recommendations by genre and a fantastic game / poll called “You Choose, I Read” where you can pick the book she reads in the future. Go check it out now!
    • “I am Danielle, a 30 “ish” yr old mother of two. I have an insatiable appetite for all things books. I adore bookstores, libraries, and falling asleep while surrounded by my current reads. I prefer to do the latter with tea in hand. I also happen to be a fan of my kids, anime, food, and life in general when I can partake! I am also 100% anti-adulting when possible, so if you are easily offended, I apologize in advance 😉But only a little, because life is seriously too short to be serious all of the time. You will probably see a little bit of everything that is me here at Books, Vertigo and Tea. Enjoy!”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 130 – Prompted

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Prompted: assisted or encouraged to do or say something

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When I was 16 years old, our English teacher had us write letters to ourselves, listing a few goals, some fears, and things currently on our mind. He took them, nothing that he’d mail them to us in 5 years. A few people laughed, as they didn’t intend on living in the same place when the time came due. Others were afraid to reveal any secrets in case someone else opened it. But the vast majority took the risk and played along. I was one of those people. I listed the 5 goals I hoped to achieve, the 5 things I was most scared of and the 5 things I was trying to sort out in my head. It felt easy and harmless. I had low expectations of ever actually receiving it… the man might not live that long. But he did. And somewhere in the neighborhood of five years, I received the letter in the mail the year I graduated from college at my parents’ home, which is where I still lived during the summer.

It was a surprise. I’d forgotten most of what I had written. When it arrived, I tore it open with nimble fingers. My eyes feverishly scanned the cryptic handwriting; I’ve never been one to write with a deft hand. Did I honestly write some of those things? In the wrong hands, it’d be an easy blackmail scheme.  Thankfully, my secrets remained hidden as I decided what receiving the letter meant to me. Should I interpret it as a nudge to get back on track? Perhaps a reminder to realize what I’d accomplished? No… I saw it as a sign… a sign that this was a fantastic idea! We should all think about writing ourselves letters with some encouraging advice to help us cross the finish line on whatever our goals or tasks might be.

I love Wallace and Gromit. Any other fans?

As a kid, I LOVED getting mail. I made my parents leave it in the mailbox all day, so that when I arrived home from school, I could retrieve it myself and experience the joy of someone sending me a surprise or even an expected message. As I grew older, and started receiving those nasty monthly bills masquerading as wonderful news from different companies and services, I began to dislike the mail. Actually, as I began using electronic email, I found myself not interested in paper communications… online was something new to capture my attention. A few decades years later, I don’t check the mail because there’s never anything good in it. If I have a package or a delivery, the building’s system sends me an email to pick it up or request a drop off at a certain time that evening. In a way, it’s turned itself around, meaning… now I am tired of all these electronic notices, messages and communications. If you really want my attention, send me something in the mail that I have to open to understand what it is you need from me.

No, I don’t want a summons or official notice. Just something with a pretty color, different shape and interesting cover. Make me want to open it. Tempt me with your creativity. That’s the kind of prompt I need to be excited about checking the mail again… that is, unless, we adopted my high school teacher’s method. Hmmm… let’s think this one through together… are there a few goals you have in mind, but tired of tracking them on your phone, computer or journal? Do those sticky notes sometimes seem overwhelming? Maybe you don’t trust yourself to check the status or due date… so why not find a friend who will help you through this solution? Write yourself a letter with all the big things you need to focus on, then give it to them to mail at some point in the future. Perhaps it’s at a date of their choosing… but let them create the envelope so it’s a surprise when it arrives. And you can experience the same cool feeling of opening up your own little present!

I’m not actually joking on this one. Sometimes we all need reminders to do something, to feel something or to consider something. And we also find ourselves easily able to ignore electronic notifications or even our own sticky notes and journal entries. But you can’t really ignore something fun and colorful that arrives in the mail. For instance, if you have a friend who is very shy, send him/her a bold envelope with stamps of half-naked men or women posted all about it. I’d suggest naked, as we all know I’m fine with it, but I don’t know all the laws and wouldn’t want to get anyone arrested, now would I?

{Insert a very sinister and dark laugh!} Wouldn’t that be an amazing shared experience?

I suppose what I am actually suggesting is that we should all write letters to ourselves, praising something we’ve done, reminding ourselves of some big accomplishment we’ve recently attained… suggestions for how to keep motivating our future plans and ideas… and get our friends and/or family involved to mail it out when it’s most needed. So as you’re opening up that jury summons, late notice, exorbitant cable bill, or change in some service you don’t want altered, you also have that really awesome letter to brighten your day and keep you focused on the future prize. And if your friends are in charge of it, think of all the fun you could have? Sending something from “Playboy Magazine” to a friend who wouldn’t ever look at that magazine. Or sending what looks like a list of nunneries or monasteries to a friend who’s about to get married and wants reminders about the wedding! Prompts with Passion. Prompts with Power. Prompts with a Poof!

We all need a prompt every now and then. And that’s part of the friendship circle’s set of responsibilities. So… if someone needs a prompt, I’m offering my availability to help you if it’s needed. I’m also going to write my own letter about what I hope to accomplish in 6 months, then decide who’s the lucky victim. Don’t worry, I will likely pick someone I’ve know for a few years, which rules out all my online friends for right now… but rest assured, your time will come! Any thoughts? Any ideas? Silly idea or something to give a chance to? Share away…

 

RECOMMENDED BLOGGER

  • Today’s 365 Daily Challenge recommended blogger to know is Kiersten @ Once Upon A Spine. Kiersten and I met about two months ago through a few books we were both reading, as well as connecting over previous life experiences and just generally being fun and weird people. I love the name of her site, and she has fantastic book reviews and content all about the literary things in life. She’s also very open and friendly, sharing many experiences that she’s dealt with over the years, learning how to grow from them and also how to keep herself focused on future goals. She’s refreshing and shares frequently, which makes her someone I am often chatting with. Between cat/dog humor, her own writing and young adult fiction (TV or Books), we always find things to talk about. I enjoy hearing from her and think she’d be a great addition to anyone’s list of followed blogs. So please go check out her site. And if you don’t believe me, here’s a small tidbit from her “About Me” section, where she tells us:
    • “I’m a Jersey girl currently living in Charlotte, NC with my two fur babies. I am an unapologetic nerd and chronic worrywart at heart. The focus of this blog is to share my love of literature, to write reviews of the books I’ve been reading, and to (hopefully) spark inspiration for my own stories. In addition to reading, some of my other hobbies include dance, cooking and baking, crafting, and cleaning up cat barf. I’m also a diehard fan of Harry Potter and Gilmore Girls.”

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 80 – Flashback

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Flashback: remembrance of an event from the past

Today’s word is “flashback,” and while it could be interpreted in so many ways, there is only one (1) for the purpose of the 365 Daily Challenge. One month ago, on the 48th day of the challenge, I posted about being generous and noted that we’d re-visit it at the end of May. You can see the post here — 365 Challenge: Day 48 – Generous. Can you believe it’s already the end of May?  Well it is… and I’m having a flashback!

My commitment was to practice what I preached in the post, by taking on two new suggestions that I blogged about that day. The list of suggestions covered pushing yourself to confront the four (4) areas of what was stopping you from being more generous: fear, laziness, unknowing and exhaustion.  From that list of 14 suggestions, the two I’ve followed through on were:

  1. Put a reminder in my calendar for 15 minutes every week to do something for someone else, not for me.
  2. Find something you love to do and share it with someone else who can’t easily do it on their own.

One is an action where I can do something physically and the other is blocking time on my calendar to remember to focus on being more generous. I opted for one in each category to give myself the opportunity to be open-minded and selective in however I follow through. So here’s my plan for starting in the month of June:

  1. Reminder is on my calendar for Thursday evenings from 7:30 until 7:45 PM. My assumption is once I’m done working and complete errands or working out that day, I’ll be home, showered and ready to do something that evening. I’ve got 15 minutes to think about how to be generous to someone on the upcoming weekend, whether it’s calling someone to catch up who maybe needs a positive memory, or scheduling an upcoming volunteer session. I picked Thursdays because it’s the end of the week and about to turn into a weekend where I have more free time. I avoided Friday, as after a full week of work, I need to go out or want to relax. And I picked the time because it’s when my day is over, right before I either order food for dinner, begin cooking or head out to a restaurant. 15 minutes for someone else before I focus on myself again.

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  1. I’ve picked two items to volunteer for… and waiting on my significant other’s input so it is something we can do together… although I know what will be picked:
    • Volunteer a couple of hours a month at a hospital or elder care facility to spend time with folks who maybe don’t have a lot of visitors. Either have a good conversation with them, play cards or board games… something to make their day a little bit different.  I’m open to suggestions on places in NYC if anyone knows of any?
    • Volunteer at a pet shelter to spend time with animals who don’t have anyone to take care of them. Or, maybe participate in a program where I can bring a dog home with me on a weekend to get them out every so often, but I’m not sure Ryder wants his space invaded (even tho he should be generous too!)… so… need to think this one thru.

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The goal is to pick one of those in June after some research and start it in July. If you have any thoughts or suggestions, please share.

I’d love to hear from you if you took on any of the suggestions or started your own way to be generous.

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 52 – Wasteful

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Wasteful: using or expending something of value carelessly, extravagantly, or to no purpose

At different points in our lives, we all say aloud (or hear someone else tell us) “that was wasteful,” referring to something just done that we carelessly minimized when others so desperately needed it. Often we should have known better, but we do it anyway without thinking about the consequences because it’s become habitual. That said, as much as it is habitual for many of us, there are several people who work hard not to be wasteful and teach this to children at a young age.

To kick this one off… a few places I recognize I am wasteful — not all the time, but enough that I should call myself out.

  • Water
    • I run the water the entire time I’m washing dishes, rather than try to use only the amount needed and re-use where appropriate until the final rinse.
    • I leave the water running when I brush my teeth when I should leave it off  until the last second.
    • My showers are entirely too long and often run for a minute or two for the water to get hotter before I get inside. I should deal with the cold, stand to the side and wash my hair.

 You don’t care about my bathroom habits?

  •  Energy
    • I tend to leave lights on when I don’t really need them. Sometimes it’s for the dog, but a little goes a long way.
    • My building keeps the heat on from October thru May, and because I get so hot, I open the windows which likely makes the heat work a bit harder since I’m on the top floor. Can’t really change this…
  • Time / Money
    • I spend way too much time watching TV or on the computer when I should be out with people, in nature and learning.
    • Time is money, and therefore I’m wasting earning potential and income.
    • I can be frivolous when spending and should save more or donate more.
  • Food
    • I sometimes eat too much. And we all know how to fix that. (Shh… don’t say it aloud or it may come true)
    • I make too much food when I cook and am not good about eating leftovers.
    • I buy stuff, it expires, and I end up throwing it out. I need to be more pragmatic and plan meals in a better way.

And if they can do it, so can I!

Not so bad admitting faults, is it? I’m sure that only touches the surface of the areas where I’m being wasteful. And quite honestly, some of those are easy fixes that I should be more consistent about in the future.

Sometimes I get caught up realizing how unfortunate it is that I haven’t fixed this sooner, especially knowing the limits of these resources across the world. And while these posts are not meant to make anyone feel guilty or to preach, sometimes a gentle reminder helps implement positive changes. And that’s all I’m intending here… for any reader including myself.

This is me talking to myself right now!

Life is complicated. We should all figure out how to be part of the continuous cycle of improvement. And when we don’t work in jobs or volunteer in roles where we have direct impact on re-cycling, re-use or proper waste disposal, perhaps we should take 5 minutes a day to focus on it as a human being who cares about the world around us.

It begins with learning this as a child, so it feels almost inherent. Good habits will occur and help propagate even better ones with each year and generation. But there’s no time to start like the present if this hasn’t been built into you already. And with that, I’m off to see how to tone down my wasteful usage of time — it took 30 minutes for this post and I’m supposed to be down to 20 minutes a day at this point. Ugh… I hate missing the target.

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay. I am 40 and live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.