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TAG: Who am I?

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Many thanks to Patty @ Moohnshine’s Corner for including me on the Who am I? tag. I adore Patty, who has been one of my 365 Daily Challenge Recommended Bloggers, so you must already know her. But if by chance you didn’t see that post or haven’t connected with her, please go check it out now!

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What does my name mean?

James is my given name, and I am the fourth in the male line with the name ‘James John’ which means it’s definitely a rooted family name. I’m not sure there will be a fifth.

For a bit of humor, I checked the ‘Urban Dictionary’ to see what my name meant. It said that I was a very attractive guy and women always love me. I’m not really sure what to do with this definition, so I’m just gonna ignore it. It said a few other things that although I’d love to copy/paste them here, I might offend a few people, so I’ll just leave the link:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=James

I’ve always known the name as being Hebrew, coming from the Bible, and meaning “one who follows.” I’ve not ever thought of myself as a follower, so that’s unusual. One for the books, I suppose!

What is my Myers-Briggs Personality Type? (Link

Personality type: “The Defender” (ISFJ-T)
Individual traits: Introverted – 75%, Observant – 54%, Feeling – 53%, Judging – 94%, Turbulent – 68%
Role: Sentinel
Strategy: Constant Improvement

What is my Zodiac Sign? (Link)  — PISCES

Element: Water

Quality: Mutable

Color: Mauve, Lilac, Purple, Violet, Sea green

Day: Thursday

Ruler: NeptuneJupiter

Greatest Overall Compatibility: VirgoTaurus

Lucky Numbers: 3, 9, 12, 15, 18, 24

Date range: February 19 – March 20
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)

PISCES TRAITS

Strengths: Compassionate, artistic, intuitive, gentle, wise, musical

Weaknesses: Fearful, overly trusting, sad, desire to escape reality, can be a victim or a martyr

Pisces likes: Being alone, sleeping, music, romance, visual media, swimming, spiritual themes

Pisces dislikes: Know-it-all, being criticized, the past coming back to haunt, cruelty of any kind

What is my Hogwarts House? (Link)

The Sorting Hat says:


Which Hogwarts house will you be sorted into?

Your in-depth results are:

Hufflepuff – 13
Ravenclaw – 13
Gryffindor – 12
Slytherin – 6

 

What are my Learning Styles? (Link)

Your scores were:

  • Visual 4
  • Aural 3
  • Read/Write 8
  • Kinesthetic 1

You have a strong read/write learning preference.

 

Am I Left or Right Brain Dominant? (Link)

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What is my Blood Type?

I know my blood type is A+

What Career am I meant to have? (Link)

What Divergent Faction do I belong to? (Link)

 

You

What does my Birth say about me? (Link)

I’m an only child… so I am all of them!

 

Tag! You’re it!

 

About Me

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. Once you hit my site “ThisIsMyTruthNow” at https://thisismytruthnow.com, you can join the fun and see my blog and various site content. You’ll find book reviews, published and in-progress fiction, TV/Film reviews, favorite vacation spots and my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge.” Since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life… see how you compare! Each month, I will post a summary of a trip I’ve taken somewhere in the world. I’ll cover the transportation, hotel, restaurants, activities, who, what, when, where and why… and let you decide for yourself if it’s a trip worth taking. Feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Tell me what you think. Note: All content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

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TAG: Why am I a reader?

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I found this tag on a blog created by Reading Through The Nights  who found the tag on thriceread before that… I thought it was a good way to get to know people as readers –without going into specific details about a book. So here goes…

1. Choose one word that would describe you as a reader.

Eclectic. I read every genre, every sub-genre and sub-sub-genre. It’s words that I love, and when there is a character, plot or setting that speaks to me, whether fiction or non-fiction, it goes to my To-Be-Read (TBR) list.

2. What is the first book that made you fall in love with reading?

As a child, there was a children’s book series in my local library that had beautiful, colorful book covers and had a theme across each edition. But sadly, it was so long ago, I cannot remember the author or series name. Though I can picture it on the shelves and vividly recall the feeling I had looking at them. Going to the library every week that summer, picking out a new book for the summer reading competition, encouraged my love of reading. Since then, I’d say there are a number of books that show me why I love reading, but most recently that pleasure falls to Kate Morton’s historical fiction novels.

3. Hardcover or paperback?

In the last year, I’ve grown accustomed to electronic reads through the NetGalley or other ARC programs. I tend to buy paperbacks because they are less expensive and I am able to purchase more; however, I prefer the feel of a hardback cover to everything else.

4. How has reading shaped your identity?

I’m a shy person. I also don’t learn well from other people. I have always learned (lessons, knowledge, information, etc.) by reading about it on my own. When you can search the internet to find articles and blogs on topics you love, or pickup a book with a story that speaks to you, the world is at your finger tips. I will never get to see or do everything on my so-called bucket list; however, through reading, I can get close enough to quench my thirst, even just a little. Books have made me confident and able to learn without feeling unprotected and reachable when I crave independence and solitude.

5. What book do you read when you want to be comforted?

A cozy mystery series full of lovable and kooky characters who are hiding secrets.

6. Who influenced you to be a reader?

I wish I could point to a single person or entity, but there is none. I have no great story to tell about the biggest influence in my life in this area. Words in books have just simply “always spoken to me.” And I’m not ashamed to admit that on any given day, I’d be comfortable stating I need books more than I need people.

7. Describe your dream reading lounge.

Absolute quiet. Not any other sound. Not too bright, not to dark. Plenty of champagne to drink for hours, but the kind that won’t ever make you drunk. A comfortable chair, near a window, overlooking mountains. Around 50 degrees Fahrenheit. Comfy blanket thrown over me. Legs lifted up on an ottoman. Green plants around the room. Nothing on the walls but grey, brown, black and white colors. No door in or out… entry would be through an elevator that opens directly to the room, but only ever reachable by me. Ryder by my side.

8. What book changed the way you saw the world?

“To Kill a Mockingbird” by Harper Lee

9. What defines your life a reader?

Freedom. Flexibility. Fortune.

I am free to read whatever I want. But I know that not everyone else is.

My mind has the flexibility to read every genre and find books I love. So many readers stick within a comfort zone and miss out on things that could change their world forever.

I am able to buy the books I love, though not everyone has that fortune. But I also am fortunate to be able to write, as well as read. And I want to bring that fortune to others in my own stories and books.

I could discuss reading forever and under any circumstance. It is my life. It is where Jay meets happiness.

10. What are your favorite quotes?

  • “If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” Mark Twain
  • “A life well lived is a life full of decisions.” (Guess!)

TAG: To no one specific… consider yourself tagged if you wanna be… and NOT if you don’t wanna be.

365 Challenge: Day 60 – Charming

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Charming: pleasant, attractive, polite, friendly, and likable

Ah, my friends… I am the epitome of charming. If you saw me, or knew me, you’d immediately think… he’s my prince riding in on a white horse with an amazing smile, a wonderful sense of humor, beautiful eyes, an exquisitely-tailored suit, bags of money in his saddle, perfectly-coiffed hair, and… oh, wait, wrong blog! Sorry… got confused there for a moment. Thought I was writing a chapter in my fairy tale novel…

What the #$#@@? No… I was not stretching out my ego in that first paragraph, nor was I beginning a post on the non-existence of the quintessential Prince Charming. And I wasn’t about to dive into the tragic sexist interpretations that every girl (or boy) is searching for this perfect man, as some are searching for the perfect woman or whatever tickles their fancy. But in all sincerity… I don’t think I’ve ever heard a woman referred to as “charming” when it comes to romanticism; it seems, at least in my experience, to be a word used to describe a man. Anyone have a good use of when it described a woman in a courtship / romantic sort of notion? I’m curious…

The real intention behind today’s 365 Daily Challenge word is how although I mostly fit the definition, I would not consider myself a charming person. To me… although there always has been a small part of me who (1) kinda am that little boy looking to be rescued, (2) loves all those fairy tale movies and their re-interpretations where Cinderella (or Cinder… fella?) find their perfect partner after dropping a shoe that fits no other, and (3) believes in the magic of changing one’s life at the snap of a wand. To me…

Charming is very difficult to maintain as a characteristic one demonstrates for most of his/her life. Charming is more “point in time” or “momentary” … as in … he was so charming that first night, she was a charming hostess during those first few months (ooh, I came up with an example)! No one can be charming 24/7. We all get irritable. We all are tired. We all are jealous. To truly be charming all your life, you’d have to never exhibit those qualities, which seems quite impossible, or rare, at the very least. Let’s tackle those 5 words:

pleasant – seems a bit weak of a word as part of the way to describe charming. If you are charming, you better be a whole lot more than just pleasant. You better show me something unique, above standards… it should be natural and unknown to you… something almost ethereal where you exude a seductive yet innocent aura

attractive – yes, probably quite necessary, but again… a bit weak. You better be God or Goddess-like if you are the stereotypical Prince or Princess Charming

polite – true, you would have to be kind and nice… but I’d expect full-on royal-treatment and going an extra step to convince me you’re charming

friendly – yes, absolutely, but again, go overboard — make it seem so you are friendly to everyone but with me, you are the very best of intimate attraction

likable – doesn’t this mean the same thing as the above words… yes, I suppose that’s the point in a definition… maybe the Interwebs steered me in the wrong direction with this definition…

OK, so what have I learned here… the definition of the word charming doesn’t quite meet my expectation of the connotation and denotation of the word I imagine it to be. Let’s see how I do/don’t fit into it:

  • I work hard (although it is innate) to disappear into my surroundings and the crowd. I do not want to stand out among others.
  • My humor is an acquired taste, one in which it is a bit offbeat and rare to see.
  • I consider myself the epitome of average; and this pleases me.
  • I get too caught up in what others are thinking, rather than casual enough to just go about myself without a care.

So right out of the gate, I really wouldn’t consider myself charming. I’ve met a few people I considered charming… more of a passing fancy… momentary, as I noted. What about you? An example of a charming man or woman? But let’s be clear — is this is a fictional character or real-life person you’ve met? Inquiring minds would like to know who believes in the word charming… and what your definition would be…

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay and I live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post. Note: All written content is my original creation and copyrighted to me, but the graphics and images were linked from other sites and belong to them. Many thanks to their original creators.

TAG: Get to Know me

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I found this tag at Bionic Book Worm who found it at Too Much of a Book Nerd. I thought it was a great way to drop some interesting facts about us bloggers and let others stumble upon them when checking out our blog and profile. So here goes…

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VITAL STATS

NAME: James

NICKNAMES: Jay, JC, J (but never Jim or Jimmy)

BIRTHDAY: March 18th

STAR SIGN: Pisces

OCCUPATION: Technology & Business Ops for ~20 years. Now split with writing.

LIVING IN: New York City (NYC)

 

APPEARANCE

HAIR COLOR: Brown

HAIR LENGTH: Short, but for a guy, probably considered long…

EYE COLOR: Hazel

BEST FEATURE:  I think it’s my shoulders/chest. Friends always say my hair these days.

BRACES: No, but I should have had them. My teeth aren’t perfectly straight. A few are slightly slanted. But I’m not going thru that ordeal now!

PIERCINGS: None now. But in the past, I had two piercings in my left ear and both nipples for a few years. I’m sorry to anyone reading this who finds it surprising or shocking. But in reality, if you saw me at the beach or the pool a few years ago, you would have seen them in person.

TATTOOS: None but I love them. Some day…

RIGHT OR LEFT: Right

PICTURE: Most recent one

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I hate the camera!

FIRSTS

REAL HOLIDAY: On my own? I don’t know that I remember… moved into my own apartment at 22, so perhaps that Thanksgiving or Christmas?

BEST FRIEND: Lynde while growing up. We lived next door to one another and spent all our time together for 15+ years. We still chat from time to time but live in different places. Now it’s probably Winston for the last 5 years.

AWARD: A bunch in grammar, middle and high school. Best creative short story in college. Versatile Blogger this week for my site. Nothing else I know of!

SPORT: Played soccer and baseball through middle school, then I was a bowler. Even worked there and taught kids how to bowl. Now just the gym.

CONCERT: I am not a concert guy, too many people. My parents too me to a few outdoor ones as a child. The first I actually remember going to… I think it was Madonna in my 20s.

 

FAVORITES

TV SHOWS: I’m only listing the ones currently on air that I watch: Modern Family, Mom, How to Get Away With Murder, The Real O’Neals, Great British Baking Show, Younger, The Crown, Grace and Frankie

COLOR: Black

SONGS: I’m usually good with turning on the radio and listening to anything rock or pop

RESTAURANT: Easier to choose cuisines… Mexican

SHOPS: I’m not a shopper but when I do… Kenneth Cole or Banana Republic

BOOKS: Too many to list… right now, anything by Kate Morton

SHOES: I hate shoes. I prefer not to wear anything, no socks or shoes. If I have to… sandals

BOOK GENRES: Mystery

 

CURRENTLY

FEELING: Old… some of these questions are hard or don’t work for me. Ornery. 😛

SINGLE OR TAKEN: Taken for about 5 1/2 years. We live together.

EATING: Had a half a turkey sandwich about 30 minutes ago for lunch.

THINKING ABOUT: Edits to my book. Waiting on feedback from an agent. Scary.

WATCHING: Last night, the latest episode of “Mom.”

WEARING: comfy cotton shorts, t-shirt and a pair of boxer-briefs

 

HAVE KIDS: Nope, not unless you count Ryder. Perhaps one day…

WANT TO TRAVEL: Yes, but I have a bit already.  Been to: China, Singapore Thailand, Cambodia, Argentina, Caribbean, Mexico, Canada, Spain, Netherlands, UK and France. Plus most of the USA… 35 out of 50 states so far.

DO YOU BELIEVE…

 

In Yourself: Yes, most days. 

God: I was raised Catholic.

Miracles: Eh… I believe random things can happen. I’m not sure I’m clear on what we’d call the true definition of a miracle.

Love at first sight: No, because love means so many different things. You can know you will be with someone for a long time. You can be sure you will fall in love with something about them. But I don’t think you can immediately fall in love.

Ghosts: Yes. Spirits. I think you can sense things are around you.

Aliens: There is more than Earth out there.

Soul Mates: Probably not, though I don’t mean it in a bad way. I just mean you can fall in love, and you can be meant to stay together… but we have one soul and not everyone falls in love just once.

Heaven: Yes, there is something positive beyond life.

Hell: Tough one. I believe in forgiveness, so who or what would go there after life? I was taught to believe in it because I am Catholic, but I’m unclear on its real definition.

TAG TIME

And now it’s your turn… I’m not tagging anyone specific, but I’d love to see at least 5 of my online friends post reply with their answers and post it on their site, tagging me and letting me know so I can check it out!

365 Challenge: Day 35 – Genealogist

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Genealogist: One who is actively engaged in the study or investigation of ancestry and family histories

We’ve made it through another week and on this fifth Sunday, it’s time to wrap up the first month’s focus on my genealogical heritage. See below for a picture of my Ancestry DNA results.

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In the last four weeks, I selected the 4 countries where I believe my ancestors hailed from, as well as picked the top stereotypical traits people assumed about the people from those places. A quick summary:

  1. Irish: 20%
  2. English: 33%
  3. German: 33% (Includes the Scandinavian as some of relatives were on the border)
  4. Scottish: 13%
  5. Other: 1% (West Asian – I think everyone gets that!)

While the DNA results and the documentation have a 10% disconnect, it’s a very clear picture of who my people were and where I came from.

Why do I study my genealogy? Take a look at this post on my professional website. It will give you some insight into my historical nature and great big quest for the past.

I often wonder why I’m so persistent on it… do I doubt who I am? Do I need more details about where I came from? Is it trying to understand how it all began?

Ultimately, this interest goes back to more than just people… it’s how did the USA begin. What happened to the dinosaurs? What were the original continents like? How did Earth form? What other galaxies are there? It’s more than being curious. It’s more than dedication or obsession. When I’m researching a family member on my laptop, tons of windows open to compare and contrast records, and I stumble upon a find… my eyes light up, I can’t sit still and my fingers can’t keep up with my mind. The discovery is brilliant and I’m ecstatic.

I’m a linear person. I like to start at the beginning. I have to read the first book in a series. I prefer straight lines. I like to create project plans with a starting point and an ending point. I love watching time pass on a clock, counting down to the re-start of the 60 segment process.

I believe it’s the same orderly structure that drives me to research my roots. I like seeing things improve, gain strength, drive forward. Adding more knowledge with each successive chain or generation. I’m sociological, I suppose.

Seeing a family tree, learning how people survived, how they met… what types of jobs and families they had. What made them move? These are all details I enjoy searching for across the internet.

Can you imagine watching from the sidelines as your ancestors moved through their lives? What if we had a time machine and could go back not to change the past, but to watch it unfold on warp speed? Quick enough not to see the tedious things, but slow enough to watch how each generation changed. To see your 4 times grandparents meet on a boat and decide to marry within days. To know your 6 times great-grandmother suffered so many miscarriages due to the poor conditions of medicine and health, but then she finally gave birth to your 5 times great-grandfather. To know how wars impacted your family. To recognize who touched royalty at some point.

It’s not unlike my interest in mystery fiction. Investigation. Detection. Research. As I draft each of these posts, hitting number 35 today, several themes are starting to appear. I’ve always known about them on a smaller scale, but the picture is becoming more clear.

So now I throw it out there… where do I go next?

About Me & the “365 Daily Challenge”

I’m Jay. I am 40 and live in NYC. By profession, I work in technology. By passion, I work in writing. I’ve always been a reader. And now I’m a daily blogger. I decided to start my own version of the “365 Daily Challenge” where since March 13, 2017, I’ve posted a characteristic either I currently embody or one I’d like to embody in the future. 365 days of reflection to discover who I am and what I want out of life.

The goal: Knowledge. Acceptance. Understanding. Optimization. Happiness. Help. For myself. For others. And if all else fails, humor. When I’m finished in one year, I hope to have more answers about the future and what I will do with the remainder of my life. All aspects to be considered. It’s not just about a career, hobbies, residence, activities, efforts, et al. It’s meant to be a comprehensive study and reflection from an ordinary man. Not a doctor. Not a therapist. Not a friend. Not an encyclopedia full of prior research. Just pure thought, a blogged journal with true honesty.

Join the fun and read a new post each day, or check out my book reviews, TV/Film reviews or favorite vacation spots. And feel free to like, rate, comment or take the poll for each post.

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