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365 Challenge: Day 213 – Nap

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Nap: sleep lightly or briefly, especially during the day

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Today’s word is nap because I will be in desperate need of one by mid-morning. Before I left my last job, I rarely slept well. I either answered emails and phone calls all night long, or I obsessed and worried all through the night about everything I had to get done at work. After I left the role, I rarely had a time where I didn’t sleep through the whole night. Occasionally, if something was bothering me, I’d stir a few times but eventually fall back asleep. Luckily, it hasn’t happened in a long time. Unfortunately, it did last night. Or should I say ‘tonight,’ since I’m writing this post at 4am already having been up for 2+ hours.

After yesterday’s success with the book launch, W and I went out to a great dinner. He’s leaving for a few days for a work trip in LA, so I’ll be home the rest of the week on my own. After he packed, I went to sleep last night, turning on the AC as there’s a heat wave in NYC again. Don’t get me started about it! Anyways… I woke up around 1:15 to the sound of the AC dripping water on the floor. It did this the other night, but I turned it off and assumed it was just sweating. Now I think it’s broken, so I switched it to ‘fan’ mode as I need some background noise to keep the sounds of the city from waking me up. I’m difficult, eh?

I tried to fall asleep, ignoring the temperature getting a little too warm for my taste and not wanting to open windows or wake up Ryder. He’s unhappy when woken up in the middle of the night. I kept re-hashing an issue over and over in my head, confident that someone else had done something wrong. I expected something to be fixed, they didn’t fix it despite clearly causing the original issue. Without going into details, as I write this post, I got a response indicating it will take 2 to 4 weeks to correct. So I’m quite frustrated, but it will end up being fine, so let’s get back to the point. I’m working on 3 hours sleep and will desperately need a nap today.

But I am not able to nap. Something always wakes me up, whether it’s a phone call, Ryder, the door, a loud noise outside… Other people I know can nap anytime, anywhere. I’ve even seen a few fall asleep sitting up while talking. It’s amusing. I’ve heard a 30-minute nap every day is a great refresher. I would love to try it. I’ve just accepted I won’t ever get to nap. But I really need one today, so I’m hoping the gods and goddesses of naps will grant me this one. How about everyone else? Do you enjoy naps? Are you able to take them? Any secrets to share? Zzzzzz…..

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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365 Challenge: Day 169 – Doghouse

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Doghouse: (1) a place where a dog sleeps, (2) a place you go to when you are in trouble

 

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Feels like Groundhog Day. Every time I wake up lately, this laptop is sitting where my food bowl is supposed to be. And instead of getting to eat, I’m forced to type away for a few hours, coming up with some brilliant little “Post from Ryder.” I just hope you all realize the torture I go through simply so you have a few minutes of reading material. And all I ask in return is for my own space, a doghouse, where I can close the door and ignore the world around me for a few hours each day. But do I have one? No. Why, you ask? That’s a good question. Dad 2 wanted to buy the materials to build one. But Dad 2 doesn’t have those types of skills. Dad 1 might be able to build it, but he said things like “permission from the building,” and “are you gonna help?” Do you see what I live with? I have this lovely Enchanted Terrace outside and it would be amazing to retire for a few hours every afternoon where I can relax and have a cozy little sleep. I’ll keep working on them, but if you have any pull over Dad 1, please assist. I promise to make my posts even better.

So today’s word has a few meanings. I was in the doghouse again last night for something I have little control over. I am a food addict. I can’t NOT eat food when I see it. So I begged and begged for some of their dinner. They had beef cooked in a brown sauce in a giant orange Le Creuset pot in the oven. With carrot and potatoes and onions, and a whole bunch of deliciousness. Something about wishing autumn would arrive sooner. I don’t know. I just wanted the foods. There were 3 big pieces of meat in the pot. I assumed one for each of us. But Dad 1 said no, that the third piece was for lunch the next day. But I pushed and persisted and eventually they filled my bowl with some people foods, even though Dad 1 said it was a bad idea. Then it happened. It always happens. I can’t help it. After I eat the food, I run around whining that it hurts in my belly and I throw it up all over the floor. You remember that infamous rug I mentioned a few weeks ago? Yeah, happened again. It’s not my fault. They gave it to me! But now I’m back in the doghouse ’cause they said no more food for a week. Is there an emoji for a sad dog? That’s me. But today I get to see Grandma and Grandpa. They are coming for a visit. They always sneak me food. And I am never in the doghouse with them.

I am getting worried that I may have to put the dads in the doghouse soon. I heard them talking about a puppy again. I protest. I turn 10 years old on September 3rd and I’ve been an only dog for the last 5 years. I had a sibling my first 5 years, but she isn’t around anymore. (‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ has always been my policy. The dads think I am a Republican, but I’ll never tell.) Anyways, don’t you think I deserve to not have to put up with another dog in the house? Seriously… I don’t like them. They make messes. Rambunctious. Take all the food. Shed. Oh… wait… that’s me… now I think I understand why Dad 1 is always yelling about my fur babies rolling across the floor like dust bunnies. Mmm… rabbit. I’m hungry. Oh, off topic again. So no puppies allowed. They don’t get it. If they bring one home, I’m moving out. Does anyone here have a good home they want to share — two rules: (1) food all the time and (2) no other dogs. I might be OK with a cat. Or smaller animals I can eat. No birds either. They are mean.

 

I decided not to post pictures of me today as I don’t have a doghouse and until I get one, no pictures! But also because something happened with the link from the laptop to the iCloud and the pictures won’t open. Dad says he’ll fix it soon, but he’s so busy these days, who knows when he’ll get around to it. For now, he just hangs around the house all day long. I kinda love it. Both Dad 1 and Dad 2 used to leave around 7:30 am and come home at 7:30 pm. Twelve hours to myself is a lot. I would meet my friends for lunch at the French restaurant downstairs (they serve my kind thankfully). I’d go for walks. I’ve asked for a doggy door so I can get out to the terrace by myself, but that hasn’t happened yet. They don’t want me out there alone. I guess I can understand that. I do chase the birds and jump higher than they’d like. But now Dad 1 is home all the time. I don’t want him to go back to work. I like the company. But don’t tell him that! He’ll get an ego. OK, it’s time to get all cleaned up before Grandma comes. I’ll tell you more about her next week. Love you all! xoxo Woof!

This is what I’d do with my doghouse!

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About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 158 – Sleepy

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Sleepy: needing to get rest; human condition we all experience sometimes

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Sometimes you have a choice. Sleep or post. Tonight I choose sleep, but I am thinking of everyone as I nod off on the couch at my little weekend away  on Fire Island.  But the 365 Daily Challenge Is Important. Today’s message: know when to listen to your body.

Sleep well, Friends. More to come tomorrow.

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

365 Challenge: Day 108 – Early Riser

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Early Riser: a person who gets up early in the morning

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I concede that today’s word might actually be considered two separate words; however, it represents a concept that we are all familiar with and is something I have become as I grow older. So that’s why I feel it’s OK to use this in the 365 Daily Challenge. I believe there’s a ‘next’ button you can hit if you feel I’ve cheated today and can’t bring yourself to read this post. I can accept that and will see you tomorrow.

Early riser. Does that mean you are awake before the sun rises? Or does it mean you’re up by 7am? Does the time change based on work day or non-workday, during the week or weekend? Or are you consistent in that you get up at the same day all the time? For me, although it’s changed over the years, I’ve been in the same pattern for the last decade. I’m generally awake between 6:30 am and 7:00 am. I consider myself an early riser, although by many standards, that might be considered a bit late.

Ignoring sleepless nights or if you’ve gone to bed much later than usual. Forget those with babies or very young toddlers who haven’t adjusted to sleeping through the night. Strictly speaking on a normal day, where’s that line between rising early and rising at a normal time? I ask for a few reasons…

Alarms

  • I rarely set an alarm clock anymore. If I had a very important meeting before 9am, I might set the alarm as a back-up. But for the most part, I don’t need one to ensure I’m awake and out of bed in the morning. My body has attuned to the time of day, the amount of sleep I get and the sunrise. It’s good because I don’t have to be jolted by some strange noise telling me to wake up. I’m also the first one awake in the morning, so I become the alarm clock for anyone else in the house. And I’m generally quiet when I do wake up the other half to get ready for work.
  • Do you use them? If so, is it your phone or an actual clock? What kind of noise does it make?

First Thing

  • When I wake up, I usually reach for my mobile phone to check the time. I can often guess within a few minutes, but I like knowing the exact time. If it’s still on the early side, I’ll try to stay in bed and think about what needs to get done that day… try to ease into my schedule and objectives. If I happen to wake up on the later end of my normal window, I’ll get out of bed and start the mini-routine… bathroom, send the dog outside, switch on the coffee pot, put out Ryder’s pills, food and fresh water, and then begin scrolling through my phone to see if I’ve missed anything overnight. Takes about 10 to 15 minutes but then I’m on the couch with my coffee and laptop to begin the day.
  • Do you jump up out of bed? Do you head right for the shower? Check on other people in the house? Or find some quiet time for yourself before anyone else gets up?

Morning Person

  • My head needs at least 15 minutes before I function properly in the morning. I can go thru that routine I mentioned above, but that’s about it. And then I can’t talk to anyone for about an hour. I need that hour to pull myself together, but then I’m good for the whole day. Not really a nap person. Naps just make me more tired or a bit cranky when I wake up, as that 1 hour period starts all over again. So I just run full steam ahead until the end of the day. I’d say I’m best between 10 am and 4 pm most days. And on vacations, it’s the same way. Just because I’m in a hotel and only in a city for a few days to a few weeks, and might not return again, doesn’t mean I have to maximize my time and throw off a perfectly good routine.
  • Are you bright-eyed and bushy-tailed when you wake up? Do you need some sort of jolt to push you through that first portion of the day?

So what am I really trying to say here?  I don’t like when I have a busy day ahead and I’m forced to write my 365 Daily Challenge post this early. My mind’s not quite awake. But I have a project plan to draft starting at 10am, and I need to head to the gym first, so unless I get this done now and head to the gym within the next 2 minutes, I’ll be behind. Tell me something fun about your morning routine!

 

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

Review: Peter Pan

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Peter Pan
Peter Pan by J.M. Barrie   My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Before I get into the review… it took me forever to go through all the editions of Peter Pan listed on Goodreads. While I suppose it’s not too important to get the right version, I was shocked at how many there were, as well as that this was a longer series with multiple books. I guess I always knew that, but when I read it, it was just the Peter Pan book, which I believe was the third in the series. I could be wrong… nonetheless… wow… and it’s review time and let’s do some soaring…

There is so much I could say about this book. I could write a formal review. I could compare the story to the TV and film adaptions. I could cover the cartoons. BTW, the most interesting one for me was “Once Upon a Time’s” portrayal of Peter. So dark… LOVED IT. But that said, to me, it’s a children’s tale with a huge primary lesson: We never want to grow up, but we have to…

And that’s what I’ll focus on. This book must be read to children a few times over the years. I’d start first when they are about 4 or 5, and then show the cartoon versions. Let them absorb it and think about it. And then again when they are 7 or 8, helping them understand what it means to grow up. And then again when they are about 12 or 13… and make them do a book report on it, even outside of school. It’s a lesson that must be taught young.

Growing up is scary. But so is not growing up. There’s a fine balance between finding the time to be free and open, enjoying life and staying away from one’s fears. But you must also learn what is necessary to become a good, solid and functioning citizen of the society.

What I love about this story is the amount of interpretations you can absorb from the story, the characters, the setting and the action. Just when you think you’ve got them all down, another view point comes into play — and you have to re-think what the moral purpose of the book is about.

Or did Barrie intend it to just be a fun trip for kids… I’m not so sure we’ll ever know!

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365 Challenge: Day 38 – Passive

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Passive: accepting or allowing what happens or what others do, without active response or resistance

Passive is a tricky word. We’ve adopted it across so many aspects of our lives. Passive meaning we do not stand up and fight in a war. Passive meaning we prefer to relax and rest more than rush around. Passive meaning we are lost in thought. For today, I plan to focus on my energy level, which means I am much more passive than I am active.

There are lots of people out there who are energized by running around all day, constantly involved in something and unable to sit still. Folks who get up super early (4am?) to find the time to accomplish all their goals. Those who can survive on 4 to 5 hours of sleep per night. And some who must be doing some physical activity throughout most of their day. That is NOT me. But it isn’t all that bad.

I’ve always required 7 to 8 hours of sleep per evening. I can survive on less, even for a few days in a row, but I’m a bit listless and slower than usual. Productivity and quality probably decrease in all that I do, so I know my limits and try to put myself into bed around 10pm each evening, read for 30 to 60 minutes to relax and fall asleep somewhere between 11 and 11:30. I am not a quick sleeper… it takes a while for me to nod off. I’ve never been able to nap. I’m usually awake between 6:30 and 7:30 each morning, without an alarm, as my body says “let’s start the day.”

I’m good with about an hour of exercise each day. I try to walk if I need to handle any errands, or when traveling on my way to/from work where possible. But when I’m done with work or errands, or socializing at meals or events, I am a passive person. I much prefer to be sitting in a chair / couch / bed, where I am reading, writing or watching TV. By no means am I lazy. I certainly go out to do things, take trips, try new opportunities, play with the dog (he likes to run around the apartment in circles… therefore so must I, it seems). Generally, I could sit for 8 to 10 hours keeping myself busy without feeling the need to get outside and go for a jog, run off to the sports center to play tennis or plan a trip to climb some mountain. I’d rather go walk about a museum, drive through and stop at view points, or poke my head in a few stores for an hour and call it quits for the day.

Some of you are thinking… wow, he’s boring. Yes, probably true. But it’s part of who I am. My brain or body don’t need constant physical stimulation, as they’re both content to express creativity and action in my head. When I am flying in an airplane or in a long car ride, even up to 8 or 10 hours, I can go without needing to stop for any sort of break or even getting out of my seat. Part of me thinks it is “mind over matter,” meaning I can tell myself “this is your plan for the next 8 hours… no need to try to change it.” And then I am capable of sticking closely to it. Of course, this isn’t always the case… and sometimes on a weekend when I have no plans on a Saturday or a Sunday, I get a little stir crazy. Then it’s time to take the dog for a walk, find a store to dash into or look for a friend to go out and do something different.

I certainly wonder how these affinities develop in people. Of course DNA and health have a large factor in it, but how much of one’s upbringing defines how passive or active they are in their activities? Is it about availability of money and time? Or is it about how much you’ve been forced to do as a child that determines what you want to do in your future? Do you choose these behaviors yourself or do they develop as a byproduct of those around you?

I am an only child, so I often spent time alone. I had friends and saw them a lot. But rather than go play hoops on the driveway or climb a tree, I stayed in my room to read or watch TV. It may have contributed to me being shy, I’ll acknowledge that part of the impact. I was a really good child, never asking for things or to be entertained, so my parents never felt the need to yell “go outside and play,” just so they had a moment’s peace. They certainly pushed me every so often to be more active and get outside, but only when they thought I was spending too much time shut up in my room.

If I had a child, it would be about balance. I don’t agree with setting up activities all day and evening long for your kids to be busy. Whether it’s 50/50 or 60/40 (either direction), alone time is important to help develop your analytical skills, as well as build your ability to learn things other than what someone else forces you to focus on. I’d limit the amount of reading, TV and computer time, ensuring at least an hour a day was some sort of physical activity. Maybe even an hour a day of some group activity or sport. Weekends would be 1 down day and 1 up day, meaning they’d go to some cultural or community event, but also need to focus on the whole eat/pray/love theme.

When I started this post about 10 minutes ago, I never intended to discuss parenting styles, but I let the words take me where they did today. And if I were to interpret what I’ve written, I’d say perhaps I’m being a little too passive in my own days. I should challenge myself to try something new every month, get out at least once per weekend to some physical activity other than my normal trips to the gym, and I should probably join a group (book club, writer’s group, museum or community thing) to help expand my self-imposed limits.

How often are you out and about versus home and relaxing? Do you find yourself with 15 minutes of free time on a normal day or 3 hours of free time? How do you balance it all? What’s your preference? For those who can’t just sit still, what’s happening in your mind and body when you just need to bounce?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay. I am 40 and live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post.